Paige’s father died, and we know how close she was to him. Pray for her and her whole family.
Her church says she will be back this coming Wednesday, February 5th. So, this week we will look at what we can learn from the relationships in the book of Ruth. Both Ruth and Boaz are wonderful models of loyalty, and we will learn from them. Yet it is also true, as Keller often says, that telling ourselves to “Be like Ruth,” or “Be like Boaz” will be self-defeating. It is better to see how they point to the ultimate Ruth and ultimate Boaz so that our hearts are melted to obey. Jesus is the ultimate Ruth in leaving heaven to rescue us, and He is the ultimate Boaz who redeemed us not with silver or gold, but with his own precious blood. When that realization sinks deep into our hearts, it fills us with both joy and a desire to please Him by loving others well.
REDEEMED, HOW I LOVE TO PROCLAIM IT!
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Sunday:
How have you experienced the goodness of God this week?
Share a time when a friend truly helped you, either when you were in high-tide grief or facing an overwhelming problem. What did he or she do, and why do you think it helped?
Monday: Our Relationship with the Lord
(A FAMINE IN THE LAND INDICATES A FAMINE IN THE HEARTS OF GOD’S PEOPLE)
I love Thanksgiving and the simplicity of the holiday. One particular one is a sweet memory. Steve and I stood on the back porch in our terry-cloth robes, marveling at the rising sun turning the Nebraska sky crimson and purple. I held our new grandson, Simeon: pink, perfect, and plump with possibility. A glorious day with extended family and the Lord awaited. A fire crackled in the fireplace, a turkey was in the oven, and our hearts were filled with gratefulness. Steve smiled at me and began to sing: “For The Beauty of the Earth.” Our hearts were full, paralleling the abundant crops the Nebraska farmers had just finished harvesting.
There are many Thanksgiving hymns that parallel the state of the land with the state of our hearts, as does God’s Word, as in the Parable of the Four Soils. In the same way, the book of Ruth beautifully parallels the hearts of God’s people with the condition of the land. Prepare your heart by singing Come Ye Thankful People:
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What is the opening phrase in the book of Ruth and what does this tell you about the state of the land and also of the hearts of God’s people?
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What do you remember from Paige’s first lecture on why Elimelech’s and Naomi’s departure from Bethlehem to Moab was indicative of a poor relationship with the Lord?
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Moab was a desert region and Bethlehem a fertile region, though only 50 miles apart. But now those conditions were reversed. What does this seem to indicate?
4. How do the following verses show a turn in the land that signifies a turn in the hearts of God’s people?
A. Ruth 1:16
B. Ruth 1:22
Meditate on the following passage.
“Behold, the days are coming,” says the Lord GOD, “That I will send a famine on the land, Not a famine of bread, Nor a thirst for water, But of hearing the words of the LORD.
Amos 8:11-12
5. Do you think the above is happening now? Why or why not?
6. Meditate on Psalm 1. What is characteristic of a person who is in a close relationship with the Lord? What helps you stay in the Word?
Tuesday: Mothers-In-Law and Daughters-In-Law
7. Why might Moabite women not have been Naomi’s dream daughters-in-law? (Remember Paige’s lecture)
8. What warning did God give the Israelites about marrying those who worshipped idols in Deuteronomy 7:3-4? How was this fulfilled in Ruth 1:4?
9. If asked by a believer for your counsel on finding an excellent marriage partner, what would you say? What if they have fallen in love with a person of character who is not a believer? What advice would you give?
10. If you have a son or daughter who marries an unbeliever, how will you respond to that unbeliever after the marriage and why? How did Naomi?
11. Can you find any indications that Naomi loved Ruth and Orpah? If so, share. Why do you think she sent them back to their gods? What might you learn from this?
Wednesday: Women Friends
Ruth’s name means “a woman friend” and she shows us the height of which we are capable if we are clinging to God, as she did.
- What did Boaz say about Ruth in the following verses: Ruth 2:11-12 and also Ruth 3:11?
- Why do you think Ruth was silent when Naomi said, “I’ve come back empty” after Ruth’s lifelong commitment? Do a search of the words “empty” and “full” in this little book and you will see the power of true friendship. What do you see?
14. What could we learn from her about ministering to those in high-tide grief? What else do you learn from her about either being a godly daughter-in-law or a friend?
Thursday: Understanding Differences Between Men and Women
Deborah Tannen, a Jewish linguist with the best-selling book “You Just Don’t Understand: Men and Women in Conversation” has compelling research concerning the different language styles of men and women. Men, she explains, generally engage in “Report Talk,” where they hold the floor and monologue in order to impress, as their primary drive is status. Women, on the other hand, engage in what she calls “Rapport Talk,” where they ask questions, draw one another out, and affirm one another because their primary drive is connection.
- How can you see Naomi and Ruth engaging in Rapport talk in Ruth 3:17-23? Write down everything you see that is positive and encouraging.
- How do you see a turn in Naomi after this incident and dialogue?
- Studies also find that godly men are more apt to engage in “rapport talk,” perhaps because their status is not in the praise of man but of God. Find some verses that show Boaz’s encouragement to Ruth.
- How could you be an even better listener and encourager of others?
19. Boaz is also adept at handling the business arrangement so that he, and not the nearer kinsman of poor reputation marries Ruth. (Ruth 4:1-9) What do you see? Application?
Optional but Fun! If you go to You-Tube and type in Deborah Tannen Little Boys or Deborah Tannen Little Girls you will see some wonderful videos that support her thesis that girls long for connection and boys for status. I do recommend her book for it has increased my understanding of men. I also feel freer to interrupt if I want to say something, for that is how men talk to men, generally speaking.
Friday: The Ultimate Ruth and The Ultimate Boaz
20. Explain how Jesus is the ultimate Ruth.
21. Explain how Jesus is the ultimate Boaz.
This week, my 2nd granddaughter and her fiance are coming for 4 days. They will be married in a month. They want to go through Keller’s marriage book with me. Please pray for us. I am finding absolutely wonderful things in the re-reading of that book. He talks about the conservative view of marriage emphasizing roles as pre-eminent, and the liberal view as freedom pre-eminent, but he believes the most important thing in truly becoming one is being overwhelmed by the glory of what Christ did so that we can follow in His steps by not clinging to our rights but humbling ourselves and serving each other.
22. Thoughts on the above?
Saturday:
23. What is your take-a-way and why?
ICEBREAKER:
Briefly share a time when a friend truly helped you either when you were in high-tide grief, or facing an overwhelming problem. What did he or she do, and why do you think it helped?
OUR RELATIONSHIP WITH THE LORD
(A FAMINE IN THE LAND INDICATES A FAMINE IN THE HEARTS OF GOD’S PEOPLE)
One Thanksgiving stands out in my memory. Early that morning my husband and I stood on the back porch in our terry-cloth robes, marveling at the rising sun turning the Nebraska sky crimson and purple. I held our new grandson, Simeon: pink, perfect, and plump with possibility. Our five children, our daughter-in-law, and my parents were all asleep, but a glorious day with family and the Lord awaited. A fire crackled in the fireplace, a turkey was in the oven, and our hearts were filled with gratefulness. Steve smiled at me and began to sing: “For The Beauty of the Earth.” God’s Word often parallels our hearts with the land – consider the parables of The Sower or The Seed Growing Secretly. In the same way, the book of Ruth parallels the hearts of God’s people with the condition of the land.
- What is the opening phrase in the book of Ruth and what does this tell you about the state of the land and also of the hearts of God’s people?
- What do you remember about Paige’s first lecture on why Elimelech and Naomi leaving for Moab and staying was indicative of a poor relationship with the Lord?
Moab was a desert region and Bethlehem a fertile region, though only 50 miles apart. But now those conditions were reversed. It seems God was following through on His warning in Deuteronomy to shut up the heavens to awaken His disobedient people.
- How do the following verses show a turn in the land that signifies a turn in the hearts of God’s people? Ruth 1:6 and Ruth 1:22
Meditate on the following passage.
“Behold, the days are coming,” says the Lord GOD, “That I will send a famine on the land, Not a famine of bread, Nor a thirst for water, But of hearing the words of the LORD.
Amos 8:11-12
- Do you think the above is happening now? Why or why not?
- Meditate on Psalm 1. What is characteristic of a person who is in a close relationship with the Lord? What helps you stay in the Word?
MOTHERS-IN-LAW
- Why might Moabite women not have been Naomi’s dream daughters-in-law? (Remember Paige’s lecture)
- What warning did God give the Israelites about marrying those who worshipped idols in Deuteronomy 7:3-4? How was this fulfilled in Ruth 1:4?
- How might you counsel a son or daughter or good friend who proclaims Christ about finding an excellent partner in marriage?
- If you have a son or daughter who marries an unbeliever, how will you respond to that unbeliever after the marriage and why? How did Naomi?
- Do you think Naomi loved her daughters? If so, give evidence. If she did, why do you think she sent them back to their gods?
WOMEN FRIENDS
Ruth’s name means “a woman friend” and she shows us the height of which we are capable if we are clinging to God, as she did. She shines like a star amidst a dark and depraved generation, as Philippians 4 urges us all to do.
- What did Boaz say about Ruth in the following verses:
- Ruth 2:11-12
- Ruth 3:11
- What stands out to you about the character and friendship of Ruth?
- Why do you think Ruth was silent when Naomi said, “I’ve come back empty” after Ruth’s lifelong commitment? Why does she never complain, do you think, about Naomi’s bitterness? What could we learn about those in high-tide grief?
- As you are still before the Lord, how could you be a better friend to other women?
MEN AND WOMEN:
Deborah Tannen, a linguist with the best-selling book “You Just Don’t Understand: Men and Women in Conversation” has compelling research concerning the different language styles of men and women. Men, she explains, generally engage in “Report Talk” where they hold the floor and monologue in order to impress as their primary drive is status. Women, on the other hands, engage in what she calls “Rapport Talk” where they ask questions, draw one another out, and affirm one another because their primary drive is connection.
- How can you see Naomi and Ruth engaging in Rapport talk in Ruth 3:17-23? Write down everything you see that is positive and encouraging.
- How do you see a turn in Naomi?
Studies also show that godly men are more likely to engage in “Report Talk” if they are finding their status not in man but in Christ.
- Find some verses that show Boaz’s encouragement to Ruth.
- Boaz is also adept at handling the business arrangement so that he, and not the nearer kinsman of poor reputation marries Ruth. (Ruth 4:1-9) What do you see? Application?
- What is your take-a-way and why? Application?
104 comments
How have you experienced the goodness of God this week?
My daughter and her husband are out of town for a few days and two of her friends have called to get together with me, which was so thoughtful. They are both lovely and caring. It has been a sweet blessing.
I also had a call from one of my husband’s closest friends, from high school. He always kept in touch and then we lost touch a few months before my husband passed away. On a prompting from the Holy Spirit, I called his number again a couple of weeks ago. I had been afraid something had happened to him. He called back a few days ago, out of the blue. He was saddened to hear about my husband, but he had lost touch with most of his friends, due to his own dementia. His sweet granddaughter and her husband moved from Florida to AZ to help him find a safe place to live, where they could be near to him and help him. It was such a sweet story. My husband and I both knew Ted and his wife really well, because they had lived near us in Washington for a number of years. Sadly, his wife passed away at young age. It was a sweet time of sharing memories, which he said really helped his dementia. It was a blessing for both of us.
Share a time when a friend truly helped you, either when you were in high-tide grief or facing an overwhelming problem. What did he or she do, and why do you think it helped?
I think having a friend who shows up, cares and listens is wonderful. I had a friend that knew I was grieving so badly and she would just text a sweet message every day or so. She was also going through her own grief. Sharing with each other about the Lord and all He was doing in our lives helped us both. I think it helped, because it led us both to go back to the source of our strength, Our Heavenly Father.
Love to hear how you are being taken care of!
I loved reading the reconnection story with Ted, so glad you followed through on the Sprit’s prompting to call him.
Patti, So beautiful to hear about your reconnecting with your friend Ted in his early stages of dementia. That is so real in our time of life now. It is so important to offer love and encouragement and support in each other’s lives.
Oh Patti, what sweet blessings you had. Love those out of the blue moments.
Patti, your story about Ted warmed my heart. Praying for him. Thankful you are encouraged though I realize some days must be really hard. God is with you.
Sunday
God is SO good. We studied hesed in the book of Ruth, I heard a message on hesed Friday that referred to Jesus as God’s hesed on earth, and then the speaker talked about agape and hesed. THEN this morning the pastor spoke of God’s love using 1 John 4, Romans 5, and I Co. 13. I have been covered in love, sisters. The love of God is WITHIN us through His Spirit, and we can now love as He loves. May my heart be filled with His love that I might show/share it with the brethren and others.
Friends truly helped when, as Dee put it, I was in the high-tide of grief. Rushing to my side to take phone calls, feed my family, sit/pray/listen to me, they each helped in some way. The love and concern showered on us was comforting.
Cheryl Ann, Love how God wove all these “love messages” together! And love in action during high tide grief!
Cheryl Ann, Your post reminded me of my verse for the year from last year.
1 John 4:16
”So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him.“
Love all these confirmations from God that he has you in his arms.
How have you experienced the goodness of God this week?
I laughed so much as I played the silliest card game with the Christian group after school Wednesday! I went and bought the game and our family played that night. It’s called “Taco, Cat, Goat, Cheese, Pizza.” It’s a great one to play with your grands 😉
Share a time when a friend truly helped you, either when you were in high-tide grief or facing an overwhelming problem. What did he or she do, and why do you think it helped?
Listening to me rant or be frustrated out loud is the best medicine a friend could give.
Thank you for the game recommendation ,Laura!
11. Can you find any indications that Naomi loved Ruth and Orpah? If so, share. Why do you think she sent them back to their gods? What might you learn from this?
I think she loved them because she was thinking of them and wanting to make sure they had what they needed. She also might have been scared to take them back with her (that would have been selfish though) since they wouldn’t “fit in” easily. She might have been embarrassed to bring them back because people knew the law and she and her husband broke the law and oh, the consequence of that. I think ultimately, she loved them and wanted them cared for by someone who loved them (their families). She might have had a little of all of that going on inside too!
I posted in the wrong place, ugh!
Laura,
So fun to hear about you enjoying the game “Taco, Cat, Goat, Cheese, Pizza”. Some of our grands love playing that too. We are a game playing family. 😊
How have you experienced the goodness of God this week?
—I was able to have some good interaction with my oldest daughter who lives with her husband back up home in Nebraska. My daughter and I are very very different in personalities and in our gifting. At times in recent years we have had some tension and misunderstanding in our relationship and frankly I wasn’t aware of some resentments she carried toward her Dad and me. She voiced some of those and it was hard to hear because she was a bit hardened when she did so and every parent fails somehow in some measure. But we all just want grace for our mistakes. Her two children have caused her some very real grief in the last couple of years which has served to press her deeper into Jesus and because of our love for her kids and our commitment to pray for them it has served to draw us closer.
As she has grown in her walk with Jesus and I have grown in mine we have found ourselves coming together with better understanding for each other.
Last week as we talked she shared some of her struggles with her job and I was able to encourage her. In the past she didn’t want my advice but now she has a much greater openness to me. As a woman I truly understood her situation and offered her my support and affirmation in her decision to leave her job and trust God for future needs. So here we are this week on the blog looking at relationships 😊
Share a time when a friend truly helped you, either when you were in high-tide grief or facing an overwhelming problem. What did he or she do, and why do you think it helped?
—When my heart was broken years ago my sweet friend Lynda came to my house and sat and prayed with me and for me. I found consolation from the Lord through her love and prayers.
Bev,
thank you for sharing this beautiful and encouraging story relationship with your daughter. I remember you mentioning rather strained relationship with her in the past and it is such a blessing that the Lord is restoring your relationship! Praise!
Wonderful to hear of this progress with your daughter, Bev.
Your relationship with your daughter reminds me of the one with my older son. I was trying to spare him from mistakes, but he didn’t want to hear it. So, I let it go and told him I would back off, but I was still there for him. After that we were talking and when he made a comment I said, I don’t know what ever you think and his response back to me was “no mom, I want your advice” LOL What a sweet moment that was. Just like with your daughter, God changes hearts and opens eyes to see help when it’s needed.
Sunday:
How have you experienced the goodness of God this week? – This past weekend Joe and I were getting things out of our garage/basement area and we posted on marketplace two tables we didn’t need for free. We ended up giving both table to a gentleman who came from another town about an hour away, maybe a little less, but when he came he just started to open up about how good God had been to him and healing him from throat cancer. Joe told him his story about prostate cancer and we talked more. At the end, as they were getting ready to leave, he came up to Joe and put his hands out, we both knew at that point he was going to pray for Joe. What a blessing from God, to have this couple come, tell us his testimony and then pray over Joe for his upcoming Pet Scan. God is out there working, we need to be open and accepting to receive Him.
Share a time when a friend truly helped you, either when you were in high-tide grief or facing an overwhelming problem. What did he or she do, and why do you think it helped? – When we were moving down to Tennessee, my very good friend who is like my sister, came to our Indiana house when I was there by myself with the movers and sat there with me since Joe was already down at the new home with a load. And when an issue with the cost came up once they saw our furniture it doubled in cost. She was there to help me stay focused and calm. I hadn’t called her or anything, she just showed up. She even went out and bought us all lunch, including the movers, and offered for me to stay at her home that night since all our furniture would be gone. She is and has been such a blessing to me and has a beautiful ‘Martha’ spirit. She is the best and God brought her to me as a life long friend.
Wonderful stories, Julie.
God sent the right people to minister to you at a perfect time. Such a delight to hear the way He coordinated things for us.
These sweet stories of God’s goodness and timing in your life always are such a blessing to read. Thank you for sharing these, Julie.
What a blessing to hear about God’s providing love and support for you.
Sunday:
1. How have you experienced the goodness of God this week?
That His grace is sufficient.
2. Share a time when a friend truly helped you, either when you were in high-tide grief or facing an overwhelming problem. What did he or she do, and why do you think it helped?
A friend in Oregon who came alongside me about a year after we lost our son…she was the only person who was sensitive to the fact that I needed a friend after my loss. She helped me understand through her actions that after people experience a loss, friends and family are usually there right after it happens, but then life goes on for them but not for you.
How true, Sharon. Thank the Lord for that sensitive friend. A good example for us to follow.
What a gift from God to have a friend, who truly could understood your pain. I agree with Cheryl Ann, we all need to follow that example. Compassion is a sweet and comforting gift.
What a blessing to have such a wonderful friend Sharon.
Monday: Our Relationship with the Lord(A FAMINE IN THE LAND INDICATES A FAMINE IN THE HEARTS OF GOD’S PEOPLE)
3. What is the opening phrase in the book of Ruth and what does this tell you about the state of the land and also of the hearts of God’s people?
“In the days when the judges ruled in Israel, a severe famine came upon the land.”
The heart of the people was disobedience to God as it says in Leviticus 26…”However, if you do not listen to me or obey all these commands, and if you break my covenant by rejecting my decrees, treating my regulations with contempt, and refusing to obey my commands, I will punish you. I will bring sudden terrors upon you—wasting diseases and burning fevers that will cause your eyes to fail and your life to ebb away. You will plant your crops in vain because your enemies will eat them. I will turn against you, and you will be defeated by your enemies. Those who hate you will rule over you, and you will run even when no one is chasing you! “And if, in spite of all this, you still disobey me, I will punish you seven times over for your sins. I will break your proud spirit by making the skies as unyielding as iron and the earth as hard as bronze. All your work will be for nothing, for your land will yield no crops, and your trees will bear no fruit.”
Leviticus 26:14-20 NLT
4. What do you remember from Paige’s first lecture on why Elimelech’s and Naomi’s departure from Bethlehem to Moab was indicative of a poor relationship with the Lord?
I don’t remember exactly, but they didn’t trust in the Lord to take care of them or inquire of Him for guidance.
5. Moab was a desert region and Bethlehem a fertile region, though only 50 miles apart. But now those conditions were reversed. What does this seem to indicate?
That Israel was being punished for their disobedience.
6. How do the following verses show a turn in the land that signifies a turn in the hearts of God’s people?
A. Ruth 1:16
Ruth wanting to follow Naomi to be with her people and her God.
B. Ruth 1:22
Naomi and Ruth arrive in Bethlehem in late spring, at the beginning of the barley harvest.
Meditate on the following passage.
“Behold, the days are coming,” says the Lord GOD, “That I will send a famine on the land, Not a famine of bread, Nor a thirst for water, But of hearing the words of the LORD. Amos 8:11-12
7. Do you think the above is happening now? Why or why not?
Yes and no…I think people are searching but I’m not sure it’s for the truth.
8. Meditate on Psalm 1. What is characteristic of a person who is in a close relationship with the Lord? What helps you stay in the Word?
Someone who doesn’t walk in the counsel of the ungodly, stand in the path of sinners or sit in the seat of scoffers but rather delights in the word of God and meditates on it day and night, will produce fruit and prosper.
What helps me stay in the word is a right relationship with the Lord first of all, this blog and doing a reading plan with my husband.
1. What is the opening phrase in the book of Ruth and what does this tell you about the state of the land and also of the hearts of God’s people?
There was a famine in Bethlehem. Elimelech moves his family to Moab so the people must have been desperate.
2. What do you remember from Paige’s first lecture on why Elimelech’s and Naomi’s departure from Bethlehem to Moab was indicative of a poor relationship with the Lord?
They must have been far away from God to just “bale up and quit!” They turn totally away from Him. They are doing what they think is right in their own eyes.
3. Moab was a desert region and Bethlehem a fertile region, though only 50 miles apart. But now those conditions were reversed. What does this seem to indicate?
God wanted it this way to get their attention.
4. How do the following verses show a turn in the land that signifies a turn in the hearts of God’s people?
A. Ruth 1:16
Ruth doesn’t want to turn and leave back to her own land.
B. Ruth 1:22
Naomi turns and goes back to Bethlehem.
Meditate on the following passage.
“Behold, the days are coming,” says the Lord GOD, “That I will send a famine on the land, Not a famine of bread, Nor a thirst for water, But of hearing the words of the LORD.
Amos 8:11-12
5. Do you think the above is happening now? Why or why not?
Perhaps. It does seem that people are persecuting Christians everywhere. There is way too much emphasis on things and not people or relationships. However, I also believe that many are searching for something and are entertaining the idea of some “other way.” We have many people who are visiting our church lately. It’s encouraging.
6. Meditate on Psalm 1. What is characteristic of a person who is in a close relationship with the Lord?
Those who are Godly meditate on His Word day and night. He protects those who do.
What helps you stay in the Word?
You do, Dee! And the ladies who participate here 😉. I have to admit, technology helps also. I can quickly grab my phone and get to my Bible, no problem. I do like the idea of marking up my print copy too though…
You all help me stay in the Word too!
Paige is back Wednesday!
Sunday:
How have you experienced the goodness of God this week?
Share a time when a friend truly helped you, either when you were in high-tide grief or facing an overwhelming problem. What did he or she do, and why do you think it helped?
As of this past week, the godly advice and prayers of a few friends when my body and brain were too exhausted. Gentle reminders of the sovereignty of God and practical ways to rest were very helpful to me.
And may I say once again that the ladies in this blog have helped me get through the high tide of grief when my sister was dying of cancer and then after her death. And then a few years later when my mother died during the pandemic. We couldn’t even see her for the last time as travel was prohibited. You all pointed me to our faithful God and when the tears came and grief was too much, your words of comfort and TRUTH helped me through these times.
I’m thankful that you got support here for those were terrible times for you.
♥️
Monday
What is the opening phrase in the book of Ruth and what does this tell you about the state of the land and also of the hearts of God’s people? It was the time of the Judges when the people of Israel had turned from God to do what was right in their own eyes (although the had to be some that were faithful to the Lord, the majority were not). There was a famine in the land.
2. What do you remember from Paige’s first lecture on why Elimelech’s and Naomi’s departure from Bethlehem to Moab was indicative of a poor relationship with the Lord? They went to a land that was pagan, and it was expressly forbidden by God to intermingle with Moab. I still wonder how much Naomi had to say about this move. Wives had to follow their husbands’ wishes without argument/opinion.
Moab was a desert region and Bethlehem a fertile region, though only 50 miles apart. But now those conditions were reversed. What does this seem to indicate? It seems that the famine was a result of Israel’s rebellion against God, a consequence that had been promised by God. Could it be possible that Moab became fertile as a further test of faith, whether the Israelites would return to God or venture to Moab? I wonder if anyone else went to Moab?
How do the following verses show a turn in the land that signifies a turn in the hearts of God’s people?
A. Ruth 1:16 In Ruth 1:6 Naomi has heard the news that the Lord had restored the land, and there was bread (good crops) in Bethlehem. This was 10 years after the move to Moab.
B. Ruth 1:22 Naomi and Ruth return to Bethlehem at the beginning of the barley harvest.
Meditate on the following passage.
“Behold, the days are coming,” says the Lord GOD, “That I will send a famine on the land, Not a famine of bread, Nor a thirst for water, But of hearing the words of the LORD.
Do you think the above is happening now? Why or why not?
This prophecy was addressed to Israel at a time of great wickedness, and in the next verse it prophesies that they will search everywhere for the words of the Lord, but won’t be able to find/hear them. There would be silence from heaven.
This could be applied to the world today, but I don’t think it is happening. Because of Jesus and the Bible, God speaks. Whether or not people are listening is another matter. There are also many false religions and false teachers perverting the words of the Lord, and many are deceived.
6. Meditate on Psalm 1. What is characteristic of a person who is in a close relationship with the Lord? What helps you stay in the Word?
A person in a close relationship with the Lord finds joy in reading/studying the Bible. The person with a close relationship is continually abiding in Christ (tree planted by the water).
Col. 3:16 Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord.
Gal. 2:20 I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me.
Being involved in a study group helps me stay in the Word. I am more consistent with devotions/quiet time and prayer when I have a chance to interact with other believers around the scriptures.
Such wonderful answers to 6. Cheryl Ann! Amen!!
Many, many years ago, a mature Christian recommended reading Hudson Taylor’s Spiritual Secret. That started me on my journey of trying to abide in Christ, knowing that He abides in me.
Love Hudson Taylor. He also understood The Song of Songs!
Tuesday: Mothers-In-Law and Daughters-In-Law
7. Why might Moabite women not have been Naomi’s dream daughters-in-law? (Remember Paige’s lecture) I don’t remember what Paige said. Ruth and Orpah would have been pagan idol worshipers, and that would have vexed Naomi’s soul, like Lot.
8. What warning did God give the Israelites about marrying those who worshipped idols in Deuteronomy 7:3-4? How was this fulfilled in Ruth 1:4? He warned them that marrying idol worshipers would turn the Israelites away from God. It was fulfilled when the stayed in Moab for ten years, longer that what was first imagined. The sons had Moabite wives and the family became content to dwell in Moab. I do think that Naomi longed for home, but she had little say in the matter.
9. If asked by a believer for your counsel on finding an excellent marriage partner, what would you say? What if they have fallen in love with a person of character who is not a believer? What advice would you give?
I would say to look for someone who is also a believer, and then I’d relate my own experience when I married a man who wasn’t a believer. I would talk about how I deceived myself into believing it was a good decision anyway. I’ve been in that situation. I don’t know what advice I’d give other than, “don’t do it,” and refer to my experiences, and I would offer to pray for/with that person.
Praise God, Gary did become a believer by God’s grace.
10. If you have a son or daughter who marries an unbeliever, how will you respond to that unbeliever after the marriage and why? How did Naomi?
I try to show interest in her on a personal level and love, love, love them.
I believe Naomi responded with kindness and love, because it is obvious Ruth and Orpah loved her at the parting scene where they are all crying.
11. Can you find any indications that Naomi loved Ruth and Orpah? If so, share. Why do you think she sent them back to their gods? What might you learn from this?
Naomi asked the Lord to bless them for the kindness Ruth and Orpah had shown her sons and herself. She prayed that Ruth and Orpah would get married again and find contentment. The Naomi kissed them.
I think one of the reason Naomi sent them back was that she truly thought Ruth and Orpah would be happier and better off in their native country.
As a mother-in-law I see that my opinion of what’s the best thing to do may not be the right thing to do/advise. It’s better to keep silent and pray about it.
As a believer I see that a sister in the Lord might be led to do something (like Ruth is staying with Naomi), and I should not discourage her because I think she is wrong.
Wise answers — our failures can make us good mentors!
Monday: Our Relationship with the Lord
What is the opening phrase in the book of Ruth and what does this tell you about the state of the land and also of the hearts of God’s people?
—There was a famine in the land because there was a famine in the hearts of people.
What do you remember from Paige’s first lecture on why Elimelech’s and Naomi’s departure from Bethlehem to Moab was indicative of a poor relationship with the Lord
—Instead of staying and trusting God to provide they went to a forbidden country and lived among a forbidden people (the Moabites). They were being pragmatic and trusting their own ideas of how and where to provide their needs. They were taking care of themselves.
Moab was a desert region and Bethlehem a fertile region, though only 50 miles apart. But now those conditions were reversed. What does this seem to indicate?
—That God’s own people had fallen out of favor with Him because of their sin and it even affected the land and the forces of nature as created by God.
4. How do the following verses show a turn in the land that signifies a turn in the hearts of God’s people?
A. Ruth 1:16
—There was grain in the land again and Ruth was choosing to go where God was and make Him her Lord.
B. Ruth 1:22
Meditate on the following passage.
“Behold, the days are coming,” says the Lord GOD, “That I will send a famine on the land, Not a famine of bread, Nor a thirst for water, But of hearing the words of the LORD. Amos 8:11-12
5. Do you think the above is happening now? Why or why not?
—I do believe we are seeing a spiritual hunger around us like I haven’t seen before in my life time.
It is easy to feel overwhelmed by the horrendous acts of sin that have been put in our faces and forced upon us in today’s world. It is so badly fallen and broken. Like in the days of the Judges when everyone was “doing what was right in their own eyes” or as we often hear in our world today to “do your own thing”. But for God! There have been revivals happening on college campuses in recent months. And I personally have seen churches at home in Nebraska and here in Texas that are growing. In my own community the two churches that are “Bible preaching churches” are growing and it is the same with the two churches we are associated with down here in Texas. People are showing at our home church that I would never have expected to come.
A close friend of ours started a Cowboy church in a tent in Wickenburg, Arizona last year and it has literally exploded with growth.
The common denominator is the Word of God is being taught clearly and well. I contend it is because we live in a lying blasphemous culture but people are hungry for truth. In places where the truth of God’s Word is taught people are coming.
6. Meditate on Psalm 1. What is characteristic of a person who is in a close relationship with the Lord? What helps you stay in the Word?
—I see the characteristic of dependence on the Lord. It is a clear understanding of their neediness that can only be met by Jesus through the power of the Holy Spirit and dependence on him. It goes back to that phrase my son often used in his preaching about “dependent intimacy”. Verse 6 of Psalm 1 speaks to intimacy when it says “for the Lord knows….” He knows his own intimately.
Out of our relationship of needing Him and choosing to depend on Him comes a life of prayer and the need to be in God’s Word daily. It is my very own neediness that draws me to my Lord and his Word. He graciously feeds me from his Word and meets my needs and it keeps me coming back.
Bev, I love this from your answer in #6…” It is my very own neediness that draws me to my Lord and his Word.” This has been so true in my life lately.
Monday: Our Relationship with the Lord
What is the opening phrase in the book of Ruth and what does this tell you about the state of the land and also of the hearts of God’s people? – “In the days when the judges ruled there was a famine in the land…” The judges ruled and not God. God was not a thought in their minds. They didn’t seek out God’s plan.
What do you remember from Paige’s first lecture on why Elimelech’s and Naomi’s departure from Bethlehem to Moab was indicative of a poor relationship with the Lord? – They didn’t pray and seek His guidance. They let their circumstances dictate their actions.
Moab was a desert region and Bethlehem a fertile region, though only 50 miles apart. But now those conditions were reversed. What does this seem to indicate? – This shows to me that God will always take care of His people, in His timing. He will watch over us and provide all that we need. He will never leave us.
4. How do the following verses show a turn in the land that signifies a turn in the hearts of God’s people?
A. Ruth 1:16 – Ruth was urging Naomi to not make her turn away and go back to her own people and gods. She wanted to go with Naomi and be a part of the nation that knew who God was and followed him.
B. Ruth 1:22 – Naomi stopped trying to convince Ruth to turn and go back. She let her come with her. I wonder as I read this again if Naomi felt a bit convicted by the urging of Ruth to want to have a relationship with God.
Meditate on the following passage.
“Behold, the days are coming,” says the Lord GOD, “That I will send a famine on the land, not a famine of bread, nor a thirst for water, but of hearing the words of the LORD. – Amos 8:11-12
5. Do you think the above is happening now? Why or why not? – Yes, I believe they are happening. This country has forgotten what our country stands for, I think. People have lost their moral dignity, think of themselves and don’t care about the opinions of others. There are some that seem to have blinders on and if you don’t agree with them, then you are wrong. Some are afraid to speak out because of the backlash that may come for their opinions and views.
6. Meditate on Psalm 1. What is characteristic of a person who is in a close relationship with the Lord? What helps you stay in the Word? – Those that have a close relationship will be blessed and flourish and continue to show the fruit of the Spirit. What helps me is seeking God out in prayer, doing bible studies, reading my bible to see who God is and know how he wants me to live a godly life. When I feel anxious or stressed, I will even listen to praise music to calm my spirit.
Tuesday: Mothers-In-Law and Daughters-In-Law
9. Why might Moabite women not have been Naomi’s dream daughters-in-law? (Remember Paige’s lecture)
It was forbidden for her sons to marry Moabite women. Paige points out that all through Deuteronomy 23 it says that no Moabite or a child of a Moabite shall ever enter the Assembly of God to the 10th generation.
10. What warning did God give the Israelites about marrying those who worshipped idols in Deuteronomy 7:3-4?
If they did intermarry they would be lead away by them from God to worship other gods. The anger of the Lord would burn against them and quickly destroy them.
How was this fulfilled in Ruth 1:4?
In verse 5 it says that 10 years after marrying Orpah and Ruth, Mahlon and Kilion died leaving Naomi without her two sons.
11. If asked by a believer for your counsel on finding an excellent marriage partner, what would you say?
I would express the importance of praying Gods will and share 2 Corinthians 6:14-18. I would also stress premarital counseling when that partner is found.
What if they have fallen in love with a person of character who is not a believer?
I don’t have any expertise in this but I would discourage the relationship. I wish I had with my adult child, but in talking to the person they were marrying I was told they were a Christian (I should of gotten deeper than I did) which didn’t turn out to be true and now there is discourse which really saddens me.
What advice would you give?
I would advise making sure their relationship with the Lord is right…is He first place in your life, are you seeking His will, are you in the Word, how is your prayer life, are you bearing fruit, are you fellowshipping with other believers and do you understand the Gospel? And then ask God to guide you to a partner who has the same desires in making God first place and the center of their relationship.
12. If you have a son or daughter who marries an unbeliever, how will you respond to that unbeliever after the marriage and why?
I have responded in love. My hearts desire is for them to know Jesus and I may be the only person who may show them His love and be able to share with them.
How did Naomi?
She responded in love for she prays that the Lord will bless them, kisses them and breaks down when they say goodbye. I also like the she calls them “daughters,” which to me is a term of endearment.
13. Can you find any indications that Naomi loved Ruth and Orpah? If so, share.
See answer in 12.
Why do you think she sent them back to their gods?
Because of her own sorrow and bitterness…she was thinking of Naomi and I really believe she felt the best thing for them was to go back as there was nothing she could give them. She was no longer trusting God.
What might you learn from this?
To persevere in my faith, trusting God in prayer for the salvation of my in-laws and making sure I do “nothing through strife or vain glory but in lowliness of mind esteem them as more important than myself. Not looking out only for my own interests, but also to their interests.“ (Philippians 2)
1.What is the opening phrase in the book of Ruth and what does this tell you about the state of the land and also of the hearts of God’s people? Now it came to pass, in the days when the judges ruled there was a famine in the land.
2.What do you remember from Paige’s first lecture on why Elimelech’s and Naomi’s departure from Bethlehem to Moab was indicative of a poor relationship with the Lord? . The culture of Israel was an increasing rebellion and defiance against God and a turning toward other gods, and finally a complete abandonment of God.
3.Moab was a desert region and Bethlehem a fertile region, though only 50 miles apart. But now those conditions were reversed. What does this seem to indicate? There was no more repentance. The famine was because of Israel’s rebellion.
4. How do the following verses show a turn in the land that signifies a turn in the hearts of God’s people?
A. Ruth 1:16 Ruth must have sensed that Naomi’s belief in God was her reason for returning to Israel; she spoke about Your God shall be my God.
B. Ruth 1:22 Naomi returned to Israel and Ruth went with her. This was at the beginning of the barley harvest, which meant that the people must have turned back to the true God.
Meditate on the following passage.
“Behold, the days are coming,” says the Lord GOD, “That I will send a famine on the land, Not a famine of bread, Nor a thirst for water, But of hearing the words of the LORD.
Amos 8:11-12
5. Do you think the above is happening now? Why or why not?
I do see this happening now. It started a number of years ago, and there are many churches and prophets, who are not truly teaching the word of the Lord. I see some awakening in some churches, but many are not in the Word.
6. Meditate on Psalm 1. What is characteristic of a person who is in a close relationship with the Lord? What helps you stay in the Word?
The person who is in a close relationship with the Lord not share in the lifestyles, language, values or habits of the ungodly. It is important to stay in the Word, to be a church that preaches the true Word of God, and community with others who have godly values, to seek out relationships with others who are like minded. We need to have discernment is so many ways. This blog is a wonderful way to stay in the Word. You all always help me to grow. I also am seeking community in my new church, with other believers who desire to stay in the Word. I listen to sermons on You Tube through Tim Keller, The Gospel Coalition, John Lennox, Dr. Hugh Ross, The Discovery Institute, Stephen Meyer.
Tuesday: Mothers-In-Law and Daughters-In-Law
7. Why might Moabite women not have been Naomi’s dream daughters-in-law? (Remember Paige’s lecture) – I looked back at my notes and don’t see anything about it, but if I take a guess, would it be because they had a different god then her God? But on the other hand, she chose, along with her husband and sons to go to Moab and they settled there, so what did she think was going to happen.
8. What warning did God give the Israelites about marrying those who worshipped idols in Deuteronomy 7:3-4? How was this fulfilled in Ruth 1:4? – They were not to intermarry because they would entice them to turn away from the One True God. Naomi’s sons took Moabite women as their wives. They didn’t follow the law of God.
9. If asked by a believer for your counsel on finding an excellent marriage partner, what would you say? What if they have fallen in love with a person of character who is not a believer? What advice would you give? – I would tell them to pray about it and seek God to see what he tells them to do. To wait for his answer before moving forward with marriage. If they already found someone who was not a believer, I would encourage them to hold off getting married until they see this person come to the Lord and have fruit that they have truly changed. They should not be unequally yoked.
10. If you have a son or daughter who marries an unbeliever, how will you respond to that unbeliever after the marriage and why? How did Naomi? – I would accept them in love, but also not hold back living the life God has given me in front of them. I would hope I would speak out about God and all he has done for me but doing it in a kind and loving way so there is no tension between the person and my son or our families. I would encourage my son and the girl to come to church or at least go to a good bible believing church. At the time Naomi did not do anything to stop it I’m guessing and after the sons had died, she didn’t encourage them to come with her. She was leaving them to their own people and gods but Ruth insisted on coming so in the end she let her come with her.
11. Can you find any indications that Naomi loved Ruth and Orpah? If so, share. Why do you think she sent them back to their gods? What might you learn from this? – I think she did, because what is said in verses 8b-9 she prayed over them and when they were leaving, they all kissed each other and cried. I wonder if because of all that happened to Naomi with the deaths, she may not have been able to mentor them to learn about God or maybe even didn’t think about mentoring them, so she told them to go back home and leave her. She was in too much pain to think about them it seems. What I see from this, is that no matter the pain I’m in, it’s in my best interest to remember first off, that God will always be with me and I’m not walking in journey alone. And secondly that if I’m mentoring someone during my pain, and seeking God, I will also heal myself by ministering to others in my pain and they will grow to know the Lord.
Tuesday: Mothers-In-Law and Daughters-In-Law
7. Why might Moabite women not have been Naomi’s dream daughters-in-law? (Remember Paige’s lecture)
—A good Jew would not have married their sons to foreign women. It was forbidden and specifically forbidden from marrying a Moabite woman. I don’t remember Paige’s comments about that.
8. What warning did God give the Israelites about marrying those who worshipped idols in Deuteronomy 7:3-4? How was this fulfilled in Ruth 1:4?
—God said “for they would turn away your sons from following me, to serve other gods. Then the anger of the Lord would be kindled against you, and he would destroy you quickly. “ Naomi’s sons died prematurely.
9. If asked by a believer for your counsel on finding an excellent marriage partner, what would you say? What if they have fallen in love with a person of character who is not a believer? What advice would you give?
—My first thought is to be willing to wait on God. I have seen far too many individuals want to be married so badly they compromise their own standards and settle for someone of their choosing and not God’s. As I have observed those believing family and friends who don’t rush to be married but wait on God I have seen them blessed with godly marriage partners in God’s time and longer than many of them would have liked. But they waited and were blessed for it.
In answer to the 2nd part of the question I feel based on scripture that specifically says to not be unequally yoked to an unbeliever I would have to counsel against it. The believers I know who have married unbelieving nice people with good character they eventually wish they had a spiritual relationship that only comes from both knowing Christ as Savior and having the bond of the Holy Spirit but they don’t.
10. If you have a son or daughter who marries an unbeliever, how will you respond to that unbeliever after the marriage and why? How did Naomi?
—There has to be acceptance of that individual and the practice of love in hopes of winning their hearts over to Jesus. We’ve had to practice this with grandson-in-laws. One now professes to know Jesus. We are praying for and loving on two others.
We get the sense Naomi cared about her daughter-in-laws.
11. Can you find any indications that Naomi loved Ruth and Orpah? If so, share. Why do you think she sent them back to their gods? What might you learn from this?
—At first when Naomi decided to leave Moab she was taking Ruth and Orpah with her so she must have cared about them but when she decided to send them back to their families of origin they all wept together in saying goodbye. That indicates to me she loved them.
—As far as sending them back to their own God’s I go back to my notes on what Paiges said.
“Paige said she is not pro-Naomi or anti-Naomi. Somewhere in the middle.
Naomi is soft toward her daughters in laws but still consumed by her own misery. She has a very compromised theology. And she really wants them to go back and makes a worldly case as to why because that is where she is in her own heart. She she is being pragmatic and is still thinking with the same mindset as when she first went to Moab. There is nothing spiritual in her reasoning at all. She never denies God but has a total resignation to the misery of her situation with God. She is practicing totally secular logic and is not turning toward God at all.”
I think seeing Naomi as one who has compromised theology and is reasoning from a pragmatic point of view makes sense. It says she wasn’t wanting them to go back to their gods for spiritual reasons. She wasn’t going back to her own God for spiritual reasons. It seems perhaps in her misery she was trying to do what was expedient.
Waiting on God such a good answer. character is also revealed through time.
What is the opening phrase in the book of Ruth and what does this tell you about the state of the land and also of the hearts of God’s people?
In the days when the judges ruled, there was a famine in the land…
3. What do you remember from Paige’s first lecture on why Elimelech’s and Naomi’s departure from Bethlehem to Moab was indicative of a poor relationship with the Lord?
They did not trust Him to provide for them. Is this the case of “the grass is greener on the other side of the fence”? There was no mention of them seeking God. They were doing what they deemed fit for themselves.
4. Moab was a desert region and Bethlehem a fertile region, though only 50 miles apart. But now those conditions were reversed. What does this seem to indicate?
God is allowing this to test His people, to discipline them, and to woo them back to Himself.
5. How do the following verses show a turn in the land that signifies a turn in the hearts of God’s people?
A. Ruth 1:16 Ruth desired to go to God’s land instead of staying in her land. God is stirring her heart.
B. Ruth 1:22 Naomi returned to the land of God’s people which indicates her heart’s slow return to God.
Meditate on the following passage.
“Behold, the days are coming,” says the Lord GOD, “That I will send a famine on the land, Not a famine of bread, Nor a thirst for water, But of hearing the words of the LORD. Amos 8:11-12
4. Do you think the above is happening now? Why or why not?
The Word of God is available to us through the Bible. His Word is being preached. So, could it be that spiritual famine is that we don’t want to hear what God has to say? People may be seeking but they don’t know what and where to look or don’t want to seek truth if there is any semblance of sacrifice.
6. Meditate on Psalm 1. What is characteristic of a person who is in a close relationship with the Lord? What helps you stay in the Word?
Seeking God daily; Spending time in his Word. Bearing fruit in season. Fellowship with others like this group. Dee’s leadership. Accountability to a few close friends. Reading the Word daily. when I sincerely seek the Lord in His word, I find Him. always. And that makes me spend more time with Him!
I have started writing Scripture daily. I wrote the Book of Philippians by hand last fall! what blessings I have received!
Good testimony about writing Scripture out by hand.
Bing and Patti,
In your answers to #6 you made very similar comments…” Accountability to a few close friends” (Bing) and “To seek out relationships with others who are like minded” (Patti). They both really hit me because this is missing in my life and I have sensed God telling me to pray for a good Christian friend but have resisted. I would appreciate your prayers that my heart would be open and that God would send a good friend.
Thank you❣️
Sharon, you have so much to give to somebody as you are doing here in the blog. Lord, miracle worker in hearts, hear our prayers for Sharon to be open to a friendship that you will be sending her way soon. Give her a heart of courage to take the first step and not to resist your prompting. “As iron sharpens iron, so one (wo)man sharpens another.” Proverbs 27:17 May this friend be someone who will be a conduit of Your refreshment likewise to Sharon.
She might just be around the corner, Sharon, or right under your nose. (Smile). A very dear and close friend of mine who loves the Lord is turning 90 this year! She wasn’t on my radar for a friend but in the course of a few conversations with her several years ago during the pandemic (in Zoom for Bible Study), I found she has a wicked lol sense of humor. And she loved my craziness so we hit it off!
Amen to what Bing told you and prayed, Sharon.
Dear Lord, I agree with Bing and Dee for Sharon, amen.
Thank you, Dee and Cheryl😊
Bing, thank you so much for this beautiful prayer and your encouraging words…Amen! Love your story of the friend God provided for you❤️
Sharon, I agree with this prayer from Bing. And I encourage you to be open and ask God for that friend you need. I’ve shared how years ago I needed a friend who knew how to pray and I basically demanded God give me one. I look back now appalled by my audacity with God but He understood my need and with gracious patience and compassion sent my sweet godly friend Lynda into my life. I have know doubt but that He has someone for you and that she needs you as well.
Thank you Bev for your prayers and sharing how God answered your prayers for a friend…so encouraging!
Dearest Sharon, How I wish you were in my neighborhood! You have such a heart for God and His Word. I will pray that the Lord will bring a trustworthy friend into your life. Lord, I pray that you will open Sharon’s heart to a new relationship, with someone she can pray with and trust. I pray that Sharon will find a like minded friend, one who will love and appreciate Sharon’s many gifts and her beautiful and sincere heart. Help her to find community with one that loves you deeply, and lives in your Word. I ask this in the powerful Name of Jesus.
Thank you Patti for this beautiful prayer…so encouraging and appreciated ❤️
Wednesday: Women Friends
Ruth’s name means “a woman friend” and she shows us the height of which we are capable if we are clinging to God, as she did.
What did Boaz say about Ruth in the following verses: Ruth 2:11-12 and also Ruth 3:11?I
In Ruth 2 Boaz says, I’ve heard all about you. You left your family, native country, and have come to a foreign land, all to help your mother-in-law. Boaz prays the Lord would bless Ruth, “…under whose wings thou art come to trust.”
In 3:13 Boaz tells her that everyone in the city knows she is a virtuous woman.
13. Why do you think Ruth was silent when Naomi said, “I’ve come back empty” after Ruth’s lifelong commitment? Do a search of the words “empty” and “full” in this little book and you will see the power of true friendship. What do you see?
Ruth might have been silent because she felt Naomi’s pain and no response was needed. Ruth was thinking about Naomi’s grief, not about herself.
I see that Ruth’s love/friendship was evident in the way she thought about Naomi’s needs before her own life. She never put herself forward or complained, but always supported Naomi by patiently serving her (through her attitude, labor, commitment).
The scripture doesn’t use these words, but I think that Naomi’s heart and lap were full when she held that baby boy. And the Lord’s full reward, that Boaz prayed for Ruth, had come to pass as she watched Naomi holding her son with her husband by her side.
14. What could we learn from her about ministering to those in high-tide grief? What else do you learn from her about either being a godly daughter-in-law or a friend?
What I’ve learned through personal experience that we can see in Ruth, is that someone who is grieving doesn’t need advice or “cheering up” or even scripture quoted at them. They don’t need to hear your stories about your life. They need someone who will come alongside and listen attentively, or just sit quietly; Ruth kept silent. A grieving sister is not quite able to care for herself, and a friend will see that and help in practical ways; Ruth worked in the fields to get food.
The example Ruth provides is that of submission to another’s needs, whether it’s a mother-in-law or friend. What a lovely woman.
Paul tells the Philppians, in chapter 2, 2Fulfil ye my joy, that ye be likeminded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind. 3Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.
Beautiful from Cheryl Ann:
What I’ve learned through personal experience that we can see in Ruth, is that someone who is grieving doesn’t need advice or “cheering up” or even scripture quoted at them. They don’t need to hear your stories about your life. They need someone who will come alongside and listen attentively, or just sit quietly; Ruth kept silent. A grieving sister is not quite able to care for herself, and a friend will see that and help in practical ways; Ruth worked in the fields to get food.
Yes, that is beautiful from Cheryl Ann! I read of a story and maybe it was in this blog. About an act of service that somebody did for the family of a grieving friend. She or He shined the shoes of each member of the family as they got ready for the funeral services! Talk about a practical way to minister to the grieving. Perhaps delaying sending a card or sending another card at the first month’s anniversary, the first year, and so forth.
I remember receiving so many cards when my mother-in-law passed away. But after that, “life moved on” and no more cards. I don’t want to sound like I am taking offense, just stating a reality. We can’t be all to all. All the more important is to give our grief and expectations to the Lord. And to obey when the Spirit nudges us to put our love into action.
Yes, Bing. The later cards meant so much after my daughter’s death/funeral. I especially remember one that I received 7 months later around the time of Mary’s birthday. The card read “I feel the brush of angel’s wings.” In my sorrow that card lifted my heart and eyes to the Lord and heaven. I still have all the cards we received. I haven’t looked at them in many years, but they are a physical reminder of people’s love/kindness/concern. and God’s love as he moved people to send them.
Yes! This is so right. Thanks Cheryl Ann for summing it up for us.
Amen to Dee, Cheryl Ann. Coming alongside and listen attentively or just sit quietly. This has helped me so much this past year. Thank you, Cheryl. I love your story about the card with “the brush of angel’s wings”
7. Why might Moabite women not have been Naomi’s dream daughters-in-law? (Remember Paige’s lecture)
They weren’t Israelites.
8. What warning did God give the Israelites about marrying those who worshipped idols in Deuteronomy 7:3-4? How was this fulfilled in Ruth 1:4?
They should not intermarry with those they conquer. If they did, they would suffer the consequences.
9. If asked by a believer for your counsel on finding an excellent marriage partner, what would you say?
I would suggest they find another believer.
What if they have fallen in love with a person of character who is not a believer?
I would suggest they pray and ask God to help them know what to do. Perhaps over time they could try to help the other person learn about God so they knew their perspective about knowing Jesus. Maybe God has placed the person in your life to help them know Him.
What advice would you give?
If they have given it their best and the person is not convicted then I would tell them to end the relationship.
10. If you have a son or daughter who marries an unbeliever, how will you respond to that unbeliever after the marriage and why? How did Naomi?
I would explain that our family believes in God. I would not hesitate with prayers, going to church, inviting them to church, and would continue in my regular Bible studies, Christian programming and such and invite them to join me.
Tuesday: Mothers-In-Law and Daughters-In-Law
7. Why might Moabite women not have been Naomi’s dream daughters-in-law? (Remember Paige’s lecture)
They were serving gods other than Jehovah. Naomi’s sons were unequally yoked with an unbeliever.
8. What warning did God give the Israelites about marrying those who worshipped idols in Deuteronomy 7:3-4? How was this fulfilled in Ruth 1:4?
… for they will turn your children away from following me to serve other gods, and the Lord’s anger will burn against you and will quickly destroy you.
Mahlon and Killion married Moabite women. They died young and left no children.
9. If asked by a believer for your counsel on finding an excellent marriage partner, what would you say? What if they have fallen in love with a person of character who is not a believer? What advice would you give?
Be an excellent marriage partner yourself, believe in Christ and grow in the Lord, take time to pray, and wait on the Lord. Even if both are believers, I would caution them about rushing to a relationship. I see some of our young people marry very young and have very little time to get to know each other and end up parting ways.
Do not be unequally yoked with an unbeliever. Listen to their reasons why they want to marry this person. Take them to the Word. Being a person of character does not mean they are believers.
10. If you have a son or daughter who marries an unbeliever, how will you respond to that unbeliever after the marriage and why? How did Naomi?
Love the unbeliever. Because our actions would speak of our faith. I will pray for that person. Naomi seemed to have loved her daughters-in-law because she showed them her kindness by praying for them.
11. Can you find any indications that Naomi loved Ruth and Orpah? If so, share. Why do you think she sent them back to their gods? What might you learn from this? I think Naomi loved her daughters-in-law in her way. Even though she had a wrong idea that their joy was based on staying in Moab, she did pray a blessing to them when she released them from going back with her to Bethlehem. I feel like she did not want them to share in her misery and would be better off.
And again, she sent them off to go back to their gods, because her grief is so deep, she can’t see a way out for them and her. She was thinking practically, perhaps?
I thought about advice that others give to someone who just lost a husband or child: do not make major decisions while you are grieving because high emotions can cloud your thinking.
Interestingly, Naomi did not seem to have a woman friend besides her daughter-in-law while in Moab!
In Tim Keller’s marriage book he shows how rare divorce is for those who marry when they are more mature, are active Christians, and pray together.
Such a great point about praying together! I loved hearing Tim and Kathy talking about that in an interview. Great advice.
Wednesday: Women Friends
Ruth’s name means “a woman friend” and she shows us the height of which we are capable if we are clinging to God, as she did.
What did Boaz say about Ruth in the following verses: Ruth 2:11-12 and also Ruth 3:11? – In 2:11-12 he told her that he had heard all the good that she had done for Naomi since her husband had died and prayed goodness from God over her because of all she did. That God would protect her and keep her safe. In 3:11 Boaz told her not to fear that he would do all that she asked and that everyone knew she was a worthy woman.
Why do you think Ruth was silent when Naomi said, “I’ve come back empty” after Ruth’s lifelong commitment? Do a search of the words “empty” and “full” in this little book and you will see the power of true friendship. What do you see? – In the book of Ruth as I read again doing the lessons, I see empty being bitter, no hope for what’s to come, not feeling God’s presence. And full I see as her having a purpose, a reason to have joy in her life and blessings from God.
What could we learn from her about ministering to those in high-tide grief? What else do you learn from her about either being a godly daughter-in-law or a friend? – When we minister to others in grief, they start to see the goodness of God and all the blessings he has and will give to us. They start to see that they are not alone in the journey they are on. Though Naomi was bitter and distant, Ruth never gave up on her. The love that Ruth had for Naomi outnumbered the feeling of emptiness, sadness and bitterness that was inside of Naomi and she came to see that God did love her and was there for her.
Wednesday: Women Friends
Ruth’s name means “a woman friend” and she shows us the height of which we are capable if we are clinging to God, as she did.
What did Boaz say about Ruth in the following verses: Ruth 2:11-12 and also Ruth 3:11?
“I’ve been told all about what you have done for your mother-in-law since the death of your husband—how you left your father and mother and your homeland and came to live with a people you did not know before. May the Lord repay you for what you have done. May you be richly rewarded by the Lord, the God of Israel, under whose wings you have come to take refuge.”
“ And now, my daughter, don’t be afraid. I will do for you all you ask. All the people of my town know that you are a woman of noble character.”
I was struck by how Boaz was acutely aware of Ruth’s character through other people. And I thought that as Christians, our repute is guarded by the Lord, and when we stay within His covering, He will use people we don’t even know to be favorable to us. It is always good to speak well of others and to be quiet when there is a temptation to speak ill.
Why do you think Ruth was silent when Naomi said, “I’ve come back empty” after Ruth’s lifelong commitment? Do a search of the words “empty” and “full” in this little book and you will see the power of true friendship. What do you see? The word “full” refers to Naomi’s material wealth and having a husband and 2 sons… fullness she refers to is both physical and relational. I found this from the Biblehub website: “Empty” signifies the loss of her husband and sons, as well as her perceived loss of purpose and identity. This reflects the cultural importance of family and lineage in ancient Israel. The emptiness also symbolizes spiritual and emotional desolation,… Reading this commentary made me appreciate the magnitude of Ruth’s commitment to Naomi as a true friend. She set aside all the cultural implications of the word and saw the deepest needs of Naomi. Her subsequent actions must have been a tremendous help in Naomi’s return to her faith in God. Ruth was God-sent to Naomi. In Chapter 4, the women of the town pronounced a blessing to Naomi, referring to Ruth as more than having 7 sons!
Ruth was not quick to take offense; silence was Ruth’s way of giving grace to Naomi and her understanding of the latter’s grief. She also has just lost her husband and was grieving as well. Their shared grief prompted Ruth to be selfless; Orpah, on the other hand, chose self-preservation by going back to her own home.
14. What could we learn from her about ministering to those in high-tide grief? What else do you learn from her about either being a godly daughter-in-law or a friend?
Silence can be golden when we are ministering to those in high-tide grief. I know from experience also that a hug and tears from a friend matter more than their words. Grief has a way of drowning literal voices but can “hear” actions better.
James 1:19 Let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger
Proverbs 19: 12 A man’s insight gives him patience and his virtue is to overlook an offense.
To show grace even to those we think are undeserving. To think of Jesus on the cross who had a word of good news to one of the thieves while He was suffering.
Bing’s good research:
I found this from the Biblehub website: “Empty” signifies the loss of her husband and sons, as well as her perceived loss of purpose and identity. This reflects the cultural importance of family and lineage in ancient Israel. The emptiness also symbolizes spiritual and emotional desolation,
Wednesday: Women Friends
Ruth’s name means “a woman friend” and she shows us the height of which we are capable if we are clinging to God, as she did.
14. What did Boaz say about Ruth in the following verses: Ruth 2:11-12 and also Ruth 3:11
He knew about everything Ruth had done for her mother-in-law since the death of her own husband, how she left her mother, father and own land to live among complete strangers. He asked that the God of Israel reward her fully for what she’d done. Everyone in town knew she was a virtuous woman.
15. Why do you think Ruth was silent when Naomi said, “I’ve come back empty” after Ruth’s lifelong commitment?
I think Ruth probably understood that Naomi meant she has returned with no husband, children and grandchildren. And knowing Naomi’s grief she gave her understanding and grace by just being there for her.
Do a search of the words “empty” and “full” in this little book and you will see the power of true friendship. What do you see?
In Ruth 1:21, Naomi tells the women of Bethlehem that she went out full and the Lord brought her home empty. It seems to imply she went out with her husband and sons and now returns without them.
In Ruth 3:17, Boaz gave Ruth six scoops of barley and said, ‘don’t go back to your mother-in-law empty handed.’ Ruth was to return to her mother-in-law with food.
In Ruth 2:12, Boaz tells Ruth , may the Lord give her a full reward for what she has done.
It seems that emptiness comes from a heart of disobedience and being full comes from an obedient and loving heart.
16. What could we learn from her about ministering to those in high-tide grief? What else do you learn from her about either being a godly daughter-in-law or a friend?
To be there for them, love them and provide any needs they may have.
I love that “don’t go back to your mother-in-law empty handed!”
12. What did Boaz say about Ruth in the following verses: Ruth 2:11-12 and also Ruth 3:11?
He acknowledges her leaving her family and life to be with Naomi and to help her. He asks God to bless her and calls her a “virtuous” woman.
What stands out to you about the character and friendship of Ruth?
She doesn’t leave Naomi. Ever. She is loyal.
13. Why do you think Ruth was silent when Naomi said, “I’ve come back empty” after Ruth’s lifelong commitment?
She may have felt that Naomi didn’t care or consider her.
Do a search of the words “empty” and “full” in this little book and you will see the power of true friendship. What do you see?
I found 7 empty’s and 2 fulls.
14. What could we learn from her about ministering to those in high-tide grief?
To give is better than receiving.
What else do you learn from her about either being a godly daughter-in-law or a friend?
Giving is better than receiving.
15. As you are still before the Lord, how could you be a better friend to other women?
I could practice what Ruth did with Naomi. I can be more giving, not expecting to receive, and be loyal. This requires me to “hang in there” when it might be hard to listen to my friend repeat the same trauma over and over, or to be positive when they are negative.
For the “what else do you learn…” that since Ruth never leaves Naomi, she is loyal.
Love this, Laura!! “that since Ruth never leaves Naomi, she is loyal. ”
Thursday: Understanding Differences Between Men and Women
How can you see Naomi and Ruth engaging in Rapport talk in Ruth 3:17-23? Write down everything you see that is positive and encouraging.
—Looks like the scripture should be chapter 2. 😊
In typical fashion of women conversing Naomi is full of questions and Ruth is full of important details to relate back to Naomi from her experience in the barley fields.
-Ruth was generous to share what God had provided for them and shared her left over lunch with Naomi.
-Naomi was able to identify Boaz as a close relative and a kinsman redeemer to her. Then Ruth told his gracious act of provision and protection for her. Naomi affirmed his advice for Ruth to stay with his women that were his workers and not go to any other fields where she could be assaulted.
-By day Ruth worked in Boaz’s fields until the end of the gathering of the harvest. But she continued to live at home with Naomi. That speaks to her commitment to Naomi.
How do you see a turn in Naomi after this incident and dialogue?
—I think when Naomi began to see God had provided in a special way for them she began to come out of her self centered misery and became concerned as to what would be best for Ruth. She now had a vision for their future based on what Jewish laws were in place and how it could bring a husband and blessing into Ruth’s life through the provision of a kinsman redeemer.
Studies also find that godly men are more apt to engage in “rapport talk,” perhaps because their status is not in the praise of man but of God. Find some verses that show Boaz’s encouragement to Ruth.
—In chapter 2 when Boaz identified Ruth and heard how she demonstrated good character and hard work he was quick to provide for her and protect her. Verse 12 was a particularly gracious verbal blessing.
In chapter 3 when she went to the threshing floor at night and made herself known to him he affirmed that he was a redeemer but acknowledged there was a closer redeemer that would have to be approached first but he made a promise if that situation didn’t work out then he would redeem her.
He was gracious and sent a gift of more barley to Naomi.
How could you be an even better listener and encourager of others?
—Ok in all honesty I have been a terrible listener and I struggle yet to really listen. But I desire to continue to grow in that area in my life. But also being honest I love to encourage others. I thoroughly enjoy the practice of being a positive voice for the Lord in the lives of others. Scripture is so rich with encouragement and the promises of God. He is a God of all comfort and being negative is a terrible waste.
19. Boaz is also adept at handling the business arrangement so that he, and not the nearer kinsman of poor reputation marries Ruth. (Ruth 4:1-9) What do you see? Application?
—Boaz was a wise man and a man of integrity. Those things served him well in life and God blessed him for godly practices.
I believe the principle still holds true today. Anyone who waits on God and seeks to live a godly life will reap unexpected blessings. You can be sure Ruth was an unexpected blessing for Boaz. I’m pretty sure he was like any other good Jewish man and was looking for a nice Jewish girl to marry. Ruth would not have been on his radar but God put her in his life with circumstances and evidence of her good character that he could see clearly was God’s plan for him. I still contend in the area of marriage and finding a mate, for a Christian, “Good things come to those who wait!”.
Bev, you pointed out the Naomi now had a vision for their future that first day, when Ruth returned from gleaning. I had not thought of that, but yes, Naomi knew exactly what was possible with Boaz.
Thursday: Understanding Differences Between Men and Women
How can you see Naomi and Ruth engaging in Rapport talk in Ruth 3:17-23? Write down everything you see that is positive and encouraging. – I don’t see a lot of conversation between Naomi and Ruth here, but what I do see is Naomi is encouraging Ruth to not rush into anything and hold back and see how it all goes with Boaz.
How do you see a turn in Naomi after this incident and dialogue? – Naomi is concerned for Ruth’s wellbeing now. Her heart is softening to caring for someone again. Her heart is beginning to open up and love again.
Studies also find that godly men are more apt to engage in “rapport talk,” perhaps because their status is not in the praise of man but of God. Find some verses that show Boaz’s encouragement to Ruth. – in verse 13 Boaz is telling Ruth that she does not need to worry that if the redeemer does not do her good, Boaz would redeem her and make her his wife.
How could you be an even better listener and encourager of others? – I think a big part is really listening and pay attention to what someone is saying. Don’t let your mind wander to what needs to be done while someone is talking to you. Make the person your priority in that moment. And to encourage them, you can pray for them right in that moment. Lead them back to the promises of God and follow up with them to make sure they are hanging on to His Word.
19. Boaz is also adept at handling the business arrangement so that he, and not the nearer kinsman of poor reputation marries Ruth. (Ruth 4:1-9) What do you see? Application? – Boaz followed the law and brought together the first redeemer, and 10 elders from the city as witnesses. He then told the redeemer what was going to happen and provided all the details as well. He mentioned that he would get the land and Ruth as his wife. He made sure to mention that Ruth was a Moabite widow of the dead. As far as the application I see that he followed the law of the land, provided complete detail and discussed the need at hand. I think we need to make sure we do not push or sway the answer/decision. If we follow the correct flow of things, give the issue to God it will be determined as God sees fit.
Optional but Fun! If you go to You-Tube and type in Deborah Tannen Little Boys or Deborah Tannen Little Girls you will see some wonderful videos that support her thesis that girls long for connection and boys for status. I do recommend her book for it has increased my understanding of men. I also feel freer to interrupt if I want to say something, for that is how men talk to men, generally speaking. – Oh my, I can now see clearer with the short little boys video and the two girls. How funny.
I think a big part is really listening and pay attention to what someone is saying. Don’t let your mind wander to what needs to be done while someone is talking to you. Make the person your priority in that moment. And to encourage them, you can pray for them right in that moment. Lead them back to the promises of God and follow up with them to make sure they are hanging on to His Word.
Such a good description, Julie, particularly about making some the priority when listening to them,
Julie, I was going to highlight the exact same comments you made that Cheryl Ann did. Such good advice. 😊
Amen to Bev and Cheryl Ann, Julie! Listening is love! It is refuge. It is walking with your friend. Love all you wrote about listening and encouraging!!
Thursday
How can you see Naomi and Ruth engaging in Rapport talk in Ruth 3:17-23? Write down everything you see that is positive and encouraging.
I think you mean chapter 2, Dee. The first day Ruth returns from the field she shows Naomi all she has gleaned, and then gives Noaoi food leftover from her lunch with Boaz.
Then Naomi asks her where she gleaned and what happened. Naomi prayed a blessing on the man that took notice of Ruth. Naomi is asking questions to draw out details.
Then Ruth told her everything that had happened and that the field belonged to Boaz.
Then in her joy Naomi recognizes the Lord’s intervention, thanks Him, and exclaims, Boaz is a near kinsman! Ruth becomes excited, He also told me to stay near his workers until harvest season is over. Exchange of more information, more interaction.
Naomi says, that’s a good thing, you can go out to the fields with his maidservants and work only with them in Boaz’s fields. This shows concern for Ruth’s safety.
23 So she kept fast by the maidens of Boaz to glean unto the end of barley harvest and of wheat harvest; and dwelt with her mother in law.
I can just imagine Ruth coming home each day now and Naomi at the door waiting to hear all about the day: what Ruth did, who did she talk with, did you see Boaz, did he say anything else, etc.
How do you see a turn in Naomi after this incident and dialogue?
Naomi is not focused on herself now. Her bitterness seems to melt away and she turns to the Lord. She recognizes the Lord’s goodness praying twice. Once to bless the man who showed such kindness to Ruth, and then to bless the LORD who has intervened by leading Ruth to Boaz.
Studies also find that godly men are more apt to engage in “rapport talk,” perhaps because their status is not in the praise of man but of God. Find some verses that show Boaz’s encouragement to Ruth.
2:8,9 Boaz speaks kindly to Ruth: he calls her Daughter (Paige pointed out this is the first word of kindess), stay near my workers, you will be safe, drink from the water they have brought.
v.10 Ruth bows before him and asks why he’s being so kind. V.11 Boaz repeats all he knows of her character and then he prays for her!
12The LORD recompense thy work, and a full reward be given thee of the LORD God of Israel, under whose wings thou art come to trust.
v.14 Boaz invites her to eat with the workers, and himself, and he makes sure she has enough to eat.
Boaz is showing godly kindness, hesed, to Ruth, and he prayed for her! She was a foreigner from despised Moab, but he saw her true character.
I just listened to Paige, week two, and she emphasized how this was still the time of the judges. I don’t know why, but I thought the heart rebellion was over, but no, there was still rebellion/lawlessness happening. That brings Boaz’s behavior into sharper focus. Paige said that when he gave directions to his workers, it was the first anti-sexual harassment training in a workplace – EVER.
How could you be an even better listener and encourager of others?
I have worked for many years on my listening skills. I don’t interrupt anyone, I use reflective listening, I listen to understand not to reply.
To encourage people besides listening/talking with them, I keep in touch, pray for them (and let them know I’m praying), show interest in their lives (family, health, joys/sorrows).
I have the gift of encouragement.
There are times when I want to be encouraged, not just the encourager, that’s one of the reasons I like this study group. We encourage each other. I can write all about my thoughts/feelings and know that you sisters are reading them and then responding. That’s not always typical, even among Christians.
19. Boaz is also adept at handling the business arrangement so that he, and not the nearer kinsman of poor reputation marries Ruth. (Ruth 4:1-9) What do you see? Application?
This is almost humorous. He waits for the other kinsman to come by, greets him, and invites him to sit down. Now my paraphrase, “Have you heard about Naomi coming back? I wanted to make sure you knew. She wants to sell the property that was her husband’s, and you get the first option to buy! What do you want to do, because I’m next in line to purchase after you.
The man responds, oh yes! I’ll buy it! (I can just see the smile on his face and the gleam in his eye)
Oh, by the way, Boaz casually mentions (almost as an afterthought), when you redeem the land you must take Ruth the Moabitess (Boaz makes sure to mention Moab) as wife to raise up children so the family line continues. (I can see the smile fade and eagerness disappear)
The man says, Oh…well…in that case…no, I won’t redeem the property.
The way is now clear for Boaz to keep his promise to Ruth, redeem the property, and marry her.
7. Why might Moabite women not have been Naomi’s dream daughters-in-law? (Remember Paige’s lecture)
Ruth married into Naomi’s family through disobedience.
8. What warning did God give the Israelites about marrying those who worshipped idols in Deuteronomy 7:3-4? How was this fulfilled in Ruth 1:4?
“You shall not make marriages with them. You shall not give your daughter to their son, nor take their daughter for your son. The will turn your sons away from following Me.” Naomi’s sons both married Moabite women, who worshipped idols.
9. If asked by a believer for your counsel on finding an excellent marriage partner, what would you say? What if they have fallen in love with a person of character who is not a believer? What advice would you give?
I would recommend that they first read God’s Word about marriage and get to know the person well, before making a commitment. I think it is wise to talk about the differences in their beliefs before getting married. When they think they have found a Christian partner, I would recommend an excellent Christian pre-marriage counselor for them to go to together; possibly a husband and wife team. I would also suggest that they get to know each other’s extended families before making a commitment. I would definitely suggest a professional Christian pre-marriage counseling team if marrying an unbeliever, preferably a husband and wife team. I would suggest that they move slowly and get to know each other well. Being unequally yoked is a recipe for disaster.
10. If you have a son or daughter who marries an unbeliever, how will you respond to that unbeliever after the marriage and why? How did Naomi?
I would embrace them into our family and love them as they are, and pray that they may be drawn to the Lord by our lifestyle and our love. I would pray for the marriage. It is difficult to tell what Naomi was thinking. She appears to treat both Orpah and Ruth with love and kindness.
11. Can you find any indications that Naomi loved Ruth and Orpah? If so, share. Why do you think she sent them back to their gods? What might you learn from this? She treats both Orpah and Ruth with love and kindness. She kissed them. She wished for the Lord to deal kindly with them, as they had dealt kindly with her. Her response about Lord going against her, may mean that she felt they may not have a good life with Naomi. Naomi really does not know what to expect when she returns to her home country.
Thursday: Understanding Differences Between Men and Women
Deborah Tannen, a Jewish linguist with the best-selling book “You Just Don’t Understand: Men and Women in Conversation” has compelling research concerning the different language styles of men and women. Men, she explains, generally engage in “Report Talk,” where they hold the floor and monologue in order to impress, as their primary drive is status. Women, on the other hand, engage in what she calls “Rapport Talk,” where they ask questions, draw one another out, and affirm one another because their primary drive is connection.
How can you see Naomi and Ruth engaging in Rapport talk in Ruth 3:17-23? Write down everything you see that is positive and encouraging.
Naomi asked, how did it go? Men probably would just say, “Good!” LOL
Ruth told Naomi everything Boaz had done for her. When she mentioned the 6 measures of barley, Ruth added, what Boaz said, “Don’t go back empty-handed”. Men wouldn’t have added that, too!
Ruth and Naomi were emotionally connecting and were both building up on each other’s words.
How do you see a turn in Naomi after this incident and dialogue?
Naomi calls Ruth, “my daughter” starting in verse 22 of Chapter 2. Her confidence is showing in what she hoped Boaz would do on behalf of Ruth.
I thought it was interesting to see the progression of what Ruth was called, the Moabite, Naomi’s daughter-in-law, daughter.
Studies also find that godly men are more apt to engage in “rapport talk,” perhaps because their status is not in the praise of man but of God. Find some verses that show Boaz’s encouragement to Ruth.
v. 6-9 He offered protection (stay in this field) and provision (food and water)’
v. 11 He complimented her for what she has done for Naomi
How could you be an even better listener and encourager of others?
Pray. Don’t judge. Sift through the rumor mill. Be observant. Be honest with your praise.
19. Boaz is also adept at handling the business arrangement so that he, and not the nearer kinsman of poor reputation marries Ruth. (Ruth 4:1-9) What do you see? Application?
He was all business-like. He also asked 10 elders to be witnesses of the arrangement. He did his “homework”, was familiar with the Torah, and showed diplomacy and deference to the kinsman redeemer who was “ahead” of him by stating the most obvious of the arrangement. Naomi’s land for sale, the other person had the first right to redeem it and then proceeded to add the “caveat”! Smart!
Application: Look at the obvious facts of the land. God has given the Israelites a guide in the Torah on how to proceed with these things. Seek God’s guidance on how to present my case. Be ready to own up to a solution.
Optional but Fun! If you go to You-Tube and type in Deborah Tannen Little Boys or Deborah Tannen Little Girls you will see some wonderful videos that support her thesis that girls long for connection and boys for status. I do recommend her book for it has increased my understanding of men. I also feel freer to interrupt if I want to say something, for that is how men talk to men, generally speaking.
Oh, I would love to read her book! I am still befuddled at times by how men relate to women and their fellow men. I appreciate the phrase “report talk” and “rapport talk”. Light bulbs are flashing, Dee! Just in the short time I read your notes here has given me a better observing eye as I relate to my husband. I am seeing him in a new light. God is so good.
How can you see Naomi and Ruth engaging in Rapport talk in Ruth 3:17-23? Write down everything you see that is positive and encouraging.
Ruth brought grain to Naomi. Naomi blessed her for bringing the grain. She also blessed Boaz for allowing Ruth to gather the grain. Boaz allowed Ruth to stay through the entire harvest.
How do you see a turn in Naomi after this incident and dialogue?
Naomi seems to realize that maybe. Boaz will be a redeemer. He has taken an interest in Ruth at this point and she believes he will step up now.
Laura, the phrase you used “step up now,” started me wondering how the Lord might be wanting me to “step up.” I have been thinking lately that I’m doing pretty well; what a trap that is! I need to start asking, “how can I do more, how do I need to “step up.”
Ahhh! That’s good! Maybe when we get feeling like life is so good is when we need that stepping up to occur….hmmmm that makes sense to me. I have been there before.
12. What did Boaz say about Ruth in the following verses: Ruth 2:11-12 and also Ruth 3:11?
Boaz had been told about all that Ruth had done for Naomi and that she left her family to come to a new place with new people she had not known. Boaz told Ruth that she would be rewarded by the Lord God of Israel under the wings where she sought refuge. Boaz knew Ruth was a virtuous woman.
13. Why do you think Ruth was silent when Naomi said, “I’ve come back empty” after Ruth’s lifelong commitment? Do a search of the words “empty” and “full” in this little book and you will see the power of true friendship. What do you see?
Naomi’s perspective is not the truth. She sees that she is empty because she has lost her husband and sons. The truth is that God has been with her all the time, in the love, loyalty and friendship of her daughter in law, Ruth. God is working on both of their hearts and HE is their refuge. He has a plan. I loved how Paige pointed out in her lecture that we tend to blame God when things go wrong, yet we want the credit when life goes well.
14. What could we learn from her about ministering to those in high-tide grief? What else do you learn from her about either being a godly daughter-in-law or a friend?
I truly do not want to ever have Naomi’s perspective. I am so thankful for each of you, as I am blessed, daily, to see how each of you has turned to God, in the midst of loss, crisis and pain. “Iron sharpens Iron” has taken on a new meaning in my life. Thank you dear Dee for your friendship, wisdom and work on this Blog. I see Ruth in my daughter, who is a bit of a wild child, but has a heart of gold. Both of my daughters have been Ruth to me these past two years and I have never felt empty, even through the loss and pain that sometimes bubbles up so high it spills out everywhere. I love that dear friends have been there for me, never to judge or problem solve, but to listen and love. (Thank you, Dee) Grieving has taught me even more than I knew, that God is my refuge. I will stay in the Shelter of the Most High. I have learned from this lesson and from life, how to be there for a friend who is grieving, as well as how to love, appreciate and grow through the friends who have been my refuge and strength.
Patti, Your insight in your answer to Question 13 is deep and meaningful because you have lived it. And your testimony in answer to 14 affirms it. You chose not to believe the lie you were alone but that God has been with you all the time. We certainly are learning here together. Yes Dee I to am thankful for you and always in awe of the work you put into preparing this blog study. Thanks for sharing your gifts with us so freely.
Friday: The Ultimate Ruth and The Ultimate Boaz
20. Explain how Jesus is the ultimate Ruth. – Jesus cares about us, he loves us and will never leave us. He wants the best for his children. He won’t walk away because we are having a bad day or haven’t reached out to Him because of the state of mind we may be in. He will sit back, watch and wait for us to return and then with open arms he will accept us in. Ruth did this with Naomi. She waited for her to find peace in her heart.
21. Explain how Jesus is the ultimate Boaz. – Jesus is Boaz because he provides for us. Our needs will be met when no one else will step up. What we need is in him. He will stand up for us and defend us to the highest, so everyone knows we are His chosen.
This week, my 2nd granddaughter and her fiancé are coming for 4 days. They will be married in a month. They want to go through Keller’s marriage book with me. Please pray for us. I am finding absolutely wonderful things in the re-reading of that book. He talks about the conservative view of marriage emphasizing roles as pre-eminent, and the liberal view as freedom pre-eminent, but he believes the most important thing in truly becoming one is being overwhelmed by the glory of what Christ did so that we can follow in His steps by not clinging to our rights but humbling ourselves and serving each other.
22. Thoughts on the above? – Oh Dee, you will be such a blessing to them and what an honor that they are coming to you. I think in a marriage Christ needs to be the center of it from the start. The man needs to do what he’s called to be and that’s to lead the home and love his wife. The wife should support her husband and lift him up. But I also think they need to be on equal ground. If you have sought out the Lord before marriage and listen, you should have a partner that is equally yoked and have similar thoughts. We are of course individuals, but our main priority should be to point each other to Christ and surround yourselves as one with Christ. I always feel that a strong marriage is like a three stranded cord, too strong for anyone to break apart.
“He won’t walk away because we are having a bad day or haven’t reached out to Him because of the state of mind we may be in. He will sit back, watch and wait for us to return and then with open arms he will accept us in. Ruth did this with Naomi.”
Julie, I totally missed this analogy, and you are so right. Jesus doesn’t ever walk away, even when I do.
Friday: The Ultimate Ruth and The Ultimate Boaz
17. Explain how Jesus is the ultimate Ruth.
Ruth left her parents, family, and homeland to stay with Naomi. Ruth turned away from idols to embrace the one true God. Ruth loved Naomi enough to risk going to a country where she knew she would be an outcast and treated badly. She did not complain, but worked diligently to support/comfort Naomi. Ruth was totally committed to the Lord and Naomi.
Jesus laid aside his glory and left heaven to come to a “foreign” land, earth. He knew that He would be misunderstood, rejected, ridiculed, tortured, and murdered. Jesus did not complain, but went through all of this (for 33 years) because of His great love, hesed, for us, and obedience to His Father’s will.
18. Explain how Jesus is the ultimate Boaz.
Boaz approached Ruth, not the other way around. She would have never considered talking to him, she was a foreigner. Boaz spoke word of kindness and blessing to her. He provided sustenance and protection for her, neither of which she asked for. When she cast herself on his mercy, asking for his covering (marriage), Boaz accepted her. Boaz redeemed the property of Ruth and Naomi, married Ruth, and made something beautiful out of their sorrow.
Jesus seeks us out, we did not seek him,“We love Him, because He first loved us.”1 Jn 4:19 When we turn to Him in repentance believing all He has done for us, Jesus covers us (with his blood), blotting out all the ugliness of sin. He redeems us and makes something new and beautiful out of our lives. By the Spirit we are placed into the Body of Christ, and He indwells us, forming a perfect union (like marriage, but better).
Studies also find that godly men are more apt to engage in “rapport talk,” perhaps because their status is not in the praise of man but of God. Find some verses that show Boaz’s encouragement to Ruth.
He calls her his daughter. He praises her and tells her not to worry.
How could you be an even better listener and encourager of others?
Stop and look the person in the eyes as they speak to me. Repeat what they say back to them to let them know i heard them. Tell them to hang in there.
“Stop and look the person in the eyes as they speak to me.” That’s so important, Laura. How many times do we see people looking at their phones/tablets while “listening” to someone right in front of them. You cannot really focus on what the person is saying, and you are sending the message, “What I’m doing is more important than what you are saying.”
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Friday: The Ultimate Ruth and The Ultimate Boaz
20. Explain how Jesus is the ultimate Ruth.
—Ruth shows us what a Christlike life and attitude is. She is humble and submissive to God’s will for her life. Like Christ “Not my will but Yours” when she said “Your God will be my God” she meant it. From Paige’s teaching this week on chapter 2 Ruth demonstrated hesed. That all encompassing love of God. Everywhere Jesus went he demonstrated hesed perfectly.
21. Explain how Jesus is the ultimate Boaz.
—Boaz was a man who practiced hesed as well. His treatment of Ruth the Moabite (foreigner) was a picture of great grace in acceptance of her and giving her place as one of them. He gave generously of what he had to be her kinsman redeemer. Jesus has demonstrated ultimate grace to each of us sinners. And He gave all for us to be redeemed from our sinful state to become part of his family and his kingdom with all the benefits unto eternal life.
This week, my 2nd granddaughter and her fiance are coming for 4 days. They will be married in a month. They want to go through Keller’s marriage book with me. Please pray for us. I am finding absolutely wonderful things in the re-reading of that book. He talks about the conservative view of marriage emphasizing roles as pre-eminent, and the liberal view as freedom pre-eminent, but he believes the most important thing in truly becoming one is being overwhelmed by the glory of what Christ did so that we can follow in His steps by not clinging to our rights but humbling ourselves and serving each other.
22. Thoughts on the above?
—What a beautiful opportunity to have godly influence on your granddaughter and her fiancé as they prepare for marriage. I pray God has blessed your time with them.
So far when each of my grandchildren have gotten married I have taken time to write a letter to them and their new spouse. This is a copy of what I wrote to my oldest Granddaughter Emma and her husband Nick several years ago.
I shared the same basic principles of thought with the others but who have married since but just personalized each one a bit differently.
Keep in mind Nick and Emma had bought a house and had lived together after their engagement before marrying. She knew we didn’t approve but we loved on her and Nick anyway. God was drawing Emma back to Himself. Now she is a mommy to two little boys and she is in church and a women’s Bible study. Nick has started attending church with her when his job as a commercial pilot allows him to. He seems to have a soft heart toward the things of God and we are grateful.
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Nick & Emma,
Marriage was God’s idea. You honor God when you choose to marry because you agree with Him it is a relationship that is exclusive. It is something He ordained from the very beginning. Adam and Eve in the garden. One man and one woman. It is exclusive of others but to work well we must be inclusive of each other. Seeking the other ones highest good and committing to work together.
Marriage takes a lot work and commitment to be successful and good. Some parts of marriage are so easy but other parts are hard. The biggest enemy of marriage is selfishness.
Nick you are choosing well in marrying Emma. I’ve known her since the very day she was born
And she has an incredibly giving heart. It is a characteristic that serves well in a marriage. Love and cherish her and she will flourish under your care. Your responsibility is great as the head of the home. According to the bible God’s Word in the book of Ephesians you are charged to love Emma. To love her and give yourself to her and for her. If God chooses to give you children the very best thing a man can do is love their mother and value her. Emma in that same passage in God’s Word your are told to respect Nick. He needs to know above all others you respect him for who he is and what he does. The world will try to beat him down but as his wife you have the privilege of building him up for the man he is as your husband. These two things are key to a good marriage relationship. Love and respect. They will feed and deepen your marriage. Emma, your grandpa and I pray much for each of our grandchildren and Nick you are now part of that circle whom we value and pray for. We welcome you to our family and we like what we see in you. We think Emma has chosen well too.
May God richly bless the two of you with many good years. Give God first place in your lives and your joys will be deep.
“May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.”
Romans 15:13
Bev, thanks for sharing the letter you wrote to Nick and Emma. God’s grace is evident in what you have written to them, especially in light of what you said about them living together before they were married. I love this blessing and admonition “Give God first place in your lives and your joys will be deep.”
Beautiful letter Bev!
Friday: The Ultimate Ruth and The Ultimate Boaz
17. Explain how Jesus is the ultimate Ruth.
Ruth left her homeland and gave up everything to be with Naomi.
He left his throne in glory and gave up everything so he could save us. Philippians 2
I think of the song, “If That Isn’t Love”. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dogPlh7BZtI&t=9s
18. Explain how Jesus is the ultimate Boaz.
Boaz bought Ruth and Naomi with the resources God gave him. Boaz provided for Ruth and Naomi. He could have just kept his wealth for himself.
Jesus bought me with his blood. Jesus provided everything else I need for sanctification and future glorification. He could have just stayed in Heaven and let the Father bring judgment to the world and His people.
This week, my 2nd granddaughter and her fiance are coming for 4 days. They will be married in a month. They want to go through Keller’s marriage book with me. Please pray for us. I am finding absolutely wonderful things in the re-reading of that book. He talks about the conservative view of marriage emphasizing roles as pre-eminent, and the liberal view as freedom pre-eminent, but he believes the most important thing in truly becoming one is being overwhelmed by the glory of what Christ did so that we can follow in His steps by not clinging to our rights but humbling ourselves and serving each other.
19. Thoughts on the above?
“…the most important thing in truly becoming one is being overwhelmed by the glory of what Christ did so that we can follow in His steps by not clinging to our rights but humbling ourselves and serving each other.”
I sometimes remember what a friend told us when he was divorcing his wife: “I deserve to be happy”. He went on to marry his best friend’s wife, who divorced her husband. My heart still aches upon this remembrance. Lord, I give you this hurt once again.
What you said above, Dee, is indeed very important. I found that when I am only seeking my happiness, I don’t act and feel loving to my husband. Self is screaming and wants its way. Though I am very thankful for the earthly husband God has given me, I need to look to Jesus to be my true Husband, my ultimate source of happiness and love.
Beautiful rendition of “If That Isn’t Love”💕
19. Boaz is also adept at handling the business arrangement so that he, and not the nearer kinsman of poor reputation marries Ruth. (Ruth 4:1-9) What do you see? Application?
He was savvy in how he spoke to the relative. He didn’t use emotion, just stated the facts. He waited to mention Ruth as part of the deal. Maybe he was giving the other man more time to think? I’m not sure since I’m not a good business person. He seems to be trusting that God would make it turn out the way it should. We too, should not get emotional when things seem to be out of our hands. We need to trust that God has the plan for us.