PETER TELLS BELIEVERS TO SUBMIT TO UNBELIEVERS:
CITIZENS TO GOVERNMENTS,
SLAVES TO MASTERS,
AND
BELIEVING WIVES TO UNBELIEVING HUSBANDS.
Before you protest, remember this is all “relative submission.” You don’t have to submit when the authority goes against God. If you are asked to do something that is clearly wrong, you should refuse. That’s what Corrie ten Boom and Deitrich Bonhoeffer did during Hitler’s holocaust, at the risk of their lives, and they glorified God in doing so. But if the authority over us is not asking us to do something immoral, submitting to them is what we are commanded to do. How can we possibly do that, especially to an unbeliever? Our own Elizabeth put it so well, saying it was even hard for her to submit to her godly husband when they disagreed, and she could not imagine what it must be like to submit to someone who was not praying or seeking God. But she also understood that submission to a human authority under God’s command is really submitting to God and trusting that either the decision will be right, or He will use it for good. That is exactly what Peter teaches by pointing believers in these difficult situations to Christ:
Everyone, whether they choose to be or not, is under God, God can work through them. He Himself says he worked through Cyrus, an unbeliever, to free the Jews. I often marvel at how my friend Linda Strom will submit to an unreasonable prison guard who makes it difficult for us to minister. How? She commits her case to God — and oh, how God has worked through her, bringing thousands, including guards, to Christ!
Our own Susan gave a valiant and golden testimony of how she is submitting to an unbelieving husband:
“There are times that I believe the Lord still works through my husband as he can point out to me my own sin…often I don’t want to hear what he has to say; I want to dismiss him because, after all, he’s not a believer; yet often when I consider what he has told me, I am confronted with the truth of my own sinful behavior. I do believe that the Lord can protect me under the umbrella of my husband’s protection and if I will follow his leadership. We recently had our 25th anniversary, and I prayed about our time together to celebrate. We did enjoy our time together, yet I came to realize in the next few days that there are still problems between us, and I still feel that I am not loved and cherished in the way that I want to be. So the gospel in my marriage, for me, is to tell myself that I must look to Jesus, my Bridegroom, to love and cherish me tenderly so that I can live in my marriage without resenting and punishing my husband for not loving me as Christ does. It is focusing on the good qualities of my husband and continually asking the Lord to remove unforgiveness from my heart. And when I want to cry, “It’s unfair!”, I remember that the only really unfair thing is that Jesus, who was and is perfect and without sin, had to become guilty of all my sin and then was punished for it. He exchanged places with me…a most unfair thing for Him to do. And even though my husband is not a believer, we are both two sinful people living together who desperately need a Savior. What I need the double cure of the gospel to help me with is to be better at apologizing and asking for forgiveness and to model the gospel in my marriage.”
In the passage we will study this week, you will see Peter directs comments to women married to husbands who do not believe the word. John Piper explains that “the word” means the gospel. These are men who have heard the gospel, but still don’t believe. That’s why you don’t need words –they have already heard it. However, don’t be legalistic about this — you can talk. But the best way to do it is to let your behavior provoke questions, and then answer as Peter advises:
When my dear friend Lee Petno came to Christ in an evangelistic Bible study, she didn’t say a word to her husband, taking this very literally. But he saw the change in her. She had a flat tire at my house one day and Vince came to rescue her. The first thing this tall Italian cardiologist asked me was, “Are you the one who is responsible for the change in my wife?”
I laughed. “No, that would be Jesus.” Within a year, Vince responded to Christ.
That was 38 years ago. Vince and Lee raised their three children to know the Lord. Vince spoke beautifully at my husband’s funeral. Vince and Lee travel to Haiti frequently on medical mission trips, as do their grown children. Lee is quick to point out their sinful natures still and continue to rise and need to be subdued and they are in process. Yet I look at my friend’s marriage and praise God. I know this story can bring pain to women who have prayed and waited for decades, but I don’t want you to give up hope of what God can do through a woman with a gentle and quiet spirit. He may change your husband, he may change you — but faithfulness is pleasing to Him whatever the results.
And if you are single, do not be deceived and marry an unbeliever. (And Tim Keller would say that you should not just be concerned that he or she is a believer, but a strong one!) Speak up, stand up, and back up if you must. I want to close with a story I just heard from my friend Marsella, who is a neighbor for whom I am so thankful. She was a student at Baylor and assumed everyone at Baylor was a Christian. She fell hard for a young man at Baylor and was dating him seriously when she came to realize that he really wasn’t a believer. She said, “I have to break up with you because you aren’t a believer.” And she did.
Years later after Marsella was happily married to a wonderful man, a godly man — that young man from her Baylor days called her and told her he had responded to Christ. “I knew,” he said, “how much you liked me. So for you to do what you did made me begin to ponder the reality of God.”
Our God is an awesome God.
Sunday Icebreaker:
1. What stood out to you from the above and why?
Monday-Wednesday Bible Study
Prepare your heart with Steve’s Green song (from his series to help kids memorize) on 1 Peter 2:9.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uFgOOKrtJ1Q
2. See the context of 1 Peter 3 by summarizing the commands below:
A. According to 1 Peter 1:1 and 1:6-7, to whom was Peter writing and what were they facing?
B. What command is given and why in 1 Peter 2:11-12?
C. To whom are we to submit and why according to 1 Peter 2: 13-17? How does this apply to you though you may often disagree with our government leaders?
D. What command is given in 1 Peter 2:18-20? What fruit will this bear? Slavery in biblical days was voluntary — people sold themselves for a limited period to pay off debts. It was not like the horror of American slavery which was involuntary and racial.) How might you honor this if you are employed by someone?
E. What supreme example are we all given in 1 Peter 2:21-24. Find everything you can.
3. Read 1 Peter 3:1-6
A. What is the first word or phrase in verse 1? To what does this refer?
B. What kind of conduct is winsome according to verse 2? Give an example of what this might look like.
C. According to 1 Peter 3:3-4, what makes a woman beautiful in God’s sight? How could you apply this?
D. There were times when Sarah was too submissive, and times she was not submissive enough — yet her general attitude of respect is commended. Piper says emphasizes that she called him “lord” with a small l — like calling him “sir.” How might you apply this in situations where someone is in authority over you?
4. Read 1 Peter 3:7
A. With what same word or phrase (as in verse 1 to wives) does Peter begin his instructions to husbands? To what example is he referring?
B. “Weaker” has been interpreted to mean physically weaker (which is often true) or vulnerable in that she has been asked to submit to his authority. I think that makes more sense in context. What do you think and why?
C. What will happen to men who take advantage of their position of strength?
5. Read 1 Peter 3:8-17 with a teachable heart and then pray it for yourself.
Thursday-Friday Sermon
I think this is an excellent sermon by Piper. While he is more conservative than I on “the roles” of men and women in marriage and the church, I really loved this message! Please listen and share your notes or comments.
http://www.desiringgod.org/sermons/women-of-valor-for-non-promise-keepers
6. What notes or comments do you have?
Saturday
7. What is your take-a-way and why?
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One thing that really stands out here this morning are Susan’s words, “when I want to cry, ‘It’s unfair!’, I remember that the only really unfair thing is that Jesus, who was and is perfect and without sin, had to become guilty of all my sin and then was punished for it. He exchanged places with me…a most unfair thing for Him to do.”
I am in a very fragile place this morning and have shared a detailed request for prayer on our facebook prayer page. Please would you pray for my son Mark. Thank you.
Oh Nila – praying for Mark right now. Will check out FB.
Checked out FB and prayed, Nila.
Nila, I’m not on FB, but God knows all the details and I will pray for Mark.
Dee – now you’re getting right into the thick of things….as we used to say, where the rubber meets the road! I remember when Susan shared the comment above a few weeks ago – it truly is golden and I don’t think her take on life with an unbelieving husband could be stated any better! The whole scriptural idea that, in the whole wide world, God continues to work his will – even through unbelievers!! He is a very BIG God!! 🙂 I really look forward to this week and going deeper into submission to this incredible God.
I’m also thankful for your warning to our single sisters……..don’t even THINK about marrying an unbeliever! And, almost as importantly, what Tim Keller advises – a STRONG believer!! Over the years I’ve known several sisters who have married men who have “prayed the prayer”…… and then in the years to come have had very little to no interest whatsoever in Jesus, His Word and His body……..heartbreaking.
Thanks, Jackie. Yes, we have a very BIG God. We tend to forget that! Also appreciated that testimony about marrying someone who “prayed the prayer.”
I am encouraged by Elizabeth’s honest sharing that, even though she is married to a godly man, she still may have difficulty submitting to him when they disagree. That cuts right to the heart of the matter; we all have a sinful bent to want our own way. I know there is a seed of rebellion in my own heart – against my husband, against God. And I needed to hear my own words talking to myself this morning, as just two days ago, I had the same old argument with my husband (condensed – why he doesn’t interact more with my daughter and me instead of retreating to the den and the TV). His response wasn’t what I hoped for, and I was surprised that my first reaction was anger – toward God. “It’s not fair, Lord!”
I am often disheartened by testimonies like Lee and Vince’s. He noticed the change in his wife and responded positively. I feel that either I am unchanged; as in not maturing spiritually as I should, or still a “grumpy, grouchy Christian”. My husband’s reactions to me over the years, in regards to my faith, have been to say things like, “You’re over-the-top…you’re one of those people who would drink the Kool-Aid…why do you always have to bring God into this…”
Susan – amen to every word Dee shared with you. I am in your shoes too. It really is ok. This is in God’s hands. We really are free to follow Jesus and bring our frets, our sorrows, our fears…..and all the rest to Him. Every day He’s calling our name…..”Come to me……” You are SUCH an encourager to so many of us here (I’ve noticed especially how your tender words to Joyce always seem to be “just right”)……..now let yourself bask in the encouragement and prayers of others! 🙂
Jackie, I also admire you for your perseverance in your difficult marriage. You share so honestly here and have given so much insight and wisdom into “the stuff of daily life”…how to practically live out your faith day by day.
Susan, it really makes me sad that you keep hearing those hurtful words from your husband. I can’t imagine the disappointment over so many years. (My sadness over my oldest children not following God is draining and that has only been half of the years that you have anguished over your husband’s lack of faith…so I am trying to relate to how heavy that burden must be). Dee’s and Jackie’s words to you are so tender and so true. You are such a gentle and sweet encourager here. I read every word you write, knowing that their is wisdom to be found in them. I reiterate Dee’s thought, in that it isn’t a promise that a husband will come to the Lord when he sees God through his wife…..just as ‘train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it’ is not a promise. God’s Spirit blows where it will. And what impresses me so much with you and Jackie too, is that you remain so steadfast and the Lord is abundantly evident in your lives. Yet, I understand the discouragement that still comes. You are in my heart and prayers.
Thank you, Wanda. You have such a tender heart…I am always inspired by how you are a good friend, like to your friend Steve, who just passed away recently. You make time to be with them and to listen, and you share their burdens.
Oh sweet Susan–I can attest that you are “unchanged; as in not maturing spiritually as I should, or still a “grumpy, grouchy Christian””! I am continually challenged by your faithful example–you have so many darts at you, and more than just your husband’s, and yet–you remain, firmly planted. It amazes me that you have never allowed your circumstances to keep you from your love for the Lord. THAT is, as Diane said of your testimony “pure gold”. Keeping you in prayers my dear friend and sister~
I thought of how Lee and Vince’s testimony can bring pain — and I thought of you even as I wrote it. It is hard that it isn’t a promise but the words “may or might” are a hope. And sometimes when the road has been so long, and the resistance so steady and mocking, we give up hope. Yet as Jackie said, our God is a BIG God and we, your sisters, can call out to that BIG God that he would woo your husband, open his eyes — for right now he is a dead man — and no one can bring life to a dead man except the Spirit of the living God. No words will convince — they will be folly. Not even steady submission can bring life to a dead man, though if His Spirit opens His eyes, it might. And since only the Spirit can open eyes — for you, dear sister, and for your husband, we pray. May we pray this week for our sisters walking this hard road — on our knees.
Yes. Praying for you Susan. And all the blog sisters as we seek Him.
Amen to Dee’s words to Susan, Jackie, Joyce and others. Our God is a BIG God who can even make dead bones to live, but living with an unbelieving husband is a HARD road and we pray for you. I have a friend whose husband’s unbelief has pulled her down to the point that she has stopped coming to church and being in Christian fellowship now. I know there are many others in this situation. How my heart aches for them!
1. What stood out to you from the above and why? Susan’s testimony, all of it, but especially this:
To look to Christ first as my ultimate husband regardless of my earthly husband’s beliefs or actions, not my “supplemental husband. To go to Him first to fill my cup instead of going to Him second to top off what I did not get from earthly people. To love God for God and not what I can get from Him but to be glad in the love/gifts already given!
That is a wonderful visual for a principal I know I need to master. (Sorry for formatting. I didn’t know how to edit it and get the quote in the right place)
1. What stood out to you from the above and why? There isn’t any part of this well written introduction that doesn’t stand out to me! Every story and example speaks so deeply of hearts that are thirsting for the Living God. And of fruit that comes from obedience. I remember when Susan wrote those words but this morning, I read them over twice because there is such profound truth in them. I see that Nila already highlighted these sentences but I will share them again:
These words humble me. They are the essence of the gospel and apply to every inequitable situation we face in this life. Susan wrote them from inside a reality that has not been an easy one for her, but one in which she has been the sweet aroma of Christ to her family and to those around her. These are exactly the words I need when I look at things in my life that weigh me down with feelings of unfairness.
I also love the testimony of Vince and Lee and it reminds me that God uses many ways to bring people to Himself. There isn’t a formulaic way in which God’s Spirit works. It seems that Vince’s heart was just ready to see the changes in Lee which created a thirst for God immediately. I wish this happened in every situation but it doesn’t. In this case, apparently the seed fell on ground that was just ready to receive it.
Marsella’s story made me smile because I have a similar one of breaking up with someone who wasn’t a believer. He told me years later that he now knew the Lord and in his words, that it had all ‘started with me’. It really started with the Spirit! I was very young and I cringe at my many mistakes, but I do know my heart longed for God.
And the bleeding heart photo is stunning! The sun that causes the white part to glow makes a memorable visual of honoring Christ in our hearts.
Perfect quote from the Bonhoeffer book, Diane.
1. What stood out to you from the above and why?
Susan’s testimony is pure gold. I value her testimony of perseverance under such difficult circumstances. Also, Linda Strom, who submits to disagreeable guards, is trusting the work with prisoners to the Lord under difficult circumstances and God blesses her trust. I have been slowly making my way through Metaxas’ biography of Dietrich Bonhoeffer for the last month. What an incredible testimony of gracious submission to unbelievers whenever possible and yet active resistance of evil when necessary. Here’s a short quote from a fellow prisoner during the last months of his imprisonment when things were quite hard.
He stood focused on God during many months of imprisonment under very trying circumstances. Ultimately, he gave his life for his faith. It reminds me of this verse:
Jude 1:24 English Standard Version (ESV)
Now to him who is able to keep you from stumbling and to present you blameless before the presence of his glory with great joy,
Diane, I am working through Metaxas biography of Bonhoeffer, too. Really, really enjoying it…lots of deep thought and conviction.
Yes, Bonhoeffer’s biography by Metaxas was excellent. I need to revisit it in light of our discussion here this week. I’ve been absent with my response in the study, needing to be here in Wyoming with my dad. Alzheimers raging on as we need to make some hard decisions about his living situation.
Nila – I just now read your words here…..oh my. I have been wondering so much about Mark and how he’s doing – and here you are needing to deal with such a tough thing with your dad. Some seasons of life there’s just not much “let up” …..the hits keep coming! So thankful you are here on this blog and hope you are finding encouragement regularly from many of the women here! Hang on Nila…..just like we are learning in our study this week: we’re all sojourners and exiles…..but better days are coming!
Nila – my goodness, I thought it was already the 17th! That’s why I said I “just now” read your post!! 🙂 ah well…..that kind of week I guess……
My heart goes out to you, Nila, about your dad. My mom also has Alzheimer’s. I will pray for you and your family as you face these hard decisions.
Nila, I’m praying for you as you deal with difficult decisions regarding your dad. Alzheimers is a devastating disease for families.
1. What stood out to you from the above and why?
OH HOW THESE TESTIMONIES PROCLAIM HIS POWER! Our sermon today–on true worship. The chief end of man–created to glorify God and enjoy Him forever–how I see it here in these stories! When Susan told me she had prayed about how to honor her husband on their anniversary–I was so humbled by her submissive, teachable heart. Her entire testimony here, just brought tears–because I know her heart, how deeply she has been hurt and yet how deeply she loves her Lord. Then hearing these stories of Vince and Lee, Marsella–I just feel emotionally overwhelmed by God’s mercy and power. We are created for Him, and as Piper says “God is most glorified in us when we are most satisfied in Him”. His glory shines in these testimonies here–so encouraging in whatever circumstances we are each in, to remember His power, His mercy, His Holy love that knows no boundaries.
You always make me want to go to your church, Elizabeth!
1. What stood out to you from the above and why?
First, the context of this study. Dee, I’m so thankful for last week’s study and that abuse was covered first.
The last sentence of the intro: “Our God is an awesome God.” I’ve been functioning on “high alert” (can’t think of the right terms!) for over a week, and I’m not sure that I am absorbing a lot of what is going on around me. I breathed a big sigh of relief when I read this sentence. Knowing who God is and acknowledging his love for me relaxes me — but that isn’t (the ultimate) WHY I focus on him. When I recognize that my life is about honoring him, that everything is about his glory, my struggles are put in perspective. HE IS GOD and deserves the glory. He is in control; I (very obviously) am not.
Just thought of Psalm 37. I’ll be reading it a lot this week. The first verses:
Renee — I hadn’t actually thought of the importance of covering abuse first, but obviously the Lord did! May He be with you in these challenging circumstances.
Elizabeth, Susan, and then Vince and Lee’s testimony stood out. I agree with Elizabeth-beautiful testimonies of His Redeeming Power!
This morning a new gal at church assisted me in my 5th grade class. She had such a sweet spirit, and God used Elizabeth’s testimony with her in a conversation we had about submitting to our husbands as submitting to the Lord when we disagree. It was sweet how God opened that door.
I thought of Susan’s testimony throughout the day today and savored how her life is a true testimony of His long suffering and patience. She is truly walking with Him in her valley of suffering…her heart is so tender. I have loved that about her-well and not to mention her sweet, quiet spirit-precious in the sight of God. 🙂
Also..must mention being reminded of 1 Peter 2:23..my heart melted. Why did Jesus not desire to hurt those who hurt Him, or get revenge on those who made him suffer? He committed himself to Him who judges righteously. Then reinforced by Linda Strom’s testimony..Oh my..that stuck out too..She committed her case to God-and look at how He fanned the flames!
I guess this just stuck with me because I am weak in this area and this SO encouraged me.
Rebecca, Glad you mentioned I Peter 2:23. I was just about to mention it 😉 That jumped out at me when I was scrolling through the intro again. So often the verses that are on images stand out to me more when I am reading on my laptop than when I am reading on my cell phone. Increased awareness of my pain and the darkness of my heart and also magnifies my awareness of the power of the Word of God — and how God works through his Word to restore me.
Renee, Yes indeed! Isn’t it amazing how we can spend 20 plus years meditating on passages like this and 10 years later He quickens us anew and we go..Oh..wow how come I didn’t see that all these years-it is right there! Isn’t it amazing He wants you and me to experience the beauty of having intimacy with Him and breathing Him in in His Word? This still blows me away.
Hi friends, just wanted to let you know I am still around, just no time after campus ministry things and mom of volleyball player things! This is a wonderful topic! So hard for many of us strong women to have a quiet, gentle spirit. My prayer is that I grow more gracefully submissive with each passing year 🙂 just wanted to send my love to you all!
Good to “see” you Cyndi!
Cyndi – thanks! Great words of encouragement……Your testimony about your marraige that you shared several weeks back makes it clear that God has set your feet upon a path that He is blessing. “Gracefully submissive” – that’s a lovely phrase.
A. According to 1 Peter 1:1 and 1:6-7, to whom was Peter writing and what were they facing?To whom: “elect exiles of the Dispersion…” These were Jews who had been scattered in several locations (parallel to believers living in a world that is not our Home??). I was encouraged by vs 2, “according to the foreknowledge of God the Father,” as well as the whole Trinity. What they were facing: trials/suffering (temporary, “for a little while” — but it probably seemed plenty long to those who were suffering)
B. What command is given and why in 1 Peter 2:11-12? What? to abstain from sin Why? so that others will glorify God. Vs. 11 (ESV) says “to abstain from the passions of the flesh, which wage war against your soul.” Another reason to abstain from sin (if I am reading this right) is because sin hurts US.
A. According to 1 Peter 1:1 and 1:6-7, to whom was Peter writing and what were they facing?
Peter was writing to Gods elect exiles; those who were scattered everywhere. They have suffered trials, and though perserverence through the trials can be assured that God knew the strength of their faith.
B. What command is given and why in 1 Peter 2:11-12?
He tells them to live good lives even when accused of wrongdoing. He says others will notice the good behaviors and glorify God ultimately.
C. To whom are we to submit and why according to 1 Peter 2: 13-17? How does this apply to you though you may often disagree with our government leaders?
We are supposed to submit to every human authority….ouch, I may have had trouble with this one! Your actions will make believers of those who don’t believe. They will know you are in potential disagreement, but are watching you follow along in respect of the authority.
Well, recently I have had trouble with the authority at school. They don’t know this; I have quietly boiled. My husband knows, and one good friend or so, but for the most part I have kept quiet. I’m not sure I like this “new me,” but for some reason I am just being compliant to keep the peace. I think it is because I just want to get the next 5 years done so I can retire in good standing; not a great reason, just about me.
If I extend this to my government, I may have trouble. How can I sit quietly by while innocent victims are beheaded? Shouldn’t someone stand up for them? How can their families be told that they shouldn’t have tried to raise money to save their children, and they may be prosecuted because of their actions? I haven’t done anything about it, but if a discussion of this ensues, I feel I must speak out. If you don’t say something, then people think you are in agreement with them. This is hard, and only one example! There are so many others, and someone has to protect the American idea (I believe she is God breathed through our founding fathers) if the government won’t, it’s citizens must. This is a difficult discussion for me; I am passionate. Please forgive if I offend; I am trying to remember that our right to vote can be our quiet disagreement. I also pray for our leaders at times. I have recently prayed for our world as well. I suppose if I try to follow the scripture, then I will need to support what our leaders feel is a good strategic plan of action even if I think it is too little too late.
Laura — good questions! Submitting to unbelievers is always relative, for God is above them. If my government or unbelieving spouse wants me to support immorality, I must resist. That’s what you see Peter and Paul doing in Acts. We are to stand up for the defenseless, even though it may mean our lives, as Bonhoeffer did.
Laura, you raise good points in your last paragraph and that you know what is going on in our country, with our leaders, and current events around the world is commendable. I can tend to be concerned only with my own little circle…family, neighbors, friends.
2. See the context of 1 Peter 3 by summarizing the commands below:
A. According to 1 Peter 1:1 and 1:6-7, to whom was Peter writing and what were they facing?
This is written to believers who were facing intense persecution. I would imagine they were under great pressure all around them to submit to their desire for retribution.
B. What command is given and why in 1 Peter 2:11-12?
To abstain from sinful desires. Perhaps this means instead of lashing out at injustice they are to commit their cause to God and show respect to the Pagans? When pagans wrongly accuse them he is encouraging them to abstain from the sinful desire to get back at them and rather to commit their cause to God and trust God with them-then God will be glorified. It isn’t natural to submit under persecution. His light will shine through them.
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Good, Rebecca, for your B. See also 1 Peter 3:15-17.
Dee-Oh yes..1 Peter 3:15-17! :)) Yes..to submit to those who hurl insults at us in gentleness and respect out of our reverence and submission to God..like Jesus did in 1 Peter 2:23.
2. See the context of 1 Peter 3 by summarizing the commands below:
A. According to 1 Peter 1:1 and 1:6-7, to whom was Peter writing and what were they facing?
Peter is writing to believers, God’s elect, scattered throughout many lands, and whom were facing persecution for their faith. They were suffering grief in all kinds of trials.
B. What command is given and why in 1 Peter 2:11-12?
Peter knows that even in believers, there is an internal war between our flesh and the Spirit. He knows we still have sinful desires, and tells us to abstain from them. Do this so that unbelievers may see your good deeds, even though they may accuse you of doing wrong. Your good deeds will defeat their accusations. Then you can point them to God.
C. To whom are we to submit and why, according to 1 Peter 2:13-17? How does this apply to you though you may often disagree with our government leaders?
We are to submit to every authority instituted among men. From the President down to our local authorities. That means that even if I disagree with their decisions, I am to obey the law. I can pray for their hearts and minds to be changed but it is never right to commit acts of violence against our leaders.
D. What command is given in 1 Peter 2:18-20? What fruit will this bear? Slavery in biblical days was voluntary – people sold themselves for a limited period to pay off debts. It was not like the horror of American slavery which was involuntary and racial. How might you honor this if you are employed by someone?
The command is for slaves to submit respectfully to their masters, whether the master is kind and considerate or harsh. It will bear the fruit of pointing others to God; it is commendable for the slave to suffer and bear it, continuing to do good though being mistreated. I am not in the position of being employed by a harsh “master”. But if I was, according to God’s Word, I must do good to my unreasonable and harsh employer. It would never be right to undermine my boss or to do sly and dishonest things to try and get back at him or her. I am employed by a hospital. There are times I do not like the policies and being understaffed. It would not be right of me to think, “I’m tired of being over-worked. I’m going to take a two hour break, even though I’m not entitled to it…they can pay me for just sitting around.”
E. What supreme example are we all given in 1 Peter 2:21-24. Find everything you can.
Our supreme example is the way Christ suffered for us. He Himself left us an example. While He suffered, He did not sin…He was not deceitful…He did not retaliate when insulted…while suffering He made no threats of revenge…He entrusted Himself to His Father as the Just Judge of all men. We can die to sin, like the sinful desire to retaliate when hurt, because Jesus bore our sins in His own body – that’s the “double cure” of the gospel, releasing us from the power of sin.
As Dee has taught us here, the Bible is not a book of rules that we strive to follow. It is about Jesus and what He has done. I used to read this example and think, okay, I have to do just as Jesus did. But that is impossible for me to do. I may do it right one day and fail miserable the next. I think the point of reading about how Jesus suffered for us is for His love and sacrifice on our behalf to melt our hearts, making them tender towards Him and those who hurt us.
Susan, I smiled when I read “It would not be right of me to think, ‘I’m tired of being over-worked. I’m going to take a two hour break, even though I’m not entitled to it…they can pay me for just sitting around.'” I can’t even imagine a nurse in a hospital sitting around for two hours. It seems like policy IS understaffing.
Such a good and encouraging last paragraph — about His work in us, rather than trying to muster up a sympathetic attitude of my own.
Amen to all, Sister!
2. See the context of 1 Peter 3 by summarizing the commands below:
A. According to 1 Peter 1:1 and 1:6-7, to whom was Peter writing and what were they facing?
Peter was writing to believers scattered in various areas under going great trials, persecution, suffering.
B. What command is given and why in 1 Peter 2:11-12?
He urges us to “abstain from the passions of the flesh”. I think of Paul in Romans 13:14 “But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires.”
This is both for our own good—the “war against your soul”, but I think primarily, for the Gospel—that we “walk in a manner worthy of the calling to which you have been called,” (Eph 4:1)/. We are His ambassadors, we are to reflect the truth, the beauty of the Gospel. He has just said in the previous verses, we are “a chosen race…a people for His own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of Him who called you out of darkness into His marvelous light.” We have the great privilege of being formed in His image, but with that, the great responsibility to represent Him. I remember an old Young Life song in high school—about our lives being the only Bible some will ever read. Convicting!
C. To whom are we to submit and why according to 1 Peter 2: 13-17? How does this apply to you though you may often disagree with our government leaders?
“Be subject…to every human institution”—“for the Lord’s sake”. Our behavior as Christians should be above reproach. Our actions should silence any slanderers. We are to live “free” from the power of sin, but not use our freedom as a license to serve ourselves. I am to honor everyone. Wow. I do struggle with this more than I’d like to admit. It is very difficult to watch those in power abuse it. Yet, I know the Lord is greater. I know this is His battle. He has ultimately won—and will one day have the final word. What an indescribable blessing to be on His side!
D. What command is given in 1 Peter 2:18-20? What fruit will this bear? Slavery in biblical days was voluntary — people sold themselves for a limited period to pay off debts. It was not like the horror of American slavery which was involuntary and racial.) How might you honor this if you are employed by someone?
I am to respect all those in authority over me—including the unjust. If I have to suffer for doing good, it is a “gracious thing” in God’s sight. I am being like Christ. I have mostly been very spoiled, and have mostly worked in a Christian environment–though I did have a very harsh boss many years ago–I was young and fearful, I swallowed much, really more out of fear than the Gospel. But I remember finding out later that another (higher up) employee had stood up for me in one instance against this person–that was a great example to me of standing up for truth in an honorable way.
E. What supreme example are we all given in 1 Peter 2:21-24. Find everything you can.
As a Christian, I am chosen, called by God, to follow Christ’s example. Christ suffered FOR ME. He committed no sin, spoke no lies–He never uttered anything but Truth. And when He was accused, reviled, He did not repay with evil, He did not threaten. Instead, He trusted God—trusted in the One who judges fairly. And because it was the will of His Father, because He loved God, and so loved me–He bore my sins Himself, on the Cross. He took my deserved beatings, my insults, my punishment. He stood as my Advocate—so that I would turn away from sin, no longer be in its grip, and live in His righteousness. Because of Him, His wounds, I am healed.
1 John 3:16 “By this we know love, that he laid down his life for us, and we ought to lay down our lives for the brothers.”
1. What stood out to you from the above and why?
For me, hands down, it was Susan’s testimony that stood out–especially the part that said “And even though my husband is not a believer, we are both two sinful people living together who desperately need a Savior. What I need the double cure of the gospel to help me with is to be better at apologizing and asking for forgiveness and to model the gospel in my marriage.”
It occurred to me that even someone with a believer for a spouse could still say that. In fact, it would be very appropriate to say that.
Monday-Wednesday Bible Study
Prepare your heart with Steve’s Green song (from his series to help kids memorize) on 1 Peter 2:9 I love this song, and all I could think of was how wonderful it would be to lead a group of children in singing the song as he was — enriching all those young lives. I was just about an inch away from goosebumps!
2. See the context of 1 Peter 3 by summarizing the commands below:
A. According to 1 Peter 1:1 and 1:6-7, to whom was Peter writing and what were they facing?
Peter was writing to those who had been Jews and had converted to Christianity. They were going to be falling under persecution. We know the Romans under Emperor Nero persecuted the Jewish Christians, but they also probably were persecuted by those Jews who did not convert to Christianity, and in addition may have been disowned by their own families.
B. What command is given and why in 1 Peter 2:11-12?
He commanded them to abstain from sinful desires (don’t give into temptation), and live such good lives as to be a testimony for Christ. He was encouraging them because he knew that if a person lives above reproach, even people who would normally be hostile would be impressed, and possibly might end up praising God.
C. To whom are we to submit and why according to 1 Peter 2: 13-17? How does this apply to you though you may often disagree with our government leaders?
He was telling them to submit to all types of governmental authorities, whether it be kings or governors (or even lesser officers). I think he was sort of saying, “Serve them well to the glory of God!” I am basically a law-abiding person. However, sometimes I think some of the rules and regulations are rather impractical. When I am sitting at a stoplight at 3 AM, and there isn’t a car to be seen anywhere — why must I wait for the green light?!! But I do. I feel we should pray for well-being and wisdom for the president, even if it isn’t the one we helped to elect. I really feel that when the election is over, the debate should be over also, and we should all submit and get behind whoever the elected person is.
D. What command is given in 1 Peter 2:18-20? What fruit will this bear? Slavery in biblical days was voluntary — people sold themselves for a limited period to pay off debts. It was not like the horror of American slavery which was involuntary and racial.) How might you honor this if you are employed by someone?
To submit to the slave owner, if they were slaves. The thinking was that the slave owner might be won to Christ by seeing the goodness and loyalty of their Christian slaves. While I admit that there is a difference in this slavery and that prevalent in the U.S during the Civil War, I still don’t think slavery was something that one would desire — it was a matter of last resort in order to be free of debt.
How can we apply this principle in our employment today? Be a team player, return good for evil, be pleasant (refraining from tantrums or manipulation). Trying to demonstrate that you are a Christian in every way.
E. What supreme example are we all given in 1 Peter 2:21-24. Find everything you can.
Jesus was our supreme example. He did not fight back or even talk back when he was arrested or during his trial. He allowed himself to be crucified for our redemption. He submitted totally to God’s will.
Although I think your answer to “C” is correct, my human instinct rises up when I disagree with the decisions made at that level; especially when it hits close to home (affects either me or my family, or someone close to me). For example, my friend who lives along the Texas border is fearful that terrorists are now in our country (Really). I have trouble submitting to the ideas that anyone is allowed to cross the border and come in, no questions asked. Would Jesus have allowed anyone in; yes, probably, but our government has an obligation to protect us, right? We are a sovereign country. We don’t live in a time when borders are fluid As they might have been in Jesus’ time (?) This is where I don’t understand…… Dee says Peter and Paul were saying we are to not submit if it would go against God. My disagreement of the non protection of our borders is not submitting to the government, but I don’t think it would be “against God.” It just doesn’t make common sense to me. So, I don’t feel as if I can’t submit to our leaders when they seemingly lack common sense that protects our citizens. If I don’t speak up, people’s heads might be literally on a stake here in America. I can’t turn a blind eye and pretend Americans weren’t be headed this past month. Wouldn’t Jesus want us to “help our neighbor?” I don’t think He would want us to sit by and allow others to be harmed if we had a chance to save them. So I sit confused and leaning toward my human instinct, not relying on Him (unfortunately). It does show a lack of faith on my part I suppose…..I’m sorry Lord. I should believe You are in total charge. (This is how I always passed the essay tests in school……I started not knowing the answer and then talked myself into the correct answer!) I hope He interferes with this awful situation soon.
Oh wow, Laura….you bring up so MANY things that I’m going to be pondering today! For many years we were face to face with the illegal immigration issue in our business: horse racing. Racing is FILLED with illegal immigrants – though not nearly so much now as back 10 years or so ago……we actually helped out one young illegal extensively…..took him to our tremendous accountant, etc……all in an effort to “come clean” and get on the right track. He ended up going back to Mexico for 2 years – he now is back in the U.S. – LEGALLY!!!!!!! It is just amazing the mercy that has been extended to him – though his circumstances were indeed extenuating……he is just filled with delight to be LEGAL…..of course his working in the U.S. is “provisional”…..and when he came to visit my husband he said “I’m not going to do ANYTHING wrong this time!!!”. Nonetheless, your thoughts are really worth thinking on …….I appreciate so much of what you share, Laura!!!
It sometimes can be hard to know where the line should be drawn…I’m wondering how something like abortion should be understood?…abortion practiced in our country with the support of our government through legal means would be going against God. I see some gray…
Oh yes! This is a good example of what I’m talking about!
Would Deuteronomy 10:19 You are to love those who are aliens, for you yourselves were aliens in Egypt. and Leviticus 19:34 The alien living with you must be treated as one of your native-born. Love him as yourself, for you were aliens in Egypt. I am the LORD your God. be relevant to the question of how God wants us to regard those who come across our borders?
I think these verses have much to say to us, Kerryn……and are often largely ignored by believers in America. I appreciate that there are some Christian groups working hard for Immigration reform and justice. I attended a wedding of a couple who are friends from two different South American countries….both legally in the country and working. The husband had become a citizen by this time, I believe. As the bride went through the entire ceremony and reception radiantly smiling, we did not know until later that her heart was breaking. Her mother, coming to celebrate her daughter’s wedding had been turned back in Miami…..for no other reason but that her last name matched the name of a someone involved in a drug cartel. This is a sweet 65-70 year old woman who had never broken the law in her life……but there was no reasoning or attempt to understand on the part of the homeland security staff….with no rationale, she was put on a plane and returned to Venezuela; falsely accused. I do not believe legislators nor attorneys have been able to clear her to come in to the country since then. I realize that this is one true but anecdotal story…..but it shows that every foreign person coming in has a story and a reason. We need a common sense approach that is just. Somehow, we have to do better. To protect both those inside and those on the outside.
Laura, you make a good point about no easy answers — we want to have compassion, as Jesus would, yet protect from terrorists. I love the Joshua verse, “Lord, we don’t know what to do, but our eyes are upon You.” We can pray that for our leaders — even those who don’t look to Him.
Deanna – I really loved your words of wisdom here (and said more on that below) “I really feel that when the election is over, the debate should be over also. and we should all submit…” I’m really with you on this one!!
I loved Susan’s testomony also. I really admire Susan for standing up for Christ while her husband may be putting him down.
I would have to say my husband is a believer….a secret believer…but he never mentions God or Jesus…unless it’s in a cuss word:( which hurts me to my core. He “Prayed the Prayer” before we got married, as I made it very clear I did not ever want to be “unequally yolked” again.
He must of been leading me on….as the praying and going to church soon faded away. But he says he prays by himself. He will pray before we start on a long trip holding Kendra and my hands and before a Thanksgiving meal. But thats the only times. He’s not a Spirtiual leader at all. And he’s the first one to critisize if I mess up and yell back at him….as he is a very quarrelsome man. He always says “I wish I could get on that bible study of yours… on line and tell them how you really are.” He pushes me to my limits and my tonque is my worst enemy. I do not cuss, but I tell him I wish I had never married him and how he emotionally abuses me. He says I’m crazy. But he belittles me in front of others and yells at me all the time… in front of others too…..telling me to “be still” and” don’t interupe” him….with a furious look on his face. Others have seen it many times and questioned me about him…so I know it’s not just me. He makes fun of me ….like, “Have you looked in the mirror lately’? in front of others. That is why I dropped 50 pounds last years and don’t eat well. He likes to embarress me or put me down. Then he wonders why I never want to sleep with him. My feelings get hurt very easily, but he never wants to talk about why or what wrong. He ignores me if I cry.
He never read the bible either….so maybe he isn’t a christian…I don’t know….only God knows. He gives me no sympathy about my back hurting or caring for Kendra either. But he will help with Kendra and is a good daddy and loves her very much. But all we do is argue. He’s a good, moral man….he doesn’t drink or do anything wrong and he gets all the groceries and does all the errans…but does complain about having to do it tho. So your guess is as good as mine! Is he or isn’t he??
It’s hard living like this, and I just couldn’t unless I had my Lord in my life every moment….Praise God I do! I need Maurice to help me with Kendra….I couldn’t do it myself. I get my pain pump put in Oct. 22nd. I’m praying it will help me. Also I have a couple girls coming in and out helping me with Kendra now….which helps alot. So I’m Praising God for all the good things he provides for me. You sisters mean the world to me and I don’t know what I’d do with this blog and the facebook prayer page….it keeps my mind busy praying for others as my heart goes out to you so much!! I love you all and appreciate what youve done for me and all your prayers so very much.
Joyce, I wish I had words to remove your suffering and pain…my heart hurts for you, friend. I will continue to pray…
I’ll probly be sorry I wrote all that in the morning, but honestly I’m confussed about him myself…..I think he has a problem….but I’m no counselor. I started my local bible study and it’s on “The Prodigal God” study and his Galations study also by Timothy Keller!! That’s why I have been so busy! This week and last weeks here have been so good too and I don’t want to miss one comment! Maurice wonders what is so dang important on that stupid computor! These studies and you women are what keeps me going and sane!!! Thank you Father….I need you desperately!
Joyce – my heart is breaking for you this morning…..and no words of comfort seem to be coming to me that are sufficient for your need. God alone is sufficient for your need. You don’t have a thing to be sorry for in sharing the truth of how hard your marriage can be. Our study over several weeks now has been taking us into difficult Scriptures and causing us to examine hard things. I am not going to comment on whether or not your husband is a believer – how could I know?? But the fruit of his life is causing my heart to tremble. What I can speak to is my own life: I’m married to an unbeliever and he has been emotionally abusive in our marriage. We are currently in the best place we have been for many years – ALL praise to God for His tender mercies!!!!! I do NOT believe we would have been moving in this direction if not for God’s intervention into my own life through several converging people and venues. One simple thing that Leslie Vernick spoke of in the video we viewed last week: “Speak up, Stand up….Back up”. I followed those principles with Casey…..and we are communicating like we haven’t for maybe 10 years!!! 🙂 BUT……Casey knew, without a doubt, that I was ready and willing to BACK UP from him if things didn’t change drastically. I STILL stand ready to back up! Trust takes a LONG TIME to rebuild. But God is more than capable and willing to rebuild…..indeed, our God brings LIFE from DEATH. Nothing is impossible with Him.
Joyce – perhaps you can look at these past week’s studies as God’s great MERCY to your life. He is exposing you to hard Scriptures and good teachers like Leslie Vernick (and Dee always!!) who can truly “get” where you are living and give you God’s hope for a very different kind of future……and you know what? He wants you to be able to minister His grace to OTHERS along the way who are suffering just as you are! “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.” 1 Cor: 1:3&4.
Loving Father, I pray that you will take Joyce into your loving arms and embrace her with knowledge of your love and care for her. Fill her with your wisdom, that every word she speaks will be filtered by your Holy Spirit. Give her strength for all that she must endure, physically and emotionally. I pray that all the difficulties she faces will fade in the glory of her intimate relationship with you as she draws closer to you day by day.
Father, I pray also that you would draw Maurice to yourself, that his love for Joyce may become more like the love of Christ for his church.
Amen to Kerryn’s prayer for you, Joyce. Our hearts ache for you!
Amen.
Laura, you make a good point about no easy answers — we want to have compassion, as Jesus would, yet protect from terrorists. I love the Joshua verse, “Lord, we don’t know what to do, but our eyes are upon You.” We can pray that for our leaders — even those who don’t look to Him.
Father, I lift up JOyce to you. I pray for mercy, for her pain pump to help, for the girls helping to be an enormous help, for the Keller studies to minister to her soul, for Maurice’s heart to turn to you — these all seem to me to be wise, but You know best — and so I surrender Joyce to your loving arms and wisdom.
In Jesus Name
Amen to the above prayers. Joyce, I’m so glad to know that the care attendants for Kendra are working out well. That is something you needed so much. Praying for the pain pump surgery too. Step by step, may the Lord free you from each of your burdens and refresh you. And may He give you peace and strength for each journey.
2C. To whom are we to submit and why according to 1 Peter 2: 13-17? How does this apply to you though you may often disagree with our government leaders?
To every human institution. I think when I memorized it years ago I missed some sweet things that He is showing me now-I memorized v 13-15..BUT look at verse 16 and 17! 🙂 This is quickening me this morning and I want to understand it better. So now I am wrestling with connecting freedom in Christ with submission and authority and perhaps what Elizabeth said in Dee’s post is a great clue?
When I am submitting to authority with gentleness and respect whether it be my husband, my boss or the government, I am ultimately submitting to God because I am His. He is my master..so I am free to joyfully submit to Him by submitting to human institutions. It doesn’t matter what they do or don’t do to me because He is in control. The freedom also comes in to say no to human institutions who desire for me to join in with them in doing evil because God is my ultimate authority-the one who I desire to grow in fearing in a confident, humble adoration. Also, I think a confidence in the reality that God is going to enact justice on everything unjust in the future.
He moves in the hearts of even evil kings and I can trust that even if the kings heart doesn’t move in a wise direction that God is going to use it however He wishes. But I firmly believe it won’t go unused somehow by God and I can easily forget when I see our government on both sides making foolish, self serving decisions that can hurt not just America but the impoverished countries around the world.
D. What command is given in 1 Peter 2:18-20? What fruit will this bear? Slavery in biblical days was voluntary — people sold themselves for a limited period to pay off debts. It was not like the horror of American slavery which was involuntary and racial.) How might you honor this if you are employed by someone?
Slaves are to submit to their masters. God believes this is commendable. We are not beaten in our jobs, however I do feel like I work in a prison these days. Lock your doors, no peanuts, no latex, answer to administrators, answer to parents, 20 minute lunch, can’t go to the bathroom anytime you want, no coffee break, work that is never ending and sucks you in, etc. hen I perform at top level and don’t complain as I am doing it (no grumbling), God notices and rewards me.
2. A. According to 1 Peter 1:1 and 1:6-7, to whom was Peter writing and what were they facing?
Peter was writing to believers who had fled from their homes to “areas of Pontus, Galatia, Cappadocia, Asia, and Bithynia.” These believers were facing threat of persecution and fled for safety.
B. What command is given and why in 1 Peter 2:11-12?
Peter is telling believers to conduct themselves righteously, not giving in to evil tendencies of this world. Unbelievers/strangers will witness their actions and these actions will “speak loudly.” Peter wants believers to provide a good example, one that will draw unbelievers/strangers to the Lord and give Him glory.
C. To whom are we to submit and why according to 1 Peter 2: 13-17? How does this apply to you though you may often disagree with our government leaders?
We are submit to the authorities of this world…e.g., political leadership, police. These authorities provide order; they punish those who do wrong and praise those who do good…we should respect them and their authority.
In terms of government leaders that I disagree with…
though I disagree with them, I am still respectful and yield to their authority. I will work with them for overall good; I can respectfully disagree with them and work for change. The respectful, obedient manner in which I act will honor my Lord.
D. What command is given in 1 Peter 2:18-20? What fruit will this bear? Slavery in biblical days was voluntary — people sold themselves for a limited period to pay off debts. It was not like the horror of American slavery which was involuntary and racial.) How might you honor this if you are employed by someone?
Peter commands slaves to be respectful and obedient to their masters. Acting in this manner will give pleasure to God.
In terms of my employment…
this means doing the job that I was hired to do to the best of my ability, e.g., following the rules, policies, and procedures of the employer, being an honest employee, respectful of those in authority, respectful of the tools, supplies, and other employees I work with.
E. What supreme example are we all given in 1 Peter 2:21-24. Find everything you can.
*suffer for the benefit of another
*do not sin
*do not lie
*do not return insult for insult
*do not threaten those who cause you to suffer
*trust God to care for you
*trust God to judge
*live for what is right
Susan’s testimony stood out to me the most. Thank you for sharing. This study is very timely. Joyce Peterson I will lift you in prayer. Keep your eyes on Jesus . 1 Peter 2:23 cut to the core. I felt it a direct Word to me for the right now. The thing that grieves me the most in my life are the ways I respond to harsh treatment. Lord give Wisdom. Thank you for what you did for Me. I will never know how much it cost to see my sin upon that cross. Amazing Love Amazing God.
Liz – beautiful prayer. Thank You.
Thank you Liz
Liz, welcome to our group. So glad you are visibly with us!
Thank you Dee. I came to this site thru Idol Lies. I have been bursting at the seams with excitement about how that study can be life changing and I am seeing change already. I am approaching my Pastor about doing a group Bible Study at my church. Thank you for your transparency. The Lord is using it for sure. I am enjoying watching the fellowship of these women on line at this blog. I feel like I just moved somewhere new:)
2A. The context in which Peter is writing to these believers is that he reminds them that they are “in exile”. (1 Pet 1:1). That word “exile” and thoughts about it has been rolling around in my head last night and today. It occurs to me that exile may be voluntary or involuntary. Regardless, exile is an incredibly painful word and my heart hurts as I’ve considered it. We have FAR TOO MANY in today’s world who are exiled from their home countries – involuntarily, in their cases. When I think of even one country: Syria…… an entire generation of children are growing up with the fears and instabilities and insecurities of being refugees……indeed, many don’t even remember a concept of “home” and all of the comforts that conjures up. Children at the tender ages of 8 or 9 have hair that is going gray because of the unimaginable stresses they are living under. Indeed, my own dear daughter Jes’ Abel was mortally wounded trying to make a tiny difference in that country…..and before he was wounded, the first person reports he gave to Jes were beyond anything I’ve even read about. HOW CAN WE TURN A BLIND EYE???
But to return to Peter’s words to the flock…….I think as believers in Christ we are in some ways both voluntary and involuntary exiles. The moment the Holy Spirit takes up residence in our heart, heaven is our true home and we are exiles here on earth. I don’t think we have a clue what that means at the beginning of our walk with God!!! As we begin to grow in our faith though, we begin to see that we can embrace being exiles….much as Peter is exhorting these believers here in 1 Pet. 1:6&7. Indeed, many are the trials of being an exile here. Nonetheless, we CAN rejoice in our trials as we begin to realize what an honor it is that our faith is being tested – and that faith is more precious than gold to our Father! But BEST of all….the result: “praise and glory and honor at the revelation of Jesus Christ.” (v.7) An old hymn that I remember from my youth is running through my mind…..”It will be worth it all….when we see Jesus…..life’s trials will seem so small…..when we see Christ…..”
2B. The command we are given in 1 Pet 2:11&12 is to “abstain from the passions of the flesh’…..the NLT calls these passions “worldly desires” – ouch! I can so relate to that!! So often my daydreams may even start out with prayer…..thoughts of how the Lord may be working in dear ones’ lives…..and before I know it…..zam!…… my mind has wandered down the garden path of “worldly desires”. Jesus has given us some very direct words – “What does it profit a man if he gains the whole world and loses his soul?”. And yet…..so often my thoughts for my children wander from their spiritual welfare to their worldly welfare.
The “why” is answered within the passage…..these passions “wage war against your soul”. As the passage goes on to speak of our testimony among our neighbors, etc, it would seem that these worldly passions could pretty much nullify our testimony before them. This warning is as serious as it gets. We are in a war until the day we go to be with the Lord. We do NOT want to be a traitor to His cause to fulfill desires so VERY temporary.
2C. This passage brings up a subject that is very tough for me to tackle. Indeed, among many other believers, including my small group at church and some of my best friends, there is a lot of “Obama bashing” going on. I am uncomfortable to the utmost when this happens. I simply see no place whatsoever in Scripture where we are called to rail against our leaders – again, with some rare exceptions where we follow Peter and John in saying “we must obey God rather than men”……and even then, they did not call down fire from heaven on the emperor!!! This passage from Peter is in perfect harmony with 1Tim:2:1-4, where we are exhorted to PRAY for our leaders!! In our nation alone, what would our country be like if we ALL PRAYED for our leaders as much as we criticized them???? I’m with Deanna on this one – when the election is over, it’s over. If your candidate didn’t win, you can start working for the next election!! But until then, I truly think Scripture says “submit” and “pray”. Again, I’m going to use Abel as an example: I’m going to stop talking about him eventually!! But in the previous 6 years before he went back to the Middle East, he was a Secret Service agent. The last part of his service he was on the President’s personal detail and for a few years before that, the first lady’s detail. When the last election was at hand, he expressed so clearly that – NO MATTER WHICH CANDIDATE WON THE ELECTION – the agents were willing to “take a bullet” without thought for the President. He’s the President. That’s their job. You don’t see a complete turnover in the Secret Service every 4 years – they serve the President…..no MATTER who he is!!!! How much MORE should we be serving our sovereign Lord and God by submitting to and praying for our leaders?????
Jackie, I loved your Abel example! I hadn’t actually thought about how the Secret Service agents have to be able to transition from one president to the next — willing to take a bullet regardless of who the president is. So glad you shared this!
Deanna – 🙂
I can appreciate what you say Jackie, but I think your friends and church goers are just being human (like me). It is difficult to pray for people with whom you TOTALLY disagree and you fear for your friends/families lives because of their seemingly ridiculous decisions for our country. (Kudos to your friend; I could not do that job; too passionate!) I do not “Obama bash” to others because I agree, that is wrong (plus I don’t want to hurt others intentionally). EXECEPT, I will discuss with my husband and close friends the issues and my disagreement with much of what our government has done/not done in the last few years (and I might say a few very strong words of disagreement about him in particular – trying to be very transparent here). I know I shouldn’t act this way, but alas, I do. I can’t help it I’m human. That’s my point about those you know who bash. They are also human. BTW, My real concern is more about the senate majority leader more so than the president; bills are tabled on his desk and our senators aren’t being allowed to vote on them. Pretty sure that is not constitutional; another reason I tend to disagree with this administration. I don’t think they follow the rules. It is extremely upsetting to watch; and yet I do pray for them to wake up! Maybe that’s what you should tell your friends and churchgoers…..they should pray for the leaders to have God’s hand wake them up!
I really appreciate the discussion of ‘bashing’ politicians. Although the names are different, the same happens here. I make a distinction between discussing issues and personal attack. I have no problem with vigorous discussion, even heated discussion about issues. When that discussion turns to name-calling and personal attack, a line has been crossed. Some of my friends no longer appear in my Facebook newsfeed for that reason – they are still friends but I don’t want to listen to their griping about this or that politician. Unfortunately our politicians here do not set a good example in treating their colleagues in opposing parties respectfully during debates.
Kerryn – Well said. And yes, FB can be very dangerous ground to walk rightly! You Aussies, too, eh? As Laura kindly reminded me….we’re all HUMAN……and need grace upon grace!
Such good points. I wish my FB friends would have to sign the civility clause I have to follow at work 🙂 I just nabbed tickets to an event about bipartisanship and respectful political dialogue. It’s gotten SO bad here that I check the accuracy of FB posts before I believe ANYTHING politically oriented with an “anti” spin on it (at least half of what is posted isn’t even accurate).
Hmmm……Kerryn. I heard friends declare after the last U.S. election, that the climate here is so politically volatile, they would like to move to Australia. It is interesting to me to hear that things sound much the same as they are here! I have had to not follow a couple of people on facebook for the same reasons. The funny thing is that they are on the complete opposite sides of the spectrum and they both bring God into the debate from their vastly differing views. I generally land in the moderate range and do not claim allegiance to either party any more. I realize that when I vote for an Independent that fits more with my conscience, that person is bound to lose the election….but I would rather keep my convictions than vote for a main candidate if I strongly disagree with both.
Wanda, at our last election a new conservative government was elected. They have control of the lower house, but not the upper house. In the upper house, minor parties (the extremes on both ends of the political spectrum) hold the balance of power and can veto any legislation the government proposes if they work with the opposition party. Whenever the government does not control both houses, the political scene becomes more volatile, and with the minor parties holding the balance of power, the whackos have a voice.
Laura – good words and I appreciate your passion for standing for what’s right! Most of all I love your conclusion…..let’s pray for our leaders. 🙂
😉 pray before posting 😉 Good new “mantra”
Jackie, I really appreciate your thoughts here. The ‘Obama bashing’ among Christians I think is unprecedented and I agree….completely unbiblical. I even got emails prior to 2008 from believers who had gone to Bible colleges and had degrees in Biblical studies who passed around false scriptures (believe me….not to be found in the Word) which misconstrued contended that Obama was the anti-Christ. (Of course, in the ’70’s it was Kissinger…..so I guess there is nothing new there) I was shocked that believers grounded in the word could so readily disregard accuracy in a desperate way to plead their political cause. Your example of the Secret Service is a good one. Thank you for that pertinent visual. Before he was elected, I felt burdened to pray for Mr. Obama’s safety nearly every day because there was such a volatile climate against him and I remember too clearly the events of 1968 as well as the Kennedy assassination. Lord have mercy and protect and preserve all of our leaders. Also, as Americans, I think we so often are unaware of the events across the globe. Our mainstream news doesn’t bring it to us and our cable news is heavily biased in either direction. There is so much injustice the world over. We get involved when our military takes a stand or we think it should take a stand….but often have been so uniformed about the day to day injustices that rage with no intervention. It is all overwhelming and for the past half a year, I have had to take a break. I used to read the news voraciously and keep up with a lot. At some point, I have to leave it in God’s hands and try to make a difference with individuals…..one by one…..though I support verbally and financially some who are helping on a broad basis. I could always do better on the praying part. It seems so many, many people I know personally need prayer….for global praying or even for my state or country is hard for me to muster the energy.
Wanda – you bring up so many good points! I’ve noticed how deeply you take people and their sorrows into your heart – indeed, that can be a tough road to walk in this world. But, oh what a BLESSED way to walk through life…..I agree that the “news” can be so overwhelming. I like your choice to support those who are on the ground in areas of deep distress through giving. And then in your own world try to minister to the hurting one by one. Even getting on my computer this morning I couldn’t help but notice that in the scrolling “news” there was a headline about the 8 Ebola aid workers killed….followed immediately on the scroll by “how to get your dream kitchen”. I think for so many the idea of “building your dream _______” is a pleasant, selfish distraction from the hard things everywhere we look! Well, I digress.
3. Read 1 Peter 3:1-6
A. What is the first word or phrase in verse 1? To what does this refer?
In the version I am using (NIV), the first word is “Wives.” The first phrase is “In the same way.”
Wives in this verse seems to refer to women who are married to an unbelieving husband (“if any of them do not believe the word”). I know that, in those days, when a man became a Christian, usually his whole household were baptized with him. I have always wondered about that practice, as I rather doubt that changed the spirits of those who may have been “forced” into baptism. When a woman became a Christian, she usually came by herself, I think.
“In the same way” would probably refer back to the last few verses of chapter 2 in which Christ’s submission in order to redeem all of us was described. So verse 1 of chapter 3 would be saying that wives of unbelievers should submit as Christ did in order to win their husbands over to Christ.
” B. What kind of conduct is winsome according to verse 2? Give an example of what this might look like.
The wife is to live a life with obvious purity and reverence, so that the husband will be “won over without words.” I think this ends up looking self-sacrificial. It may show up more in the little things of life, like allowing the toilet tissue to roll in the direction the spouse prefers 🙂 However, it may also need to be expressed in restraint from preaching to their husbands, which probably wouldn’t be effective anyway.
C. According to 1 Peter 3:3-4, what makes a woman beautiful in God’s sight? How could you apply this?
Rather than being concerned with outward beauty (braided hair and jewelry were mentioned), God would prefer that wives should have inner beauty. They should live their faith in quiet, consistent ways in the home so their family would see Christ in them.
D. There were times when Sarah was too submissive, and times she was not submissive enough — yet her general attitude of respect is commended. Piper says emphasizes that she called him “lord” with a small l — like calling him “sir.” How might you apply this in situations where someone is in authority over you?
I’m not sure that what Sarah called Abraham (“lord”) was the main way she showed him respect and submitted. Likewise, when we are in a subordinate position with an authority in our lives, we probably shouldn’t have to refer to them by a title, although some employers may want you to refer to them as Mr. or Mrs. so-and-so. What is more important is that we make sure our attitude implies an underlying respect. It is good to learn how they want things done, or perhaps even asking “how would you like this done?” It would not include expressing that we think we have a better plan and could do things in a more efficient way than our employer, or whatever authority it is.
I think that Peter was saying that Sara’s calling him “lord” or “sir” reflected a heart attitude. But it surely is true you can call someone a respectful name with a bad heart attitude.
Deanna, you make a good point in “D”. With our lips we can say the respectful title, yet inside we could be anything but respectful in our attitude.
A. According to 1 Peter 1:1 and 1:6-7, to whom was Peter writing and what were they facing?
God’s elect, strangers in the world. Peter was writing primarily to Jewish Christians, scattered throughout the Roman empire. However it is clear that Peter also sees a wider application of the concept of aliens or strangers. All Christians are aliens as our citizenship is of heaven.
These Christians were suffering ‘all kinds of trials’.
B. What command is given and why in 1 Peter 2:11-12?
Peter commands these Christians to live in a way that glorifies God – avoiding evil, doing good.
C. To whom are we to submit and why according to 1 Peter 2: 13-17? How does this apply to you though you may often disagree with our government leaders?
Peter instructs Christians to submit to secular authorities.
I’ve had interesting discussions about this passage recently. Our government has a policy of deterring asylum seekers from coming here by boat as many lives have been lost on the journey. They are doing this by detaining anyone caught indefinitely (mandatory detention), and stating that no one coming by boat will ever be granted permanent residency. The only option offered is to return to the country they are fleeing from. There are currently about 1000 children in mandatory detention. Both local and international human rights organisations have condemned the conditions, and it is especially damaging for children.
Christian leaders have been protesting children in immigration detention. This has included sit-ins in politicians offices where they prayed. They have refused to leave without answers to their questions and been arrested for trespass. In every case when it came to court, the judge has been lenient often with no conviction, or a minimum penalty ($50).
I have publicly supported their action, and another Christian challenged my support on the basis of this passage. He said that Christians should never break the law. I disagree… these Christian leaders have always acted in a respectful manner to the police and everyone else. However they are continuing to stand up against the evil of imprisoning children and denying them any future.
Kerryn, what an interesting example from you, our Australian blogger, of submitting to authorities, by protesting peacefully yet standing up against injustice for innocent children. The Australian government is in a tough bind, but it doesn’t sound like its decision to indefinitely imprison boat refugees (adults and children) is the answer.
The U.S. has had similar policies — plenty of Jewish people turned away during WWII. I think one of the biggest differences now is that we hear more news (as well as “fake news” from satire sites that people believe). This is a definite challenge, though, because we also have had (the worst) criminals intentionally released here that now populate federal prisons.Kerryn, I love that verse you posted about how to treat aliens among you. It does require wisdom in order to accept refugees, yet turn away terrorists. Plus, I have a hard time not being somewhat open to immigrants because my ancestors were immigrants. (and sadly, European immigrants & descendants destroyed millions of Native Americans — pictures of the massacres haunt me when I travel in some places in this region). So many factors to consider.
So many factors to consider. AMEN to that, Renee. I often think about my immigrating ancestors too. And the travesty of the Native American holocaust is so often overlooked in America. I wrote in a comment above of a friend’s mother who was turned back at the border because of a gross misunderstanding (she therefore missed her daughter’s wedding)…..with no attempt at understanding, finding out the truth or any reconciliation once it was revealed……for that very reason. Everybody has a story. There is no ‘one size fits all’ answer.
The word that I took as starting the verse in 1 Peter 3:1 was Likewise. I understood it to refer back to the previous chapter where We are given Christs example of how He responded when he was reviled. He did not revile in return and when he suffered He did not threaten but committed Himself unto Him who judges righteously. oh if I could only get that in my marriage when I need to. How many times does my flesh want to take charge and commit to my ways of handling things fighting back like a wounded animal. Not righteously. Lord we were saved by your Grace please give us the grace to apply this to our lives. Thank you for your example to us and the bearing of our sins. Help us to bear the sins of others. Help us to bless Them. Refrain our tongues from evil. Help us to take every thought captive. Purify our hearts, we want that gentle and quiet spirit within and that incorruptible beauty so precious in Your sight. Only by your grace Lord. I have strived in my own strength and failed time and time again. Only by your grace. Thank you for the refining fire.
I would like to quote a writing from Andrew Murray’s book Humility that so struck me this past year.
How can I die to self? The death of self is not your work. It is Gods work. Here is your duty. Place yourself before God in your utter helplessness, consent heartily to the fact of your importance to slay or make alive yourself, sink down into your nothingness in the spirit of meek and patient and trustful surrender to God. Accept every humiliation, look upon every fellow man who vexes you as a means of grace to humble you. Use every opportunity of humbling yourself as proof that your whole heart desires it as the very best prayer for it as your preparation for His mighty work of grace, when by the mighty strengthening of His Holy Spirit He reveals Christ fully in you, so that He in His form of a servant, is truly formed in you and dwells in your heart. It is this path of humility that leads to perfect death, the full and perfect experience that we are dead in Christ. Andrew Murray Humility.
Thank you Lord for the lessons you teach us and the ministry here. The timing of this was an answer to prayer. You are so faithful! You amaze me!
Great from Andrew Murray.
Liz, I am impressed with how hard you are working at trying to be a servant, as Christlike as possible. However, I read an interesting article yesterday from Leslie Vernick about the importance of distinguishing between servanthood and mutuality in key relationships like marriage. I do not know your particular situation in your marriage so I hope you will forgive me if I speak out of turn. We all need to continually ask God to teach us how to be servants, as Jesus was, yet there are relationships such as marriage and friendship where servanthood without reciprocation from those we serve hinders the relationship.
Here is the link to the entire article. It is called “Sometimes You Have to Stop Being a Servant”.
http://christiancounseling.com/content/sometimes-you-have-to-stop-being-just-a-servant?inf_contact_key=23e74eaa11a3bb7e1ea2ac0ba97f032d8318b755af799716c762bdf65756affd
Diane – so glad you pointed this out! Great content and so important to help the thought process when one has lived long term with emotional abuse.
Diane thank you for sharing. I read the article. I cannot say my husband does not give back. I know I just jumped iunknown out if the shadows. I have always given thanks that thru my husband and the challenges in my marriage the Lord is changing me. However I just mentioned to a friend the other day that I felt an impression on my heart asking do I wear my challenge as my own personal badge of merit and one thing that really stuck out to me in the video last week with Leslie and Chris was we can make our marriage an idol. Or something to that effect. I feel I have been stuck walking around the same mountain for a period of time and I am not becoming all that the Lord would want me to be to bring Him glory. I also have 2 daughters who have observed all that has gone on. What example am I really giving them. I want growth and I am open to hear the Lord speak. I pray I am listening. I thank yOu for sharing. I see you have a community of wonderful women here and I thank you Dee for this blog and the work the Lord is doing through it. All I want in my life is TRUTH. Painful as it might initially be, I know it will bring Joy in the end if I learn from it.
I’m so glad you jumped in her Liz …..I love this…..” All I want in my life is TRUTH. Painful as it might initially be, I know it will bring Joy in the end if I learn from it.”That’s all I want too.
I have been praying 1Peter 3:4 espescially for a” gentle and quiet spirit”…which is in God’s sight very preious. Maybe I can win my husband by the behavior of myself…the wife, as it says in verse 3. Please pray that I can…it may take years, but I want to be the wife the Lord wants me to be so bad.
Thank you all for your prayers for us. I do feel so shamed for sharing so much, but I need your prayers to support me. Thank you sisters of mine…I love you!
Liz – great reminder from Andrew Murray to “look upon every fellow man who vexes you as a means of grace to humble you.” That is in step with Rebecca’s pointing out how we can look at these people/situations as a “gift” to grow our faith! I also like Murray’s use of “fellow man” to remind us (me, in particular today!!!) that we are all in this together……and, just as others can vex me…..so I am undoubtedly vexing to others at times!!!
D. What command is given in 1 Peter 2:18-20? What fruit will this bear? Slavery in biblical days was voluntary — people sold themselves for a limited period to pay off debts. It was not like the horror of American slavery which was involuntary and racial.) How might you honor this if you are employed by someone?
Peter instructs slaves to submit to their masters, and to endure abuse and they will be commended by God.
Voluntary slavery was one form of slavery in biblical times. Israelites were instructed to release slaves after a maximum of 6 years slavery – but only if they were Israelites. Foreign slaves could be bought and kept for life.
Male slaves would be circumcised – a painful and sometimes life threatening operation. (Genesis 17:13). Slaves could be punished by beating, but not beaten to death. As long as they didn’t die within a day or two of the beating, that was OK. (Exodus 21:20-21) During war, slavery was included as part of the peace agreement… not really voluntary – more coerced. (Deut 20:10-11)
Doesn’t this constitute involuntary and racial slavery?
Good question. I don’t have the answer!
Kerryn, I agree. Slavery in biblical times was not always voluntary and short-term. 1 Peter may have been primarily to Jewish Christians, but also was to Gentile Christians (Christians who were part of the Roman Empire). The early church was made up of both. Romans frequently invaded other people groups and took slaves (involuntary and racial). Slavery was very common in those days and seen as very acceptable. Conditions of slavery could be very harsh.
Thanks, Diane. You’re quite right. I hadn’t even thought about the Gentile Christians. I’d only been looking at the OT regulations which appear to allow for involuntary slavery, but only for non-Israelites (and therefore racial).
Thank you for bringing out the Leviticus passage, Kerryn. I confess to being quite inept at understanding Paul’s discussion of slaves and masters. And though I’ve heard that NT slavery was voluntary and not the horror that we know of the American experience of slavery, I knew that when I got some push back for saying that to someone who has worked hard at understanding societal injustices, there must be more to know. So I wonder now……how do we reconcile these varying views? Did New Testament slavery follow the Levitical rule and practice? Was there any kind of reform?
Oh….and thank you too, Diane. I’m reading comments and replying too quickly tonight. I’ve missed two days on the blog (and won’t be on much the rest of the week) and trying to catch up a little. I missed your comment before I replied to Kerryn. Good information from both of you.
E. What supreme example are we all given in 1 Peter 2:21-24. Find everything you can.
We are called to be Christ like. Don’t fight back; rely on Him to be in charge.
3. Read 1 Peter 3:1-6
A. What is the first word or phrase in verse 1? To what does this refer?
Wives are to submit to their husbands. This is to insure that husbands are won over to God by the behavior of the wives. Refers back to our other study in Ephesians where wives are told to submit to their husbands and they would ultimately be submitting to God.
3. Read 1 Peter 3:1-6
A. What is the first word or phrase in verse 1? To what does this refer?
“in the same way”…this refers to obedience to authority.
B. What kind of conduct is winsome according to verse 2? Give an example of what this might look like.
Pleasing behavior/conduct is to be pure and modest.
An example is to dress modestly rather than seductively.
C. According to 1 Peter 3:3-4, what makes a woman beautiful in God’s sight? How could you apply this?
A woman who holds in her mind and heart a gentle and peaceful spirit.
An application would be practicing patience and understanding…realizing that your spouse is not perfect, you allow some “slack” rather than “jumping on him/her” for mistakes (done with good intention).
D. There were times when Sarah was too submissive, and times she was not submissive enough — yet her general attitude of respect is commended. Piper says emphasizes that she called him “lord” with a small l — like calling him “sir.” How might you apply this in situations where someone is in authority over you?
In speaking to someone in authority, such as the president, university chancellor, state governor, I would not address them by their first name, I address them respectfully…e.g., Mr. President or President Obama. Similarly, despite my opinion of their policy making and any personality differences, I support them in prayer.
These 2 studies are really important and so relevant. I was away and now trying to absorb both of them this week.
What stood out to me the most? Several things: I love your testimony, Susan. I love the story of Vince’s observation of Lee and desiring to follow Christ. It is a miracle when each one is touched by the Holy Spirit and desires salvation. I am praying for my friend, Sue’s husband, Charlie. Together for 48 years and he is resistant. Yet he is good to her, but it grieves her that he resists following Christ.
The instructions in I Peter, written to God’s elect who were facing all kinds of trials, to abstain from sinful desires and to do good deeds and glorify God relate so much to our own time.
My history is one of rebellion and of reaction, and gradually I am becoming submissive as I yield the direction to God.
Submission has not been easy and it is God’s directive. The song of Steve Green’s is so touching. Yes, we are a chosen generation and our mission is to represent Christ who gave all that my sins could be forgiven. Thanks for the encouragement, dear sisters, through your words and examples.
Marriage is truly a commitment made by two sinners who truly need a Savior. We fall down and we get up, but thank God we can kneel before our Lord and ask for His strength because I know I am weak, but He is strong. His spirit is teaching me and molding me through my resistance.
Shirley, I have noticed this again and again in your posts, how you are open to change and growth in your marriage and learning about submission. In my Bible study yesterday at church, our leader talked about the difference between reacting and responding. So good. I admire that you don’t just give up and say it’s too late to change, but you are seeking to be transformed by Him.
Shirley – I add my “amen” to Susan’s post to you.
Amen here too. I always like how you synthesize things so succinctly and nail the heart of the message of the week…..and make immediate application to your own life and journey. I can learn so much from you, Shirley.
2D. What command is given in 1 Peter 2:18-20? What fruit will this bear? Slavery in biblical days was voluntary — people sold themselves for a limited period to pay off debts. It was not like the horror of American slavery which was involuntary and racial.) How might you honor this if you are employed by someone?
Perhaps this was similar to indentured slavery? They were to submit to both the kind ones and the the mean ones but do so being mindful of God. If they do good toward their master and suffer, it glorifies God as opposed to if they sin toward their master and suffer for it.
I think for me it is respecting and submitting to an unreasonable boss even if I disagree with her or she is harsh with me. Submitting also means doing what she tells me to do without complaining even if it doesn’t make sense. All of this is fueled by His Love in me loving on my boss-putting her spiritual need for Him above my earthly comfort.
E. What supreme example are we all given in 1 Peter 2:21-24. Find everything you can.
Jesus suffered without sinning, he entrusted Himself to God who judges rightly. So Jesus didn’t have to enact judgment on them for He actually took on their judgment on the cross!! :))
I either just had an epiphany or I am totally out of whack on this verse..but I might have just saw something! Suffering like Jesus without sinning means trusting God as judge through it all when we are being treated unjustly by anyone and then suffering for that person..taking on their injustice by being kind to them. I think those times are actually ‘gifts’..for it not only reveals where we place our confidence but it helps us TO grow in pressing into Him and loving our enemies. These injustices help us to grow in walking in faith.
“no deceit found in Jesus mouth” –Jesus lived and walked in submission to God..If He responded harshly back or reviled in return to those who enacted a huge injustice on Him that would mean He was deceiving them as to who God is and who He is. The fact that He didn’t should melt me!
And verse 24? oh….my…be still my heart right now..I am not sure I can even comment on it! I guess I can’t imagine or fathom His strength in not reviling or responding to such hideous treatment, but He Who is the very definition of delighting in God-Who IS God and was willing to TAKE ON MY SIN..Was willing to have God turn his face from Him FOR ME? The Trinity torn apart for me? Jesus being thrown out alone on the street so I could walk in confidence that no matter who reviles against me I will never be alone..GOD HAS IT. YET in my sin I forget! I whine, I draw back, I struggle..but God will never leave me even when I do that..He will rescue me. He will complete the work He started in me..because Jesus rose from the dead..It is finished.
Lord my heart can be so far off even in listening to you in your word..Oh how I thank you for this study and for how you gently pull out the places inside where I just miss it..I can’t hear you..Help me to listen that I wouldn’t be like the man who sees his image and then walks away forgetting your quickening about who You are-your great love and who I am yet how much you love and desire me and that you have brought me into the most beautiful song of all through the hell you went through on the cross. Thank you.
I know this is long and I think I am making strides in being more concise but ran out of time. This passage is beautiful! :~))
Rebecca – I’m going with “epiphany”……all throughout the N.T. we’re called to love our enemies and do good to them – I think you’re on to something with your interpretation of this section. I especially resonate with your pointing out that these times and people in our lives can be viewed as a “gift”……an opportunity to grow in faith. Consistent even within this particular book as Peter pointed out early on that, as exiles and sojourners, our various trials are like GOLD!
Love your epiphanies here, Rebecca. This one is really powerful:
Oh, thank you for these words, Rebecca! The Trinity torn apart for me? Jesus being thrown out alone on the street so I could walk in confidence that no matter who reviles against me I will never be alone..GOD HAS IT. YET in my sin I forget! I whine, I draw back, I struggle..but God will never leave me even when I do that..
Amen Rebecca. How much we would lose if we run from our trials ( although MANY times I am tempted) what more we have to gain to learn through them. We can count it all joy James 1:2. easier said than done sometimes when you are in it but it is TRUE. This I KNOW. Someone once gave an illustration at my church of a cup packed down hard with dirt ( mud) and when we stand and allow the Holy Spirit to pour into our lives the mud starts to loosen what begins to come out is murky muddy dirty water but if you stay and do not move and allow the Lord to keep pouring into your life eventually the water will be clear. I took away from that that sometimes in the processes of it all it can get ugly seeing what’s coming up but it has to come up and the pure clean water is what I want coming out of my life. oh how I see clean water coming:)
Great illustration, Liz! And welcome! I’m learning from you this week and enjoying your comments.
Its a blessing to be here Wanda.i am learning from all of you and the scriptures this week are leaping off the page to me so personally. The Lord just always amazes me with the ways He answers prayer. It makes me feel His arms so gently wrapped around me.
I like your ‘epiphany’, Rebecca…..and I am also very struck by this paragraph. I need my heart to melt daily by the words and the truth of Isaiah 53. Thank you for so beautifully expressing that.
OH OH OH and it keeps coming..I am going to be late for work!
I AM THE ONE WHO HURLED INSULTS AT JESUS YET HE DIED FOR ME..I AM NO BETTER THAN THOSE WHO NAILED HIM TO THE CROSS MOCKING HIM FOR I AM THEM-I AM MY UNJUST BOSS TOO-YET HE TOOK ON MY UNJUSTICE-NESS, MY WICKED HEART ON HIM SO I COULD BE JUSTIFIED WRAPPED IN HIS HOLINESS.
Thanks, Rebecca. Love how your response puts the daily struggles in perspective
Amen.
3. Read 1 Peter 3:1-6
A. What is the first word or phrase in verse 1? To what does this refer?
The first word is “wives”. The phrase is “in the same way”. Peter is now speaking to married women and telling them to follow the previous examples he’s given about submission; submitting to authorities, slaves submitting to their masters, and the example of Jesus’ submission.
B. What kind of conduct is winsome according to verse 2? Give an example of what this might look like.
Behaving with purity and reverence. An example would be not to speak in ways that are crass or crude.
C. According to 1 Peter 3:3-4, what makes a woman beautiful in God’s sight? How could you apply this?
A woman with a gentle and quiet spirit…inner beauty…that is God’s definition of beauty. I don’t think this verse means not to wear jewelry or make-up. It is okay to look your best, and our husband’s do care about our physical appearance. But it shouldn’t be the top priority over seeking spiritual maturity and heart transformation. If we become obsessed with outer beauty, I think it makes us become shallow people.
D. There were times when Sarah was too submissive, and times she was not submissive enough – yet her general attitude of respect is commended. Piper emphasizes that she called him “lord” with a small l – like calling him “sir”. How might you apply this in situations where someone is in authority over you?
I could apply it even with the tone of voice I use when addressing my husband, when I say his name. Our tone of voice conveys either respect or disrespect. I would address a police officer as “sir”, as well as any other man in a position of authority. I don’t use first names unless invited to do so.
E. What supreme example are we all given in 1 Peter 2:21-24. Find everything you can.
Christ is the supreme example
… in avoiding all sin
… in avoiding all deception
… in non-retaliation
… in enduring suffering
… in trusting God
… in sacrificing himself for others
2E. The command in 1 Pet 2:18-20 is to be subject to your masters with all respect. The fruit? God says this is “a gracious thing” in the sight of God! From my reading about this particular phrase, I guess it holds within it the idea of “reward” – future reward, that is. As well as being an outward testimony of God’s grace in our daily lives and work. How might you honor this in your work? Well, this is tricky. My own (new) business is a part time dog boarding business. Our “family” business (my husband’s) is the horse business…….SO……in a sense I have the respect piece being called for in my relationship with Casey as my husband…..and then also as an “employee” (!?) of his business. After all of these years of course, I know a lot about the horse business! Both from my hands on experience and also dealing with the owners, the employees and all of the million plus little details that go into any business! Nonetheless, he’s the “pro” and I defer to him in all business decisions – though sometimes voicing my dissent rigorously!!! Ironically, I don’t find respecting Casey as a horseman difficult at all……but I do need to respect him more as my husband……and recent weeks have gone far in that respect!
2E. (Sorry, my earlier post should have been 2D.). Christ is our example. We are to 1. follow in his steps a. no sin (ours is covered by his blood – yet we are called to repent when we sin) b. no deceit found in our mouths c. no reviling back at those who revile us! d. no threatening when we are suffering e. entrusting ourselves to our heavenly Father f. die to sin g. live to righteousness h. recognize that we are HEALED- and that by his wounds.
3A. What is the first word or phrase in verse 1? To what does this refer?
In the NIV, the first word is ‘wives’, but other versions have a different word order. So I checked the Greek to see what the first word really should be. The first word is homoios meaning ‘likewise’ or ‘in the same way’. It’s interesting that the same word is used in 3:7.
v1 – Wives, in the same way…
v7 – Husbands, in the same way…
Wouldn’t they both refer to the same thing? Chapter 2 has been talking about submitting to authorities, so perhaps in the same way is referring back to submission.
Christians submit to secular authorities (2:13)
Slaves submit to your masters (2:18)
Wives, in the same way, submit to your husbands (3:1)
If that is so, what is 3:7 talking about? Husbands, in the same way… One possibility is that it’s a reference to mutual submission in marriage. Or is in the same way referring to the example of Christ in 2:21-25? Both husbands and wives are to take Christ as their model in marriage.
Wives, in the same way [as Christ submitted to his Father] be submissive to your husbands…
Husbands, in the same way [as Christ sacrificed himself] be considerate as you live with your wives…
That makes more sense to me, especially since in the same way is not used in 2:18 of slaves’ submission.
Kerryn – you did a lot of work on this small passage. Very helpful!
4. Read 1 Peter 3:7
A. With what same word or phrase (as in verse 1 to wives) does Peter begin his instructions to husbands? To what example is he referring?
Peter begins by addressing “husbands.” Also it is followed with the phrase “in the same way.” In other words Peter is using the same words (except that husbands is substituted for wives in this verse). Since whole households were brought into the faith with the (man) head of the household, I guess that technically there would be no believing husbands with unbelieving wives. So I am going to assume that Peter is talking to believing husbands at this point. “In the same way” could go back to the end of chapter 2, as I suggested in my answer to question #3, or Peter may have been referring to his instructions to wives — either way the result is the same — both are to follow Christ’s example.
B. “Weaker” has been interpreted to mean physically weaker (which is often true) or vulnerable in that she has been asked to submit to his authority. I think that makes more sense in context. What do you think and why?
Yes, I think “weaker” probably means “vulnerable.” However, Peter pretty well puts them on an even plane when he says “and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life.” I think he is saying that, in God’s sight, both wives and husbands have received Christ’s grace and the gift of eternal life.
C. What will happen to men who take advantage of their position of strength?
The final portion of verse 7 reads, “so that nothing will hinder your prayers.” If a man is not considerate and respectful of his wife, he may find it difficult to pray, and that would get in his way of having a right relationship with God. We don’t always stop to realize that “family fights” (whether in our immediate family or in the family of God) can throw up barriers between us and God. In Matthew 5:23 & 24, Jesus said that, if we have a problem with a “brother,” we should go to that person and make it right before coming to worship and placing our offering on the altar. A vital relationship with God depends on our having right relationships with others.
Deanna, your statement really resonates with me, “A vital relationship with God depends on our having right relationships with others.”
This is the bottom line in this passage, I believe. As I look back on my marriage, I see God at work as I have been willing to submit, to have a positive attitude toward my husband. I have struggled in the past with this passage. I, too, believe that vulnerability is the area of weakness. Strength, I thought of, as independence, yet that is not what God teaches. Meekness is really strength as Jesus demonstrated in verses 21-24. He entrusted himself to God who judges justly.
3. Read 1 Peter 3:1-6 A. What is the first word or phrase in verse 1? To what does this refer?
“Likewise”—refers back to chapter 2, “because Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example, so that you might follow in his steps…”(v.21) Christ submitted not because of the worthy behavior of those accusing Him, but out of love and obedience to the Father, and His great love for us to be one with Him. In the same way, my respect is not dependent on the behavior of the one(s) I am submitting to, but a reflection of my obedience to Christ, following His example out of obedience to God and love for Him.
B. What kind of conduct is winsome according to verse 2? Give an example of what this might look like.
“when they see your respectful and pure conduct.” The biggest thing that comes to mind is something I am terrible at—holding my tongue. This is a little different—not an example of winning the husband to Christ, and yet maybe someday it will—still the fruit resulting from this kind of conduct is evident. One of my closest friends was left by her husband with young kids to raise. They are all adults now, and I am amazed at how she has helped their relationship with their father to grow and flourish, though she was greatly, wrongfully hurt. She truly suffered years of emotional abuse from him, but because she was careful with her words about him, her children have been able to have relationships with him. I so respect that. It is so hard for me to hold my tongue, and especially if I feel I have been wronged. She says she has always taken her pain to the Lord and He has sustained and strengthened her.
C. According to 1 Peter 3:3-4, what makes a woman beautiful in God’s sight? How could you apply this?
Again, I think of my tongue-words. I have been reading James, and oh the reminder of how powerful words can be. To be gentle, “quiet” in my mind, is to be careful with my words. The reference to external adornment—I think of he ways I try to “cover up”, make excuse for, rationalize my critical thoughts—almost as a distraction from what is really going on inside. My excuses become an “external adornment”, an attempt to deflect from the ick in my heart. But He sees, and He shines His light—and I have witnessed the beauty of humility, and I long for that to more and more characterize my reflection of Him.
D. How might you apply this in situations where someone is in authority over you?
I like what Piper says of her obedience “the obedience she renders is secondary obedience, under and because of and filtered through obedience to the LORD with a capital “L.”. I think this applies to submission even to my daily roles in life. I submit to my job of cleaning my house and making meals, etc…out of obedience to my Lord, who has placed me in this position. When the tasks feel heavy, when I don’t really feel up to one more dialogue with my child—I do it, out of submission to my calling—and the only motivation strong enough to never fail, is love for the Lord, remember all He has done for me. I remember our first year married, my husband got a job with an insurance company and my “gut” told me it was all “bad”. To top it off, we shared a car, which I drove while he rode the bus to work. Part of the “deal” was for me to drive with this huge, obnoxious magnetic sign on the car. I was young and mortified at the thought. But I did it, and I think back then in all my immaturity, I even told my husband I was doing it to submit to the Lord (capital L!). But God protected us from what turned out to be a scam, and all was well—and I saw how God blessed my submission to my husband despite my own reservations. Sorry–bit of a rabbit trail ;0
This morning I’ve been pondering (thanks to Rebecca!) what Jesus did for me, his payment for my sin — and how that relates to submission to authorities and even how it relates to threat of terrorism. Not sure I can articulate this — and I’m not sure I even want clear answers!!
Jesus was abused in a far worse way than I can comprehend. As Keller said, “He was abandoned so that I will never be abandoned.” He was separated from His Father so that I am not and will not be. So often, I am deceived — I have the potential to terrorize others. But God… When I consider the extent of Jesus’ submission, my focus shifts and I am not as concerned about my rights; I KNOW he is in control and I am safe in ANY circumstances. This world/this country REALLY is not my home.What does feel close to home is discrimination against people of other religions or ethnic groups because I work with some very kind people who fit other categories (and they do seek green cards, etc.). I’m starting to notice a trend with (especially younger) believers on campus no longer referring to themselves as Christians, but as “Christ-followers,” in order to distance themselves from that lack of grace associated with “Christian” politics (not sure there is such a thing as Christian politics, but there definitely is a reputation). Maybe some of the backlash against Christians is based on stereotypes that have seeds in reality?? Lord, help me to demonstrate your grace.Just thinking more 😉 … I saw some of the political polarization in Norway, too — but it didn’t seem as connected to Christian groups as here (and I did talk to believers there, too, who were reaching out to those on the streets). I wonder how much of what is categorized as “Christian” on either side of the aisle really has anything to do with Christianity — or if we just use Christianity as an excuse to justify our political assumptions. Another note to self: Reexamine “Christian” beliefs associated with politics — AND “submit to authority” as described in I Peter. Jesus submitted to political influences that didn’t begin to reflect his beliefs; he submitted to death. Not liking this, but I’m wondering how many exceptions to submission there really are (Too much to sort out right now). I do believe it is fine, even admirable, to hold political opinions — maybe not so fine to attribute many of them to Christianity.
oops — sorry. I edited too slowly. I’m starting to question whether my Christianity is too “comfortable” … and, no I can’t explain what I mean by that!
Wow. This really hits hard, Renee……in a good way. it makes me think.
I also like how you closed this comment.
4. A. With what same word or phrase (as in verse 1 to wives) does Peter begin his instructions to husbands? To what example is he referring?
“likewise”, the same example of Christ’s life of submission.
B. “Weaker” has been interpreted to mean physically weaker (which is often true) or vulnerable in that she has been asked to submit to his authority. I think that makes more sense in context. What do you think and why?
I had always thought of this as referring to physical strength, but I like the idea that it pertains to vulnerability, being open to attack. We are asked to submit in the likeness of Christ’s submission to authority—who was in no way “less than”, but clearly His submission made Him vulnerable to attack, abuse, death. I like Matthew Henry on this verse: “Giving honor to the wife—giving due respect to her, and maintaining her authority, protecting her person, supporting her credit, delighting in her conversation, affording her a handsome maintenance, and placing a due trust and confidence in her.”
C. What will happen to men who take advantage of their position of strength?
Their prayers will be hindered. When they abuse their power, they put an obstacle between themselves and God. I LOVE this image! I imagine that as a man wrongfully uses his position—God steps in between, protecting the victim, and says ‘now you will have to deal with Me’.
B. What kind of conduct is winsome according to verse 2? Give an example of what this might look like.
According to v2, purity and reverence is more appealing and attractive than outward adornment. An example comes from a friend who is a college lecturer. He reminded female students that what they wear (or don’t wear) can be distracting for male students and lecturers. He was challenged by the girls that they have a right to wear whatever feels comfortable, and the boys need to take responsibility for their own eyes and thoughts. In this context, purity would not necessarily look the same as innocence. Innocence may have the connotation of being oblivious to the impact you have on others; purity involves sensitivity to how others are impacted by what you do and making appropriate adjustments.
C. According to 1 Peter 3:3-4, what makes a woman beautiful in God’s sight? How could you apply this?
God looks for inward beauty rather than outward adornment… a gentle and quiet spirit. The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart. (1 Samuel 16:7)
Currently, I need to cultivate contentment… it is anxiety and discontent that is making my spirit restless rather than gentle and quiet.
3A. Likewise is the first word. “In the same way”. Whenever I see that word, I look to what immediately precedes it – in this case, Christ. This seems clear to me because 2:21 states that Christ suffered, “leaving you an example, so that you might follow in his steps.” Peter follows up with some specifics of Christ’s example: no deceit in his mouth, not reviling in return when reviled, not threatening when suffering, entrusting himself to God…….so right off the bat, wives are specifically told to follow in Christ’s steps – and yes, specifically with their husbands!!
3B. “respectful and pure”……I like how Kerryn spoke of purity and how it “involves sensitivity to how others are impacted by what you do and making appropriate adjustments.”. This really hit home for me and caused me to begin thinking about “adjustments” I can make in my own life that would be pleasing to Christ and show respect for my husband’s heart.
3C. A “gentle and quiet spirit” is very precious to God. It occurs to me how hard it is to put words on paper that describe that “gentle and quiet spirit”. My mom definitely had that spirit! And YET…..her temperament was “choleric” primarily……that woman got a LOT done!! She reminded me of a female apostle Paul – always pushing, pushing and reaching for what was ahead! Very outspoken about Christ. But the gentleness and quietness shone through…..I think it was Kerryn, again, who got to the heart of it: CONTENTMENT. The true contentment that only flows out of a vibrant walk with Christ. A submission to Christ. Many weeks ago I gave the example of when I was a teenager accompanying my mom on the piano at church…..she was about to sing a solo and she STOPPED ME as I began to play – right there in front of the whole church she had to apologize to me for being harsh earlier that morning…..she couldn’t sing of her love and devotion to the Savior with her words to me on her heart – motified as I was at the time (I WAS a teenager, after all!!!), this is one of many moments stamped on my heart as to what it “looks like” to follow Christ!
3D. Applying this submission to Christ to someone who is in authority over me: maybe this is a lame example, but in running my little dog business, those “in authority” over me would be all of the dogs’ owners! I really do try to remain keenly aware and in awe of, how Jesus is the one who started this business…and it is his! As I go throughout my day’s tasks, I’m talking to Jesus about how grateful I am that he has placed me in this work for this season of my life……I go to him for wisdom about the details ……..I tell him that I can do NONE of this without him!! In effect, I’m continually putting myself under his hand of authority. I’m accepting the good and the not-s0-good as his plan for my day. This means that when owners leave their dogs in my care, along with requests that sometimes seem unreasonable to me, I still comply with their requests…….and that can get tricky, as they are not physically present looking over my shoulder!!! Making me all the more aware of my ultimate accountability to God! Oh boy…….this is getting convicting even as I write…….
4. A. With what same word or phrase (as in verse 1 to wives) does Peter begin his instructions to husbands? To what example is he referring?
“In the same way”… Peter is referring to the example of Jesus.
B. “Weaker” has been interpreted to mean physically weaker (which is often true) or vulnerable in that she has been asked to submit to his authority. I think that makes more sense in context. What do you think and why?
Wow…this is quite a question to ponder…
The interpretation of “physically” weaker does make sense generally…in a general sense, the male gender has greater strength in comparison to the female gender. “Vulnerability-wise”…I’m not sure that one gender is more vulnerable than the other, at least not in the age that we live…perhaps this was the case in the context of when this passage was written. The idea of woman being more vulnerable seems to be traced back to Eve being deceived by Satan…yes, true, Eve was deceived, but Adam also ate of the fruit…Adam was also vulnerable to disobedience. Perhaps Eve was more vulnerable to deception? This is one of those texts that is used far too often to put a woman “in her place” and it causes me to bristle somewhat. I agree entirely that there are differences between the genders and God has established an order. The “order” the Lord established has no equation to “value” in His eyes…”order” is what is best for us, what is beneficial to all…two “leaders” pulling against each other for domination will be horribly ineffective, but an order that exudes love, respect, honor, unity, etc. will be highly effective; this is what our Lord desires for His people.
C. What will happen to men who take advantage of their position of strength?
Men who take advantage of their position or strength will be ineffective, their prayers will be “hindered and cut off”. Men taking advantage of their position or strength are not following Jesus’ example; it is disobedience/sin.
I haven’t had the chance to read comments this morning…can’t wait to see others’ comments for 4b…:)