The pressure to give up God’s plan of one man and one woman for life is enormous.
If you try, you are seen as a bigot.
Instead of Christians being seen as loving others,
we are seen as hating others.
So when the topic comes up, how do we approach this minefield?
First and foremost we are called to be the love of Christ. We must listen with empathy, love with action, and to confess honestly our own brokenness. And in our hearts we must know why we must not turn our backs on God’s plan for one man and one woman for life. This Tuesday I will be on Janet Parshall’s program talking about He Calls You Beautiful.
I suspect, because Janet’s program is often political, and because The Song of Songs exalts God’s plan for marriage, that the subject will come up. I have praying, especially for an answer to the most common question from those who support the gay lifestyle and gay marriage: “Isn’t opposing this the same as being a racist?” I had a huge answer to prayer for this, indeed, a GOD HUNT, this week in listening to the following from Ravi Zacharias.
Because this is such a huge topic today, I would love you to listen to the above and articulate his loving and truthful and powerful answer.
Then this week we will also see how The Song of Songs gives us a positive way to explain why we hold to God’s plan of one man and one woman for life. For The Song shows us the BEAUTY of two who are alike, and yet, so other, becoming one. The Song’s full length mural can be glimpsed quickly in Agur’s Proverb, of how two who are so different can become one, and be more beautiful than either could be alone.
1. What stands out to you from the above and why?
2. After listening to the above from Ravi Zacharias, how would you respond to the statement that we are being like racists when we oppose the practice of homosexuality? (Remember — truth and love!)
Monday-Wednesday Bible Study
For those who would like to listen on Tuesday at 5 Central time to In the Market with Janet Parshall — here is the link to listen live:
Non-Christians may not be able to grasp the mystery of marriage, but believers should be able to at least glimpse this deeper meaning. When God ordained, from the beginning, one man and one woman for life,it foreshadowed a deeper truth.
What is that?
God’s plan was to have two who were alike, yet so other, to become one.
Being alike gives us empathy, and being different stretches us. We are to mature so that we can become one — ideally, in every way: physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
This foreshadows a mystery.
God’s plan was for us to become joined to Christ. He is like us, and yet He is so other. This stretches us, for often we do not understand Him (just as we often do not understand the opposite sex.) We are to mature so that we can become one with Christ. This is a mystery, for as 1 John says: Beloved, we are God’s children now, and what we will be as not yet been made clear, but we know that when we see Him we shall be like Him, for we shall see Him as He is.
The otherness in marriage reflects the otherness in our relationship to God and that fact that one day we will be completely one with One who is so other.
3. Do you have any thoughts or comments on the above?
Before we look at the Song, and why God planned for one man and one woman for life for marriage, we need to go back to Genesis. When God brought Eve to Adam, he broke out into Song.
4. Read Genesis 2:23 and describe Adam’s reaction. Why do you think he felt this way?
5. Read Genesis 2:24
A. “Therefore,” or your translation may say, “For this reason.” What did God say in response to Adam’s reaction? Why, do you think?
B. Challenge question: Remembering that Christ became the second Adam, how and why did Jesus leave His Father and mother?
C. In He Calls You Beautiful, I go into detail on how a mother and a father provide greater protection for children than two mothers or two fathers. Can you think of any reasons for that?
D. Challenge question: Indeed, two who are alike and yet so other, foreshadow the mystery of Christ and His bride. How, do you think?
6. Read Song of Songs 2:2-3.
A. To what is she compared? What do wildflowers do? How can a wife and mother do this?
B. To what is he compared? What do apple trees do? How can a husband and father do this?
C. Challenge question: How can you, as the bride of Christ, provide fragrance and beauty in your world?
D. Challenge question: How can you trust your Bridegroom, Jesus, to be your Provider and Protector? Be specific.
But wait, you say. Doesn’t a gay man feel “At last my love has come along” when he falls for another gay man? Isn’t it cruel to say they cannot marry? This is the minefield — to hold to God’s plan and yet not be unloving. Here is what I have learned:
First: listen with hearing ears and empathize with the pain.
Second: repeat back so they know they have been heard.
Third: Confess your own brokenness. We are all born with disordered desires — and it is a fight to not give into them whether they be greed, selfishness, addiction, same-sex attraction, or jealousy. And Satan lies to us telling us if we do not give in to our disordered desires, we can’t be happy. But the truth, as C. S. Lewis expressed it, is that it is only in dying to self and living to Christ that we have joy.
Fourth: If they are willing to listen, be prepared to show how both ethnicity and sexuality are sacred and to not respect God’s plan for them is to bring heartache. Also, be aware of the lies in the other slogans, such as “a child doesn’t need a mother and a father — just two people who love each other” are wrong. For example, John Stonestreet shows how the highest divorce rate is between gay women, followed by gay men. These rates of break up are even higher than that of co-habiting couples, which are extremely high. Divorce leads to devastation for women and children. Single mothers are the new poor. The evidence is out there that God’s plan is the one that brings life and joy, and man’s plan brings death and misery.
7. What have you learned that might help you articulate the truth in love?
Thursday: The View
World News alerted me to a program on The View — the baker who refused to make a cake to celebrate a gay wedding and his really wonderful lawyer were on. Indeed, they were bullied — with the exception of one voice. But I thought they provided a model of how to behave in the face of bullying to represent Christ well. It’s 11 minutes — and to pray for this case as it is coming to the Supreme Court in the fall and will be very important for our world.
They are trying to hold up religious liberty, but they were not being listened to, for the most part. But there were those in the audience who applauded their viewpoint. And I was so proud of Jack Phillips and his warm, winsome, and wise Christian lawyer. They provide a model of love in a hostile world.
8. How did you see the believers provide a model of love in the face of bullying and hostility?
Friday-Saturday: Wesley Hill
Wesley Hill is an articulate godly man who has same-sex attraction but has chosen, in obedience to God, to live a celibate life. I so hope you will watch this for it will give you empathy, hope, and a reason to hold out joy to all of us who struggle with dis-ordered desires yet long to live for God.
9. Share your notes and comments.
10. What is your take-a-way and why?