How do we impact the hearts of those we love?
I loved the scene
The Theory of Everything
which is based on the true story of Stephen Hawking.
Jane Wilde, who believed in God, fell in love with Stephen Hawking, who did not. When she asked him why he didn’t believe, he said cosmologists (scientists studying the origin of the universe) usually didn’t believe in God. She said, “I think that’s a commentary on cosmologists, not on God.”
One night the two of them went outside and looked up in awe at a magnificent night sky.
Reverently she looked up and said:
In the beginning God
created the heaven and the earth.
And the earth was without form, and void; and darkness was
upon the face of the deep.
And the Spirit of God moved upon
the face of the waters.
He reached for her hand.
A fluttering heart response.
It reminded me of when I was a little girl and my dad would take me out under the stars and ask me to ponder how it all began. He was planting in my young soul a sense of awe.
Paul Tripp says this is our calling as parents — to give our children an awe of God. How can we do this as mothers, mentors, and grandmothers?
My daughter Annie and her husband David have taken Paul Tripp’s excellent curriculum
Getting to The Heart of Parenting.
I am impressed with how they are parenting their two little girls. Though I do think God gave them compliant children, still, I am impressed at how respectful, loving, joyful and obedient they are and how their parents talk to them. They have learned — and I’m eager to share what they have learned.
I quizzed them about this curriculum.
David said, “Paul Tripp spent so much time talking about our own hearts — I kept thinking,
Wait, aren’t we supposed to be talking about how to impact our children?”
And then he laughed.
This is where we must begin.
Our own hearts.
May this be our prayer each day this week.
1. What stands out to you from the above and why?
2. Share one way a mentor or a parent impacted your heart.
Monday-Wednesday Bible Study (Luke 6:39-49)
3. Read Luke 6:39-42
A. What is the point in Jesus’ rhetorical question in 39?
B. What is the point of his statement in 40?
C. Have you experienced the truth of the parable of 41-42? If so, share briefly.
I know it is vital as leaders, mentors, and parents to confess to those under our authority when we have failed. One of the most vivid memories from my childhood occurred when my dad was home in bed with a bad cold, and I decided, in my 9-year-old head, to cheer him up by making popcorn for him the way he had taught me. (Not sure why I thought popcorn would appeal to a sick man, but I did.)
I proudly brought it in and gave him one box, and then plopped down next to him with the other and began to eat it very loudly. (My dad, I now realize as an adult, lived with untreated depression and noises bothered him.) I realize today he was trying to tolerate the crunching, but he suddenly blew up and I fled the room in tears and hid in my closet.
He came to me, so repentant. “Deedle — you were trying to love me. You made such good popcorn. And I hurt you. I want to be a better father. Please forgive me.”
Of course I did — and I never forgot this. He grew all the taller in my eyes for seeing the log in his own eye and admitting it.
4. Read Luke 6:43-45.
A. What is the point of this parable?
B. Our mouths reveal what is in our hearts. What are
your most frequent topics of conversation?
Christianity is organic — next week Paul Tripp will explain the difference between fruit stapling (morality) and abiding in the vine.
Before Keller I did not see that the two ways of life continually contrasted in The Sermon on the Mount are not the pagan and the believer, but the religious and the believer. That was huge for me, for we have such a tendency to fall back into self-righteousness, into religion. See if you can see these two ways, religion and the gospel, in this next parable.
5. Read Luke 6:46-49
A. What is the same about the wise and the foolish man?
B. What is the contrast?
C. Where, as you are still before Him, are you hearing but not doing?
Thursday-Friday: Interview with Paul Tripp
This interview is actually on his book, “Dangerous Calling” but the same principles of the heart and maintaining awe are addressed.
6. Share your notes and comments.
7. What is your take-a-way and why?