In August we are doing a short series on the mark of a Christian. Homework will be lighter, but the message is one of the most important in all of Scripture.
One of the three top books that changed my life was this one:
I will share excerpts from this little book, though I do recommend it’s a great one for every believer to own, read, underline, and reread.
What is the mark of a Christian to the world?
Schaeffer says “The world cares nothing about doctrine but Jesus did give the mark that would draw the attention of the world…What is it? The love that true Christians show for each other and not just for their own party.”
We are going to look deeply into what Jesus said about this, but then also, get help on how to live this out, for this is a hard saying not in the sense that it is so hard to understand, but in the sense that it is so hard to do.
How do you love the brothers and sisters who are truly challenging?How do you make an effective apology and why must we do it? How do you forgive when there is no apology for great wrongs done?
How can we live out Jesus’ final prayer for us?
This week we will consider when Jesus kept repeating this message.
He said it over and over again when time was running out. He called it “the new commandment.” It was like the old, like the command to love one another, yet now it was also new, for its truth had been seen in Him as He walked the earth.
…that they may be one, just as you Father are in me and I am in you, that they also may be one in us, so that the world may believe that you have sent me…
(John 17:21)
The final week we will hear Keller’s free sermon on Unity, in which he says, “You don’t make small talk when you know it is the last time you will see someone.”
What messages were left from those who called their loved ones from the flight that was high-jacked on 9/11? Again and again:
I love you so much. Please tell our children how I love them.
I love you. Tell Mom I love her. Take care of her, please.
When my husband was dying, he said important things to each of our five children, expressing love, affirming them, and telling them what mattered most in their individual lives. He told me: “You will fly so free.” I didn’t want to fly without him, but he was endeavoring to give me hope as he could see I was desperate about living without him. “Good-byes” especially permanent ones, may be drenched in the Holy Spirit.
God Hunt Sunday
- How have you experienced the risenness of Christ in your life this week?
Monday-Tuesday: Parting Scenes – Ruth and Naomi
(Do through question 4 on Monday, and complete on Tuesday)
In the opening verses, we find famine and death everywhere and Naomi is devastated. God had commanded His people not to intermarry with Moabites, yet that is where Elimelech moved his family, and where their sons married Moabites. All three died. Naomi is “left without her two sons and her husband.”
When studying friendships in Scripture long ago for my book on The Friendships of Women, I saw how God zoomed His camera in on both greeting scenes and parting scenes. I realized He was showing His sovereignty both in bringing people together for Kingdom purposes and then how, in parting scenes, words that may have been held back came pouring out, again, for Kingdom purposes. These are important scenes on which to meditate. Today, we’ll consider two friendships in the line of the Messiah. What was said and why did it matter? And why should it matter to us?
2. Ruth 1:6-14
A. Where have they been living and where are they going?
B. How can you tell Naomi loves her daughters-in-law according to verse 8?
C. What reason can you discern she has for sending them back to Moab? Why might this be short-sighted eternally? Any parallel today?
D. Describe Naomi’s state of heart according to what you see in verses 11-13.
E. All the names in the book of Ruth are significant. Orpah means “stiff-necked or double-minded.” How does she eventually respond to Naomi’s request?
3. Orpah fades out of the pages of Scripture, but Ruth (a woman friend or companion) is immortalized. Read Ruth 1:15-18.
A. List the promises Ruth made to Naomi in this parting scene that she refused to let happen.
B. Now, consider how God asks us to follow Him, putting nothing before Him. What among Ruth’s many promises might be relevant to us in that regard, and what might it mean?
4. Read Ruth 1:19-22
A. Naomi’s name means “sweet,” so what is the significance of her request in verse 20? What reason does she give and what does this tell you?
B. Another beautiful element in the book of Ruth is that the state of the land parallels the hearts of God’s people. How does the book begin in 1:1? And what hope do you see here in 1:22?
5. God is going to use Ruth to restore Naomi’s faith. The turning point comes after the greeting scene Ruth has with Boaz, her future “kinsman-redeemer” and she comes home with her arms full of grain to Naomi. Read Ruth 2:18-23 and describe:
A. The greeting scene between Ruth and Naomi
B. The change in Naomi
6. If you are not familiar with the book of Ruth, you’ll need to read the rest, but I know most of you are. How did God use the words that flowed out of Ruth’s heart in her “parting scene” (the one that never happened) for Kingdom purposes?
7. Are you one who avoids “good-byes” because they are painful? Why might this be a big mistake?
When I realized how vital parting scenes were to God, I asked Him to allow me to be at the deathbeds of my parents, if I was alive when they died. Within four years I was at the deathbed of my father, then my husband, and then my mother. In all three, vital words were spoken for Kingdom purposes, words never to be forgotten, coming to remembrance when remembrance is sorely needed.
Wed-Thurs: Parting Scenes: David and Jonathan
Go through question 9 for Wednesday and finish Thursday.
David and Jonathan were neither loved nor respected by their families. Jonathan still honored his father, King Saul, but he helped David flee his jealous murderous father in their first parting scene. Sometimes we need boundaries with our biological families, as painful as that is. But God will bring real blood family into our lives, bound by the blood of Christ.
God gave David and Jonathan to one another for Kingdom purposes, as He so often does graciously for us. They were knit together in soul, not in body, as some with a twisted agenda, try to make others believe.
8. Read 1 Samuel 18:1-4
A. What happened just before this famous “greeting scene?” What has Jonathan seen in David’s character?
B. What does Jonathan say and do, and what do you think these actions mean?
9. Saul is jealous of David and tries to kill him. How does Jonathan respond in 1 Samuel 19:4-5? How does this show honor for both father and friend?
Saul’s repentance is temporary and he returns to his pattern. So Jonathan sends David away for his safety. Some of you have faced the same sad situation with friends or family. This should reassure you that there are times, when a pattern is evident, to set boundaries, as long as you forgive from your heart.
10. If the above is true of you, what comments do you have? What helps you forgive even though repentance has not been shown?
11. Read 1 Samuel 20:41-42 and describe the emotion in this first parting scene and how God might have used it for Kingdom purposes.
12. Read 1 Samuel 23:15-18
A. Saul can’t find David, but Jonathan can. Thoughts?
B. What does Jonathan say to David in this final parting scene, and how does God use this for Kingdom purposes?
I always remember a message I heard from a woman speaker on 2 Samuel 9 when David keeps his promise to Jonathan and has his son, Mephibosheth always eat at his table in his kingdom. She said, “David invites the crippled son to always eat at his table for Jonathan’s sake. God invites us, his crippled sons, to always eat at His table for Jesus’ sake.”
Friday: Paul and the Ephesians
Sometimes we must say good-bye for Kingdom purposes. Amy Carmichael described her parting from the one she called “the dear old man,” who was like a father to her when she sailed for India, knowing she would never see him again. She said she could never go through that parting scene again, for it was so painful. Yet we know the promise Jesus gives to those who are willing to do so for Kingdom purposes.
13. Can you release a beloved child to a land far away for Kingdom purposes?
14. Describe a meaningful parting scene in your life if possible. What was it meaningful?
15. Read Acts 20:34-38
A. What are the last things Paul tells his beloved Ephesians? How are you or could you live this out?
B. Describe the parting scene. Why do you think Shakespeare said, “Parting is such sweet sorrow?”
16. Do you see any common threads in these Scriptural parting scenes? If so, what?
Coming Next Week — Parting Scenes of Jesus and why they matter so much to us.
Frank Maddox: Jesus Washing Peter’s Feet
Saturday:
17. Ask the Lord why this lesson matters in your life and share your thoughts and prayers for yourself.
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I just ordered The Mark of the Christian for my kindle. It was only $1.99.
Just ordered it too Dawn! (the hard copy though, I like my paper 😉 I know I had a copy at some point but couldn’t find it!
God Hunt Sunday
Dee for some reason, several paragraphs above were repeated.
1. How have you experienced the risenness of Christ in your life this week?
I have been away from home for a week helping at a teacher institute and have not been able to participate this past week. As I look back on the experience, I am just awed by this phrase, “the risenness of Christ”. He is indeed risen in me and I can experience His very presence every day, every moment. There is a sense of a prompting, a whisper calling me to look to Jesus amidst the rushing activities of life. Indeed, His word in Philippians 4:6-7 is true “…and the peace of God that passes all understanding shall guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
My husband and I and our daughter, Ruth, had been waiting for the latter’s appointment with a specialist with regard to a suspicious mass on her arm. The initial biopsy was sent to Mayo’s and then to this specialist. 2 days before, the day of her appointment, and the day after, God brought His peace to me through His Word. I have been following a “verse for the day” and all the verses those days were about healing! They brought peace to my heart knowing that even if the mass was cancerous, God will bring us through its challenges. I was at the institute when I heard from my daughter. Although she would need to monitor the mass, the specialist said it was benign!
I would appreciate your prayers as I write a letter to my daughter expressing the way God has brought peace to me about her health issue. I am praying for words to convey my sincere love for her and for God to show me any hidden agenda or any idol in my heart as I write.
What a blessing of riseness of Christ you have had, Bing. So thankful that your week of teaching has gone well. Thankful that Ruth’s biopsy was benign. Prayers for your letter to Ruth , as you express your love of her and for your joy in answered prayers on her behalf. May the Lord be very present with you as you write your letter.
oh Bing, I agree with Patti-SO thankful for the biopsy report, and praying for God to give you the words to share with Ruth and that her heart would be soft to hear.
I LOVE what you said here, it encouraged my heart to be reminded of this truth and to listen for that whisper amidst the rushing-“He is indeed risen in me and I can experience His very presence every day, every moment. There is a sense of a prompting, a whisper calling me to look to Jesus amidst the rushing activities of life.”
Thanks, Bing — I corrected it. So appreciate your telling me.
Bing, I am thankful along with you that Ruth’s biopsy report was negative. Prayers for your letter as you compose the words.
Bing, Good to hear your testimony of God’s encouragement and peace from his Word about your daughter’s situation with the mass on her arm. Will certainly pray for you as you seek to share how he provided your peace about her situation. Asking she will see your mothers heart and the Father’s love for you all.
Ladies, thank you for you blessing me with your responses here. I appreciate you all for the safe place you and Dee have created for somebody like me. I ALWAYS feel like I can come in here with the door wide open and I do not even have to knock! Such is a place that the Father anoints with His goodness and love.
Bing, I didn’t know of Ruth’s troubles until now. I don’t go on FB anymore. I am so thankful that it was better than expected news and that you felt calm through the storm. Thank You Jesus!
1. How have you experienced the risenness of Christ in your life this week?
I am thankful for friendship and how God provides even across many miles, a closeness because of shared faith. Thankful for those who listen to the hard and then gently remind of truth. So thankful for God’s provision to me in that way.
Also my husband built me a big 28 foot long flower garden bed and I’ve been filling it with flowers and honestly, flowers are 3rd on my list of favorite things God made (people, my dog, flowers). They make me SO happy. I am thrilled that in our new house we finally get enough sun! I’ve battled some depression lately but I have felt supported and loved, prayed for, and now the cloud has lifted again and I am enjoying the sun with my flowers 😉
Oh it makes me happy to think of you in the flowers!
Lizzy, I love to picture you caring for your flower garden! Do you have some favorite perennials or annuals?
Oh, Lizzy! I love this! I feel that love of God in the hearts of the ladies on this Blog. What a precious gift! Your words and thoughtful ways are such a gift to so many.
Your garden sounds like a place of peace. I have the same order of favorite things the Lord has made! I know you will make it so beautiful! How I pray that you will continue to feel the joy of the Lord in Your heart and your life. God Bless you!
Lizzy, I have been forced to garden this summer; I am not a gardener at all! It has been good for me though. Digging in the soil and planting. I am proud of myself for what I have accomplished in our yard. It’s fun to watch my “babies” grow! I’m glad you are enjoying your work as well! Take care 😉.
This is an awesome study and some thing I really need. So easy to love your friends and family with those difficult people, not so easy
So glad to have you join us, Sheryl!
Welcome, Sheryl!
Welcome, Sheryl!
2. Ruth 1:6-14 A. Where have they been living and where are they going?
They had been living in Moab and left it to return to Judah.
B. How can you tell Naomi loves her daughters-in-law according to verse 8?
She told them to return to their mother’s house, she didn’t want them to worry about her or be held back because of her. She asked the Lord to bless them for how they had cared for her.
C. What reason can you discern she has for sending them back to Moab? Why might this be short-sighted eternally? Any parallel today?
She hoped they would be able to remarry and have children. She was trying to fix their “problem” of being alone and trying to care for them by earthly means.
D. Describe Naomi’s state of heart according to what you see in verses 11-13.
Naomi is downcast. She thinks her troubles are a sign that God is angry with her. She feels she has nothing to offer Ruth and Orpah.
E. All the names in the book of Ruth are significant. Orpah means “stiff-necked or double-minded.” How does she eventually respond to Naomi’s request?
Orpah kisses Naomi goodbye and returns to her people and her gods.
3. Orpah fades out of the pages of Scripture, but Ruth (a woman friend or companion) is immortalized. Read Ruth 1:15-18. A. List the promises Ruth made to Naomi in this parting scene that she refused to let happen.
Ruth promised:
“where you go I will go…”
” Your people shall be my people, and your God my God.”
” Where you die I will die, and there will I be buried.”
B. Now, consider how God asks us to follow Him, putting nothing before Him. What among Ruth’s many promises might be relevant to us in that regard, and what might it mean?
Powerful question. “where You go, I will go”– There are places that God takes me that I would not go on my own. His ways are not like ours. I prefer comfort, peace, “easy”. His ways often mean walking into the hard, messy, being willing to be vulnerable, to stand firm for truth when others aren’t, to forgive when there is no apology. But as His child, I want to follow my Father, and know that He will never let go of my hand.
From Lizzy:
where You go, I will go”– There are places that God takes me that I would not go on my own. His ways are not like ours. I prefer comfort, peace, “easy”. His ways often mean walking into the hard, messy, being willing to be vulnerable, to stand firm for truth when others aren’t, to forgive when there is no apology. But as His child, I want to follow my Father, and know that He will never let go of my hand.
Lizzy, your answer to “B” reminded me of a quote from Elizabeth Elliott…”There is , in fact, no redemptive work done anywhere without suffering.”
I thank God for you and your perseverance…so encouraging to me❤️
1. How have you experienced the risenness of Christ this week?
What a week it was. We were on a family vacation in NC with four generations of our family: my in-laws, me and my husband, our daughter, our eldest son, his wife, and our grandson, Thomas. For one family member, vacation turned into a nightmare. That was my 22 year old daughter, who ended up taking two trips to the ER and on the 2nd visit, being admitted for two nights into the hospital with severe colitis. Her pain was severe and completely debilitating; she could not eat, stand up straight, and had bloody stool. 8 milligrams of morphine did not touch her pain in the ER.
St. Patrick’s famous Breastplate prayer has a line that says, “Christ in the heart of every man who thinks of me, Christ in the mouth of everyone who speaks of me. Christ in every eye that sees me, Christ in every ear that hears me.” I was so grateful to the nurses in the ER, the doctors, the paramedic who put the IV in and kept patting her arm, the kind doctor who asked her questions about herself and her life, the nurses who cared for her on the nursing unit. When we came back the 2nd time, and they saw how much pain she was in, they took her back, had the IV in, drew blood, and gave her pain and nausea medicine all within 30 minutes.
When she was in the hospital, I read to her all of the prayers from many of you on our private FB group who were praying for her and wrote such beautiful prayers. Lizzy wrote out Psalm 121, saying she was praying it for her. As I was reading it to her, my daughter started saying the Psalm along with me because she had memorized it when she was in grade school, and she remembered many of the words. When she was released, and I took her back to the beach house, I then went to the store to get some things for her and was feeling pretty wiped-out and down. The girl who bagged my groceries was so, so kind, that I walked to my car with tears in my eyes, repeating to myself, “She was so kind to me.” It made me feel better. How often God shows up in other people He puts in our path.
She was discharged the day before we were to return home. That night, she was feeling anxious about the long drive home and how she would feel, physically. I suggested that we go outside and sit for a while. A beautiful half-moon was lighting up a large swath of the ocean, and there were more stars than we could count. God’s goodness and love appears in the natural world, which has the power to soothe our fears and lift our spirits.
Oh my Susan — such a frightening journey — yet how beautifully you wrote up the ways Emmanuel was with you.
Gosh Susan, What a hard thing to have your daughter suffer so. I was on vacation and only briefly looked at FB so I didn’t see your post. It is beautiful to read how many provided prayer and comfort to your heart from the Word and kind acts in your daughters time of need. Praying she recovers well.
Susan, what a beautiful experience you have had with your daughter and with the Father. “His eye is on the sparrow and I know He watches me”. God sees you, and Melanie; He is our El Roi.
Thank you for sharing this whole story, Susan. The Lord was so present throughout this extremely stressful time for Melanie and your entire family. I so love that your Melanie joined you in Psalm 121 that Lizzy sent. That gave me chills. Prayers continue for Melanie. I hope you will do an update when you can. May God continue to keep you all in His mighty hand.
Susan–I got tears reading through this. What amazed me most is how your eyes are so open to His nearness, His blessings amidst such turmoil. Being thankful for nurses and the grocery bagger…you give Him such glory even in such a hard trial, it is just beautiful how He shines through you.
Continued prayers for your dear daughter!
Oh Lizzy, believe me, I have many conversations with God about suffering, not just in this instance with my own daughter, but often after I’ve left work and seen such terrible suffering and trials that people have to endure. I still don’t understand it, never will.
Hello ladies! I am between class sessions so I can and want to join you for the next several weeks. I experienced the riseness of Christ, in a situation where I was not looking forward to what could be a difficult social gathering and in my mind I was rehearsing all the ways I had been wronged in similar circumstances throughout the years by a loved one. When God in His mercy, reminded me that I needed to forgive the past wrongs (again), letting go of my ‘rights’ and trust Him for the current situation. In the end, the current situation went smoothly and I saw effort from the loved one to curb their behavior. I was blessed by that.
Tammy — always so good to have you with us! Love this experience of God in your life.
Tammy, so happy to see you here!
Good to see you back, Tammy. What a wonderful way God blessed you.
Thank you Dee. I always get a lot from your studies.
So good to have you with us, Judy!
Welcome, Judy!
Welcome Judy!
God Hunt Sunday
How have you experienced the risenness of Christ in your life this week?
My husband and I were on vacation in the Colorado mountains staying in a condo with our youngest son and his wife and 5 children ages 6 to 16. My husband and I went out a couple of days early to do some off-roading. I always go with a bit of trepidation into the high mountains but yet when we’ve arrived at the tree line and see the spectacular views of God’s handiwork it strikes awe in both our hearts to be up there. And one of the small wonders are the incredible colors and intricate beauty of small wild flowers. Flowers in the higher mountains have deep and vibrant colors because of where they are growing. The conditions are harsh but they are not stopped from showing forth God’s creative wonders. I’ve often noticed how our flowers lose color here on the Nebraska plains in the extreme heat of summer even though we keep them well watered. So when I get to the high mountains I drink in their beauty. I felt the risenness of Christ in how he orchestrated our time together with the kids. Particularly in the volatile weather with thunderstorm that dominate summer in the mountains. He just seemed to provide graciously for us on the many outdoor activities we were able to enjoy. With that many kids and that many personalities it wasn’t perfect but it was very good. We all came home with good memories of a shared experience. I just sensed God’s hand upon us and our travels.
Sounds so beautiful, Bev!
2. Ruth 1:6-14
A. Where have they been living and where are they going?
Naomi and her two daughters-in-law have been living in the land of Moab. Naomi plans to return to the land of Judah.
B. How can you tell Naomi loves her daughters-in-law according to verse 8?
Naomi encourages her daughters-in-law to return to their mother’s homes. She asks the Lord to deal kindly with them, as they have dealt kindly with her deceased sons and with her. I would say that Naomi is apparently being selfless here. Instead of clinging to them for comfort and security, she releases them to return to their own families, knowing that this would mean she will return all alone. This selfless act shows love.
C. What reason can you discern she has for sending them back to Moab? Why might this be short-sighted eternally? Any parallel today?
These are still young women, and Naomi is concerned about them being able to re-marry and be provided for. Naomi has nothing to offer them. She is old; she doesn’t have any more sons who could marry them. I believe she felt they would have a hope of a better future if they stayed with their own people. It may have been short-sighted in that she didn’t expect God to do anything for these women. By sending them back, they would also lose any exposure to the God of Israel. Sometimes I know that I want to try to “fix” other people’s problems, instead of letting God work in His time.
D. Describe Naomi’s state of heart according to what you see in verses 11-13.
She has lost hope. She feels lost and alone, and that things are going to be harder for her than for her daughters-in-law. She feels as if God is against her.
E. All the names in the book of Ruth are significant. Orpah means stiff-necked or double-minded. How does she eventually respond to Naomi’s request?
In verse 10, both Ruth and Orpah say they will stick with Naomi. In verse 14, after hearing Naomi paint a very bleak picture of the future if they stay with her, Orpah weeps and kisses Naomi goodbye. I would think the definition of being double-minded fits her more accurately rather than being stiff-necked. Orpah was easily persuaded to return home.
God Hunt Sunday
1. How have you experienced the risenness of Christ in your life this week? – The love of our new church family is just so unexplainable. We moved to NE Tennessee and have not actual family here. But the acceptance and love shown by those in our church has overwhelmed me. They have shown what the true meaning of love and family means and how God intended for it to be. They accept me for me, come up and say hello, give a hug or even just slight touch. The love of God is being given in our new church. It makes not having any biological family near us so much easier.
This sounds like pure joy, Julie! So happy for you!
How it should be, Julie — so glad!
Julie, It is a delight to hear about your new church family and how they have embraced you. That is so refreshing in today’s world to hear of the body of Christ functioning well and practicing the love of Christ. And how sweet of the Lord to provide that for you in the absence of your biological family. 😊
Julie, I’m happy for you and your husband that you are developing close, meaningful relationships with people in your church family. It is hard to be far away from biological family!
2. Ruth 1:6-14
A. Where have they been living and where are they going?
They had been living in Moab for about ten years. They were returning to the land of Judah.
B. How can you tell Naomi loves her daughters-in-law according to verse 8?
Naomi tells that to each daughter in law to return to her mother’s house, so the Lord would take care of them, as they had cared for her.
C. What reason can you discern she has for sending them back to Moab? Why might this be short-sighted eternally? Any parallel today?
She hoped that the Lord would give each of them a life of rest and a caring husband. It was probably unlikely that a Moabite woman would find a husband in Judah, as there was distrust between the Moabites and the Judahites.
D. Describe Naomi’s state of heart according to what you see in verses 11-13.
Naomi is distraught; she has lost her husband and sons; she was too old to bear children, even if she should have another husband. She has nothing to offer her daughters in law. She does not want to be a burden and she feels the Lord has turn from her.
E. All the names in the book of Ruth are significant. Orpah means “stiff-necked or double-minded.”
How does she eventually respond to Naomi’s request? Orpah appears to be filled with sorrow, yet she leaves Naomi and returns to her people and her gods.
3. Orpah fades out of the pages of Scripture, but Ruth (a woman friend or companion) is immortalized. Read Ruth 1:15-18.
A. List the promises Ruth made to Naomi in this parting scene that she refused to let happen.
Ruth has loyalty, commitment and a selfless devotion to her mother in law. She will go where Naomi goes, and lodge where Naomi lodges. Ruth will love Naomi’s people and Naomi’s God. Ruth will die and be buried where Naomi is buried. Nothing but death will separate Ruth from Naomi.
B. Now, consider how God asks us to follow Him, putting nothing before Him. What among Ruth’s many promises might be relevant to us in that regard, and what might it mean?
I need to be willing to following my Lord no matter where He sends me, where He calls me to live, what He calls me to do until the end of my days. It means He has to be the most important thing in my life, above all other relationships and that I allow nothing, other than death, to separate me from Him and His love.
Love your last answer, Patti.
4. Read Ruth 1:19-22 A. Naomi’s name means “sweet,” so what is the significance of her request in verse 20? What reason does she give and what does this tell you?
She doesn’t feel like she fits her name anymore. She doesn’t feel “sweet”, she feels the Lord has dealt with her harshly and that her name should be “bitter”. She sees her identity as her troubles—because of what has happened to her, and because of what she has lost, she feels her whole identity, person, has changed. She had been standing on all the blessings she had before. Her family is what made her feel happy and good about herself, secure. Now that she has lost those things she feels she is no longer the same person before God. She feels empty, mistreated, bitter.
B. Another beautiful element in the book of Ruth is that the state of the land parallels the hearts of God’s people. How does the book begin in 1:1? And what hope do you see here in 1:22?
Vs. 1-there was a famine in the land; vs. 22-harvest time
2. Ruth 1:6-14
A. Where have they been living and where are they going? They had been living in Moab, now they’re going back to Judah.
B. How can you tell Naomi loves her daughters-in-law according to verse 8? She calls them kind and wants them to have a future with husbands and children from their own people.
C. What reason can you discern she has for sending them back to Moab? They wouldn’t have been entitled to any of their husbands’ property under Jewish law unless they married another one of Ruth’s sons or a close relative, which Jews were forbidden by God to marry Moabite people. Why might this be short-sighted eternally? Because she was sending them back to their pagan society to worship false Gods. Any parallel today? To me it’s the same as the PC culture that we have that would rather allow a person to be lost eternally than speak the truth.
D. Describe Naomi’s state of heart according to what you see in verses 11-13. Depressed, not trusting God to bring any good into her current situation.
E. All the names in the book of Ruth are significant. Orpah means “stiff-necked or double-minded.” How does she eventually respond to Naomi’s request? Although she initially wanted to go with Ruth, she eventually chose to go back to her homeland.
3. Orpah fades out of the pages of Scripture, but Ruth (a woman friend or companion) is immortalized. Read Ruth 1:15-18.
A. List the promises Ruth made to Naomi in this parting scene that she refused to let happen. She will go where Ruth goes, sleep where Ruth sleeps, worship Ruth’s God, until death separates them.
B. Now, consider how God asks us to follow Him, putting nothing before Him. What among Ruth’s many promises might be relevant to us in that regard, and what might it mean? That we need to be dedicated to Him until we draw our last breath on this earth. Although death will not separate us from Him, but actually bring us to Him.
4. Read Ruth 1:19-22
A. Naomi’s name means “sweet,” so what is the significance of her request in verse 20? She now wants to be called Bitter. What reason does she give and what does this tell you? She thinks that God has dealt bitterly with her. It tells me that she doesn’t trust God’s sovereignty or that there is a purpose in what she is suffering.
B. Another beautiful element in the book of Ruth is that the state of the land parallels the hearts of God’s people. How does the book begin in 1:1? Impoverished and famine ladened. And what hope do you see here in 1:22? There was a barley harvest that means that the hearts of the people were turning back to God.
Hello everyone !
It’s been a long while since I last participated on the blog. But yesterday I was encouraged to return so I will pop in as I am able.
When I read the phrase “the riseness of Christ” I immediately thought of Hebrews 2:14-18. Jesus became as the humans he created so he could be a merciful and faithful High Priest. I currently work for a nonprofit which provides services to intellectually disabled adults. I’m a Direct Care Assistant in a residential group home where wheelchair bound ID adults abide. It’s the most challenging and rewarding job I’ve had. Definitely not a job for the faint hearted. I work 9 pm-9 am every Friday, Saturday, and Sunday night. And sometimes I work a lot of overtime. It’s when I get weary I remind myself Jesus got weary too. He is my example of how to deal with difficult work situations. Without Jesus being my strength I could not endure.
Oh Lord, strengthen Tammy as she cares for You in disguise. Give her Your mighty love and energy. In Jesus Name
Welcome back, Tammy. What a gift of love you are to the residents of this group home. I pray that Jesus will give you strength and endurance. You are a woman with great compassion for those in need.
Welcome back, Tammy!! It’s so good to see you here. Your job does indeed sound challenging. We have a residential home just minutes away from where we live for adults with intellectual disabilities, run by the Hattie Larlham foundation (Ohio). One summer when my daughter was in HS, she got to do a bit of volunteer work in that home. And night shift, on top of that. I am sure that your light shines brightly there.
God bless you Tammy! My closest friend has a 53 year old son Richie who requires the kind of care you give. I completely understand what you do and it is incredibly hard work physically and emotionally. Few do it well and you are a God send to individuals like Richie. My friend and her husband are not physically able to keep Richie at home and it breaks her heart. She maintains as closely involved as possible but sometimes it requires hands off and trusting others to help him. Few people understand oh again I just say God bless you!
So glad to see you back here, Tammy. Your life experiences have always added another level of insight to our study!
(I answered the questions leading to these, but managed to delete them, rather than get frustrated, I just continued where I was. Ugh, technology)
4. Read Ruth 1:19-22
A. Naomi’s name means “sweet,” so what is the significance of her request in verse 20? What reason does she give and what does this tell you? She said the Lord dealt bitterly with her and brought calamity upon her, that she was full but was now empty. It tells me she viewed God as against her by evidence of her current circumstances,
B. Another beautiful element in the book of Ruth is that the state of the land parallels the hearts of God’s people. How does the book begin in 1:1? And what hope do you see here in 1:22? We see a famine in the land in the beginning of the chapter and a barley harvest at the end.
*Also it was shortsighted to send the daughter-in-laws away because she allowed her current circumstances, which was truly desperate and grievous, to inform her faith and hope in God, this is relevant to us (me) today, because we (I) do the same. We think difficulty and or suffering show us a God who has abandoned us and has taken our fullness and given us bitterness. Rather than having the faith or clinging to faith like Joseph and believing (or even just waiting on God) that God is at work and is working for even possibly the saving of many.
So true, Tammy!
God Hunt Sunday
How have you experienced the risenness of Christ in your life this week? A new friend from church invited me to dinner at her house to celebrate August birthdays ( mine is this week). It was so nice to get to know Christian friends better. I asked them to please pray for my son to find a job here. The next day, I got a call from one of them with a job offer for my son. My son has been applying for jobs for the past year, since we moved. So this really was an answer to our prayers.
What a great birthday gift from the Lord!
Yes, what a perfect gift! Thank-you Lord!
What a beautiful blessing, Lydia! Happy Birthday to you.
Thank-you, Patti!
Happy Birthday, Lydia, and how wonderful is God’s coordinating all these things: the invitation to dinner to celebrate, new friends, the prayer request for your son, and an answer to your prayer from one of your new friends!
Yes, what a perfect gift! Thank-you Lord!
So neat to hear God’s church/body at work!
Amen!
1. How have you experienced the risenness of Christ in your life this week?
We have had a houseful of Swedes for the past week. It has been a sweet time of getting to know others; hosting them and embracing them as part of our new family. It reminded me of the wedding scenes in The Chosen! And then I thought about how weddings used to be week long events. We had a plumbing issue for a day or so. It was stressful. But through this whole summer I have felt God right here with us. I have had peace! The heatwave we have experienced the past week will subside and our very typical weather resumes on Thursday just in time for the main event, which is outside on Saturday! Perfect in His timing. I appreciate prayers for the day. I know He is with us. Thank You Jesus!
Lord, I do ask for Your mercies for Laura and her family this Saturday!
Oh, Laura! It sounds like a wonderful week building new relationships! Praying the your Saturday weather to be perfect and the day to be filled with joy and God’s love.
Praying Laura! And trusting God to do beyond what you ask or expect.
Laura, the Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord makes His face shine upon you and give you peace! What an exciting time!
Thank you ladies for all the prayers. The bride has accepted the Christian wedding vow renewal ceremony! And, believe it or not the Swedes love country western music! Many country western singers are Christians, so this is hopeful. Again, thank You Lord!
Monday-Tuesday: Parting Scenes – Ruth and Naomi
2. Ruth 1:6-14
A. Where have they been living and where are they going?
—Living in Moab Ruth decides to go back home to Judah.
B. How can you tell Naomi loves her daughters-in-law according to verse 8?
—As she was sending them back to their homes where they grew up she spoke a blessing over them and expressed her appreciation to them. She then kissed them goodbye and they all broke down and cried which demonstrates there was a genuine love between them.
C. What reason can you discern she has for sending them back to Moab?
—She felt she was looking out for their best interests by sending them back to their original families. She felt she had nothing to offer them and couldn’t see them as young women having any future with her.
Why might this be short-sighted eternally? Any parallel today?
—Naomi was destitute but knew the one true God. She felt He was against her and she felt the daughter-in-laws would have no future with her. She thought their only hope as young women would be to stay in their own country and find husbands.
I think often single young women feel a husband is the answer to all their needs when really it has to be God first and foremost in their lives.
D. Describe Naomi’s state of heart according to what you see in verses 11-13.
—She felt old and rejected by God and that she had nothing to offer Ruth and Orpah.
E. All the names in the book of Ruth are significant. Orpah means “stiff-necked or double-minded.” How does she eventually respond to Naomi’s request?
—She evidenced being double minded by initially saying she wanted to go with Naomi but changed her mind and went back to her original family.
3. Orpah fades out of the pages of Scripture, but Ruth (a woman friend or companion) is immortalized. Read Ruth 1:15-18.
A. List the promises Ruth made to Naomi in this parting scene that she refused to let happen.
—Ruth was committed to not leaving or turning back from Naomi but rather to go with her wherever she went, live wherever she lived, worship
Naomi’s God as her God, die and be buried wherever Naomi died and was buried.
B. Now, consider how God asks us to follow Him, putting nothing before Him. What among Ruth’s many promises might be relevant to us in that regard, and what might it mean?
—To never abandon God. To let him have absolute say in where I go in life, where I live and trust him completely with all that concerns me until I die. I think back to the study on the 3 men following Jesus who weren’t willing to make the ultimate commitment to follow Jesus but turned back because of their own concerns. They didn’t want Him above all else.
4. Read Ruth 1:19-22
A. Naomi’s name means “sweet,” so what is the significance of her request in verse 20?
—She was making herself out to be the antithesis of her name.
What reason does she give and what does this tell you?
—Naomi really was in a bitterness of soul blaming God for her troubles and her hopeless state with no husband or sons or any means of support. She was a deeply grieving woman
B. Another beautiful element in the book of Ruth is that the state of the land parallels the hearts of God’s people. How does the book begin in 1:1? And what hope do you see here in 1:22?
—Naomi’s husband Elimelech choose to go to Moab because there was a severe drought in their homeland of Judah. In a way you could say he wandered away for greener pastures.
But as Naomi and Ruth came back to Bethlehem it was Spring and the time of the barley harvest. Spring is always the time of new beginnings and growth. It was also a time of spiritual renewal for Naomi.
3. Orpah fades out of the pages of Scripture, but Ruth (a woman friend or companion) is immortalized. Read Ruth 1:15-18.
A. List the promises Ruth made to Naomi in this parting scene that she refused to let happen.
*For where you go, I will go. *Where you lodge, I will lodge. *Your people shall be my people. *Your God shall be my God. *Where you die, I will die, and be buried there. *Nothing but death will part us.
B. Now, consider how God asks us to follow Him, putting nothing before Him. What among Ruth’s many promises might be relevant to us in that regard, and what might it mean?
I was thinking as I read verse 16 that these words could be said to Jesus. Many followed Jesus and remained with Him, and there were some who turned away, perhaps becoming disillusioned, having difficulty with his hard sayings (like “I am the Bread from Heaven”), being afraid of persecution, or being divided in their loyalties, as the rich young ruler who went away sad, unable to think about life without his wealth and possessions. We could say to Jesus, “I do not want to leave you or turn back from following you; where you go, I will go, and where you stay, I will stay. Your Father shall be my Father.” I hesitate to say I can “make promises” to God, because I know how much I fail in keeping them, and how easily I can fall into idolatry, especially relationship-idolatry. I often want to “follow” other things, believing they will bring relief or satisfaction. However, I hold onto the truth that having “the desire for the desire” to follow Him is something He can work with.
Me too:
However, I hold onto the truth that having “the desire for the desire” to follow Him is something He can work with.
This is a great truth, Susan. It is so hard to keep our commitment to our Father. I fail daily. Thank you for this: However, I hold onto the truth that having “the desire for the desire” to follow Him is something He can work with.
4. Read Ruth 1:19-22
A. Naomi’s name means “sweet,” so what is the significance of her request in verse 20? What reason does she give and what does this tell you?
She wishes to be called Mara, meaning “bitter” because she felt that the Lord had dealt bitterly with her.
B. Another beautiful element in the book of Ruth is that the state of the land parallels the hearts of God’s people. How does the book begin in 1:1? And what hope do you see here in 1:22?
There was famine in the land of Judah when Elimelech went to the land of Moab. When Naomi returned to Bethlehem with Ruth, it was the beginning of barley harvest.
5. God is going to use Ruth to restore Naomi’s faith. The turning point comes after the greeting scene Ruth has with Boaz, her future “kinsman-redeemer” and she comes home with her arms full of grain to Naomi. Read Ruth 2:18-23 and describe:
A. The greeting scene between Ruth and Naomi
Ruth returned home from the field with the barley she had gleaned and brought it to Naomi. She told Naomi about Boaz and his kindness. Naomi told Ruth that Boaz was one of their closest relative.
B. The change in Naomi
Naomi was encouraged and realized that the Lord had not withdrawn His kindness. She was excited to hear that Boaz wanted Ruth to stay until the harvest was finished. Naomi saw hope for their new life in Judah.
6. If you are not familiar with the book of Ruth, you’ll need to read the rest, but I know most of you are. How did God use the words that flowed out of Ruth’s heart in her “parting scene” (the one that never happened) for Kingdom purposes?
Your people will be my people and your God will be my God. Though Ruth is a Moabite, she gives her complete loyalty to the Israelite family she marries into and she becomes a true daughter to her mother in law, Naomi. Her obedience to God, by faith, places her in the lineage of the Lord. David is a descendant of the union of Ruth and Boaz. It is through this lineage God brings the Lord Jesus Christ ~ Our Redeemer.
7. Are you one who avoids “good-byes” because they are painful? Why might this be a big mistake?
No, I do not avoid painful “good byes”. It leaves you without regrets. I don’t want anyone to be alone in their end moments on earth. It is hard, but important to love in the good times and the difficult times. I was so thankful to spend my mom’s last day with her, holding her hand the entire day. I have never regretted that. My dad died very suddenly, but I had spoken with him the day before. Saying “I love you” has always been a part of our good byes, whether in person or on the phone….or even when going to bed at night.
From Patti:
I was so thankful to spend my mom’s last day with her, holding her hand the entire day. I have never regretted that. My dad died very suddenly, but I had spoken with him the day before. Saying “I love you” has always been a part of our good byes, whether in person or on the phone….or even when going to bed at night.
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5. God is going to use Ruth to restore Naomi’s faith. The turning point comes after the greeting scene Ruth has with Boaz, her future “kinsman-redeemer” and she comes home with her arms full of grain to Naomi. Read Ruth 2:18-23 and describe:
A. The greeting scene between Ruth and Naomi
—Naomi was amazed at the amount of grain Ruth brought home to her and wondered whose field she had worked in. She exclaimed blessing upon him then found out his name and identified him as family so she knew it was a safe place for Ruth as the foreigner who might have been harassed in other men’s fields.
B. The change in Naomi
6. If you are not familiar with the book of Ruth, you’ll need to read the rest, but I know most of you are. How did God use the words that flowed out of Ruth’s heart in her “parting scene” (the one that never happened) for Kingdom purposes?
—Ruth’s expression of love for Naomi and her commitment to stay with her brought both of them into a place of redemption for both Naomi and Ruth.
7. Are you one who avoids “good-byes” because they are painful? Why might this be a big mistake?
—No, I recognize that meaningful things are often said during goodbyes. I hate it when a goodbye feels incomplete and things are left unsaid.
5. God is going to use Ruth to restore Naomi’s faith. The turning point comes after the greeting scene Ruth has with Boaz, her future “kinsman-redeemer” and she comes home with her arms full of grain to Naomi. Read Ruth 2:18-23 and describe:
A. The greeting scene between Ruth and Naomi
Naomi is pleased by how hard Ruth worked and asks God to bless the man who allowed her to glean his fields.
B. The change in Naomi
When Ruth tells Naomi the man was Boaz, Naomi’s heart softens and her bitterness dissolves. She praises God for His provision of Boaz, the kinsman-redeemer and she encourages Ruth to go to Boaz.
6. If you are not familiar with the book of Ruth, you’ll need to read the rest, but I know most of you are. How did God use the words that flowed out of Ruth’s heart in her “parting scene” (the one that never happened) for Kingdom purposes?
Ruth chose not to return to the pagan gods of her heritage and to call Naomi’s God, her God, Naomi’s people, her people, and God provided.
7. Are you one who avoids “good-byes” because they are painful? Why might this be a big mistake?
I have not had many parting scenes. The relatives I have lost in my lifetime, my grandmother, my Dad, my uncle—all died before I could get to the hospital. I don’t think I would avoid them, I just haven’t had that experience, not sure why God has allowed it to be that way for me. I would have liked to be at each of those “scenes”. But I so appreciate your wisdom here Dee in praying for those moments and I recognize there is significance.
Lizzy — I could see how this lesson is painful for you, Dear One. How could there not be a desire for reconciliation with your mother before she dies? You do live with a wound.
You have such a tender heart, dear Lizzy. I was not there for my Dad either. That has always been hard for me. It was instantaneous, so not predictable (and I think it would have been very hard for me to be there). So hard to always understand God’s ways. I know we both share prayers for reconciliation with those we love.
2. Ruth 1:6-14
A. Where have they been living and where are they going? They have been living in Moab and are returning to Judah, Naomi’s homeland.
B. How can you tell Naomi loves her daughters-in-law according to verse 8? Naomi gives each of them her blessing to return to their mothers home. “May the Lord show kindness to you,as you have shown to your dead and to me.”
C. What reason can you discern she has for sending them back to Moab? Why might this be short-sighted eternally? Any parallel today? Naomi says she is too old to remarry and have more sons for them to marry. It is better for them to return to their people and their gods. God will one day send “The Redeemer” of all people.
D. Describe Naomi’s state of heart according to what you see in verses 11-13. “It is more bitter for me than for you, because the Lord’s hand has gone out against me.”
E. All the names in the book of Ruth are significant. Orpah means “stiff-necked or double-minded.” How does she eventually respond to Naomi’s request? Orpah kissed her mother-in-law goodbye.
3. Orpah fades out of the pages of Scripture, but Ruth (a woman friend or companion) is immortalized. Read Ruth 1:15-18.
A. List the promises Ruth made to Naomi in this parting scene that she refused to let happen. ” Where you go I will go, where you stay I will stay, your people will be my people, and your God my God, where you die I will die and there I will be buried. May the Lord deal with me, be it ever so severely, if anything but death separates you and me.”
B. Now, consider how God asks us to follow Him, putting nothing before Him. What among Ruth’s many promises might be relevant to us in that regard, and what might it mean? “Your people will be my people.” We are to love all of God’s people, even the un-lovely ones.
4. Read Ruth 1:19-22
A. Naomi’s name means “sweet,” so what is the significance of her request in verse 20? What reason does she give and what does this tell you? Naomi is sad that the Almighty has delt so severely with her and made her life bitter.
B. Another beautiful element in the book of Ruth is that the state of the land parallels the hearts of God’s people. How does the book begin in 1:1? And what hope do you see here in 1:22? There was famine in Judah, so Elimelech took his family to Moab.
Naomi and Ruth arrived in Bethlehem as the barley harvest was beginning.
2. Ruth 1:6-14
A. Where have they been living and where are they going?
In Moab and they were returning to the land of Judah.
B. How can you tell Naomi loves her daughters-in-law according to verse 8?
She told them to go back to their own families and pronounced a prayer of blessing for them.
C. What reason can you discern she has for sending them back to Moab? Why might this be short-sighted eternally? Any parallel today?
She thought they would be better off in their own homeland. And that they would be able to find a husband who will take care of them. The natural man in Naomi is making decisions according to practicality and what is obvious.
At times, God sends us to leave the comfort of home to see His sufficiency in our lives regardless of the place He leads us to. And many times, we use our natural intelligence and circumstances to dictate how to go forward instead of relying on God to lead us.
D. Describe Naomi’s state of the heart according to what you see in verses 11-13.
Despondent, hopeless, and lonely
E. All the names in the book of Ruth are significant. Orpah means “stiff-necked or double-minded.” How does she eventually respond to Naomi’s request?
She decided to go back to her homeland and her gods.
3. Orpah fades out of the pages of Scripture, but Ruth (a woman friend or companion) is immortalized. Read Ruth 1:15-18.
A. List the promises Ruth made to Naomi in this parting scene that she refused to let happen.
Where you go I will go (distance, place); Where you stay I will stay (comfort); Where you die, I will die. (death) Your people will be my people and your God, my God.
She refused to not let anything come between or separate them.
B. Now, consider how God asks us to follow Him, putting nothing before Him. What among Ruth’s many promises might be relevant to us in that regard, and what might it mean?
I will go where God leads me regardless of location, comfort, and familiarity. Some places that God has called me to before were hard places. Incidentally, this passage has always been close to my heart as the song sung at our wedding by my sister-in-law, Rachael, was based on Ruth 1. This is also where we picked the name for our daughter, Ruth.
Another song that comes to mind is “wherever He leads I’ll go”.
4. Read Ruth 1:19-22
A. Naomi’s name means “sweet,” so what is the significance of her request in verse 20? What reason does she give and what does this tell you?
It is a contrast to what she was because the Lord has dealt bitterly with her. When our circumstances seem hopeless, they can change how we look at ourselves.
B. Another beautiful element in the book of Ruth is that the state of the land parallels the hearts of God’s people. How does the book begin in 1:1? And what hope do you see here in 1:22?
There was a famine in 1:1. And the start of barley harvest is seen in 1:22. God promises a harvest for those who are in Him who may be experiencing famine in their hearts.
I remember that about your wedding, Bing. How lovely.
5. God is going to use Ruth to restore Naomi’s faith. The turning point comes after the greeting scene Ruth has with Boaz, her future “kinsman-redeemer” and she comes home with her arms full of grain to Naomi. Read Ruth 2:18-23 and describe:
A. The greeting scene between Ruth and Naomi was warm and filled with hope.
B. The change in Naomi: Naomi sees God’s kindness and even says that He will not forsake the living or the dead.
6. If you are not familiar with the book of Ruth, you’ll need to read the rest, but I know most of you are. How did God use the words that flowed out of Ruth’s heart in her “parting scene” (the one that never happened) for Kingdom purposes? Ruth said basically that it was impossible for the daughters-in-laws to find a husband if they say with her and that God’s hand was against her. Those words are proof for our hearts that God is faithful, kind, and even when circumstances look to be against us, God’s hand is not against us. He has kingdom purposes in all that He allows.
7. Are you one who avoids “good-byes” because they are painful? Why might this be a big mistake? No I don’t avoid good-byes.
So true about nothing being impossible for God. He has Kingdom purposes.
5. God is going to use Ruth to restore Naomi’s faith. The turning point comes after the greeting scene Ruth has with Boaz, her future “kinsman-redeemer” and she comes home with her arms full of grain to Naomi. Read Ruth 2:18-23 and describe:
A. The greeting scene between Ruth and Naomi
If I could use my own words; they were saying in effect, Wow! Wow!
B. The change in Naomi
Naomi became alive and hopeful and encouraged!
6. If you are not familiar with the book of Ruth, you’ll need to read the rest, but I know most of you are. How did God use the words that flowed out of Ruth’s heart in her “parting scene” (the one that never happened) for Kingdom purposes?
7. Are you one who avoids “good-byes” because they are painful? Why might this be a big mistake?
Goodbyes are hard but I have learned to see them as inevitable in this life and to make the best of the precious moments shared with another.
2. Ruth 1:6-14
A. Where have they been living and where are they going?
Moab, land of Judah
B. How can you tell Naomi loves her daughters-in-law according to verse 8?
She was ready to let them go so they would have a good life. She was not selfish. They would not be able to marry in Judah because she had no more sons.
C. What reason can you discern she has for sending them back to Moab?
She was worried about how they would be received in Judah. They were Moabites. She also wanted them to be able to marry because living without a husband was very difficult in those days.
Why might this be short-sighted eternally?
Yes, it was not her concern how they would be received. That was for them to manage if they really, truly believed in God. They should stand firm in their faith. God would take care of them.
Any parallel today?
Absolutely! We should stand firm in our faith and know that God has the plan. He will always win.
D. Describe Naomi’s state of heart according to what you see in verses 11-13.
She is a bit cynical and says she is “bitter.” She believes God is upset with her.
E. All the names in the book of Ruth are significant. Orpah means “stiff-necked or double-minded.” How does she eventually respond to Naomi’s request?
Orpah agreed and leaves to go back home.
8. Read 1 Samuel 18:1-4
A. What happened just before this famous “greeting scene?”
What has Jonathan seen in David’s character? Jonathan saw that David was a young man of great faith in God. David’s confidence was not in his own skill, but in the power of the living God. He killed Goliath, without armor or sword, but with his sling and a stone. He returned to Saul with the Philistine’s head in his hand.
B. What does Jonathan say and do, and what do you think these actions mean?
Jonathan made a covenant with David because he loved and respected him. Jonathan gave David his robe, armor, sword, bow and his belt. It was a sign of loyalty and friendship of the two young men.
9. Saul is jealous of David and tries to kill him. How does Jonathan respond in 1 Samuel 19:4-5? How does this show honor for both father and friend? Jonathan knows that David’s heart is pure and he begs his father not to harm David. David brought about great deliverance for Israel and he should not be put to death, as he is innocent of any malice against Saul.
Wed-Thurs: Parting Scenes: David and Jonathan
8. Read 1 Samuel 18:1-4
A. What happened just before this famous “greeting scene?” What has Jonathan seen in David’s character?
—In the chapter before is the whole episode of David standing up to Goliath and killing him in defense of The God of Israel.
It would seem Jonathan saw and appreciated David’s commitment to God and his valor as a result of that relationship. It shows Jonathan was sensitive to spiritual things himself. It is that experience a person can have in bonding quickly with another believer in Christ.
B. What does Jonathan say and do, and what do you think these actions mean?
—Doing a little research I read that when Jonathan gave David his clothes and military garb the significance of this gift was that Jonathan recognized that David would one day be king of Israel. Rather than being envious or jealous, Jonathan submitted to God’s will and sacrificed his own right to the throne.
It shows the the good character Jonathan and his acceptance of David as God’s man to be king over Israel.
9. Saul is jealous of David and tries to kill him. How does Jonathan respond in 1 Samuel 19:4-5? How does this show honor for both father and friend?
—Jonathan didn’t outwardly oppose his father Saul in his request to kill David but was reasoning with him on behalf of his close friend David and worked for reconciliation.
10. If the above is true of you, what comments do you have?
What helps you forgive even though repentance has not been shown?
—Jealousy is a miserable existence. I try to run from it because it has such a souring affect on life. At this age it is very recognizable and experience says nip it quickly. I hate it in myself and I hate it in others.
—It is a wonderful thing when forgiveness is asked for but most often the offending person will never repent or ask for it. Many times they just simply think they are right or justified in their actions. The only help for forgiving is from Jesus. It is in submitting to Him and responding as he did to mankind. “Father, forgive them, for the know not what they do.” It is a work of the Holy Spirit not something we can do in our flesh.
11. Read 1 Samuel 20:41-42 and describe the emotion in this first parting scene and how God might have used it for Kingdom purposes.
—There was deep emotion being expressed. Sounds like grown men crying like babies.
I would say it just deepened their bond to one another. Verse 42 makes it clear their relationship and bond was in the Lord. And that it was extended to their offspring. David lived it out by caring for Jonathan’s crippled son Mephibosheth after Jonathan’s death and David had taken his place as king.
12. Read 1 Samuel 23:15-18
A. Saul can’t find David, but Jonathan can. Thoughts?
—Saul was rash and acting on his own to pursue and kill David. Jonathan was seeking God’s will and was led by the Spirit in his actions.
B. What does Jonathan say to David in this final parting scene, and how does God use this for Kingdom purposes?
—Jonathan encouraged David in the Lord’s plan for his life and assured him that Saul would not find him. It would seem likely Jonathan had influence with Saul’s men and there would have been little if any support to Saul for finding David. David was a National hero and Jonathan loved him like a brother so his assurance to David that Saul would not find him had merit. Jonathan was in full support of God’s Kingdom plans for David to be king.
3. Orpah fades out of the pages of Scripture, but Ruth (a woman friend or companion) is immortalized. Read Ruth 1:15-18.
A. List the promises Ruth made to Naomi in this parting scene that she refused to let happen.
Where you go, I will go, where you live I will live, your people will be my people, and you’re God will be my God. Wherever you will die, I will die too.
Growing up our kids did a program at our church and dance a song with these words. I still have that song in my head sometimes even today!
B. Now, consider how God asks us to follow Him, putting nothing before Him. What among Ruth’s many promises might be relevant to us in that regard, and what might it mean?
I think the whole thing is relevant. We are members of a “family,” and are “together”because of that. We follow Christ. Other Christians are my “people,” and when we die we will be together again with God.
4. Read Ruth 1:19-22
A. Naomi’s name means “sweet,” so what is the significance of her request in verse 20? What reason does she give and what does this tell you?
She wants to be called Mara, which means bitter. It’s the opposite of sweet. She feels her life has really been bitter and that God has not been kind to her. She is not a grateful person. She is having a pity party.
B. Another beautiful element in the book of Ruth is that the state of the land parallels the hearts of God’s people. How does the book begin in 1:1? And what hope do you see here in 1:22?
There was a famine. By 1:22 it was gone. It was harvest time when she arrived. Hope in the harvest.
5. God is going to use Ruth to restore Naomi’s faith. The turning point comes after the greeting scene Ruth has with Boaz, her future “kinsman-redeemer” and she comes home with her arms full of grain to Naomi. Read Ruth 2:18-23 and describe:
A. The greeting scene between Ruth and Naomi
Ruth roughy much to eat from the harvest. Naomi was surprised! She asks the Lord to bless the man who helped her.
B. The change in Naomi
She is thankful to God for His hand in the situation now.
6. If you are not familiar with the book of Ruth, you’ll need to read the rest, but I know most of you are. How did God use the words that flowed out of Ruth’s heart in her “parting scene” (the one that never happened) for Kingdom purposes?
Ruth was not a Jew. She came from another land. She was accepted by the people and ended up being part of the “clan.” She was taken in and married within the group also.
7. Are you one who avoids “good-byes” because they are painful? Why might this be a big mistake?
No, but I’ve never thought of it before. Some precious words might come right at the end. We should be there for that.
4. Read Ruth 1:19-22
A. Naomi’s name means “sweet”, so what is the significance of her request in verse 20? What reason does she give and what does this tell you?
Naomi says not to call her Naomi, but to call her Mara (literally, “bitter”). I once heard Leslie Vernick say that it is better to say, “I feel sad, or angry, or hopeless”, rather than “I am sad, angry, or hopeless.” In saying the “am”, it becomes who you are, or your identity. You become the emotion, in a way. Naomi is bitter because her husband and sons have died; the bitterness has seeped deep down inside of her, filling every part. Naomi also pointedly says that God has dealt bitterly with her, that she went away full, but returned empty, again saying that God did this to her, that He has brought this affliction on her. I think this deserves attention, because I believe we think, behave, and move through life greatly influenced by how we believe God sees us. Does He love us, or not? Is he gracious, kind, and merciful, or is He punitive and punishing? Are we “at home” in Him, or do we believe somehow, we are only a “tenant”? Henri Nouwen wrote and spoke a lot of learning to see ourselves as the Beloved, the one to whom God says, “You are my Beloved; on you My favor rests.”
B. Another beautiful element in the book of Ruth is that the state of the land parallels the hearts of God’s people. How does the book begin in 1:1? And what hope do you see here in 1:22?
In the opening of the book, there is a famine in the land. In 1:22, it is the beginning of the barley harvest. So there has been a good crop of barley, and there is the anticipation of a good harvest and full stomachs again.
This is such a great point, Susan! Thank you!
I think this deserves attention, because I believe we think, behave, and move through life greatly influenced by how we believe God sees us. Does He love us, or not? Is he gracious, kind, and merciful, or is He punitive and punishing? Are we “at home” in Him, or do we believe somehow, we are only a “tenant”? Henri Nouwen wrote and spoke a lot of learning to see ourselves as the Beloved, the one to whom God says, “You are my Beloved; on you My favor rests.”
Susan I really like this thought you brought out:
“ I think this deserves attention, because I believe we think, behave, and move through life greatly influenced by how we believe God sees us. Does He love us, or not? Is he gracious, kind, and merciful, or is He punitive and punishing? Are we “at home” in Him, or do we believe somehow, we are only a “tenant”? Henri Nouwen wrote and spoke a lot of learning to see ourselves as the Beloved, the one to whom God says, “You are my Beloved; on you My favor rests.”
I love how you take us to authors like Nouwen, Susan.
10. If the above is true of you, what comments do you have? What helps you forgive even though repentance has not been shown?
Though forgiveness may not be our first emotion when someone hurts us or wrongs us, we are called to follow Christ’s example of forgiving others. I love that Tim Keller reminded us, earlier in the study, that Jesus was never offended. Forgiving can be very difficult because we can be crushed to our very core, but it is important for the health of our own souls, to forgive and let go of the sins of another. Jesus calls us to forgive, as He forgives us….that says it all.
11. Read 1 Samuel 20:41-42 and describe the emotion in this first parting scene and how God might have used it for Kingdom purposes.
It was a difficult parting for David and Jonathan. David bowed three times and showed great respect toward Jonathan. David wept more than Jonathan. David was leaving his family and everything behind, so it was a great loss to him. David, however, felt that he had to leave for his own safety and in obedience to God. David showed His trust in God, though it was so painful for him to leave. He would be safe and they would always be loyal and loving friends.
12. Read 1 Samuel 23:15-18
A. Saul can’t find David, but Jonathan can. Thoughts? Jonathan continued to encourage David in the Lord.
They made a covenant before the Lord. Jonathan knew that the Lord has chosen David to be the king of Israel. He was not jealous of his friend, but committed to protecting from Saul and encouraging him in the Lord.
B. What does Jonathan say to David in this final parting scene, and how does God use this for Kingdom purposes?
“Do not be afraid, because the hand of Saul my father will not find you, and your will be king over Israel and I will be next to you.” The Lord had chosen David to be the next king of Israel and His hand was on David’s life for the purposes of His kingdom. Saul knew this too, yet he continued to fight against the will of God.
From Patti:
Forgiving can be very difficult because we can be crushed to our very core, but it is important for the health of our own souls, to forgive and let go of the sins of another.
8. Read 1 Samuel 18:1-4
A. What happened just before this famous “greeting scene?” What has Jonathan seen in David’s character? David killed Goliath. Jonathan has seen bravery and great faith in the Lord Almighty in David’s character.
B. What does Jonathan say and do, and what do you think these actions mean?” Jonathan became one spirit with David and he loved him as himself. Jonathan made a covenant with David because he loved him as himself. He gave David the clothing he was wearing, even his sword, his bow and his belt.” It means Jonathan was totally devoted to David and gave him his love and faithfulness as a brother and friend.
9. Saul is jealous of David and tries to kill him. How does Jonathan respond in 1 Samuel 19:4-5? How does this show honor for both father and friend? Jonathan defends David to his father and reminds him of all that David has done for him and for Israel. It shows honor to a father by allowing him to save face by changing his mind and heart and preventing Saul from making a terrible mistake. Jonathan honors his friend, David by giving him credit for qll of his victories on behalf of King Saul and Israel.
10. If the above is true of you, what comments do you have? What helps you forgive even though repentance has not been shown? Remembering what God says helps me to forgive, also knowing how much God has forgiven me, how can I justify being unforgiving towards another person?
11. Read 1 Samuel 20:41-42 and describe the emotion in this first parting scene and how God might have used it for Kingdom purposes. David was anxiously awaiting news from his friend , Jonathan, about King Saul’s intentions toward him. Would he be accepted back into his home and his people or would he have to continue to run for his life and hide from King Saul? Jonathan’s emotions were caused by shame for his father’s murderous plans for David, David’s emotion was heartbreak, at being the target of his Kings hatred and an outcast as a result of it. They both longed for peace. Regardless, there was peace between the two friends and a sworn oath before the Lord, over their decendants forever.
12. Read 1 Samuel 23:15-18
A. Saul can’t find David, but Jonathan can. Thoughts? God protected David.
B. What does Jonathan say to David in this final parting scene? ” Don’t be afraid, My father, Saul will not lay a hand on you. You will be King over Israel and I will be second to you. Even my father, Saul knows this.”
Friday: Paul and the Ephesians
13. Can you release a beloved child to a land far away for Kingdom purposes?
—Yes, but sending off a young one whether on a mission trip to a third world country or to a ministry position numerous states and hours away is never easy. I’ve done both. Dangers and distance weigh down the heart a bit. But when convinced they are going for Kingdom purposes what more could we want as a parent or grandparent for them than knowing they are seeking to do God’s will for their lives and his glory. Recently we sent a beloved niece to Africa. It exercised my trust in God to protect her there.
14. Describe a meaningful parting scene in your life if possible. What was it meaningful?
—I have experienced 4 death bed scenes in my life. My dad, my father-in-law, mother-in-law and a beloved Aunt that I was care giver for until her death. Each were meaningful because they were all believers ready to die and go be with Jesus. And because there was tenderness and loving words spoken to each one.
15. Read Acts 20:34-38
A. What are the last things Paul tells his beloved Ephesians? How are you or could you live this out?
—He reminds them of the precious and meaningful years they had together then he prayed with them. I think prayer is a key component of parting. My husband often prays for family and people as we part company. Especially if they are traveling somewhere.
B. Describe the parting scene.
—Paul knelt down and prayed with them and there were lots of tears by everyone letting their emotions flow freely along with great affection displayed to one another with hugs and kisses. Then they walked with him down to the ship. Like often today we walk someone to their car.
Why do you think Shakespeare said, “Parting is such sweet sorrow?”
—Because it is hard to separate from those we love and sorrow is the emotion we feel yet there are sweet memories of having been together that go with us.
Also the hope of reunion brings a deeper joy for believers in parting because they will eventually live together in unity for eternity.
16. Do you see any common threads in these Scriptural parting scenes? If so, what?
—The common thread I see is that sweet, deep and meaningful exchanges happen. Words are spoken that aren’t normally said freely. Everyone gets more real and caring at those times. Tears are shed because of the raw emotions being expressed.
Great testimony about your 4 parting scenes.
8. Read 1 Samuel 18:1-4
A. What happened just before this famous “greeting scene?” What has Jonathan seen in David’s character?
David fights Goliath and meets Saul. He sees a strong, caring man (?). I don’t know this story well.
B. What does Jonathan say and do, and what do you think these actions mean?
He gives David his tunic, and military gear. He made a pact with David. Not sure what this pact was about? the NLT says he loved David and David loved him. I’m confused about this part. These are two people who had just met. How could they have this deep bond the minute they met? I can see admiring the person I have just met, but the word love here is confusing to me. I guess the actions are such that Jonathan looks up to David (like a brother) and he wants to insure they remain close. Is Jonathan a younger man? It seems like this is so.
9. Saul is jealous of David and tries to kill him. How does Jonathan respond in 1 Samuel 19:4-5? How does this show honor for both father and friend?
He tries to control the situation to some extent. He tells David to go hide in the field while he speaks to his dad. I find it interesting that Jonathan takes his father to the field where David is to speak to him. Is that so David would hear everything said between the two? Jonathan tells his dad to not harm his servant because he had always done everything Saul requested. He reminds him that David fought the Philistine giant. He was trying to help both parties.
Great questions.
Would be interesting to look at the Hebrew for love — do you know how to do that with blue letter Bible?
His giving David all of his “kingly” attire communicates that he believes David, and not himself, though he is the rightful heir, should be the next king. Jonathan is such a godly man and wants what is best in God’s sight.
David and Jonathan had disagreed about Saul’s intentions — Jonathan believed in his father, David did not. Hearing Saul with his own ears would settle it. Unfortunately, David was right.
10. If the above is true of you, what comments do you have? What helps you forgive even though repentance has not been shown?
Wow. This is so true. I have what I have always called a “weird family.” I’ve always longed for the “normal” family. I watch other families gather together in the park and have a picnic, or enjoy each other at a celebration, and think to myself how “I would love to have a family like theirs.” I have 2 siblings who can be pretty darn selfish. I am experiencing this right now as we speak. The one whom I thought was truly together with me has let me down this week. But as you are reminding me, it’s a pattern. It used to happen all the time when we had family gatherings. Here we are trying to gather together as a family and alas! This person is no where to be found. The other one I have prayed about (dear Lord, where is this person? My mom would want me to help them) and even shed a tear this week, because of family estrangement. I have been able to contact them since at least January. Such a messed up life. My husband “surprised” me and found the person. An act of unselfishness occurred because this person arrived at my house early this morning for our family wedding celebration. I have always, unknowingly, put these boundaries around myself so I wouldn’t get hurt. I just realized that.
11. Read 1 Samuel 20:41-42 and describe the emotion in this first parting scene and how God might have used it for Kingdom purposes.
David is relieved and thankful. He hugs Jonathan. They cry together. They agree that they are bound by God. Their loyalty is strong.
I realized I didn’t answer the second part of question 10. What helps me forgive when there is no repentance? Probably that time passes and the hurt goes away. Then, I forgive because it doesn’t seem as bad as when it occurred. I realize too that I am not perfect either and will make mistakes. I would want someone to forgive me for a stupid mistake.
Your husband sure loves you, Laura!
Today is Saturday, your big day Laura. I am praying that you and your family have a joyous celebration! Praying that Jesus will be very present!!
Thank you Patti! Everything went beautifully! He was with us every step of the way. It was a lovely time with only a few human blips 😉.
Praise God! Thank you Father for your Faithfulness, Morning by Morning!
Praying for you, Laura today. May it be very special for you and your family.
Thank you Bing! It was an amazing time for my family. We now have a new addition to our family and that is sweet. God truly meant for us to be together. We have such a relational need don’t we?
Something happened on Tuesday this week that made it hard for me to come back here, but I do want to try to answer this question, as my commitment before the Lord.
10. If the above is true of you, what comments do you have? What helps you forgive even though repentance has not been shown?
One thing that has helped me forgive when there is no repentance or acknowledgment of wrongdoing, is Psalm 51:4, and realizing their sin was not against me, but against God. It takes the focus off of me and the possibility of self-pity and actually gives me more pity for the offender. I also know from experience that without forgiveness there is no peace. One thing I’ve learned about myself is that I so tend towards blaming myself and assuming I must have done something to deserve the way I’m being treated, that I can stay stuck in a cycle of trying to figure out what I did or trying to fix. In my case, I need to stop and acknowledge I was wronged, then I can admit there is something to be forgiven, and I choose to forgive because I know my own sinful heart, and I know the one who hurt me is hurting and broken or they would not treat me so badly. Last night I was lying in bed and thinking through the words this person recently said of me, my mom said of me–and then I stopped the thoughts and reminded myself what Jesus says of me. And how can He not outweigh any other? He is my Defender, my shield, the lifter of my head.
Oh, Lizzy, this is SO helpful to me!! Such similar things in my life and God is using my blog sister to help me. Such a Biblical answer and I will copy this into my notebook for repeated reference. Tears flowing now as I’m so grateful for you allowing God to put you through very hard things so that you might comfort others in similar circumstances. The body of Christ is so beautiful and He is the most beautiful!
Oh, Lizzy and Missy! I needed both of your thoughts today! I go through the very cycle you mentioned, Lizzy. Yesterday, it started and I prayed and prayed that the Lord would help me re-focus my thoughts. I am going to copy this into a file too. I have saved some of the sweet thoughts of you dear blog sisters and I have them in a place where I can read them from time to time. What a blessing this blog is in my life! Love this: I stopped the thoughts and reminded myself what Jesus says of me. And how can He not outweigh any other? He is my Defender, my shield, the lifter of my head.
So glad you came back here, Lizzy. Helps us to pray!
I’ve often thought how gladly, though painfully, I would want my children to live out their lives on a foreign field in service to Jesus. I love having them around me, but my greatest desire is that they would love and serve the One who died for them. My son lives 13 minutes from me, yet in a far away land spiritually. How much I need his help with fixing things around the house and discipline of my younger son who is often incorrigible. Yet, how much rather I would do without these things and know he was with me in heart serving our Lord in a far distant foreign land. I took him to Liberia, West Africa, several years ago, hoping to ignite a spark in his soul for the work of God in that desperately poor country I have loved for many years. Now I see my son wasting his life in pursuit of this world’s temporary pleasures, and not the things of God. On another note, thinking of parting scenes, I will always hold dear and comforting to my heart my earthly father’s final words to us children gathered around his bedside as they wheeled him into a surgery from which he would never recover and never speak to us again. Though a pastor and missionary himself, he had a tumultuous relationship with his children and had put me out of his life for 20 long years of silence. Yet, he knew God, and I am grateful for the father God chose for me in His ultimate wisdom, though I longed for his love and guidance which I did not receive. As they wheeled him away into surgery for his ruptured aortic aneurysm, he was still able to say, “Children, remember, the eternal God is your refuge, and underneath are the everlasting arms.” I know Elisabeth Elliot also spoke those words daily on her radio broadcast, but I most remember them from my father. It was a parting gift which keeps on giving from my everlasting Father who will never leave me nor forsake me. What a wonderful study this is, Dee. My heart longs to be here daily, but life prohibits that often. My love to you all.
oh dear Missy. Your words above to me started my tears (again!) but then seeing what you wrote here, I am overwhelmed. This ” Yet, he knew God, and I am grateful for the father God chose for me in His ultimate wisdom, though I longed for his love and guidance which I did not receive.” Just amazing how He shines through you. I need to cling to this truth. You are such an example for me, just amazed at His light in you. Thank you for sharing with us, whenever you can, every bit is GOLD as Dee would say.
Praying right now again for your sons, for the Lord to break through to their hearts and open their eyes to know Him and fall in love with Him.
Missy, I am overwhelmed just reading this. Amen to Lizzy’s thoughts. You are such a selfless woman, with a deep love of our Heavenly Father. I will pray for your sons and your sweet daughter too. Amen to Gold: We have our everlasting Father who will never leave me nor forsake me.
Thankyou Miriam for your sweet testimony here. We miss your wonderful input but understand. It is good to have you share as you can.
Missy — amazing you are the woman you are. Only God!
Missy, as always, your heart for God and His kingdom purposes sweeps up my own heart to Him. Hugs, dear one!
8. Read 1 Samuel 18:1-4
A. What happened just before this famous “greeting scene?” What has Jonathan seen in David’s character? David killed Goliath. Perhaps courage, faithfulness to God.
B. What does Jonathan say and do, and what do you think these actions mean? He made a covenant with David, and stripped himself of his robe, armor, sword, bow, and belt and gave it to David. It may have meant that as far as Jonathan was concerned all he had was David’s, his ability to fight, defend himself, his very strength was Davids.
9. Saul is jealous of David and tries to kill him. How does Jonathan respond in 1 Samuel 19:4-5? How does this show honor for both father and friend? He defends David, and he reminds his father of what was true in the past, and what was right before God. It was really protection for both of them.
Saul’s repentance is temporary and he returns to his pattern. So Jonathan sends David away for his safety. Some of you have faced the same sad situation with friends or family. This should reassure you that there are times, when a pattern is evident, to set boundaries, as long as you forgive from your heart.
10. If the above is true of you, what comments do you have? What helps you forgive even though repentance has not been shown? Uffdah. What can I say, I have spent most of my mommy life, keeping strong boundaries for my children with my own parents, and for myself. Forgiveness more often than not has come out of obedience. One of my favorite illustrations of this is when Corrie Ten Boom after being in a concentration camp in WW2 travels to share the gospel with groups, and after one such event, is confronted with a past SS soldier, he asks for her forgiveness, she remembers him and his brutality and she talks about how raising her hand to shake his was out of obedience, but as she moves out of obedience, God fills her with His love and forgiveness for that man. (this is the tammy version) For the actual version, and such a rich teaching on forgiveness (I have learned so much from her about forgiveness) read here: https://www.guideposts.org/better-living/positive-living/guideposts-classics-corrie-ten-boom-forgiveness
Sometimes I can forgive easier when I recognize the pain and brokenness of the others life.
11. Read 1 Samuel 20:41-42 and describe the emotion in this first parting scene and how God might have used it for Kingdom purposes. Love and sadness. Not sure on the kingdom purposes, perhaps Johnathan’s love and refusal to come against David, some how helped to preserve David’s eventual hold on the throne?
12. Read 1 Samuel 23:15-18
A. Saul can’t find David, but Jonathan can. Thoughts? God had supernaturally hidden David from Saul’s sight? David told Jonathan where he was because he trusted him?
B. What does Jonathan say to David in this final parting scene, and how does God use this for Kingdom purposes? He says that Saul wont find him and that David would be king and that Jonathan would be next to him. Again for kingdom purposes perhaps Jonathan pledging to be at peace with David’s kingship might have guaranteed peace after Saul’s death. That Jonathan’s lineage would not seek to dethrone David?
Friday: Paul and the Ephesians
Sometimes we must say good-bye for Kingdom purposes. Amy Carmichael described her parting from the one she called “the dear old man,” who was like a father to her when she sailed for India, knowing she would never see him again. She said she could never go through that parting scene again, for it was so painful. Yet we know the promise Jesus gives to those who are willing to do so for Kingdom purposes.
13. Can you release a beloved child to a land far away for Kingdom purposes? I mean I know what you mean, and to that purpose, my answer would be a weak yes, that would need to be strengthened by the Spirit of God to walk it out. In a different way though those who have lost children to death, could also fall into this category. Can those who have lost children (not necessarily biological), can we let go or trust that somehow it was for kingdom purposes.
14. Describe a meaningful parting scene in your life if possible. What was it meaningful? When I left, a home church I had become a Christian in. I left after just 3 years because things were not healthy, they had grown or perhaps always were but I didn’t know better, very inward focused and had ostracized other believers who had left the group. As just a baby in the Lord who had learned so much from them, it was a very difficult parting, they felt like family. I did it very intentionally, meeting with the ladies, and the leader and explaining why I was leaving. I too was then ostracized, and it took me years and the Lord to start opening up in friendship again to other ladies. With time, I know can see how God used that to grow me, (not dependent on people) to free me to be able to serve Him as He called me, not as what the group thought was important.
15. Read Acts 20:34-38
A. What are the last things Paul tells his beloved Ephesians? How are you or could you live this out? He reminded them that of what was important, to help the weak, and to give was more important than to receive.
B. Describe the parting scene. Why do you think Shakespeare said, “Parting is such sweet sorrow?” Everyone was weeping and praying and kissing and embracing. Shakespeare said that because it shows that by the very fact that sorrow at parting happens, that there was love to grieve.
16. Do you see any common threads in these Scriptural parting scenes? If so, what? Faithfulness Love is the thread.
Tammy Jo, Thankful that God gave you the wisdom and courage to leave your comfort zone in your church when you realized you want to serve Him as He called you, not by what a group thought was important. That took a lot of courage and trust in the Lord.
Thank you, Dee, for this study and vigilant prayer about what to do. I hardly ever comment. I have been in and out of studies for years. This summer we went through several of the Hard Sayings lessons as a whole family. I just love the way you formulate question and guide without spoon feeding. You push us to reflect and grow. I am going through a very emotional change within my church that directly affects my area of service. This change has made me stop and evaluate some leadership problems and recognize my family’s need for a more healthy environment to grow spiritually. After church Sunday, I recognized the need to pray this week and evaluate the situation and ask for guidance and wisdom. Imagine my surprise when I opened my email and saw your study was entitled Parting Scenes. Among many other affirmations, the study this week helped keep me grounded in God’s word, encouraged and comforted in the midst of a much needed parting scene. Thank you for being obedient to God’s direction in your studies.
I don’t usually have time to respond daily online, but do in my journal. Because it’s been such a hard week and this study was such a Godsend, I wanted to share my week’s takeaways:
God knows and sees my broken heart (like Naomi) and is using others (including this study) to be catalysts in drawing my attention back to Him.
Seeing the courage and trust other’s (like David) have in God’s power and presence can lead me to be an obedient follower of God even when it’s overwhelming, uncomfortable and requires sacrifice (just like Jonathan).
Knowing God’s power and control is evident; knowing the heart of those who are struggling is ultimately for the Lord; knowing I have and do make mistakes; allows me to forgive from my heart as a pattern of unhealthy behavior became evident and boundaries need to be set.
God will provide a hiding place for my soul to heal and refocus on the joy of the Lord. He will reveal to me the best time and way to serve Him when He is ready for me to know and respond.
Ava — thank you so for chiming in – such an encouragement. Will pray for wisdom for you!
Like Miriam life has not allowed me to be here every day but I have been pondering which something I haven’t done in a long time.
14. The parting scene I want to describe is an event I would have never thought possible. Back in 2015, I spent a week with my mother in North Carolina for the occasion of her 75th birthday. As I’ve shared before I was the one child my mother never wanted but I have come to terms with that and have no regrets. Forgiveness has freed me from becoming a bitter woman as she is. However, the parting scene has nothing to do with her.
The morning of my return journey I made a decision to visit a relative l had not seen for many years. That relative was my biological father, my mother’s first husband. Although he was never involved in my life I still felt oddly connected to him and I just wanted to see how he was doing. I don’t remember the words of our conversation but I will never forget the hug we shared before I left. That hug was an incredible gift to me because he passed away in 2020 and I have not had the opportunity to visit North Carolina since 2015. Interestingly, it is through my biological father I have a spiritual legacy. Through his mother’s side of the family I am descended from preachers. Also, John Wesley’s friend, Francis Asbury was a circuit riding preacher who preached to my ancestors. So, while my biological father was not an instrument in my upbringing, he still had an influence on my life. I’m very thankful I have no regrets concerning him.
What a testimony with your biological father, Tammy!
What a sweet story, Tammy. I love your kind and forgiving heart towards your mother. So thankful the Lord prompted you to visit your biological father, who gave you this spiritual legacy.
Tammy, I am so glad you decided to visit your biological father when you had the chance to do so. You will always have that hug to hold on to, and yes, it is an incredible gift.
Tammy, what an example of God redeeming whatever may be called “lost” in this world. I love your story about your biological father. We all have our own story but God can help us say, “I have no regrets concerning ________. Thanks for sharing.
Saturday:
17. Ask the Lord why this lesson matters in your life and share your thoughts and prayers for yourself.
—I think one of the important reminders for me is to be aware of the preciousness of time together with loved ones. Family & friends.
My sister and I try to spend quality time with our almost 98 yr old mother. Not just running her errands for her but taking time to drink coffee with her and talking about the Lord with her. It requires being in close proximity to her at her table in the quiet setting of her apartment so she can read our lips. Fortunately she has good eyesight but just very poor hearing. Obviously our time with her is short.
A few weeks ago a 50 year old friend committed suicide. My husband and I had visited with him talking briefly in a local business catching up on his family. Because of influencing voices a few years ago he and his wife left our church and went elsewhere. No one saw it coming but four days later after our conversation he took his life. His last words to us were “I miss you guys.” Parting words I’ll never forget.
I pray for a sensitivity from the Holy Spirit to love those around me well.
Obviously the Lord prompted you to visit that friend, Bev, and you obeyed.
Oh, Bev~ such a heart wrenching story about your friend. His words tell you that you were so valued by him.
Oh, wow, Bev. That is very, very sad. That is so true. Love those around us well. I remembered the 40-year-old friend that Richard got close to the year before he died of an accidental overdose. For God’s purposes, he brought him to us almost in uncanny frequent interactions. Although he was fighting the demon of depression, we thought he was getting better. My husband baptized him a few months before he passed away. Love those around you well.
And now his Dad is alone (lost his wife a year before) and remains an active member of our church. He knows he is loved in our church.
5. God is going to use Ruth to restore Naomi’s faith. The turning point comes after the greeting scene Ruth has with Boaz, her future “kinsman-redeemer”, and she comes home with her arms full of grain to Naomi. Read Ruth 2:18-23 and describe:
A. The greeting scene between Ruth and Naomi
It begins by saying that Naomi saw what Ruth had gleaned. I wonder if she was surprised – in a good way. Naomi asks Ruth where she gleaned and for whom did she work. Whoever it was, says Naomi, may he be blessed. Ruth reveals it was Boaz, and then Naomi says he is actually one of their closest relatives, and she tells Ruth to stay in his fields and to glean with his maids, so that she can be under his protection.
B. The change in Naomi.
Naomi had been feeling bitterly towards God, who she believed had turned against her. But here, she brings God into the conversation, asking God to bless the man who showed such kindness to Ruth, and says that God has not withdrawn His kindness to the living (Naomi and Ruth) and the dead (her husband and sons). It seems she is feeling hopeful again that perhaps God does, indeed, see her and care about her.
I am glad to have been able to come here today and be able to comment on some. Life is taking me in another direction and am feeling a little bit overwhelmed. But I never regret coming here as this blog never fails to refresh and encourage my soul.
The title of our study this week brought back some parting scenes to me. Apart from deaths in the family, my most poignant one was leaving my family to go to the U.S. after Richard and I got married. My Dad died just a couple of months before. I remember Mom praying for us at the airport and she and I and my siblings hugged. There were many tears shed. And more tears for me later when it finally dawned on me that I was fatherless. God did give me a wonderful father-in-law (and mother-in-law) who loved me as a daughter. On reflection, I am thankful for my parents and parents-in-law who loved the Lord and served Him as best as they could.
This week’s lesson matters t me as I know there will be more parting scenes here on this earth. But hope wells inside of me as I know the sorrow of parting will be no more when Jesus comes again.
I love this song, No More Night by Christian Edition Men’s Choir. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7AwA9rdr3fU
13. Can you release a beloved child to a land far away for Kingdom purposes? Yes. But, of course, it would not be easy.
14. Describe a meaningful parting scene in your life if possible. What was it meaningful? Saying goodbye to my younger daughter and her 3 children, in California. When I moved to West Virginia last year. I had been helping my daughter for 17 years, as she made one bad relational decision after another. Dragging her children and myself into yet another destructive situation. When she decided to go back to her abusive husband, I felt the Lord tell me “you must let go of her”! Because of the children, it was so hard for me to leave. A year later, I have witnessed God’s redeeming power in their lives! Her husband has gotten help, Christian counseling. They are in church every week. My 17 year old grandson is not angry anymore. I feel a peace I have rarely had and a total trust in God, He really knows what He is doing.
15. Read Acts 20:34-38
A. What are the last things Paul tells his beloved Ephesians? How are you or could you live this out? Work hard, help the weak, remember Jesus words ” it is more blessed to give than to receive.”
I live this out in my attitude and in small ways, I know that God is encouraging me to work harder in certain areas and to give more of my time to serving Him directly. Praying for an opportunity.
B. Describe the parting scene. Why do you think Shakespeare said, “Parting is such sweet sorrow?”They all wept and kissed and embraced Paul, because they knew that they would not see him again. Then they accompanied him to the ship.
Goodbyes can be heartbreaking because of the uncertainty of life.
16. Do you see any common threads in these Scriptural parting scenes? If so, what? Sorrow and acceptance of the parting. It reminds me of the stages of grief a little. Anger, sorrow, disbelief, acceptance. A very human response, I am so thankful that the Lord is here to help us through our “parting scenes”.
Oh, Lydia! What an amazing answer to prayer and to the Lord speaking to your heart about moving away from your precious daughter and her family. He is Worthy of our Trust! What a joy to read this! Praise You Father God Almighty! I hope the rest of our blog stops by to read this! He really does know what He is doing!!
Thank-you Patti! We do praise You Father God Almighty!
Lydia, I am thankful for you and your family that your daughter’s situation has turned out as it has, as unfortunately, often when a woman stays with an abuser, the consequences are dire. But yes, your only choice was to let go.
It was a very stressful “goodbye” for me…but through it God worked out His will for my daughter and her family. I am so grateful to God!
13. Can you release a beloved child to a land far away for Kingdom purposes?
I would struggle with this because of the danger factor. I am releasing a child to a faraway place, but it isn’t for kingdom purposes. Unfortunately, he is moving to Europe. I have a friend who has a child serving in the Middle East, and a friend of mine is a missionary in Africa. I don’t think I could do what they do; it’s scary. I also feel that God places us where we are and we can use that place for Him.
14. Describe a meaningful parting scene in your life if possible. What was it meaningful?
When my mom was passing I was far away. It was meaningful because it was my mom. I couldn’t be at her bedside, only on the phone. I remember feeling awkward. She was in a coma I think. I felt like I didn’t know what to say because I wasn’t looking at her or holding her hand. It was not a video phone call. I told her how much I loved her and tried to reassure her. I remember that with my dad too.
15. Read Acts 20:34-38
A. What are the last things Paul tells his beloved Ephesians? How are you or could you live this out?
He tells them to help those in need by working hard. He says it is more blessed to give than to receive.
We can be more giving to those who need it.
B. Describe the parting scene. Why do you think Shakespeare said, “Parting is such sweet sorrow?”
They all cried and hugged. We love those who leave us and we anticipate seeing them again.
16. Do you see any common threads in these Scriptural parting scenes? If so, what?
They hug and cry!