SOME OF MY FAVORITE PEOPLE ARE THOSE
WHO HAVE LEARNED HOW TO BE THE HOST IN CONVERSATION.
THEY ARE OTHER-CENTERED.
THEY LISTEN TO UNDERSTAND, NOT TO REPLY.
THEY HAVE MASTERED THE RARE ART OF LISTENING.
WE MUST BECOME “WOMEN OF UNDERSTANDING” WHO KNOW HOW
TO DRAW OUT THE DEEP WATERS OF ANOTHER’S SOUL.
The purposes of a man’s heart is like deep water,
but a man of understanding will draw it out.
WE NEED EARS TO HEAR WHAT IS KEEPING THEM FROM JESUS.
SO OFTEN THE ART OF LISTENING
GOES HAND IN HAND WITH
THE ART OF HOSPITALITY.
JESUS DIDN’T HAVE A HOME,
BUT STILL, HE PRACTICED HOSPITALITY.
AND INVITED PETER TO JOIN HIM.
HE TOLD ZACCHEAUS,
“I’M COMING TO YOUR HOUSE TODAY.”
HE BROKE BREAD WITH THE TWO ON THE ROAD TO EMMAUS
AND THEIR EYES WERE OPENED
WHAT I’VE LEARNED THAT IS GOLDEN,
IS TO INVITE A FRIEND TO LUNCH
WITH THE GOAL OF LISTENING TO HER HEART
DAVID AUGSBERGER SAYS:
INTO MY HOME FOR A SIMPLE MEAL.
(Everyone has a story.)
OR I E-MAIL A FEW SIMPLE QUESTIONS AHEAD OF TIME FOR THEM TO PONDER.
(I’ll share some gems.)
I’VE GOT GAMES READY IN CASE IT FLOPS,
BUT I HAVE YET TO SEE IT TRULY FLOP.
INSTEAD, THERE IS USUALLY LAUGHTER, VULNERABILITY, AND BONDING.
GREAT GRATITUDE IS EXPRESSED WHEN THEY LEAVE.
I REMEMBER ONE MAN TELLING ME,
“This was one of the loveliest evenings I’ve ever experienced.”
Listening is an art.
Few people are good at it.
But in Christ we can be.
1. What stands out to you from the above and why?
Monday-Wednesday Bible Study
We cannot love in our own strength, but when we consider how Christ loved us, our hearts of stone begin to turn to hearts of flesh.
2. In Philippians 2:1, Paul gives four “if’s” to remind us of ways Christ has loved us. Take one of those “if’s” and give an illustration of how Christ has loved you. (This is a bit of a challenge — so I will start and you can follow.)
The 3rd is “any participation in the Spirit.” I’ve been working with my wonderful editor Elisa on my book —
and together, because we both have His Spirit, we are better at honing this book. There is a thrill in sensing
the presence of God guiding us together.
The 4th if is “any affection and sympathy” — It overwhelms me when I sense His “affection” because I am a
woman who repeatedly fails Him, but so often He is the one, because of His affection for me (can it be?)
who helps me out of the very messes i made. He brings to my remembrance where I put the keys I cannot
find, He grants me grace with a friend I hurt…
3. Because of these things, what does Paul ask of us in Philippians 2:2-4?
4. How could you apply verse 4 to the art of listening?
5. What wisdom do you find concerning the art of listening from Proverbs 10:19?
6. What are some ways you might obey Proverbs 20:5 with non-Christians?
A Ted’s Talk and A Conversation Assignment
Though this is a secular talk, and you may need to show grace, I do believe you will be a better listener if you listen to her and share something that stood out to you.
7. What stood out to you and why?
The following is a list of questions that might help you in drawing out others. If I am having people over (for a dinner party or just popcorn or dessert) I will e-mail a couple out ahead of time so they can be thinking about them. Though I don’t say this, they are based on the big story of the Bible: Creation, Fall, Redemption, and Restoration
Creation: Share a childhood memory that played a part in shaping the person you are today
Fall and Redemption: Share a trial you went through and also something you learned from it.
Restoration: What are some hopes you have for the rest of your life?
8. Challenge: We are going to spend two weeks on listening — and this week or next I’d like you to really practice this art with the people in your path and perhaps plan a get together with more planned sharing. Let us know by the end of next week what you have done or at least planned!
9. What is your take-a-way and why?