I’m continuing Christy’s story from the past post, as there has been so much interest — she provides a wonderful model for us in getting healthy.
In The Song of Songs we are urged to catch the little foxes that nibble away at our love for the Lord — and unhealthy friendships certainly do that. I told you that Christy had an unhealthy pattern of friendships, but she had healthier friends who saw it. What red flags did they see? Lori Thorkelson has a book called Emotional Dependency (available used from Amazon) in which she lists some of those flags:
• experiences frequent jealousy, possessiveness, and a desire for exclusivism,viewing other people as a threat to the relationship
• prefers to spend time alone with this friend and becomes frustrated when this
does not happen
• becomes irrationally angry or depressed when this friend withdraws slightly
Christy is so healthy now — she laughs about herself now. She tells how “Brooke” had the nerve to bring her boyfriend to Christy’s Christmas party. That’s when Christy began to wonder if she had the flu.
I think that most women have experienced this to some degree. I know that I was too possessive as a young woman — when my husband was so busy and God gave me a good friend, I did expect her to be available when I wanted her to be! I ran to her before I ran to the Lord.
What about you? What signs has God helped you to see as warnings?