Continuing our theme, on which you gave so much thoughtful input, let’s consider what leads to happiness. I used to think, and even have written, that God is not particularly concerned about our happiness, but rather, our holiness. I liked what Susan wrote: “What father doesn’t want his children to be happy?” What I was missing, which is huge, is that holiness leads to happiness.
Randy Alcorn, in his book on happiness, said the idea that God is not concerned about our happiness didn’t emerge until the late 1800’s! I’ve been reading a biography of Blaise Pascal, whom Keller calls one of the greatest intellects who ever lived, and he absolutely believed God wants us to be happy, and that evangelistically, we should appeal to people on that basis.
He writes:
Most apologetics try to feeds spinach to a reluctant baby who stubbornly closes his mouth. …What you have to do is make that baby hungry.
He goes on to talk about the love and fulfilment that comes to one who receives Christ, saying:
Christianity is not a hypothesis, it is a marriage proposal.
There is great joy, and yes, happiness, in knowing Christ.
George Mueller who experienced the power of God in founding and sustaining so many orphanages said:
Jonathan Edwards said:
And Hannah Whitehall Smith, who was part of the holiness movement in the 1800’s, had a bestseller. Can you guess what the secret of a Christian’s happy life is?
Holiness!
And in the 1900’s, C. S. Lewis said:
YES!
And the Beatitudes show us how.
This week we learn:
Sunday:
- What stands out to you from the above and why?
- What have your thoughts been on God and happiness?
- In our study so far of the Beatitudes, what secrets have you learned about finding happiness?
Monday: Merciful to Those In Need
The first aspect of the concept of being merciful is showing kindness to those in need. I’d love to tell you about Gretta, a young woman living near me whom I have come to love and respect. She grew up as the lone white kid as her parents were international teachers. Gretta developed a heart for reaching out to those who are different, “fringe people,” those who feel outside the circle of love — for whatever reason. Here is Gretta with her family – her husband and two active four-year-olds, one recently adopted from China.
Gretta sometimes challenges our thinking in Bible study, and was one of the first to disagree with the contemporary belief that happiness and joy are very different. I love that she does that — just the way I love it when you disagree, in love, on this blog. That is iron sharpening iron. Gretta also brought our attention to an excellent book, about how the church can better minister to those who are struggling with same-sex attraction. It is by Ed Shaw, a pastor in England who experiences same-sex attraction but does not act on it. He tells how the church can better minister in truth and in love to those who, like him, experience this.
This book impacted Gretta to start looking for people, right in her church, who might identify with Ed Shaw, and to invite them to join her family in a meal, and to express love to them. A huge aspect of being merciful is reaching out to the poor, the lonely, the fringe people, and the hurting. And what I see in Gretta is great happiness. For indeed, “Happy are the merciful.”
4. Read Matthew 5:7.
A. What does it say?
B. What two promises do you see?
5. The Greek word, which Strong’s translates as “active compassion” is used in only one other place. Find it in Hebrews 2:17 and share what insight this gives you.
6. Read Luke 14:12-14
A. What does Jesus tell us to do?
B. How does this corroborate Matthew 5:7?
C. How does Gretta, in the illustration above, live this out?
D. Do you? If so, how have you experienced God’s blessing through it?
Tuesday: Mercy as Forgiveness
7. What similarity do you see between Matthew 5:7 and Matthew 6:14?
I have often talked about Ron and Debbie, and how Ephesians 4:29-32 has become “their passage” turning their stormy marriage into a place of peace. Though they had been married 50 years, God did a new thing in their marriage when He brought them both to Himself. He reconciled them not only with Himself, but truly, with one another. Ron, a Viet Nam vet, had anger in his soul, but the Lord delivered him. Whenever they begin to quarrel, Debbie says, “Wait, wait — let’s read our passage!” In the same way, Colin Smith uses this passage as a prescription for how to forgive when it is really hard to forgive.
8. Step 1: Ephesians 4:30
A. From whom do we get “the momentum,” to forgive?
B. Why should we fear grieving or quenching the Spirit?
9. Step 2: Ephesians 4:31
A. What are we to get rid of?
B. What does malice mean?
C. Do you tend to brood over wrongs done to you? What could you do to change this?
10. Step 3: Ephesians 4:32
A. How are we to view the one who has hurt us?
B. How can compassion aid in our forgiveness?
C. How can remembering Christ’s forgiveness of us help us to forgive?
11. Is there anyone you have not forgiven? What steps can you take to forgive?
Wednesday: The Controversy — Must We Forgive The Unrepentant?
I’m hoping for some “salty” discussion today — some iron sharpeninn iron. Colin Smith says we are not called to forgive the unrepentant, but to love them. He writes in his book, “Momentum:”
Forgiveness involves the reconciling of two people — one who repents and the other who forgives — and I believe it is a mistake to tell people to forgive when there is no repentance. It is more faithful to Scripture to say that we must love an unrepentant person, have compassion on them, and pray for them. If we do this, we will be more faithful to release forgiveness wherever and whenever it is received.
12. Do you agree or disagree? Support your answer scripturally.
Thursday-Friday: 15 minute message from Colin Smith
13. Listen to the following and share your notes and comments.
Saturday:
14. What’s your take-a-way and why?
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I agree with both you & Susan. Ā God isnāt concerned about our happiness as WE think of it. Ā We see happiness as something to be pursued, which is selfish idolatry. Ā And if we do find happiness by selfishly pursuing it, it is fleeting and ultimately unfulfilling.
Yes, God does want us to be happy, but He wants us to be truly, fully, and perpetually happy, which He knows only comes as a byproduct of pursuing HIM.
Very good, Nana. And welcome!
Welcome, Nana!Ā
1. Ā Does God want us to be happy? Yes. As a byproduct of a life that is focused on Him and responding to His love. But not like when you hear people say that all they want for themselves or their children is to be happy. Not as an end in itself.Ā
2. Ā I guess I generally think of God as being happy within Himself, the Trinity. So it follows that as we know Him and obey His commands, we will be progressively more happy. I think happiness is not complete outside of community. We need others to be happy with us, and we can’t be completely happy if ones we love are sad. We want them to be happy also.Ā
3. Ā I’ve learned that it is my very struggles toward righteousness that are working happiness for me. A great encouragement!
Love this about community, Mary. So true.
4.a. Ā Blessed are the merciful for they will be shown mercy. Makes me think of James, where he says that mercy triumphs over judgement.
b. Ā Giving or showing mercy gives happiness and brings mercy in to us for our own needs.
5. Ā Jesus had to be like us so that He could be our High Priest, and do it as the only merciful and faithful One. God expects us to extend who/what He is to the world around us, especially His mercy.
What stands out to you from the above and why?Ā The baby needing to be hungry to eat the spinach. I have family who donāt feel they need a savior.Ā
What have your thoughts been on God and happiness?Ā Iām not sure I considered this when I was young. I Ā remember struggling with hard times and asking why me. Christian radio helped me learn through the Word how God uses hard times for our good. Iāve learned along the way that being close to God gives me peace and happiness that I canāt find in this world.Ā
In our study so far of the Beatitudes, what secrets have you learned about finding happiness?Ā How I need to acknowledge my sin before God in order to keep myself from becoming self-reliant. Not that I didnāt know this, but I find that growing up with the self-righteous attitude, that sneaks in and I need to remind myself of my sin again. Remembering that this is the first step and that I need to start here each day is vital.Ā
Chris — so true that these are truths we need to be reminded of as we are such good forgetters!
Sunday
1. Ā What stands out to you from the above and why?
The Jonathan Edwards quote…āThe enjoyment of God is the only happiness with which your souls can be satisfied.ā Ā To want to spend time with God, enjoy His presence and behold His beauty….love this! Ā It gives me a feeling of peace and joy just thinking about it and what happier place to be and yes, satisfaction! Ā
2. Ā What have your thoughts been on God and happiness?
Ā Being happy in the Lord, submissive and obedient to Him leads to an inner peace, a joy that is indescribable and is eternal. Ā There have been times in my life where I thought jumping through certain hoops (works, rules) for the Lord would bring me happiness but it was only temporary. Ā Temporary because my motives were all wrong.
3. Ā In our study so far in the Beatitudes, what secrets have you learned about finding happiness?
The importance of being totally dependent upon God, mourning my sin, submitting to His will, which will produce an appetite and thirst to be right before God. Ā Ā
Such a good post from Sharon — please read!
1. What stands out to you from the above and why?
You are adorable Dee; how you get so excited about God wanting us happy! So, not to squelch yourĀ happiness in the delivery here….if He wants us happy why do we have so much pain in our lives, and sometimes often?Ā
2. What have your thoughts been on God and happiness? Ā
I feel gypped because I have such strife in my life a lot (so much it is really quite ridiculous). Like Mary says, how can we be happy if others are so sad?
3.Ā In our study so far of the Beatitudes, what secrets have you learned about finding happiness?
You should be humble, you should ask forgiveness, and hunger and thirst for righteousness.Ā
Laura, I heard once of someone born with cerebral palsy and had multiple handicaps, being asked how they could believe in a gracious and loving God. His reply was that God had all eternity to make it up to him. I know your life is full of pain and suffering, but God will make it up to you, even as He sustains you now. He will not fail you, no matter what happens on this earth. Praying for you, dear sister.
Good answer from Mary — esp in your case Laura, for you are being persecuted for righteousness sake. See Matthew 5:10-12
Mary, thank you for your true, logical answer. I should know better than to post here after an āincidentā occurs with Sarah. Iām reading the book āLetting Goā and it is helping me so much. I donāt have it bad compared to others with health problems. My strife is mentally mostly, and now physically Ā because the babies are now toddlers and itās a busy tiresome job at times. I just need to hang in there one more week and then (unfortunately) I go back to work and the kids (hopefully) will be in pre-school. We are depending on God for that part because we still arenāt sure how we will pay. It will cost us $2000 per month, can you believe that? I donāt know how people afford it! We are hoping for some help from the state because of our situation, but there have been troubles with that so far. I just need prayers to keep me sane for a week and for the babysitting/pre-school to work out. I love that persons explanation that God has eternity to make it up! That is hopeful. Thank you for prayers.
Laura asked a good question: If God wants us to be happy, why so much pain? I know we’ll have thoughtful responses. Here is one from my daughter Sally speaking at Wheaton College if you are interested: (I can’t get the link button to work but you can go to youtube and then look for Sally Brestin Hale Wade Center
Here it is Dee…I think?
https://youtu.be/4_nTes2Z8i4
This was so good Dee…brought tears! Ā I so enjoyed hearing what others saw in her painting..her daughters are precious!! Ā I think what really stood out to me was the resolve she found within herself that Aslan was good and why…such faith!
Thanks, Sharon!
I find your daughterās talk of faith and art and the lamb in the Aslan painting so interesting! I want to re-read the Chronicles of Narnia!!
Laura,Ā
Life can be so hard! Itās so easy to SAY God does good through the hard times, but itās so hard to FEEL the good. Ā Iām still mourning the loss of my family from when my parents divorced 35 years ago. Pain can run so deep-even when we see the good that came from that pain. Iām thankful that the Lord drew me close to him in my pain. I want to draw closer still because that is where I find peace and joy.Ā
Keep drawing closer to Him. Praying for you. Also, praying the Lord provides the needed funds for the preschool:)
6.a. Ā Jesus tells us to reach out to the poor, crippled, lame, and blind instead of those who don’t recognize a need.
b. Ā This corroborates Matthew because it involves showing mercy.
c. Ā Greta lives it out in her international adoption, like our Lizzy, and in looking for the marginalized at church.
d. Ā If I thought I was good at this, I’d probably be prideful about it. I have such a long way to go.
7. Ā Both passages in Matthew show that we are the ones who have received mercy from God, in 6:14 it is named forgiveness.
1. What stands out to you from the above and why?
That holiness leads to happiness and that there is great joy and happiness in knowing Christ. I know these things to be true, yet I often feel unhappy. Now I am thinking that I need to re-read Leslie Vernick’s book, Lord, I Just Want To Be Happy. It’s been a while since I read it, but I believe that she also talks about our perspectives, attitudes, and expectations, and how if they are wrong, it leads to unhappiness. This also leads me to think about temperament, and how some people seem to be more “mentally strong” and naturally optimistic while others see everything as the glass half-empty. I guess I’m a bit off-topic here as what I’m talking about is how our circumstances affect our happiness, while you (Dee) seem to be talking about a happiness that comes from holiness that should be present at all times. Are there two different kinds of happiness, then?
2. What have your thoughts been on God and happiness?
As I said last week, I have heard teaching in the church that God doesn’t care so much about our happiness, but He wants us to be holy. Presented that way, it sounds like you can’t have both. I’ve heard that teaching applied to marriage, so if I am in a difficult, unhappy marriage, God is making me holy, which is better than my being happy. But it seems like a hard deal to me. Definitely, God is the way to true and lasting happiness.
3. In our study so far of the Beatitudes, what secrets have you learned about finding happiness?
The Beatitudes are kind of like stepping stones that go upward and give you a sense of momentum. You can’t skip the first step, though, which is being poor in spirit, meaning that you know that you are bankrupt before God and have nothing to offer Him to commend yourself.
Susan — I think that may be why some Christians began to define happiness as based on circumstances and joy on holiness — though Scripture seems to equate holiness with happiness too — so yes, perhaps two kinds of happiness or joy.
Susan,
I think of happiness as an emotion and joy as something I know to be true- I can have joy in Christ even when I feel sad. I am sad about my broken relationship with my mom since the divorce. I have hope that Christ can restore that. I grieve the loss of loved ones, but look forward to seeing them again one day. As believers, we can have joy in our sadness.Ā
So intriguing because I wouldn’t have connected happiness with being merciful. So this study I am sure I will be clumsy with but glad because I know He will teach me through you all!
My thoughts on God and happiness have changed through the last 31 years of being One with Him. š It is more simple than I used to make it but God is so big-so mysterious and not simple that if I experienced all His ways I would be totally not able to speak-a melted mess! But what I do know is it is by no accident, when he makes us parents, how He shows us some more of His ways. I know how I delight in my boys being healthy and happy and how I long for them to be when they leave our home but I know that means making wise decisions and not letting the things or people they love become idols like I have done-or finding satisfaction in. How I hate when I see bad decisions or foolishness come from them-not because they are breaking a rule but because of how it will come back and bite them and make them miserable and affect relationships around them including ours. It feels like a knife in my chest sometimes with the harder things, but sometimes if I see them hanging around a new friend who could be a bad influence-not so complicated. So God pulls me into His mystery with another layer of intimacy through being a parent for I see glimpses of His heart for me and others around me more.
Then there are the lighter things that I am not sure apply to this-like I enjoy working hard so that we can have enough to have pizza night and treat our boys to a nice dinner, or buy them clothes, or trombone lessons, or give them opportunities to flourish in their gifts and talents-which takes sacrifice, but yet not let it become gods..This helps me not feel so bad when I need nice clothes and want to buy them or desire a night away from home, or time with other women in the Word. Why would God not delight in seeing us happy enjoying what He has made for us to enjoy?
UGH..This is WAY too wordy-I have to leave to get ready for work and can’t edit. šĀ
I think the parent analogy is so apt, Rebecca! Thank you!
4. Read Matthew 5:7
A. What does it say?
Blessed (happy) are the merciful for they will be shown mercy.
B. What two promises do you see?
Those who show mercy will be happy and will receive mercy themselves.
5. The Greek word, which Strong’s translates as “active compassion” is used in only one other place. Find it in Hebrews 2:17 and share what insight this gives you.
Maybe this answers the second part of this beatitude, that those who are merciful will be shown mercy….what mercy? The mercy of Jesus, who became a merciful (active compassionate) high priest when He made atonement for our sins. But as Dee said in our first lesson, the Beatitudes aren’t ways to become a Christian, so this doesn’t mean that if one tries to be merciful, they are made right with God. Rather, because we have been shown this mercy and have had our sins forgiven, we should also show mercy. It’s a characteristic of a Christian to be merciful.
6. Read Luke 14:12-14
A. What does Jesus tell us to do?
To extend hospitality to those outside of our family and friends, or even our “comfort zone”.
B. How does this corroborate Matthew 5:7?
Because it shows active compassion to do for those who are less fortunate than you, or who have needs or are suffering, and who may not be able to do anything for you in return.
C. How does Gretta, in the illustration above, live this out?
I imagine that a person in the church who has same-sex attraction may feel lonely, or even fearful, and maybe others are fearful of getting too close to them, or may just feel uncomfortable getting too close to them. For Gretta to actively seek out these individuals and invite them into her home and extend friendship to them is showing the kind of mercy that Jesus is talking about here.
D. Do you? If so, how have you experienced God’s blessing through it?
Like Mary said in her post, I have a long way to go. Many years ago, my Sunday school class wanted someone to be sort of a connection person between our class and two missionary families who served overseas. When the one family would visit our church, I would plan something fun for them and anyone in our class wanting to go along, like a Fall family outing to a farm where there were activities for young and old as this family had young children. But once, when the other missionaries, who were a couple from Israel, came into town, and it was asked who they would stay with, I panicked, because I knew I could not offer for them to stay with me in my home, as I knew my husband who is not a believer wouldn’t want that and I didn’t feel “qualified” to host this couple. I felt ashamed at not having a “godly” home. I later decided that I should step down from this position.
Very good point about showing mercy isn’t how we receive the mercy of our sins being forgiven — I think of mercy as kindness.
Oh Susan, my heart hurts for you with your last story. If you were to go back and do it again, would you do it differently? If so, how?
Iām not sure. I guess I just decided that I should let someone more qualified do the job. Maybe if it was only a woman who needed a place to stay, but a married couple and knowing it would be only me to spend time with them; I thought it would be awkward and uncomfortable.
TUESDAY
4. Read Matthew 5:7.
Ā Ā A. What does it say?
Ā Ā Ā āBlessed are the merciful, for they shall receive mercy.”
Ā Ā B. What two promises do you see?Ā
Ā Ā Ā 1) The merciful will be happy (blessed); and
Ā Ā Ā 2) The merciful will receive mercy themselves.
5. The Greek word, which Strongās translates as āactive compassionā is used in only one other place. Find it in Hebrews 2:17 and share what insight this gives you.
I don’t know how to look up the Greek word, etc., and I’m not sure exactly which word you are referring to here (merciful, mercy, propitiation???), but here is what I found in my attempt to answer this question… The word propitiation carries the basic idea of appeasement or satisfaction, specifically toward God. Propitiation is a two-part act that involves appeasing the wrath of an offended person and being reconciled to him.Ā If that’s not “active compassion” I don’t know what is!Ā Ā š
6. Read Luke 14:12-14
Ā Ā A. What does Jesus tell us to do?
Ā Ā Ā “When you have a luncheon or a dinner… invite the poor, the crippled, the lame, the blind…”
Ā Ā B. How does this corroborate Matthew 5:7?
Ā Ā Ā Inviting those who are “down & out” or those whom society often overlooks is showing them mercy.
Ā Ā C. How does Gretta, in the illustration above, live this out?
Ā Ā Ā Many people, especially those who claim to be believers, don’t treat homosexual’s with the love of Christ, but with hatred and disdain.Ā By reaching out to them and showing them Christ’s unconditional love, she is showing them mercy by giving them a chance to meet Christ and to find forgiveness & salvation.
Ā Ā D. Do you? If so, how have you experienced Godās blessing through it?
Ā Ā Ā I try to, but it’s often very difficult for me.Ā I am an introvert, but I realize that does not excuse me from reaching out – it only shows me where I need to work harder at it than others.Ā So far, when I have reached out, I’ve received mostly criticism from others, but you know what?Ā So did Jesus!Ā He says when we are treated badly because of serving Christ that we should count that as a blessing.Ā Ā
I love your last point, Nana. Christ did receive criticism. I was just thinking about how the disciples were most likely looked on a crazy people too.Ā
Yes, Nana – it is translated propitiation in some — and that, indeed, is active compassion!
4. Read Matthew 5:7.
A. What does it say?
Ā We are blessed if we are merciful and given mercy.Ā
B. What two promises do you see?
Happiness and forgiveness.
5. The Greek word, which Strongās translates as āactive compassionā is used in only one other place. Find it in Hebrews 2:17 and share what insight this gives you.
Ā Jesus was totally made like us so we would have mercy like Him. By Him having the experience of sin He was able to wipe it away (not sure I get this…wouldnāt He already know what our sin was like and not have to literally bear it? Or, was it for our knowledge only) (if we saw someone like us go through what He did, we would believe better?). Lastly, He acted/acts as an intercessor between us and God.
6. Read Luke 14:12-14
A. What does Jesus tell us to do?
We should always invite those who have troubles to our table; the lost, blind, sick, etc. they canāt repay the favor. If we invite our relatives or the wealthy the favor can be repaid.Ā
B. How does this corroborate Matthew 5:7?
We are blessed when we give without pretense.
C. How does Gretta, in the illustration above, live this out?
Gretta invites those to dinner who may not be able to reciprocate her invitation.
D. Do you? If so, how have you experienced Godās blessing through it?
Sometimes I do; but I mostly stay within the bounds of my own little circle. I will say that when I go out on a limb and have others as guests, I do not expect them to āpay me back.ā I was planning on having dinners this summer for my neighbors, but the toddlers have kept me so busy that I was unable to do so. I met a new neighbor yesterday on our walk who seemed lonely and mentioned having a neighbor dinner on our patio. She brightened up quickly and said she and her husband (both retired) would love to come. I need to figure out when I can make it happen in the next month or so. She and I are very different from each other!
Sounds fun!!
Monday
4. Ā Read Matthew 5:7
A. Ā What does it say?
The Message…āYouāre blessed when you care. Ā At the moment of being ācare-full,ā you find yourselves cared for.ā
B. Ā What two promises do you see?
Blessed or happy and youāll be shown mercy. Ā
5. Ā The Greek word, which Strongās translates as āactive compassionā is used only one other place. Ā Find it in Hebrews 2:17 and share what insight this gives you.ā
Ā Christ is an example of compassion in action. Ā He became like us so He could be our merciful and faithful High Priest before God. Ā He became the ultimate sacrifice for our sins! Ā
6. Ā Read Luke 14:12-14
A. Ā What does Jesus tell us to do?
Donāt invite people who are friends, relatives or rich for theyāll invite you back and youāve gotten your reward. Ā Invite the poor, crippled, lame and blind who canāt pay you back and God will reward you at the resurrection of the righteous.
B. Ā How does this corroborate Matthew 5:7?
We shouldnāt be merciful expecting to receive mercy or anything in return but rather show mercy with the attitude of the four previous Beatitudes and it will be God who shows us mercy.
C. Ā How does Gretta, in the illustration above, live this out? Ā
She chose to show mercy with the right attitude.
D. Ā Do you? Ā If so, how have you experienced Godās blessing through it?
I have much to improve on, but it does bring joy.
7. What similarity do you see between Matthew 5:7 and Matthew 6:14?
In both passages if we do something it is given back to us. We give mercy and then receive it. We give forgiveness and the receive it. Plus, mercy and forgiveness are related too. To be merciful means we extend grace to others when they mess up. To forgive means we give grace when someone does something to us that is not kind. When the toddlers hurt each other we have a ritual (after the time out) where the offender says āIām sorry,ā and the victim says āI forgive you.ā Itās funny because they get mixed up and each ends up saying both statements to each other! They are getting better at learning as they grow, but still make the mistake. Lol.
8. Step 1: Ephesians 4:30
A. From whom do we get āthe momentum,āĀ to forgive?
We get momentum from the Holy Spirit.
B. Why should we fear grieving or quenching the Spirit?
It gives God sorrow (ouch). We are guaranteed being saved on Redemption day.
9. Step 2: Ephesians 4:31
A. What are we to get rid of?
We are to rid ourselves of bitterness, harsh words, slander, rage, anger and any evil behavior.
B. What does malice mean?
Malice is the intention or desire to do evil.
C. Do you tend to brood over wrongs done to you? What could you do to change this?
I normally donāt do that because itās an energy buster…however, there have been two times in the past year or so I have felt wronged at my work and I have struggled letting it go each time.
I suppose I should pray and remember (speak this to myself) that God loves me and knows the truth.Ā
10. Step 3: Ephesians 4:32
A. How are we to view the one who has hurt us?
We are to be kind and forgiving just as God forgives us.
B. How can compassion aid in our forgiveness?
We remember what itās like to be forgiven by someone.
C. How can remembering Christās forgiveness of us help us to forgive?
We know the feeling we receive when forgiven. We realize that if Christ can forgive then so can we.Ā
Ā Ā Ā Ā Ā 11. Is there anyone you have not forgiven? What steps can you take to forgive?
Probably, but I canāt think of them off the top of my head. I try to move on after being hurt because it is time consuming and an energy buster as well. I try to remember that most of the time people probably donāt mean to hurt me, they are just self absorbed and not thinking straight. I also remember that I have probably been that what at some point as well. Sarahās boyfriend has said some pretty awful things about us, in court, in front of everyone. I suppose I shouldnāt forgive him. But, alas….I do. He is a sad, lonely, pitiful man, who has no one but my daughter. I can see why he would want to hurt someone, in his pain. My husband, on the other hand, cannot forgive. This is painful to me. The hatred is there. I wish I could help him forgive. Iām not sure of the steps though. Maybe for him to realize that God will take care of the boyfriend in time? I donāt think we could look him in the eye and say the words like the toddlers do. We sort of did that at the beginning of the summer when we had them come to the family beach house. We had long conversations with him and then a week later he called us names in court. He has lost his chance with my husband. Iām looking forward to reading what others says about steps.
Laura, your understanding of the boyfriend made me think about this, from Parker Palmerās book Iām reading: āViolence is what happens when we donāt know what else to do with our suffering. Sometimes we aim that violence at ourselves and sometimes at other people.ā
You are in a tough position, not wanting to hate or be unforgiving but also needing to protect yourself and the children.
7. What similarity do you see between Matthew 5:7 and Matthew 6:14?
Matthew 5:7 uses the word “merciful” and 6:14 talks about forgiveness. If you tie these in with how the word merciful is used in the verse in Hebrews, meaning “active compassion” and then it goes on to talk about how Jesus made atonement for our sins (so we could be forgiven), then you could almost use the words “merciful” and “forgiving” interchangeably. And both of these verses say that what you give is what you get in return.
8. Step 1: Ephesians 4:30
A. From whom do we get the “momentum”, to forgive?
From the Holy Spirit.
B. Why should we fear grieving or quenching the Spirit?
This verse doesn’t mention fear, but grieving the Spirit of God. It’s appealing to us, saying why do you want to hurt the One who loves you so much? But other verses talk about if we continue to quench (or not listen to) the Spirit, then our hearts can become hardened so that we don’t hear anymore.
9. Step 2: Ephesians 4:31
A. What are we to get rid of?
We are to get rid of bitterness, rage, anger, brawling, slander, and every form of malice.
B. What does malice mean?
Per Merriam-Webster, malice means “desire to cause pain, injury, or distress to another” and “intent to commit an unlawful act or cause harm without legal justification or excuse”. The synonyms for malice shed light on the “every form of malice”: cattiness, hatefulness, malevolence, maliciousness, meanness, nastiness, spite, spleen, venom, viciousness. And, “malice implies a deep-seated often unexplainable desire to see another suffer.”
C. Do you tend to brood over wrongs done to you? What could you do to change this?
I had a feeling the next question was going to be a personal one-ugh. How I wish I could say “no, never!” But that’s not true. I do tend to brood over wrongs done to me, meaning that I go over and over the situation in my mind, and by doing this, the hurt often grows. If I was left out of something, for example, I feel hurt and rejected and go over and over it and then, start to tear myself apart as to why was I excluded, what is wrong with me…. The one person who hurts me that I will continue to brood over the offense is my husband. The question then becomes, what am I getting out of holding onto it? Once, Dee had it in our study about making a caricature of someone in your mind. Also, from reading Dee’s new book, The Jesus Who Surprises, she talks about how we can’t just “stop it”, referring to a besetting sin. The only way to begin to change my mindset is to get to the root of the problem, the “sin beneath the sin”. Maybe it’s power/control? That by brooding over it, I’m being the judge and deciding how I will make this person pay? Maybe by me being cold and withdrawn, for example. What if I also got a mental picture of God, grieving over what my sin is doing to me and to my relationships? And I sure don’t want all of those descriptions of malice to be true of me, but when I give full reign to unforgivenss, I can be nasty and mean and want to see the other person suffer for it.Ā
10. Step 3: Ephesians 4:32
A. How are we to view the one who has hurt us?
I am to view the one who hurts me as God views me, the one who hurt Him, with kindness and compassion, and then He forgave me in Christ.
B. How can compassion aid in our forgiveness?
I think that having compassion for another impresses their humanity on us. To further explain, I think that’s why things can get so heated and ugly on social media, because people post things and then you read through the comments, and it’s shocking how awful they can get. But we are staring at black and white words on a screen, and the person is completely divorced from this. Would we really say the things we type to a person face-to-face? Having compassion also means that I recognize my own sin and blunders in the other person; we are the same, both capable of sinning.
C. How can remembering Christ’s forgiveness of us help us to forgive?
Well, I hope that I will never become so hardened that I could think on how Jesus forgave me and yet refuse to forgive someone. But it’s scary that I could do this, and I think that’s why Jesus told that story of the man who was forgiven that huge debt, and went out and almost immediately explodes in anger at a man who couldn’t pay him back a few dollars and has him thrown in jail. That’s how awful my heart can be. But if I really imagine me and the other person standing side-by-side, both in front of Jesus; is He going to smile and forgive me and then turn away from the other person? No.
11. Is there anyone you have not forgiven? What steps can you take to forgive?
Likely it is my husband. When it’s not a single offense, now and then, but kind of like a “running tab” of offenses, I have let them all add-up. I need to think through these steps, process, and talk to God about this. I’m thinking also of my one sister, who can be nasty and say and do hurtful things, and not apologize for them. I just try to keep my distance from her, but maybe I have unforgiveness towards her as well.
Repeated offenses do make it hard! Heard a sermon this week about when a wall is built up to come on the other side of the wall and look at the situation from the other person’s perspective with the Holy Spirit’s wisdom — am pondering that. The one in my life with repeated offenses is a broken woman, and somehow that helps me. The pastor emphasized spiritual warfare — and so often I forget that. Love you, Susan.
Thatās interesting Dee, to go to the other side of the wall to get a change in perspective. Kind of makes you think about what itās like for them to live on the other side of that wall. Thanks for the encouragement…love you too, Dee!
Thanks, dear Susan.
I can relate to some of this. Thank you for sharing.
8.a. Ā We get our motivation or momentum to forgive from the Holy Spirit.
b. Ā We should fear quenching the Spirit because He is the One sealing us for redemption. He is also our indweller, giving us constant access to God. Why would we rationally want to pour water on that fire?
9.a. Ā We are to get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, brawling and slander, and every form of malice.
b. Ā Malice means ill will, wanting bad to happen to someone else.
c. Ā Do I brood over wrongs done to me? Usually when that starts, I think about how I don’t want to brood, and make a conscious choice to forgive instead.Ā
10.a. Ā We can view the one who hurt us as another that Christ has made forgiveness possible for. Someone no different than me before God. As they say, the ground is level at the foot of the cross.
b and c. Ā When I meditate on how God has forgiven me, His compassion wells up in me for others and makes it easier to forgive.Ā
Love all of this, Mary. Healing words.Ā
Tuesday
7. Ā What similarity do you see between Matthew 5:7 and Matthew 6:14?
Giving of mercy/forgiveness and receiving it in return. Ā I donāt think the two can always be used interchangeably but there are occasions they can be. Ā Showing someone mercy may not always involve forgiveness but forgiveness always involves showing mercy. Ā Either way they are both active compassion.
8. Ā Step 1: Ā Ephesians 4:30
A. Ā From whom do we get āthe momentumā to forgive?
The Holy Spirit
B. Ā Why should we fear grieving or quenching the Spirit?
In looking at this verse in context itās quite evident what will quench/grieve the Spirit and since weāre sealed by the Holy Spirit for the day of redemption, weāre to lay these aside, weāre new creatures and weāre to please Him. Ā If there is no evidence or desire to change, I think we really need to question where we stand before the Lord.Ā
9. Ā Step 2: Ā Ephesians 4:31
A. Ā What are we to get rid of?
All bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as malice.
B. Ā What does malice mean?
Ill-will towards others, desire to injure, depravity, wickedness that isnāt ashamed to break laws, badness in quality, and evil.
C. Ā Do you tend to brood over wrongs done to you? Ā What could you do to change this?
Yes. Ā Instead of brooding (which does me no good) I need to bow my will to His (be meek). Ā Tell Him how I feel and seek His guidance and trust in Him for the best outcome. Ā If only it were that simple…self really has to get out of the way!!
10. Ā Step 3: Ā Ephesians 4:32
A. Ā How are we to view the one who has hurt us?
In kindness, tenderhearted and with forgiveness, just as God through Christ forgave me.
B. Ā How can compassion aid in our forgiveness?
By remembering the compassion Christ showed me by dying on the cross for my sins. Ā If I have an unforgiving heart, how can I expect forgiveness from God? Ā
11. Ā Is there anyone you have not forgiven? Ā What steps can you take to forgive?
I know from past experience that not forgiving someone puts me in a prison of misery. Ā Each day I ask the Lord to show me any unforgiveness I may be harboring in my heart. Ā One thing I have learned is that forgiveness and forgetting are not the same. Ā
Sharon — could you elaborate on why forgiving and forgetting are not the same? Would love your wisdom drawn out here.
There are two sides to this but first of all forgiveness is an attitude of the heart. Ā When someone hurts us, the right thing to do is forgive but I think God give us a mind of remembrance so we can learn from that situation and how we can rightly respond in the future. Ā The other side is that people āthinkā they have forgiven when removed from the person or situation that hurt them, maybe because it doesnāt come to their mind, but the attitude of the heart hasnāt changed.
Read Matthew 5:7.
A. What does it say? Blessed are the merciful for they will be shown mercy
B. What two promises do you see? Happy are the merciful & that they will be shown mercy
5. The Greek word, which Strongās translates as āactive compassionā is used in only one other place. Find it in Hebrews 2:17 and share what insight this gives you. This really sheds light on this! Jesus experienced our humanity yet without sin. He experienced our temptations, what it feels like to be deeply hurt and troubled inside so that He would become more compassionate. Ā
12. Ā Is repentance a requirement for forgiveness? I think for the receiving of it, it is. If I haven’t repented I either don’t think I need it or I turn my back on your forgiveness of me. But I don’t think that your repentance is required for me to offer my forgiveness of you. Christ died for us before we repented, securing forgiveness. But it isn’t ours until we repent and turn to Him.Ā
Strong point that Christ died for us before we repented.
6. Read Luke 14:12-14
A. What does Jesus tell us to do? Don’t merely surround ourselves with people who can give back, but to surround ourselves with those who can’t – The broken, the outcast, the lame, the poor.Ā
B. How does this corroborate Matthew 5:7? We will be most happy when we are extending kindness to others like Jesus extends kindness to us every day-I am poor and lame and broken and can’t give anything back to Him yet He pours out His compassion on me DAILY. I should be always ready to extend kindness to others.Ā
C. How does Gretta, in the illustration above, live this out? She invites them over to her home but more so than just hospitality, she enters into their life with kindness and they hers.Ā
D. Do you? If so, how have you experienced Godās blessing through it? Yes. Through my boys friends at school-some they bring over are struggling with identity, are going through struggles at home, school, etc. It is sweet being able to enter into their lives. It is kind of funny because I think they try to shock us with some of the things they tell us in regard to their opinions about life maybe sticking their toe over the line to see if we still accept them. š
Rebecca–I think you are an incredible picture of one who shows mercy–so thankful for your model!
Lizzy, you too my friend. I miss you! ā¤
Such insight, Rebecca. Sticking their toe over the line to see if you will still accept them.
4. Read Matthew 5:7. A. What does it say?
Blessed are the merciful for they shall receive mercy.
B. What two promises do you see?Ā
We are blessed when we offer mercy to others and we will receive it ourselves from God.Ā
5. The Greek word, which Strongās translates as āactive compassionā is used in only one other place. Find it in Hebrews 2:17 and share what insight this gives you.
Jesus is our example. His becoming like us and giving His life in our place, is the picture of mercy.Ā
6. Read Luke 14:12-14 A. What does Jesus tell us to do?
Show love and compassion for those who are most needy–the poor, the crippled, the lame, the blind, because they can give me nothing in return, so my kindness towards them is not for my own gain, but the Lord will bless this attitude of my heart.Ā
B. How does this corroborate Matthew 5:7?
When we show others mercy, God will show mercy and blessing towards us.Ā
C. How does Gretta, in the illustration above, live this out?
I love how she shows no judgment, no boundaries to who can receive her mercy, her love.Ā
D. Do you? If so, how have you experienced Godās blessing through it?
My nature is to want to be surrounded by those who are most ālike meā, but He has really been working on me in the last few years in that area and I feel my eyes broadening, my heart softening, but I canāt say I see much fruit there yet. Maybe tiny buds in my own little world in showing mercy towards a very difficult family member, but I have a long way to go!
WednesdayĀ
12. Ā Do you agree or disagree? Ā Support your answer scripturally.
In Luke 17:3-4 it says, āSo watch yourselves! Ā If another believer sins, rebuke that person; Ā then if there is repentance, forgive. Ā Even if that person wrongs you seven times a day and each time turns again and asks forgiveness, you must forgive.ā Ā This verse goes along with church discipline spoken of in Matthew 18:15-17,21. Ā I think this is talking about a sin that is a pattern or is habitual. Ā When one person approaches this person about his sin and there is no repentance than he takes 2 or 3 more and still no repentance, than itās brought before the whole church. Ā But if that person does ask for repentance, you forgive, no matter how many times. Ā Now, I do think there are sins that are not habitual that fall under 1 Peter 4:8b, āFor love covers a multitude of sins.ā I believe this is speaking of forgiveness that doesn’t require repentance. Ā I canāt imagine confronting people for every little sin they did against you unintentionally or one time and telling them they need to repent before you can forgive them. Ā Reconciliation will be up to you and if you have truly forgiven….letting it go.
Extremely insightful answer from Sharon!
7. What similarity do you see between Matthew 5:7 and Matthew 6:14?
God blesses our obedience in being like Himāforgiving and showing mercy, by giving us the same forgiveness and mercy.Ā
8. Step 1: Ephesians 4:30
A. From whom do we get āthe momentum,āĀ to forgive?
The Holy Spirit within us gives us the strength and the desire to obey and forgive.Ā
B. Why should we fear grieving or quenching the Spirit?
It breaks Godās heart. He gave us Jesus so that we would follow Him and bring glory to God by our actions and love for one another.Ā
9. Step 2: Ephesians 4:31
A. What are we to get rid of?
āGet rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.ā The word āallā seems to leap out at me!
B. What does malice mean?
ādesire to cause pain, injury, or distress to anotherā ; wanting to make the other person āpayā, having ill will towards them.
C. Do you tend to brood over wrongs done to you? What could you do to change this?
I think I still have a tendency to ābroodā, but the more I ask myselfāāwait, havenāt I done something similar? And arenāt I desperately reliant on the Cross to save me?…ā that truth helps soften my heart.Ā
10. Step 3: Ephesians 4:32
A. How are we to view the one who has hurt us?
āBe kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.ā
B. How can compassion aid in our forgiveness?
This can be hard. Praying for them always changes my heart, but it takes time. I usually start with prayers that they will be convicted of their sin (!), then moves towards asking Him to draw them near to Him, and with 4 different people in my life who have hurt me, Iāve seen Him move me to sincerely pray for Him to bless them. When I consider where they must be inside, how their heart feels and knowing I know how dark it can feel to be caught in sin, I can have compassion, mercy towards them.
C. How can remembering Christās forgiveness of us help us to forgive?
I am desperate for Christās forgiveness and recognizing my own depravity helps me forgive others.Ā
Ā 11. Is there anyone you have not forgiven? What steps can you take to forgive?
I donāt think there is anyone I have not forgiven, but there are a few relationships that I have to regularly remind myself they are forgiven, that their debt was paid by the Cross so I cannot hold it against them if God doesnāt! Things will happen that stir up the pain, and I remember the Cross and mark the debt as forgiven, again.Ā
12. Do you agree or disagree? Support your answer scripturally.
I have spent more time in prayer and looking into this topic over the last 30 years of my life than almost anything I can think of. I think the answer is both yes and no. We are called to forgive. Colossians 3:13: “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”
I donāt think full forgiveness can happen until there is repentance, but on our part we are still to act the same as if that has happened. I believe we are called to have a heart that is in a state of forgiveness, thatās our part. This analogy just came to mind– I picture a statement or a bill of the damages done to me from my offender, and it is my duty to mark that debt as paid in full. I can do this out of mercy, without any action on the offenderās side.Ā However, the full reconciling, restorative act of forgiveness cannot happen unless the offender acknowledges a debt exists, and receives the āstatementā of forgiveness. I believe we are called to show mercy by being ready and willing to offer our forgiveness at the first sign of repentance. Like the Prodigal Father rushing out to meet his repentant son. In his heart, the father had forgiven the son before he returned, but only once he returned could the fullness of forgiveness happen.
I have 3 different people in my life where I am actively living this out. For many years I struggled to get myself āready to forgiveā because none in the offending party has repented or even admitted any wrong doing. But as I prayed daily on these relationships, something changed in the last year. I made every effort to bring restoration and their was no response on their part. But the Lord has granted me great peace in knowing that I did make every effort, and my heart is ready to throw a party at the first sign of repentance. I have marked the debt āpaidā, and I hope to one day be able to show them that and experience the full blessing of restoration that forgiveness brings, but for now, I have mercy towards them and peace in my heart.Ā
Lizzy, I kind of regard you as an expert in this because I know a bit about the things you are referring to here, and how you’ve had to daily, weekly, monthly, and so on live this out. I like how you said this, “my heart is ready to throw a party at the first sign of repentance”, and how your prayers for them brought about mercy and peace in your heart!
Lizzy — interesting. There is a difference between forgiveness and reconciliation.
I can relate to this and I love the way you have worded it. I wrongly carried unforgiveness toward my mom for years. I knew I needed to forgive and reconcile, but it seemed every attempt met a brick wall, which only heaped up more hurt in my heart.Ā
As you say, I should have made every effort to bring restoration. Instead I allowed the hurt to take root and in my bitterness, I put up my own walls.Ā
It is a delicate situation when dealing with family who are hurtful. I didnāt feel I could be at family functions without knowing the elephant was in the room. My mom still says she has nothing to be sorry for. She never actually said it before, though I knew, so that actually hurts more now- but I can see more clearly now that she is truly hurting more than me because she doesnāt have Christ. She has no peace. As you say, now that I have done what I needed to in forgiving her (though some days this act must be repeated) my heart can have peace and I can make every effort towards reconciliation. Her part is now to receive the forgiveness I have offered and make her own acts towards reconciliation.Ā
Happy Happy Birthday Dee!! I hope you are treasured today for YOU are a treasure. I want you to know how you have and are still impacting my life (and I tried to get your gift in early but ran out of time so it will be late.) Please know I love you so and I didn’t forget you!
Generosity/Hospitality: Your hospitality toward me through the years has humbled me and taught me what godly hospitality looks like-that everything is His and when we give to others our time, our homes our treasures we are walking through so many doors of opportunities he gives to love others well. So many “what truly matters” conversations. So many important turnings with house guests have happened at your home as well as hearing from God what to put in your next book! You spurred me on to extend this kind of hospitality to others in my home.Ā
Love: When you respond to us on this blog you don’t do so half heartedly but with thoughtful encouragements or comments letting us know you really listened. It is a gift to be mentored by you here. Oh and you always remember my birthday on time-You love well in other ways too.Ā
Godliness: This is the tops with you. Talk about the Beatitudes! Your humility, your honesty, your turning and walking in faith, your thirst for Jesus-oh-has left an indelible mark on my soul.
Faithfulness: You are one of the most faithful women I know, in your ministry, to your family both earthly and spiritually, and to strangers God brings into your life.Ā I had nothing really to offer you and you saw an administrative gift in me that I didn’t see. You hired me to assist you via God’s leading and in working for you God helped me to develop this gift further. Also, your faithfulness to me as a friend! Even though I am so distracted with my high maintenance needs here at home and not available most times-you always find a way to encourage me and haven’t given up on me-so like Him.Ā
The list could go on!! I love you so much and am so happy God weaved our lives together!
Rebecca, what you wrote here is a beautiful tribute to Dee and I hope everyone takes time to read it!
Thank you dear Rebecca!
Such a friend is a rare gift. I feel privileged to be a part of this blog. Many blessings from it this summer šĀ
Happy Birthday, Dee.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY DEE! Ā I count myself blessed to be a part of your life through our community here. Rebecca wrote about how you open your home and your hospitality and I see our online community here as an extension of that hospitality and openness. I also know that you put a lot of time, study, prayer, and effort into creating these weekly studies for us, as well as participating along with us, reading all of our posts, and taking time to thoughtfully answer and encourage us. I hope you have a wonderful day and receive many, many blessings on your special day! THANK YOU for all you do here, for your wisdom, caring, and mentoring. Love you Dee!
Thank you dear Susan!
Oops..I just answered questions 7-11, edited paragraphs and then entered and it disappeared. That is alright-God really helped me process and brought an area to the surface I need to talk with him about. There are SO many great answers here to minister to us. šĀ Ā
12. Do you agree or disagree? Support your answer scripturally.
I admit that I find the whole topic of forgiveness a bit confusing. Maybe it centers on the definition or meaning of true forgiveness? For example, when that horrible shooting happened at an Amish school in PA, it was reported in the news that members of the Amish community said that they forgave the shooter. What did that mean? That they refused to hate him, or harbor notions of retaliation? I don’t remember that the man asked for forgiveness or said that he was sorry. If true forgiveness means that there is reconciliation between the two parties, and I’m thinking that is the truer meaning because in scripture it talks about how we are reconciled to God through the forgiveness of our sins. I know that we are to forgive as we have been forgiven, but isn’t it true that Jesus’ death on the Cross and atonement for our sins isn’t “applied” to us until we turn to the Lord and ask for forgiveness? Yet in some mysterious way, it is as if God has already forgiven us before we ask; that is the picture of the father in the story of the prodigal sons, that he had forgiven his son before the son returned home. But the son had to come back to the father before they were restored. So maybe what Colin is saying that we shouldn’t go to an unrepentant person and tell them that we forgive them because reconciliation isn’t possible unless they repent? But I believe we can do the “first part” of forgiveness in that we determine that we will not brood over the offense, feeding it and fueling the fires of hatred and bitterness in our hearts. We can love them but a close relationship will not be possible. Dee, I am thinking about the woman who stole your jewelry. What would your response have been had she not ever admitted to taking it, or if she never expressed remorse?
Good question, Susan. I think I would have tried to forgive, but would I have been able to? With the relative who keeps inflicting pain, whenever bad thoughts come to mind, I go to the Throne again and ask for help. I thought both Sharon and Lizzy’s answers insightful. I know He died for me while I was a sinner. And He forgives so many sins I do not even see. So, I feel I should forgive — and only He can help me.
Dee, I can relate to someone who has done that to me and God is doing an amazing work in that person’s heart right now but I find it hard to trust it yet so I am giving it more time. I often go to Leslie Vernick’s counseling videos on facebook for insight along with Lizzy and Sharon here on the blog-they often give me insight too. I am finding forgiving is easy but truly putting them and my thoughts in God’s hands with every encounter is where my control idols come in. I love how you reminded us to go to the throne even with our thoughts..I need help too!
Trust is different depending on how close we are to them-how often we are around them. Can we open ourselves up to them again? Can we trust they won’t hurt us again? That is hard too.
off topic prayer request: My oldest son wants to have a conversation with us soon-doesn’t want to discuss, just wants us to know about him. About his values-how he arrives at them and I am thinking there are other surprises. šĀ He told us last night that in one of his classes in college he is studying Genesis and though he doesn’t believe it, it is interesting how Adam and Eve’s punishments after the fall were related to their roles. So he is reading it and finds it interesting. We taught him line by line when he was young but he didn’t want to read scripture as a teen. Please pray that God would capture his heart as he is reading..something would stand out somehow and that he would put Christians in his life. I am hoping his professor is a Christian.
Prayers for this one, Rebecca — and for your anointing as you dialogue and listen.
Praying for your son. So glad he wants to speak to you and that you are open to listen. I have a friend whoās son is starting his 3rd year in college and is searching to make his faith his own-not just follow what mom and dad taught. Love that these kids are thinking- this is important. Praying your son sees Godās Word is true.Ā
12. Do you agree or disagree? Support your answer scripturally.
I have never heard this before so I am pondering how I feel about it. I guess my first reaction is what does it hurt to forgive someone whether they repent or not? I forgive my daughter for not being compliant with us, understanding she has a low IQ and struggles just living her life. She has not repented nor do I think she ever will. I also think if we donāt forgive then we suffer; we canāt let go and it haunts us. Babies do things āto usā that hurt us, and they donāt repent without us to prompt them (hitting or biting, or something like that). The scripture I found (below) makes it sound as we are to forgive, period. Maybe I have done something that I havenāt repented for (unknowingly…maybe I donāt think it is worthy, but God does), and God forgives me, like it says in scripture. So, Iām inclined to say I disagree with him.
āMake allowance for each otherās faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.ā
āāColossiansā¬ ā3:13ā¬ āNLTā¬ā¬
https://www.bible.com/116/col.3.13.nlt
Great answer with scriptural support.
Your answer resonates with me. When my husband and I had an argument this week, I knew that if I told him I loved him and forgave his anger towards me, we could move on. Iām not sure he understands my viewpoint and we have had difficulty connecting on certain issues. We plan to go to counseling for this in order to sort things out, but I think that we need to forgive each other in order to get to a place where we can understand. If we hold on to our hurts, you are right, we suffer. Besides, how do you truly love someone without forgiveness?Ā
Happy birthday Dee! I appreciate your persistence with the blog, when I know it must be hard at times for you. I love the ways you weave art and music into the studies and accept us as who we are; no judging. Thank you Dee for being you! Have a great day today!
Thanks, dear Laura!
Happy, happy birthday, Dee!Ā
Rebecca wrote such a wonderful tribute to you, and even though I don’t know you personally like that, for the parts that affect the blog I echo her sentiments. Your blog has so filled an empty spot in my life, and I feel such community here. And that is because of how you handle all of us in our diversity. May God encourage your heart with His presence and His continuing to open the Word to you!
Thank you so, Mary!
13. Ā Colin Smith. Mercy is a stepping stone to forgive. Ā
1. Ā God forgives when there is a wrong against Him.
2. Ā He forgives when repentance begins.
3. Ā His forgiveness is tied to the beginning of repentance, but He calls us to love the unrepentant.
4. Ā Atonement has been made, giving us forgiveness. It cost Him a lot. He forgave all sins. Much more than you will ever be called on to forgive. And now His Spirit lives in you, bringing forgiveness. So don’t dwell on the hurts.
5. Ā Have compassion on them, especially if they have no clue. They are blind. Remember that suffering can produce tenderness and compassion.
6. Ā You are in need of forgiveness from others.
7. Ā Savor your own forgiveness. His forgiveness of us is our model and momentum.
Happy birthday sweet Susan!!! Thank you for being so kind and thoughtful. I hope you have a great day today!
Thank you dear Laura!
The pursuit of happiness! Ā Good to search the history of this concept, which goes back to Greek philosophers and was adopted by Enlightenment thinkers. Ā Nevertheless, I appreciate your bringing out the Biblical aspects. As I have been studying freemasonry since graduate school and it’s role in the Enlightenment and on our founders, I really think there is a mixture. Ā I recently have been using a calendar which uses quotes from famous people in history, including our founders. Ā This calendar tells just a snippet of their Christian faith, which often was strong. Ā It is puzzling to me, however, why would they become members of Freemasonry? Ā Many Christians still feel it is just fine to join this ungodly group, which opposes everything Christians believe. Ā Probably it is just ignorance. Ā This is my website if you would like to take a look. Ā As my primary research was about Mexico, it is bilingual. Ā www.crossandcompass.comĀ
I’m proud of my younger sister, for her love for the Word and for all of you, leading you into new truths and helping us all become more Biblically literate! Ā