YOU ARE MOVING AHEAD IN EXCITEMENT
SENSING THE LORD HAS SOLVED A PROBLEM,
IS LEADING YOU IN A GOOD PATH,
AND THEN:
THE PATH IS BLOCKED
I have felt that this summer. Since I will be moving to my cottage in Wisconsin full-time in 2014, I have been seeking a strong church, one that is alive in the winter as well as the summer. FINALLY I FOUND ONE! A loving church with a humble pastor with a heart for people and great expository preaching. I’m loving teaching adult Sunday School. I thought: Thank you, Lord, I can now make it as a widow in the winter in the Wisconsin woods! I am overflowing with gratitude and relief. This is the church I will make my home.
But discord came to this idyllic church. This Sunday the pastor said he will be resigning the end of August. It seemed best for the Kingdom to him.
This was not my plan at all.
IT’S HAPPENS ALL THE TIME.
AFTER YEARS OF INFERTILITY, ELLIE GOT PREGNANT.
AND THEN SHE MISCARRIED
THIS WAS NOT HER PLAN.
HOW CAN GOOD COME FROM THIS?
OUR OWN JOYCE, WHO IS CARING FOR A DISABLED ADULT CHILD
HAS BEEN SO THANKFUL TO HAVE HER SON TREVOR NEARBY
BUT TREVOR IS MOVING TO ANOTHER STATE.
THIS WAS NOT HER PLAN.
HOW CAN GOOD COME FROM THIS?
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IT HAPPENED TO THE DISCIPLES TOO.
THEY FINALLY FOUND THE MESSIAH.
AND THEN HE WAS CRUCIFIED.
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THIS WAS NOT THEIR PLAN
HOW COULD GOOD COME FROM THIS?
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IF PEACE IS BASED UPON CIRCUMSTANCES,
WE ARE IN TROUBLE.
PAUL WAS A ROCK, NO MATTER THE CIRCUMSTANCES.
WAVE UPON WAVE CAME TO HIM:
BEATINGS,
PRISON,
AND IMPENDING MARTYRDOM.
YET HE WAS NOT MOVED.
PAUL KNEW THE SECRET
OF CONTENTMENT IN PLENTY AND IN WANT.
SUNDAY/MONDAY ICEBREAKERS
1. What stood out to you from the above and why?
2. Where is there trouble in your life or a path that seems blocked?
MONDAY/FRIDAY BIBLE STUDY
This last week I’ve been with my friend Linda Strom, who is the “Charles Colsen” to women’s prisons. We’ve been going over a Bible study I wrote for women in prison to accompany Linda’s biography of Karla Faye Tucker.
Linda faces SO MANY ROADBLOCKS. She can be blocked by a surly warden who decides her team shouldn’t come in and do a Bible study that night. Or she can see a woman on death row utterly transformed by Christ, and yet kept in solitary confinement for years and then executed. Yet Linda is mellow. She said to me, “It’s a lot of work to try to rule the world — to feel like my prayers are responsible. I’m so glad God is in charge instead.” And oh, how I have seen God open door upon door for Linda. And yet, we have both also seen trees fall and we must go another way. Linda knows the secret that Paul knew.
THE CHARACTER OF PEACE: NOT THE ABSENCE OF TROUBLE BUT THE PRESENCE OF GOD
READ PHILIPPIANS 4:4-13
3. As you read this whole passage, do you have any clues on the secret of peace? (You may change your answer at the end of the two weeks of this study — but go for it!)
4. As you mediate on verses 4-5, you can see first see the edges of the secret in verse 5. What is it?
When Luther’s friend Philip Melanthon would despair, Luther would say, “Let Philip cease to rule the world.”
5. What do you know about God that can help you surrender circumstances to Him?
TIM KELLER GIVES US THREE KEYS TO THIS CONTENTMENT: THINKING, THANKING, AND LOVING
THINKING
Philippians 4:8 was the slogan of my alma mater, Northwestern University. Perhaps they understood it once, but not when I was in school. I think they interpreted it as thinking on lovely things such as the beauty of Lake Michigan, on which their campus was built, or the autumn leaves that turned crimson on the campus each fall, or the beauty of knowledge itself. Yet their most esteemed professor ripped up a Bible in a lecture I was attending one day. He said, “It is full of contradictions. At one place Jesus says he brings peace — at another place a sword. Which is it Jesus?” That man did not look at context or know the Lord, or he would have seen that Jesus does say he brings peace to the believer but a sword between believers and unbeliever. Northwestern’s view of knowledge was man’s wisdom. Instead Philippians is talking about the wisdom, the doctrine, of God!
What is true? Jesus died for our sins, and the debt is paid. What is lovely? God’s great love for His bride. What is pure? The Son of God who was without sin so could pay for our sin. What is of good report? The resurrection of our Lord!
Let me consider my roadblock: the church I thought was home is different than I hoped. But though Satan may be at work, I also know that God is so excellent and so good that Satan is only used as His instrument. I know His love is lovely and I can trust Him with this roadblock.
6. It is your turn. Consider a roadblock you are facing. Now take a doctrine, think on it, and apply it to your roadblock.
THANKING
Two weeks ago my friends Ann and Sylvia were here. Last week I mentioned briefly an incident Sylvia told me about a friend who has been through a series of devastating circumstances — a husband’s cancer, a child’s mental illness, and other enormous struggles. Sylvia told me, “You know what, Dee — she’s been so discouraged for so long, but she’s changed, so I pressed her as to why. She said she has been thanking God for what He was going to do with each devastating circumstance. Dee — it’s remarkable, the peace she now has.” This reminds me of Ann Voskamp’s journey, and how friends began to say to her, “You’re different.” I want to make it clear that I am NOT advising you to tell friends who have just experienced loss to thank God, for that would be hurtful. But I think each of us can receive this truth when it doesn’t come so personally, but through a teaching in a sermon (or I pray, a blog) — and there is a time it easier to receive that in the midst of high-tide grief.
It’s hard to thank God in devastating circumstances. It takes trust in His sovereignty and character.
7. Meditate on Philippians 4:6-7. What does it say?
8. Compare this with 1 Thess 5:16-18. What commands are duplicated?
9. Comment on Sylvia’s testimony about her friend above.
Since this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for us, we must do it. So I am thanking God for what He is going to do with my pastor’s resignation: in my life, in this church, and my pastor’s life, and in the community here.
10. Now it’s your turn. Consider a hard circumstance and thank God for what He is going to do. Let your request be made known — not telling God what to do — but to act — and then thank Him.
LOVING
11. Our tendency is to put our trust in the transitory. What are you trusting that is transitory?
12. Meditate on John 10:1-18, one picture that is painted of our unchanging God. Press some phrases into your heart until they catch fire. This is a God you can trust.
NEXT WEEK WE WILL LISTEN TO KELLER’S SERMON ON THE ABOVE AND COMPLETE PHILIPPIANS.
SATURDAY
13. WHAT IS YOUR TAKE-AWAY AND WHY?
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SUNDAY/MONDAY ICEBREAKERS
1. What stood out to you from the above and why?
The opening line completely resonated with me: YOU ARE MOVING AHEAD IN EXCITEMENT SENSING THE LORD HAS SOLVED A PROBLEM, IS LEADING YOU IN A GOOD PATH, AND THEN: THE PATH IS BLOCKED. And the log picture! Perfect.
The common refrain hit me—This was not (my) plan. How can good come from this?
And then this truth: IF PEACE IS BASED UPON CIRCUMSTANCES, WE ARE IN TROUBLE. It is always true. Fear and discontentment only come when I have my own plan thwarted. If only I lay down my own idea of what will bring peace—and rest in His idea—sounds so simple, but oh the struggle. It’s like by instinct, my default mode—to cling to my way over and over. And yet I do trust His sovereignty…looks like a great study!
Elizabeth-your post so resonates with me-“the struggle-it is like by instinct, my default mode-to cling to my way over and over-and yet I do trust His sovereignty.”
I don’t know why but your statement brought to mind the picture of Martin French’s the potter and the clay. If Jesus took his hands off the clay it would go crazy-in every direction-a mess! Yet His hands are firm on us moving with our natural bends- using them to make us into that beautiful pot.. I don’t know..just thinking.. never thought of it that way before.
Rebecca, loved this comment about the potter and the clay picture. I never thought of that before either and it is so true.
That was such a vivid picture of how we fly apart or just spread out all over in a mess without Jesus.. So ehy do I try to do it on my own so much of the time? AHHHHH! Thankfully I attended one of Dee’s seminars this Spring and I’m listening more to my reactions to thing. PTL!
Elizabeth, this hit me: “If only I lay down my own idea of what will bring peace…”
I do this all the time. I have an idea/image in my mind of what I want circumstances to be like in order for me to feel happy.
Me, too! I keep thinking if my (former friend) coworker would just let me know that she doesn’t hate me, I’d feel so much better and happier. I know that is just showing that I’m still clinging to the approval/acceptance idol. Something that I have to replace continually in my mind and heart.
Dawn–that’s a hard one. I can really relate and will pray the Lord helps you release it and feel peace. I think one of the hardest things is having things “unresolved” in a relationship.And what you desire is a “good” thing–as most idols can be, I guess–it’s just so hard to not have it consume.I’m dealing with that with a family member–so I will pray for you as I pray for myself, to let Him take it and bring healing.
Thanks, Elizabeth. I will be praying the same for you, sister 🙂
Great comments Ladies. I truly need this study.
So glad your back Julie!
Julie, I echo, Joyce…nice to see you back. How are Kyle, Allie, and Logan doing?
Such truth! I think of the myriad of roadblocks I have endured and how God’s hand was in them. An advantage of aging is that you can look back on your life and see how God was there and while it wasn’t part of your plan it did work out. Contentment grows out of gratitude and trust. I have a friend who often says “the day was perfect” whatever went on was perfect for you…I try saying/thinking that way..with gratitude regardless of “my plan.” Because I am in a period of contentment with no crisis hanging over me it is easier for me to embrace contentment and verbalize gratitude right now.
Sarah sal, I can learn so much from older, wiser women like you. What you said about being in a period of contentment at this time in your life seems to make it easier to embrace contentment..so true-yet I see maturity in your comment because you see this!
Knowing a bit of your history makes this comment much more meaningful Sarah.
1. What stood out to you from the above and why?
STRONG opening! The picture with the tree says a lot. How we feel so frustrated when we have plans and are going somewhere-then bam there is a tree in the road. Stopped at the edge, my mind would frantically look for a way around it-even considering if I could try and roll it away! Discontentment would arise as I would have to take another route that would make me late, ruining my plans. I CAN SO RELATE TO THIS.
Then this: “If peace were based on circumstances, we are in trouble.” -then the encouragement of Paul’s life-hope in the midst knowing because of the Gospel we can have Him and He will give us His peace regardless of our circumstances.-“wave upon wave came to Paul”-log in the road after log in the road-“yet Paul knew the ‘secret’ of contentment in plenty and in want.”
2. Where is there trouble in your life or a path that seems blocked?
Oh my..it seems it is daily for 15 years since I have been married. I don’t like the trees in the road-but I look back and am “growing” thankful for these blocks for God is SLOWLY making me not want to jump out of my car and remove them. Whatever comes down the road-Gospel step by step-day by day-light by more light- I so need.
As of late I don’t like two specific immovable trees! Believe me deep inside I have moments where I lament over them-thoughts flash through my mind as to how to move them-even just yesterday! This is a painful yet wonderful journey-the light He gives daily in my mess-sometimes surprising me. When I see His hand moving in the mess-not fixing things necessarily, but His sovereignty blows me away. The scary valleys have become a huge part of how He helps me run to Him. It is such a comfort knowing my trees-my pain is part of His story. 🙂
This gal who used to have ‘everything in order’ as a single has digressed (or should I say ‘progressed’?) into a 6 year old child before His throne. Now I see in a mirror dimly but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known. 🙂 The vastness of His majesty-oh my. Little by little as I struggle, He is showing me more beautiful facets of Himself-more light-the whole story- and I am desiring to be in His presence more and more. He is becoming more and more my strength-YET I am still a baby.
Even though I hate pain- I am becoming grateful-SLOWLY. Un-fixable pain takes my eyes off this world and drives me to Him-kind of upside down! Yet I know there are trees that are like the overwhelming waves that Paul experienced that I haven’t yet-not that I want to, but know I will some day.
-too long of a post I know, but this question has turned out to be a great question and I don’t have time to edit!
oh Rebecca “Un-fixable pain takes my eyes off this world and drives me to Him’. I hate that you have such pain–but oh how I thank Him that you are turning to Him.
Elizabeth-I can’t believe you made it through my long-scattered post. 😉 His love so radiates from you!
It is such a comfort knowing my trees-my pain is part of His story. 🙂
yes…
Rebecca please don’t ever edit your post to shorten them. They have brought light to my mind where light is needed. Thank you!
Hey Julie-So glad you are back! 🙂 🙂 (two smiles means a HUGE smile)
First, I have to step back and take a quote from last week; bring it forward because it is SO powerful. I got behind and was finishing reading some of the comments and found this from Elizabeth:
“He has said “it is finished”—how can I say ‘no—wait, it’s not’?!”
I don’t usually do “take aways” because I can’t ever pick anything; there’s so much! But last week was different. Thanks Elizabeth for one of my first take aways!
1. What stood out to you from the above and why?
IT HAPPENED TO THE DISCIPLES TOO.
THEY FINALLY FOUND THE MESSIAH.
AND THEN HE WAS CRUCIFIED.
OH MY. I actually teared up.
2. Where is there trouble in your life or a path that seems blocked?
Dare I say that I don’t really have too much trouble right now, but I know it will come…it always does. I know it comes in cycles, in waves. I am waiting for the next one. Each time the next struggle comes though it gets easier and easier to get through it. The reason is because of the faith I have grown into over the past 5 years. Although a Christian my entire life, only recently have I come to KNOW Jesus. This is the difference when the wave hits. It is freeing.
Laura-dancer–talk about tearing up! You got me with this one “only recently have I come to KNOW Jesus.” Watching your example before us–going through such testing, yet turning to Him with honest trust–it has been such a blessing to see His work in you. Wow.
Laura-Dancer- DITTO what Elizabeth said!
Ditto 2.
1. What stood out to you from the above and why?
YOU ARE MOVING AHEAD IN EXCITEMENT
SENSING THE LORD HAS SOLVED A PROBLEM,
IS LEADING YOU IN A GOOD PATH,
AND THEN:
THE PATH IS BLOCKED
and THIS HAPPENED TO THE DISCIPLES TOO.
They ran when Jesus was arrested. They couldn’t see that this was anything but a very bad ending.
Last evening a tornado hit my area. Barns demolished. Trees uprooted. (See my Facebook for a link.) The power of the wind is incredible. God can do whatever He wants. In a moment, everything we have here on earth can be taken away. There has been a huge tree across my path in the last year, like a never-ending nightmare. No ending could be good, it seems. So hard to believe that God could be good and in control at the same time. God has had to clean out a lot of garbage in my life to get me to the point I am at now where I can say, “Not my will but thine be done.” I have been a Christian for a very long time, but I have always wanted things MY WAY. Lip service to the Lord, but more out of duty and for what I could get from Him than from adoration of Him alone. But this suffering has driven God’s truth much, much deeper down. I praise him for this storm, for what it has done in me and how it has deepened my faith. Do whatever you need to do, Lord. You know best. This has been so, so hard but I am a 4 year old who cannot understand God’s perspective and what He is doing is much bigger than me. I stand in awe of the God behind the storm.
Diane–sometimes I picture myself just sitting at your feet wanting to soak up all the wisdom I can–this–brings me such hope:”I praise him for this storm, for what it has done in me and how it has deepened my faith. Do whatever you need to do, Lord. You know best. This has been so, so hard but I am a 4 year old who cannot understand God’s perspective and what He is doing is much bigger than me. I stand in awe of the God behind the storm.”
You’re sweet, elizabeth. But, honestly, sometimes it is not a pretty picture as I thrash around and keep turning to my control idol. My default is trusting myself and my idols, then realizing my inner turmoil and going “Oh, yeah. Lord help!” and turning back to God. Like Keller said last week in the sermon, I have to remind myself of the God principle. I have to start with knowing who God is, what He has done for me, and how much He loves me or the “method” of finding peace is useless.
Diane, “I have been a Christian for a very long time, but I have always wanted things MY WAY. Lip service to the Lord, but more out of duty and for what I could get from Him than from adoration of Him alone. But this suffering has driven God’s truth much, much deeper down.” —SUCH TRANSPARENCY-AND TRUTH..So good.
Then this: “This has been so, so hard but I am a 4 year old who cannot understand God’s perspective and what He is doing is much bigger than me. I stand in awe of the God behind the storm.” -WOW..
It is strange is it not Diane? arriving at that place of release, when you feel afraid to let go and then such peace in knowing you never had any control in the first place and that trusting God is the only right thing to do?
Amazing God is.. I was thinking as i read Dianes post of Chris too. I am with Elizabeth in sitting at yours and Chris` feet for i have seen such real clinging to Him and maturing as a result of both of your storms..and Chris-i so hate your pain yet He is so glorified through your transparency and moldable heart.
Diane, this is a powerful post from you. Knowing what you are going through in your family, what you’ve had to endure…many would give-up, but “this suffering has driven God’s truth much, much deeper down.” Praying for this Wednesday…I believe you said it is the court date..
Diane I will be praying for your family and the others in your area to be peace thru this time. I so understand your comment about thrashing out to The Lord. It’s so good to know we can and that He will bring us back where we need to be. Thanks for your honesty.
And I stand with you behind God…for you and Aubrey and Krista and the boys, Diane.
1. What stood out to you from the above and why?
Two things stood out. The words “and then:” at the beginning and “this was not ___ plan”. My life has been full of moving forward thinking that the Lord had set me on a specific path…and then…something happens that was not what I thought was part of the plan. I smiled at those words as they seem to fit so many things in my life, it seems like I have a regular path of moving forward and then…the plan is not as smooth as I thought it would be.
The analogy of my path is the bike path I ride on. Since I live close to the river there are a couple of bike path(s) to downtown on each side of the river, I try to ride my bike (not always successful). About a month ago our city experienced a flood that caused huge amounts of damage to the areas near the rivers as well as a number of communities outside the city. The paths that I can ride on were closed for close to 2 weeks and one is still out as it was washed away and simply no longer exists in spots. The side that I can ride on still has silt on the path in spots and debris and piles of silt that has been moved beside the bike path and in the river. I no longer ride on a smooth path but it remains the safest path to be on to get to downtown by bike.
My path might be bumpy, there may be silt, debris, even areas to avoid, but if this is the path that the Lord has me on then it is the safest path…roadblocks and all.
Mary-Canada, I like this ” no longer ride on a smooth path but it remains the safest”. Glad to see you back again–missed you last week.
elizabeth, last week my son was in the hospital with what turned out to be pancreatitis. He is out now and okay but that did take my focus last week. I was able to read a bit, however pretty much missed the blog last week. I hope to be able to participate more this week. Thank you for thinking of me 🙂
I am glad your son is okay Mary, how is Glenn doing?
Chris, I sigh about my brother. He had a job interview and told me that he really wanted this particular job. When I told him I would pray for him, he said to pray for him to get the job, not for God’s will, just for him to get the job. The last time I prayed for him just for God’s will, he had a huge fight with the woman that broke up with him and then thought they should get back together. Since I didn’t know if this was a good relationship for either of them I just prayed that God would make it clear to him. The very next day they had a major meltdown but my brother was mad at me for days for praying for them to breakup, even though that’s not what I was praying for. This time he was very specific about what he wanted me to pray for, so I did, but then added for God to change his heart in the process. He now has the job he wanted, but now he has gotten back together with the woman and he thinks it will be a permanent relationship. I have no real way of know whether the job or his girlfriend are God’s will, since he wasn’t really interested in God’s will, unless it lined up with his own.
He has the job he wants and the woman he wants, but I am saddened that he is more interested in what he wants rather than what God wants. I feel like I have to be careful how I phrase things so he doesn’t get mad, so I don’t offer to pray for him, but I do pray for God to change his heart.
If you ask him, he is fine and very blessed by God…now, but if you ask me, I am happy that he has a job that he really likes and a lady that he cares about, but I am also saddened by what I see in his heart. Sorry this got a bit long winded.
Don’t be sorry, the information is helpful and necessary, so we know how best to pray.
I see hope in the thought that he believes prayer has power, that is a starting place for sure. If a good work has begun in him God will be faithful to complete it.
I join you and will pray that God changes his heart.
I pray that also for Glenn, Mary.
Oh the image I got with this Mary was so good. Thank you for the reminder that the path God puts us on is not always smooth, but He is still there with us along the way. I will also be praying for your brother’s heart to soften to the ways of The Lord.
Thank you all very much for praying for my brother.
OK, new favorite song from church today I have to share, “I Thirst, Thou Wounded Lamb of God”. Just push the play button, scroll down for words–they are amazing!:http://quarrystreethymnal.bandcamp.com/track/i-thirst-thou-wounded-lamb-of-god
I thirst, thou wounded Lamb of God,
to wash me in thy cleansing blood,
to dwell within thy wounds; then
pain is sweet, and life or death is gain.
Take my poor heart and let it be
forever closed to all but thee!
Seal thou my breast and let me wear
that pledge of love forever there.
How blest are they who still abide
close sheltered in thy bleeding side,
who life and strength from thence derive,
and by thee move, and in thee live.
What are our works but sin and death
’til thou thy quick’ning Spirit breathe?
Thou giv’st the power thy grace to move;
0 wondrous grace! 0 boundless love!
Hence our hearts melt, our eyes o’erflow,
our words are lost, nor will we know,
nor will we think of ought beside
my Lord, my Love, is crucified.
from Quarry Street Hymnal, Volume 1, released 01 November 2012
Text by Nikolaus von Zinzendorf & Johann Nitschmann, 1735
translated by John Wesley, 1740
LIKE!! Thanks for sharing this, hadn’t heard it before
Isn’t it amazing how someone who wrote in 1735 can minister so to us?
Beautiful Elizabeth!
Very pretty. Thanks, Elizabeth
1. What stood out to you from the above and why?
The FEAR picture stood out to me, when I am leaning on my own understanding, the devil rushes in with lies that seem so true, so real, and I am afraid.
It helps me to remember that Jesus was moved with compassion as he saw the needs and the pain of people.
I need, as Paul understood, when he was crushed, persecuted, and struck down, to fix my eyes on Christ. My vessel is made of clay so that those watching will see that any power I have comes from God.
2. Where is there trouble in your life or a path that seems blocked?
There is trouble, a hurdle coming that must be gotten over.
I don’t know what to expect, except that it will be really hard, but I know I need my Father now as much as I ever have. Being aware of my need and His sufficiency is a good thing. I have an opportunity to slide my hand into my Fathers and trust.
I’ll be praying for you, Chris…
“ There is trouble, a hurdle coming that must be gotten over.
I don’t know what to expect, except that it will be really hard, but I know I need my Father now as much as I ever have. Being aware of my need and His sufficiency is a good thing. I have an opportunity to slide my hand into my Fathers and trust.”
Bless your heart Nancy, thank you.
Lewis said “No one told me grief was so like fear.”
Will pray you jump the hurdle set before you Chris.
Chris, your not alone…you have us here also to pray for you and the hurdle.
1. What stood out to you from the above and why?
YOU ARE MOVING AHEAD IN EXCITEMENT
SENSING THE LORD HAS SOLVED A PROBLEM,
IS LEADING YOU IN A GOOD PATH,
AND THEN:
THE PATH IS BLOCKED
and THIS HAPPENED TO THE DISCIPLES TOO.
They ran when Jesus was arrested. They couldn’t see that this was anything but a very bad ending.
Oh my…sat and cried yet sensed so much the Lord coming along side me through your post. Yes, I have been going through exactly the same thing. Endured an abusive marriage along with infidelity, divorce two years ago and just finding the way smoothing out before me. Yet recently my ex filed contempt charges against me, now have to go to mediation. Have an appt. tomorrow with another lawyer and now finding I am so tired emotionally, physically and financially. Your post of seeing and knowing He is my peace is so true. And the question I ask myself, is I can keep saying I believe, yet when times like this come I know I can rest only in Him. Thank you! Covet your prayers for the next few weeks as they will be difficult.
Welcome Toni…not sure if I’ve “seen” you here before or not so wanted to welcome you! I’m sorry for the pain you’re going through and how it’s exhausting you. Praying for the Lord to stand with you as your Heavenly Husband and Protector.
Greetings, Toni. Your comment made me sad…” I am so tired emotionally, physically and financially”…I will pray for wisdom, discernment, strength and comfort for you over these next weeks that you anticipate to be difficult. Take care, friend…glad you are here.
Toni, (love your name BTW :))
Although I haven’t been through your particular fire, I have been through “A” fire that has also left me “tired emotionally, physically, and financially,” as well. I am still in this fire to a certain extent. If you have ever given birth, you may have given in to the pain, pushed IN to it, to feel relief. it’s a strange concept, but can be a helpful image even if you haven’t birthed a baby 🙂
Know that we are a group who does our best to lift up. I have been blessed by being here. It keeps me linked to to the Lord.
Hello Toni, welcome. You have found a good place to where you can walk out your faith in the midst of pain & confusion.
Praying now for you.
Hi Toni, If you’ve been here and I haven’t “seen” you, it’s because I haven’t been here much lately!
Praying for you as you head into difficult weeks; may you sense His strength, peace, and refreshing.
Oh Toni– you have experienced this. So very glad you have joined us.
Welcome Toni and can understand the pain you are facing. Continue to trust in The Lord and He will carry you thru.
My sister is married to a Leroy Ferry, small world.
Welcome Toni…you have come to the right place here because you will be loved and prayed for. I’m so sorry for all your difficulties…hang in there…God is doing a mighty work in your life. (Thank him for your trials)
Toni–so sorry for your pain. Praying for the appt today. Thankful you are here.
Hi Toni. So glad to have you with us.
Toni I just read your post I was behind on my study so didnt read any posts til now at lunch break. My heart is breaking for you, but I do know that even in this God is faithful.
You have my prayers too but they are nothing compared to what this verse says.
Romans 8:34. Who then is the one who condemns? No one. Christ Jesus who died—more than that, who was raised to life—is at the right hand of God and is also interceding for us.
Toni, welcome. I have only been here less than a year, but this is a group of ladies so full of grace and mercy and they have made such a difference to me and I felt so loved and supported here. I am sure you will find the same. I am saddened about the current situation you are facing but will be praying for you.
I’m so sorry for what you are going through, Toni. My daughter is in the midst of a divorce from an emotionally abusive marriage where she had to leave without her three boys. She is fighting for them in court but it is a heart breaking time and her ex continues to be manipulative and punitive. Long story but my heart goes out to you in your pain as we are feeling similarly. The God of peace is with you. Do not be afraid.
1. What stood out to you from the above and why?
Hmmm… I read this on my cell phone earlier. What stood out then were the words “This was not my plan” “This was not their plan.” AND I liked seeing the picture of Joyce, Kendra, and Trevor.
Now, the first image is jumping out at me. That is a big tree. Banging my head against it or using all my (limited) strength wouldn’t do much good in moving it. Without help from others, my brains wouldn’t be very helpful either — just as in life
2. Where is there trouble in your life or a path that seems blocked?
Work and health
Praying for you now Renee…for your work and health.
Thanks, Joyce! Loved seeing your pic.
3. As you read this whole passage, do you have any clues on the secret of peace?
My clue is from v. 9 “And the God of peace will be with you.” This reminds me of what Keller said in the sermon last week about starting with the right end of the stick. i.e., don’t seek the peace of God, but seek the God of peace.
SO… my guess is that the secret is knowing that He is with me — and He is in control; His plans are GOOD !
And now, I am anticipating next week’s study 🙂 And I will go back to read the rest of the passage. v. 9 jumped out at me and I didn’t finish reading it 🙁
2nd guess might have something to do with contentment, but I wouldn’t have that without God of peace
Oh Renee-this was good-So YOU took the first leap on question #3! Proud of you! 🙂
Your comment reminded me of Psalm 84-I did a face to face study recently in the Psalms and I love this:
How lovely is your dwelling place,
Lord Almighty!
My soul yearns, even faints,
for the courts of the Lord;
my heart and my flesh cry out
for the living God.
Even the sparrow has found a home,
and the swallow a nest for herself,
where she may have her young—
a place near your altar,
Lord Almighty, my King and my God.
Blessed are those who dwell in your house;
they are ever praising you.
Blessed are those whose strength is in you,
whose hearts are set on pilgrimage.
As they pass through the Valley of Baka,(This means the valley of suffering!)
they make it a place of springs;
the autumn rains also cover it with pools.
They go from strength to strength,
till each appears before God in Zion.
Hear my prayer, Lord God Almighty;
listen to me, God of Jacob.
Look on our shield, O God;
look with favor on your anointed one.
Better is one day in your courts
than a thousand elsewhere;
I would rather be a doorkeeper in the house of my God
than dwell in the tents of the wicked.
For the Lord God is a sun and shield;
the Lord bestows favor and honor;
no good thing does he withhold
from those whose walk is blameless.
Lord Almighty,
blessed is the one who trusts in you.
I might add that this is what I see in Diane and Chris as they walk in their valleys of suffering and trees in the road. Thirsty for Him.
This reminds me of this song by chris tomlin:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r25AEiYQgGA&feature=youtube_gdata_player
So nice!
Thanks Laura for that song:)
Laura-Dancer-love that song.
Don’t see the peace of God but the God of peace. So good.
I have been so encouraged by the comments above. The past two weeks have been so wonderful for me. Driving to part time job 1 hr away which I would have never done before,playing praise music and loving the summer look of His creation. Then I am full of red itchy patches on my body and swollen forehead, ears, and after calling Emergency squad and later visit to hospital – find out I have hives!
My plan of working X hrs. and saving X money for scrap convention are all out of the window. Roadblock! Lord I just trust you. Easier said than done I must admit but His Grace is sufficient!
Thank you God for medical insurance, friends to go to convention with, transportation to get there safely, and a great stamp area.
Under his wings!
Welcome Claret! Wow, so wonderful that you trusted Him each step of the way-grateful for His provisions too. so encouraging. 🙂
Hi Claret! I’m glad it turned out to be a case of hives and nothing more serious, but it must’ve been scary to have to go to the hospital. (Keep some Benadryl handy!)
Welcome, Claret!
“hives”…did you find out what you might be allergic to?…scary reaction. As Susan mentioned, keep the Benadryl handy…:) Nice having you here!
Welcome Claret, what a lovely name you have!
So glad you are joining us! Sorry about hives though; very itchy 🙁 hope you are well soon!
What a roadblock illustration! Thanks for joining us!
Welcome Claret…hope they have found out where the hives came from so you can avoid it! So glad to have you here!
Claret–so glad you are here!
Welcome Claret, glad to have you here.
Hi Claret, So glad you are here!
Welcome Claret, happy that you are encouraged, love the comment about easier said than done made me smile…so true.
I think the secret of peace is in dependence on God.
I looked up graciousness. I found this definition that was labeled obsolete, godliness. Then I also found this:characterized by charm, good taste, generosity of spirit, and the tasteful leisure of wealth and good breeding
My thought is that graciousness comes out of wealth. We must understand the great wealth we possess in Christ. The key is dependence on Him.
Funny is it not that the “obsolete” definition is the really important and weighty one?
I really like how you remind us that we have a great wealth in Christ. Makes me think of the verses that talk about seeking after treasures that do not fade away, that moth or rust cannot destroy (Matthew 6:20)…praying that we can keep our right perspective. Even if we feel like we have nothing in this life, if we have Him we have everything….He is a priceless treasure that can meet our every need.
Hi Leah. I’m so glad you have joined us. I agree that our perspective is so impotrtant. Love Mt 6:20!
READ PHILIPPIANS 4:4-13
3. As you read this whole passage, do you have any clues on the secret of peace? (You may change your answer at the end of the two weeks of this study — but go for it!)
Okay, I will go first. 🙂
Well it starts with trusting in Him-resting in His faithful, deeper than the Ocean love for me and the truth that He is in control?
I will take another leap: but I am thinking rejoicing in Him regardless of my circumstances could be the secret? This is what I think rejoicing is: I don’t think it is an emotionally charged thing. I think meditating on Scripture-Him-who He is and what He has done-desiring to be in His presence with a longing and a thirst above all is part of ‘rejoicing in him’. Emotions will come-but I don’t think rejoicing in Him is being happy or excited and having the hair stand on my neck. I think it is a deep contented trust that He is in control regardless of my circumstances-and He gives us ‘holy moments’ where we sense His presence and we are filled up inside praising Him.
I can only rejoice in Him regardless of my circumstances if I truly believe He is in control and surrender control to Him. I can’t surrender control to Him unless I spend time with Him in His word-in His presence. When I truly rest in Him how can I not rejoice in Him regardless of my circumstance?
I think what Dee said above about Linda and the trees in the road is good: That when a tree drops in the road you go another way. I think that is trusting God and resting in His control.
The beauty of being His is that I can also rest knowing that when I forget or fail to trust-and go with my bend toward controlling things, He is faithful. He prompts me via the Holy Spirit through His word and friends and breathes truth into my soul!
Whenever I am not gentle it is a signal I have forgotten-am trying to rule my own world or other people and I am not trusting Him and believing the truth?
1. What stood out to you from the above and why?
First, I love the big picture of Joyce, Kendra, and Trevor! I’ve been squinting at it since she changed her pic…so it’s great to be able to really see their faces and Joyce with her arms around them and I can see the love and joy in her eyes!
The picture of the huge tree blocking the road is a great description of how life feels at times, that something immovable, irreparable, hopelessly staggering has you stuck, unable to move or even see a way around it. Each example – Dee’s pastor leaving her ‘idyllic’ church, Ellie’s miscarriage, Joyce’s Trevor moving away, and yes, the great reminder of the enormous disillusionment the disciples felt – hard to even imagine how they felt-the confusion, fear, grief, loss, the death of every dream and hope they had…I wonder if they wanted to die, too, right then and there. With each of these examples you can almost hear the thunderous crash of that great tree. So…what do we do in the silence and disbelief that follows? I am anxious to find out in the study.
2. Where is there trouble in your life or a path that seems blocked?
Living in a troubled marriage. Paths to intimacy, to experience real, unmasked connections always seem blocked. Not just in marriage but in friendships with other women. Even in church, there seem to be groups of women who have known each other a long time and have strong friendships and it seems impossible to fit in. I always feel hemmed-in by loneliness.
All of this is making me think of the movie, It’s a Wonderful Life. George Bailey never escaped Bedford Falls – each time his path was blocked. His despair escalated to the point he was ready to take his own life. He felt his life didn’t matter, he never did anything important.
I relate to this Susan:
“Paths to intimacy, to experience real, unmasked connections always seem blocked. Not just in marriage but in friendships with other women. Even in church, there seem to be groups of women who have known each other a long time and have strong friendships and it seems impossible to fit in. I always feel hemmed-in by loneliness.”
I struggle here too.
I do have a budding friendship with another woman, an answer to prayer.
Some of that longing I know will remain until we have perfect fellowship in heaven, but I empathize with your desire for real true inmate soul to soul type of sharing.
Bill and I are sooooo much better here than I ever thought we would be, but I still long for even more.
Part of the ‘not yet’ realities of living in a fallen world.
Praying now for you in all of this Susan.
Thank you, Chris…praying for you, too.
Sisters in Christ praying for each other…that gives me much joy!
listening to these comments are interesting to me because i also have that longing for that close intimate relationship, but i have it and still long for it! i have a great saturday morning bible study with 5 women that are so supportive and loving and other dear friends that would be there for me in a minute. i still long for something more and wonder how to fill that void. one thing i think about is i could easily make them my idols and rely on them instead of my relationship with God. i am also drawn to last weeks sermon where he quoted Romans 8:28 all things work together for good for those who love God. Keller said that everything that God lets thru must be necssary to build me up or grow me. All those things that don’t get thru couldnt be necessary because of God’s wise love. That does give me comfort in that God, in his jealousy, wants my heart first-and then the rest will follow and whatever that is-friends or not-it will be okay.
Sounds like as Elizabeth says below like you are homesick for heaven
Chris and Susan, I so understand And have been there- still working at building some of those relationships –it has been slow coming since my move 6 years ago. I just prayed for both of you and included the other women in this group who have same needs and will promise to pray for you when I am lonely too!
Susan, I missed you and was glad to see you post! 🙂
“With each of these examples you can almost hear the thunderous crash of that great tree. So…what do we do in the silence and disbelief that follows?”-such a great question Susan.
I think what you have mentioned-relational road blocks- are often the most painful. I hate that you are having to endure such pain and I will pray God will meet you as you do this study. I know He can be a balm to your soul and a comfort to that dark valley of feeling lonely. I will pray..YOU ARE LOVED! Love you.
praying SO much for you dear Susan. I especially relate to the difficulty of crossing the barriers in friendship and finding real fellowship. But for me I know so much of it is my own fear–still, it’s a “tree”! I also have had all my life that homesickness for Heaven, and I know to some degree, we will feel that here. But I pray the Lord will “un-hem” you dear friend,and bring an end to the loneliness.
Susan, you are sweet…the picture was taken at my birthday dinner a year ago, with my kids and other family that evening. I didn’t realize how blessed I was to have Trevor living right here in town… because just a year later, on my birthday, I will be saying goodbye to him as he leaves to move 500 miles away.
I always take things and people for granite until they are gone…I never appreciated what I had:(
I’m praising and thanking God for everything and everyone in my life more now. God was gracious enough to give me this trial as a stepping stone to grow and give thanks for all he has given me. Like the song…”Because he lives, I can face tomarrow; because he lives, all fear is gone.” So I’m leaning in more to Jesus and finding comfort.
Also Susan, I know your marriage has been very difficult and I keep praying for you, as you are so dear to me. I’ll be praying for a friend also…I can’t believe church ladies that don’t let others in their group…reminds me of high school girls. That’s what church is for; to welcome others! Makes me so sad.
Go on to finish the ending of the story of “It’s a wonderful Life” Susan. What happen to George Bailey…the happily ever after part? I can’t remember it exactly, but I know George was happy in the ending…that’s what I pray God’s will for you to be:)
Joyce, I’m praying for you, too…what a bittersweet birthday you will have this year having to say goodbye…is this date coming soon?
You look so, so happy in that picture…now I know why! It must have been a great birthday celebration with your family.
I’ve also been wondering…how is your brother Dennis doing?
(And yes…George was shown by Clarence the angel that he did have a wonderful life after all…his life impacted everyone around him but he never saw it. Bedford Falls would have been Pottersville if not for George:)
August 14th
Thanks for asking…Dennis is doing good. He is dating a very nice lady.
Susan great post. I will be praying for all your concerns.
Praying for you Susan, especially in your relationships.
READ PHILIPPIANS 4:4-13
3. As you read this whole passage, do you have any clues on the secret of peace? (You may change your answer at the end of the two weeks of this study — but go for it!)
Peace = knowing Christ
4. As you mediate on verses 4-5, you can see first see the edges of the secret in verse 5. What is it? The Lord is near.
When Luther’s friend Philip Melanthon would despair, Luther would say, “Let Philip cease to rule the world.”
5. What do you know about God that can help you surrender circumstances to Him? God is the one who is in control and it is very freeing to let go and let Him have it all! When I try to control things, it usually is painful.
1. What stood out to you from the above and why?
As Susan, I too enjoyed seeing Joyce, Kendra and Trevor’s picture enlarged.
What stood out to me from above was, “THIS WAS NOT THE PLAN. HOW CAN GOOD COME FROM THIS?” This past year has been filled with many “this is not ‘the plan'” times. The picture of the tree blocking the road is often how the “this is not ‘the plan'” times felt/feel. I think “how can I get around this?”…”how can the path be cleared?” (likely far too much reliance/attention on “my” efforts…what “I” can do). I have been attempting to put into practice methods from last week’s study, keeping in mind the principle (look at the big picture…lift up my thoughts). Yesterday when I first read this study post, the road “appeared” clearer…it only took until a little later in the day that “trees fell” and once again “blocked the road”. I am praying to the Lord, giving thanks for all the possible outcomes…trying to maintain a radical evenness of temper…seeking His presence.
2. Where is there trouble in your life or a path that seems blocked?
The situation with our daughter. Since January (when my unmarried daughter announced her unplanned pregnancy to my husband and I), life has been anything but what was planned. There have been many challenges and obstacles since that time…some very recent ones that are in need of being addressed (yesterday’s trees). That being said, my granddaughter is a delight and we love her dearly…she is a blessing from the Lord’s hand…she is “the good” I see from this entire situation (Rom. 8:28).
praying for you Nanci–for the “trees”. So sorry for the turbulence you have had in your family. But yes, what a gift your precious granddaughter is–and the example of unconditional love you have been to your daughter.
I agree with Elizabeth, Nanci. I’m praying for your daughter and grandaughter…let us know how court goes. Meanwhile enjoy those sloberly kisses from your precious grandbaby!
Grandkids can make a bad situation enjoyable. Enjoy your granddaughter Nancy and I will be praying for you and your family.
3. As you read this whole passage, do you have any clues on the secret of peace?
Stop reliance on “self” in regards to perceptions, solutions, results…rest in God’s sovereignty…focus on the Lord being in charge/control, His provision.
4. As you mediate on verses 4-5, you can see first see the edges of the secret in verse 5. What is it?
“Remember, the Lord is coming soon”
Was this ever a fortuitous sentence for me to read this morning…
“When Luther’s friend Philip Melanthon would despair, Luther would say, ‘Let Philip cease to rule the world.’”
thanks Dee.
5. What do you know about God that can help you surrender circumstances to Him?
God is good…He is all knowing, all powerful, all loving and merciful…He gave His Son to atone for our sins and provide for our salvation.
So glad on quote helping
3. As you read this whole passage, do you have any clues on the secret of peace? (You may change your answer at the end of the two weeks of this study — but go for it!)
Fixing my mind on Christ, my reason to rejoice, no matter what else is happening
Turn my fear and anxiety into prayer, talk to God about everything, asking for what I need, and being thankful for everything I can be thankful for, trusting that He will guard my heart and my mind as I stay close to Him.
Fixing my mind again, whatever the circumstance on Christ, having an inner quiet that comes from knowing whose I am and not from what I am experiencing.
4. As you mediate on verses 4-5, you can see first see the edges of the secret in verse 5. What is it?
The nearness of the Lord, he is Immanuel, he is with me, his Spirt indwells me, He is coming soon, He has promised to set things right, I can trust Him. This will allow me to be gentle with others, to live above my circumstances.
1. What stood out to you from the above and why?
“This was not the plan — how can good come from this?” Dee’s illustration of her plans to live full-time in her Wisconsin cabin. Then the trees fell. If I were in Dee’s shoes, I think I would be having a discussion with the Lord, saying “Didn’t you encourage me to make these plans? And now there is this humongous tree! What is the purpose here, Lord?” That’s what I would be saying! However, I would imagine it is a very big plus for the situation to have Dee Brestin present when the pastor is leaving — not so much a plus for Dee as a plus for the church.
2. Where is there trouble in your life or a path that seems blocked?
I had plans — plans to enjoy a summer for one thing. Also with matters moving along with our church about to sell our building (then we will lease back part of it), I had plans of being involved in decision-making and also just physical moving of objects out of one part of the building and helping to decide where they would go and how our church would function after the move. (that was a run-on sentence, sorry!) Then the huge tree fell (my auto accident and fractured sternum), and I have been set aside. Well, if it was absolutely necessary in the Lord’s sight that this happen, I am very thankful that I am not teetering around on ice and snow, trying to protect my fracture, like I would if this accident had happened in winter. I have expressed my thanks for that! However, I still find myself saying, “Lord, I’m looking for purpose here!”
Deanna–I SO relate to this cry “I still find myself saying, “Lord, I’m looking for purpose here!” One of my favorite quote of Charles Haddon Spurgeon: “The Lord knows that sight interferes with faith, and, therefore, He does not give us a mixture of the two. We do not walk by sight and faith, but, “we walk by faith, not by sight.” To let us occasionally see, would, in fact, remove us out of the realm of faith and bring us down from the high position of Believers to the low platform of sightseers.”
Praying for you now
Great Spurgeon quote, elizabeth. Don’t want to be a mere sightseer.
Praying for you Deanne…let us know what your Doctor decides to do.
Deanna, will be praying for your healing and for all to come together for your church.
SUNDAY/MONDAY ICEBREAKERS
1. What stood out to you from the above and why? – I loved the reminder seeing how our plans our not His plans. How Paul had is life set out before him by God. This is hard to absorb. How I plan things out that I believe are what I should be doing, but then God puts a door up and I feel a weight of disappointment put on my life. I need to believe that God knows is what best and that is why the door was shut. Lord help me to accept these doors in my life. Amen.
2. Where is there trouble in your life or a path that seems blocked? – The trouble in my life right now is how my husband and I don’t agree at all on his youngest son, my step son still living with us and does not contribute in any way monetary or help unless he is asked and then still does not do it. He is 32 and has been with us for over a year now and now we have his 14 year daughter living with us. I tell my husband he is enabling him but he does not see it that way. He keeps telling me to say something to Jason but the way I feel right now toward him would not come out very pleasant. My attitude toward Jason and Joe (my husband) is not good and I know it. I cry out to God to hear me and instead of getting Jason out we get Bella moving in. I really need help with this situation because my husband does not think it’s affecting our relationship. I also just heard on Moody Bible today something that Rick and Kay Warren said “Where there is conflict, there is ego!” I will be searching my ego now to see if I’m the problem.
Julie–praying now for things with Joe and Jason and you–all sounds like such a heavy burden. Praying for unity between you all and peace.
Julie, you have been given a hugh tree in your pathway…I’ll be praying for you…this is so hard.
Julie, praying for you, both re: the conflict itself and for strength for the situation. I get tired just reading about it.
This is hard, Julie. Praying for you. Glad to hear how you are doing.
Julie, I’m so glad to have you back…I’ve been thinking about you. This is a hard situation with your stepson and your husband…lots of emotions and the issue of enabling all mixed-in and causing conflict between you and Joe. Praying for all of you.
Julie, I feel so bad for you. It is particularly hard when you have the situation right there in the same home with you! Will be praying for all of you that you will find an atmosphere of contentment and peace!
This is hard. I will pray
Julie, this is truly very hard. I’ll be praying for you.
Like everyone else, I will also be praying for this situation to resolve.
My son Josh called me today, his wife Leigh wants a divorce. He was desperate last time, and tried to be a better husband, this time he sounds resigned, that this is going to happen whether he wants it or not.
I am so sad, it is 6 year old Bryar, their daughter, who will suffer most, I am so sad.
Oh Chris, I’m so sorry, I will be praying for all of them. I know how hard this is on you too. Been there, but things on my end seem to be ok right now with my son and his new wife.
Didn’t see this before I asked, Julie…glad things seem okay…I will continue to pray.
So sorry, Chris…tough news. We have similar concerns for our granddaughters…I will be praying for Josh, Leigh, and little Bryar (what a lovely name)…and you and Bill as well.
Oh Chris! Another wave! 🙁 🙁 I am sad for you and all involved. So wish we lived close!!
Chris, I am sad to hear this too. Divorce is devastating, especially on the kids and the one that doesn’t want it. I will be lifting them up in prayer…and all of you.
Oh, Chris…So sorry. Praying for them and you right now.
Such sad news, Chris. I understand this pain.
Oh Chris! We are with you. Praying.
I’m so sorry for this news, Chris. It is sad when a family breaks apart. And I’m sorry that this is adding to the already heavy, heavy burden you are bearing. Praying for Josh, Leigh, and Bryar…and you and Bill, too.
Thank you all. He is quite angry, I am trying to convince him that giving people a piece of his mind will not help in any way and will come back to hurt him and in the end, Bryar.
Please pray that this draws him to Christ.
will do
Chris, That is sad news. We feel for our children and grandchildren, and have spent our lives trying to make “it all better,” but situations like divorce show us that we have our limits. Yes, it will be hard on Bryar, but the innocence of children (God’s gift to them) allows “some” of it to go over their heads, thankfully. Iwill pray for God to hold all of you in the palm of His hand!
I am joining with all our sisters in praying for you and your family, Chris.
Hurting with you. I am so sorry for this news. Will pray.
5. What do you know about God that can help you surrender circumstances to Him?
He is omniscient He sees everything in time, from the beginning to the end, I do not.
Suffering is to be expected, we are told this is what to expect, suffering isn’t unique to me. Saints everywhere suffer. The things that hurt the most are loss of people I loved, those relationships were a gift from Him to begin with, nothing eternal has been lost.
He is good…He is Love…He has promised to work ALL things together for good, not most things, ALL things, for me if I love Him and I am called according to His purposes.
Chris–this is a beautiful testimony of your growth. SO sorry about Josh’s news–OH, I hate that you have pain upon pain…will pray for all.
Thank you Elizabeth, these lyrics came to mind as I read your post.
The Lord has promised good to me… His word my hope secures. He will my shield and portion be… as long as life endures.
Chris, this is such a testament of trust and belief…thanks for the witness and inspiration.
I really love this…”The things that hurt the most are loss of people I loved, those relationships were a gift from Him to begin with, nothing eternal has been lost. ”
Chris, how is Lisa doing these days?…I hope (and pray) that she is finding joy in her newly found Lord and warding off jabs and ridicule perpetrated (by the evil one at root, no doubt).
Thank you Nancy for remembering Lisa.
I have encouraged her again to come here to the blog so perhaps she will read this.
She has real issues with anxiety, but she is pressing into the Lord. I am not sure if I mentioned this before but her daughter is incarcerated for drug related charges, this is an ongoing difficulty in her life, but there is such hope in her.
She heard about our news and came over yesterday morning, she was afraid I would be doubting my faith, we had coffee together, I was glad she came, she went away relieved.
I am praying about you daughter and precious granddaughter, keep us posted please.
So happy to hear that Lisa is pressing into the Lord and maintaining hope. From personal experience, anxiety can be quite debilitating; I feel for her…I will add release from anxiety to my prayers for Lisa. I’m so glad that you encouraged her participation on the blog…sure hope she decides to join us.
Thank you, Chris…with all that you have on your plate, the gift of your prayers for my daughter and granddaughter is very precious.
Any update on Josh’s situation…any chance of reconciliation or will this move forward to divorce?
How is Terri’s recovering going…any word on what future treatment might be necessary?
My heart aches for you and Bill…I will continue to pray fervently for you during these difficult days. Please let us know how you are doing and any additional specific prayer requests.
2. Where is there trouble in your life or a path that seems blocked?
As soon as I saw the log across the road, one ongoing struggle came to mind. It’s a roller-coaster one—as Dee put it above, I think things are “MOVING AHEAD…SENSING THE LORD HAS SOLVED A PROBLEM…” and then it hits. We turn the corner only to find a log across the road. I LOVE what Linda told Dee ““It’s a lot of work to try to rule the world — to feel like my prayers are responsible. I’m so glad God is in charge instead.” I think I need to write that down and keep it ever before me. There are smaller trees—maybe bushes, that seem to clutter “my” path daily. But I guess that’s just it—it’s only frustrating if I see it as “my” path. It is His. I am His.
“There are smaller trees—maybe bushes, that seem to clutter “my” path daily.”
This is so true…yes, the “big” trees fall, but those “smaller trees-maybe bushes” can wreck a fair amount of havoc as well (i.e., “the devil is in the details”) requiring constant vigilance to remembering Who is truly in control.
3. As you read this whole passage, do you have any clues on the secret of peace? (You may change your answer at the end of the two weeks of this study — but go for it!)
OK, honestly–I haven’t given this any real thought (yet!) but I am going to say it is here “do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.”
As I take my anxiety to Him—laying it all down at the altar—whatever my “Isaac” is– submitting to His way, not my own—only then can I know peace.
Love that “Isaac” like the hurricane?! How is the moving going Elizabeth? Hopefully like smooth sailing.
Sweet Joyce–I’m in a sea of boxes, but praying all goes smoothly and we’ll move next Monday! (So much work just to go less than a mile!)
About 10 years ago, I heard a sermn at church by a now deceased pastor I loved. He said “what is your Isaac?”, referring to Abraham’s willingness to offer Isaac up on the altar to the Lord. I recently heard an RC Sproul message on that passage that reminded me of it. The question “what is my Isaac”, was my first look at idols. What I am clinging to, that God might be asking me to release to Him. Now that I’ve rambled! I ‘ll tell you the rest–when I heard that sermon 10 years ago, I realized my “Isaac” was my womb. I had suffered infertility and knew God was asking me to release my desire for a child to Him. After a few (many) more nudges from God–I finally did–and that’s when our adoption journey began 😉 So that’s my LONG rambling answer sweet Joyce!
I’ve been praying for your pain–how are you doing lately?
Now I understand your Isaac! You adopted a boy and a girl right? How old are they now?
I’m doing okay…nights and mornings are the hardest for me. How are you doing painwise? I pray you’re doing good, especially now…as you move.
elizabeth, loved the Isaac explanation, after I read it, I stopped for a bit asking myself, what my Isaac was, thank you.
Elizabeth, I too really like your “Isaac explanation”…thanks for your “rambling”…it always bears fruit, dear sister (please don’t stop). In my heart and mind, I question if I could really be as obedient to the Lord as Abraham was in his willingness to sacrifice Issac at the Lord’s direction. I realize that this equates to questioning my trust in the Lord…i.e., do I really trust the Lord with ALL my heart and lean not on my own understanding? It is healthy food for thought to ponder/address…i.e.,what might I be holding on to too tightly? what idols are visible and what ones are undercover yet still a presence?
Slow learner here, but at least I’m learning 🙂 Someone in a closed FB group asked how she could pray for us this week. In my response, I made the comment that my summer is not going as planned (I didn’t have many plans, but I wouldn’t have chosen current situations). Now I’m seeing that “not as I planned” is okay because God is GOOD, and He is Sovereign.
4. As you mediate on verses 4-5, you can see first see the edges of the secret in verse 5. What is it?
“The Lord is near.” And that is why I can rejoice, let gentleness be shown (not always good at this). When I think the secret is in something I do (e.g., rejoice), I’d be banging my head against the wall (or the tree in the middle of the road) for not rejoicing enough or well enough — and get stuck in a rut of trying harder.
When I recognize that the Lord is near, I can relax/quit trying so hard to get the outcome I want.
4. As you mediate on verses 4-5, you can see first see the edges of the secret in verse 5. What is it?
OK, thinking I was “wrong” on my #3! Vs. 5 tells us “The Lord is near”. This time is only a blink compared to eternity–and He is on His way!!
5. What do you know about God that can help you surrender circumstances to Him?
He sees me. He understand every detail of my circumstance, and He empathizes. He is greater. One of my favorite attributes of God is His power. While His ways are often beyond my understanding—His power give me peace. Because I know that nothing surprises Him. Nothing can thwart His plans. And His way are perfect. His is all power, He is all love. He is good. As CS Lewis said of Aslan—not safe, but good. I do get uneasy at the “not safe” part—but if I remind myself how deeply, utterly He loves me—and that the love has nothing to do with me or how I act, but is all because of Him and therefore cannot change—that is peace.
Aslan reference — such a good reminder. Thank you 🙂
5. What do you know about God that can help you surrender circumstances to Him?
He is (from confirmation memorization MANY years ago) eternal, almighty, all-knowing, everywhere-present, wise, good, and merciful, holy, true, and just.
AND
He LOVES ME!
He has me covered.
For those of us going through heartache with children or grandchildren, this blog from Ann Voskamp as Kate Middleton bears a young prince. (Even those with no children will find it edifying.)
Breathe in: Lord, I receive.
Breathe out: Lord, I give thanks
http://www.aholyexperience.com/2013/07/a-letter-to-kate-7-way-to-labor-deliver-your-best-life/
So true Diane.
3. As you read this whole passage, do you have any clues on the secret of peace? (You may change your answer at the end of the two weeks of this study — but go for it!)
Contentment, through rejoicing, praying about everything, thinking of good things, letting everyone see that you are considerate in all you do.
4. As you mediate on verses 4-5, you can see first see the edges of the secret in verse 5. What is it?
Rejoice! Let everyone see that you are considerate (different versions say,gentle, gentle spirited, on their side).
5. What do you know about God that can help you surrender circumstances to Him? He can be trusted, He is faithful, He always makes the right decision (the one that is best for you) He loves you, He will help you, guard you, and strengthen you.
SUNDAY/MONDAY ICEBREAKERS
1. What stood out to you from the above and why?
Well, at first I didn’t know the proper way to do this study and finished it all up in one sitting…then laughed with my husband when I was approaching the end and realized I was a bit of an overachiever! God must REALLY want me to learn something which brings me to my initial reaction: I have always loved that Paul says that he has “learned” to be content. It brings me much hope knowing that even if I don’t have contentment in all circumstances all of the time, the Lord can help me learn to be content. And the truth is, I tend to jump over that part. I just try to take the test that life is trying to give me without ever getting any instructions from my Teacher, let alone study time! I think I try to take matters into my own hands. Right now, for example, (this would be my roadblock and answer to icebreaker 2) my husband and I are trying to decide on which church to raise our baby in. We have been having difficulty with this church selection process for the past 2 years when we were first married. I feel like we are frozen. I am not content. I want to have a church body to call home. Instead, we have four that we like belonging to for different reasons. This roadblock is not as major as many others but its been much larger for me to deal with than I ever imagined it would be. I realize it is only a season but I also don’t want to miss the lessons The Lord wants to teach me in this season. Instead of focusing off the problem, I need to focus on the One who will provide the Solution. I hadn’t thought about how He might be trying to teach me something during this season before taking me out of it…
Oh Leah — I have to jump in and tell you how this all made me smile. The over-achiever, the four churches that each have different things you like — oh dear — I’m a kindred spirit. I think I’m going to love having you here.
Dee, I would imagine we are kindred spirits…I felt a connection to you when you spoke at a Moody Women’s Conference a few years ago. I still remember how you struck a chord with me when you included love songs into your messages…”do you love me?” And although I had yet to find that earthly love of my own and could not fully relate, it broke my heart when you revealed the loss of your husband. What a strength you had to be up there and share the way you did! Anyway, the way you talked about love that weekend ministered to my heart. And just so you know, you come up in conversation in my home when people admire the lion print that hangs in my dining room that your daughter painted. 🙂
Welcome Leah! I love this…. “It brings me much hope knowing that even if I don’t have contentment in all circumstances all of the time, the Lord can help me learn to be content.”
I’m going to love having you here!
Welcome Leah! Glad you have joined us!
Thanks Susan!
Welcome aboard Leah. Wow too finish the study in one day and with a baby. I can only pray someday I can do that too!
It was late at night! I find I have more time to read then lately. And don’t worry, I don’t get all my work done for my weekly small group study all the time anymore. Babies sure do change things (but its all worth it)!
Welcome Leah!
Thanks Chris!
Welcome Leah! Your post resonated with me. When you said that Paul said he had to ‘learn’ to be content-that has always struck a chord with me too. Love your honesty and application!
Thanks Rebecca. Praying we can continue to learn this important lesson!
Leah-I think I know why it has struck a chord-because being reminded growth in contentment is a process…and now after this morning learning more about the ‘process’ in giving thanks in all situations..remembering who He is..I go back to a Keller sermon where he said we have to ‘massage’ the Gospel in daily..SO TRUE.. Even when His light surprises me, I must not forget-but massage it in daily-so it goes in deeper. I think as I do He will transform me into a more contented person. I am learning it takes time and trials.
Welcome, Leah! I’m smiling, too 🙂
Thanks Renee! 🙂
Glad you are here! I think I did the same thing the first time I came on 🙂
Glad I am not alone, Laura! 😉
Glad to have you here with us, Leah!
Glad to be here, Jill!
I’m a bit late in my greeting, Leah…so glad that you are joining us, welcome!
When I came on to post my thoughts on 12 I saw the picture of the road block and wondered if I had gotten off subject but I think that The Lord is dealing with an ancient roadblock in my life. This is my meditation on 12 and it did catch fire!
12. Meditate on John 10:1-18, one picture that is painted of our unchanging God. Press some phrases into your heart until they catch fire. This is a God you can trust.
My Shepherd
My Door
I know His voice & follow only Him
I am His lamb, part of His flock where not one is lost
He is a skilled shepherd and because He loves each one enough to die for them, NOT ONE IS LOST!
To an outsider or hired man, all of the sheep look the same but the Shepherd knows each one
Psalm 24-Open the gates!
I am the door. If anyone enters by Me, he will be saved and will come in and go out and find pasture. (John 10:9 HCSB)
Lift up your heads, you gates!
Rise up, ancient doors!
Then the King of glory will come in. Psalm 24:7&9
This is so meaningful to me because I have lately come to see the walls around my heart and how they came to be. I began to build them early in life. They protected me but shut out people and worse than that they shut out God. I was powerless against them and had to make this a subject of prayer. Now He, my loving Shepherd is speaking to them. I am in awe. How He is working through Dee’s questions, sermons at church and the listening prayer I have learned about, slowly, one step at a time. Now breaking forth, the King of glory.
I am not fixed but lifted up by a glimpse of His glory and by the promise that He is the Shepherd and not one of His sheep will be lost.
I am smiling for you Anne, for this release.
Anne, Love this-how God is coming to you-putting the pieces together and rescuing you..it a sweet slow process over time and especially so with those life long walls-but He can tear them down and heal you layer by layer one chisel at a time. Sweet to see you are letting Him!
Love psalm 24 with this!
Oh I did to! Thanks to all of you for encouragement. This has been a memorable week for me in the study. Particularly this morning.
I have to share this. This morning as I was in my prayer notebook I found this prayer. I added it after a sermon about 6 months ago. My prayer has been that I would let down the walls and let Jesus shepherd me! The wording came straight from a Sunday sermon that spoke to my heart.
“I have lately come to see the walls around my heart and how they came to be. I began to build them early in life. They protected me but shut out people and worse than that they shut out God. I was powerless against them and had to make this a subject of prayer. Now He, my loving Shepherd is speaking to them. I am in awe. How He is working through Dee’s questions, sermons at church and the listening prayer I have learned about, slowly, one step at a time. Now breaking forth, the King of glory.
Anne, best wishes in the “excavation” efforts. This sounds quite encouraging…”I am not fixed but lifted up by a glimpse of His glory”
Any tips or references you would suggest for “listening prayer”?
Nanci, I am just now seeing this. I can only tell you what listening prayer is as I understand it and how it works for me. I try to be still and quiet before The Lord waiting for Him to speak to my heart in whatever way He chooses. He impresses things on my heart or brings pictures to my mind. The important thing for me has been to wait on Him because it is easy for me to either be mistaken or to carry it in the direction I think it should go. If an impression or direction is from Him, He will follow it up in His time. Most times impressions do not make sense to me until He begins to clarify.
This is part of the Keller daily quote from yesterday, I don’t think I’ve heard it before:
“This is the love you have been looking for all of your life. This is the only love that can’t let you down. This is bombproof love. Not friend-love, not personal acclaim, not married love, and not even romantic love – it is this love that you are after, underneath all your pursuit of those others. And if this love of active obedience is an active reality in your life, you will be a person of integrity; you will be a person of prayer; you will be kind to people who mistreat you. If you have this love you will be a little more like him. Look at him dying in the dark for you. Let it melt you into his likeness.”~ Tim Keller (from The Obedient Master)
Oh Elizabeth…thank you for sharing this quote. “It is this love that you are after, underneath all your pursuit of those others….Look at him dying in the dark for you. Let it melt you into his likeness.”
Isn’t it so good? Honestly, Susan, I read it last night and you came instantly to mind…then Dawn with her friendship struggle, and then I thought so many of us could relate to that longing for a love that does not fail us…so I posted it!
Thank you Elizabeth, I needed that too.
I think every human being has that longing!
So good Elizabeth thanks!
ditto to Julie’s comment…
so good, Elizabeth…I’m going to look into getting Keller’s daily quote…thanks!
The Gospel, The Gospel, The Gospel, thank you Elizabeth.
Elizabeth-loved the whole quote!-“This is bombproof love.” “Look at him dying in the dark for you-let it melt you into His likeness.”
Oh — so very good!
3. As you read this whole passage, do you have any clues on the secret of peace?
Here are the clues I found: Rejoice in the Lord always. I may not be able to rejoice in my circumstances but I can rejoice in Him.
Do not be anxious; instead, take everything to Him in prayer.
Express gratitude to the Lord-be thankful even when things are hard.
Watch my thoughts – what am I dwelling on in my mind? If I look at all those adjectives in verse 8 – true, noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable, excellent, praiseworthy…they all describe God.
Verse 9 says to put what I have learned into practice. So, for example, it’s great to read that I should pray about everything with thanksgiving, but do I actually do that when I’m anxious, fearful, or upset?
5. What do you know about God that can help you surrender circumstances to Him?
I think of Him being God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit first-I think of the dance of love in the trinity-He is love-and He brought me into the dance. What does this look like? He was willing to be forsaken by GOD for me. He is passionately jealous for me-consuming fire comes from His mouth as He comes down out of the clouds with thunder in his voice to shoot arrows at the evil one and rescue me from his lying whispers for I am too weak. He fights for me. He is the Lord of Hosts. He is the One who calls me out of the cleft and waits patiently for me. He pursues me despite me. He hides my face from His wrath and sets my feet on a rock. He draws me out of deep waters and rescues me. He is my savior-the lover of my soul. He is my shelter, my refuge, a bulwark.
OH THIS HELPED ME This morning! As I was doing this I found myself worshiping Him-yet at the same time lamented at how it is so easy for me to fix my eyes on my circumstances-seeing them as mountainous rather than God and therefore not surrendering them to Him! Forgetting Who He is-the lover of my soul-the creator of everything-my sovereign Lord. This is a powerful question Dee-thanks so much.
Rebecca, so many excellent reminders…as I read your first paragraph, the “roar of confidence” kept rising. I feel in my heart that this was written in part for me…it was opportune that I read it at this time (and to think that I was so bummed that I fell behind this week and then the timing being so fortuitous/providential. I have been running crazy this past week…running on little sleep and over active days…this morning is finally where I could sit in solitude/calm/no immediate responsibilities and this is when the Lord reminded me of “His” sovereignty, “His” provision, “His providence through your post…I could just cry… )
Nanci, so grateful for you..your heart is always so tender for Him. I can so relate to running on empty. Yet, am grateful despite our brokenness he comes-well in our brokenness He comes. Thankful He is unchanging. 🙂
READ PHILIPPIANS 4:4-13
3. As you read this whole passage, do you have any clues on the secret of peace? (You may change your answer at the end of the two weeks of this study — but go for it!)
I’m remembering that these are the words of Paul. It seems a bit odd that someone in prison would be able to find peace and contentment — enough to admonish a whole church to do likewise. Paul was able to do a better job than I do in focusing on God’s presence — no matter what else is going on. I would say he keeps his perspective — but it goes far beyond mere tolerance — “Rejoice always, he says.”
4. As you mediate on verses 4-5, you can see first see the edges of the secret in verse 5. What is it?
“The Lord is near.” That’s how my NIV Bible reads — I like that better than some versions that say “The Lord is coming soon.” If the Lord is near, he is immediately available to me for support and guidance. If He is “coming soon,” then I will need to try and hang on until the time he comes. I’m probably splitting hairs here. It is undoubtedly both, now and later.
Deanna, Good point about “The Lord is near” vs. “coming soon.” I only had read it in NIV (and I like it better, too!). And I find even more comfort in encouragement in “undoubtedly both, now and later.”
Great reminder for me to check more than one version.
5. What do you know about God that can help you surrender circumstances to Him?
He is all-powerful, omniscient, omnipresent, and He loves me and wants the best for me.
I have Philippians 4:13 on a small plaque that sets on my kitchen sink ledge: “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” I just need to read it more and internalize it deeper!
READ PHILIPPIANS 4:4-13
3. As you read this whole passage, do you have any clues on the secret of peace? (You may change your answer at the end of the two weeks of this study — but go for it!) – From reading these verses I get that in order to have peace, you need to be content in where God has you at that specific time in your life. I am not to worry about the issue at hand, but to seek The Lord with prayer and petition. To concentrate and gaze at the beautiful creations on this earth made by God.
4. As you mediate on verses 4-5, you can see first see the edges of the secret in verse 5. What is it? – That a peaceful, gentle demeanor will be seen in us if we rejoice and praise The Lord and have our sights always turned toward The Lord at all times.
5. What do you know about God that can help you surrender circumstances to Him? – That when I gave my circumstances to God in the past He has always been there with me thru them all and never let me fall.
What stands out?
The last two weeks I’ve learned a lot about peace in God’s economy. It is very much unlike the peace I have ever known or coveted. It has made me think a lot lately and even grieve a bit. Here’s why.
I am realizing that as a Christian I bought into the lie that God guarantees me a good life. I knew hard times would come but I have guarded Jeremiah 29:11 with my heart – He has a future and a hope for my life; He will prosper me! It is hard to reconcile this with the notion that God doesn’t guarantee me or anyone I love five more seconds of life. My family could be taken at any moment. That’s hard for me to grasp. Now I teeter between trusting God and fearing that I will lose someone I love.
I’ve been pondering this idea of trusting God. What does it mean to trust Him? Do I trust Him to give me a good life? He never promised that. Do I trust Him not to take my husband or child from me? He never promised that either. I used to think trusting God was believing that He would protect me from those awful circumstances, but I now know that is not true. Good Christian women have lost babies and husbands and cherished friends too soon. This grieves me to no end. So what does it mean to trust God? Well, I think it means we trust Him at His word, the promises He does give us, like that He will never forsake me or leave me, that He will finish the work of conforming me into the image of His Son, that He remembers my sin no more, that I have peace and not condemnation through Jesus, that an inheritance awaits me, that …
And the list goes on. Awesome, awesome stuff He gives like children and husbands and best friends and yet He doesn’t promise that they will remain. So then how do I learn to cherish the gifts without demanding from them what they cannot give me? How do I learn to love deeply but not be anxious and afraid that someone might not be here tomorrow?
Abraham was ready to sacrifice Isaac because God told Him too. He even woke up early to follow God’s command of him. Wow. But didn’t Abraham think God would bring Isaac back to life because God said the promise came through him and his lineage? So, as humans we battle between giving up our most cherished possessions to God and remaining hopeful that He will return them to us to enjoy and love.
Good theology.
Laura, whenever I read the story of Abraham and Isaac, that “time gap” between God’s request and Abraham’s getting up early – I’ve always wondered what went on in that time period that the details are left out of the Bible. I wonder, how did Abraham get from “A” to “B”? Did he share with Sarah what he was about to do? Was he weeping, in turmoil at first-was there a struggle in any way to get to that point of obedience?
It is good Laura that you can wrestle with this without being in the depths of despair when you decide that to trust is all you can do.
Every good and perfect gift came from Him in the first place, we can enjoy and be grateful but know that our hands must remain open to giving and to the taking away too.
Reminds me of Job saying ‘shall we accept good from God and not trouble?’
1. What stood out to you from the above and why?
This has been a bit tough to answer this week. The first time I read it on Sunday, I thought, “Well, nothing stands out to me”. I read it several more times during the day, wondering why nothing jumped out. I went to bed on Sunday and wondered what was wrong with me because this is such an important teaching but it seems like I wasn’t moved by it. So I asked God, “What going on”? I think what I’ve come to see is that my nature and my upbringing taught me not to count on anything too strongly. I’m not easily disappointed. It sounds a little strange to write this but it’s true. I think what I’m going to focus on is the difference between contentment vs. indifference/resignation.
2. Where is there trouble in your life or a path that seems blocked?
The one area where God has been teaching me contentment is in my relationship with my parents. As I’ve shared before, my relationship with them has been a challenge for years. A huge issue concerns my oldest brother who is not only mentally disabled but struggles with mental illness as well. My parents are unable to look to the future and make plans for him if he should outlive our folks. I spent decades (!) trying to “help” them to make plans. Their refusal to move forward so hurt and angered me. But finally, God broke through to me to step back and trust Him for my brother’s future as well as my own. So now even though nothing has changed, I’m so much more at peace that everything will work out okay.
Jill, I so relate to your worry about your brother and parents. Just when I feel like I am finding peace with letting God take my worry of who’s going to love and care for Kendra when we can’t any longer….my husband says I have to start worrying about who’s going to help us with Kendra! So I’m back and forth all the time with worry and then giving the worry to God and then worry again. I can’t find peace. So I’m glad you are at least finding peace with your worry about your parents and you brother!
Joyce, I know how you can relate to this situation from a different direction. The way I have come to find God’s peace is to find the balance between what I can do and what only God can do. I’ve learned that in this big situation, God still expects me to do what I can do. So I read up on OCD which Dave suffers from. I’m planning to go to a class on planning for special needs family members. I’m online looking at options for housing for folks with dual diagnosis (DD/mental illness). These are the things I can do at this time. But I’m also trusting that if God wants Dave here with us in our home, He is going to have to do some BIG changes. I can also forgive my folks for putting me, my husband, Dave and our other brother in this situation. I don’t believe they are planning to hurt us or honestly don’t care. They are just stuck. But God does expect me to forgive. So if I do what God asks me to do even if they are very little things, I can trust Him to do the big things that only He can do and when He needs to do them. And I look forward to seeing what those things are because He can and will do it so much better than I can do. It has taken me years to get to this point and many tears!! God bless you all in this journey, Joyce. Don’t let fear paralyze you. Trust that God loves you all so much and knows the plans He has for Kendra. He will not fail you!!
Jill, your post radiates grace…God bless you in your efforts and discernment. The following is so very applicable to many of life’s circumstances…thank you for sharing.
“to find God’s peace is to find the balance between what I can do and what only God can do.”
Jill, thank you so much…that helps me put a new light on things. My older kids do not want the responcibility of taking care of Kendra and I promised to not put that burden on them.
There are things I can be working towards and also keep my faith in God to help of course. Thank you Jill…blessings to you and your family.
🙂
1. What stood out to you from the above and why?
Peace should not be based on circumstances, yet i so often settle in feeling “at peace based on what is happening at the time. if the changing situation rocks my peace, don’t i need to examine if i am really at peace? It is easy to be at peace when things seem to be going well, or their is no raodblock, but it is the adversity that reveals what is really true in my life.
2. Where is there trouble in your life or a path that seems blocked? At work things were going quite smoothly, we had hired a new person, and there was the anticipation that my work load would greatly decrease once she was fully trained. In april the director of our agency had a back injury, so my supervisor and i shared his load as he was out for over two months. then two weeks ago, i came back from a two and a half week vacation, and it was clear we had to let the new employee go. Even though it wasn’t a decision I made on my own, I was the one who had to deliver the news, and it was so hard.
My daughter was home from the Middle East from the middle of June to mid July. Seeing her go back has been really hard for me. The time with her home was so precious and I miss her more than ever. I have been struggling more than i ever have and when she has gone before. The climate in the world makes it “easier” to justify “concern” otherwise known as worry!
God knew that I needed Philippians today. The answer is multi-faceted. The first is to rejoice in The Lord- it is clear that this is not written to someone for who everything is just going fine like he wanted it to go. But even so we are told to rejoice, “in The Lord”. No matter what my circumstances, I can rejoice in The Lord, after all when it comes down to it, if all I have is The Lord, He should be enough for me. It is when I look for satisfaction elsewhere that it is hard to rejoice when a tree falls on my path or there are other problems in my life.
Let my gentle spirit be seen by all- Lord even in hard times, really is that what you want from me? I am not really known for my gentle spirit, and especially not when my path is blocked……okay Lord, I have to submit to your working this out in me.
Be anxious for nothing- again I need to camp here for a time.
But pray about everything- with thanksgiving, making sure to tell Him about all your needs. Then you will have a peace that is beyond understanding. Then the peace of God will guard my heart.
To maintain the peace, i need to think on those things that are right and pure and just and lovely of good report, worthy of praise. Keep doing the things that have been taught to me and I will have peace. I can’t control what thought come into my head but I can reject thoughts that don’t fit this criteria. I can bring every thought captive to the obedience of Christ and I can fill my thoughts with the positive things as at his verse tells me to.
Love this Terri….I can so relate 🙁
“I am not really known for my gentle spirit, and especially not when my path is blocked……okay Lord, I have to submit to your working this out in me.”
Working on this!
So glad you brought up the reminder to rejoice! That is such an important part of the secret! I heard once about a church prayer meeting where people got together to present their requests to God but they just started rejoicing and praising Him for all things first. Before they realized it, their time was up and they had never asked for a thing. Rejoicing and praising had been enough. If only we took advantage of the power to rejoice more often!
I know what your going through Terri…my daughter lived in Scotland for 4 years and I only got to see her once every 2 years. Now that she is in CA I get to see her about once a year and when she leaves I’m a mess and it takes me about a week to get back to normal:( Praying for you to find that peace.
8. Compare this with 1 Thess 5:16-18. What commands are duplicated?
Pray, give thanks (and if Phil 4:4 is added to the comparison, rejoice)
The “thinking”/doctrine part of this, seeking God & knowing His goodness, has given me peace this past week (Sleeping until the middle of the afternoon a couple days helped, too).
I’m thankful now because I can see some benefits of the difficult experiences of the past months; but I don’t think these verses are telling me to be thankful because I can SEE some good coming out of it. They are telling me to choose to be obedient/thankful whether I can see what I think is good or not. BECAUSE GOD IS GOOD.
Now, I’m off to ponder the difference (and similarities) between rejoicing and thanksgiving (and context/reasons). If anyone wants to tell me so that I don’t have to think, I’d be fine with that, too 🙂
Renee, I’m not going to tell you not to ponder, and in fact would love to read future pondering on the results of your pondering…:) . Just wanted to thank you…I need to continually remind myself to “choose to be obedient/thankful whether I can see what I think is good or not. BECAUSE GOD IS GOOD.”…thank you for the reminder.
3. As you read this whole passage, do you have any clues on the secret of peace?
For me, a lot of the answer lies in verse 6. The supernatural peace comes from being in God’s will. My anxiety often comes from not knowing if I am in God’s will. I don’t trust myself. This verse assures us that we can and should go to God with every request, every desire in our heart. We need not be anxious about receiving what we ask for because if it is God’s will, He tells us we will receive it (Matthew 7:7). If He doesn’t give it to us, it’s not His will for us. When our Father says no, we trust that He has a good reason to do so. There’s peace even without an explanation from Him.
I just thought about how verse 6 is such an idol killer. Idols are those desires we want so bad we think we will die if we don’t get them. And we want them NOW! This verse assures us we can give the desire to God and let Him decide if and when we should receive it. We have peace in knowing that He hears and responds in our best interest.
4. As you mediate on verses 4-5, you can see first see the edges of the secret in verse 5. What is it? Let people see your gentle spirit.
5. What do you know about God that can help you surrender circumstances to Him? I do know he loves me, he loves me he loves me. And God sees the whole picture. When I look at what is going on, I see only a part and he sees the past, the present and the future. He also knows what I need. And he is faithful and is true to His word. One verse I cling to is “God works out everything for good to those called according to his purpose. That means everything- a pastor moving on, an employee fired, a supervisor out of work, me having to work more hours than I want to, my daughter living halfway across the world and every concern or trouble that each of you is facing. He knows it all, and he can use it for good in our lives. Lets count on it!
” I do know he loves me, he loves me he loves me.”
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7. Meditate on Philippians 4:6-7. What does it say?
We are not to be anxious in anything. Pray to God, thanking Him. God’s peace will guard our hearts and minds.
My mom has a “peace” lily my sister gave her a while back. She commented yesterday how she had never had one with so many blooms all at once (there are 5). I told her maybe it was God’s way of telling her to be calm, not anxious; to have peace. Good visual aid to remind us.
8. Compare this with 1 Thess 5:16-18. What commands are duplicated?
To pray and give thanks.
3. As you read this passage, do you have any clues on the secret of peace?
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Oh, how I cannot speak enough on this passage. These verses were the words I clung to from The Lord during the birth of my daughter. I had to be induced, so I was up all through the night waiting for things to happen and (as many of you know), I was in a lot of pain every few minutes. Years ago, I discovered that “the Lord is near” falls right in front of the do not be anxious verses because the only reason we need not be anxious is because He is near. When the time came for me to find peace, I realized I needed to remember that He was near to me in that pain. His promise of being near truly brought me peace like I had never known and I am thankful to have had that experience so that I now can share the testimony of this secret.
That is wonderful Leah, how you found God’s peace during labor.