Last night at supper my youngest, Annie, was sharing about the sadness that every relationship, even our nearest and dearest, has some static in it because of sin. We just had a wonderful week with family at the cottage, yet in every relationship, there’s a little static. That’s because we are roses, and roses are born with thorns. On Midday Connection this week we will be talking about discerning the difference between roses and alligators. A more scriptural term than alligator is a fool. Everyone behaves foolishly at times, everyone has thorns that go with a rose — but not everyone is a fool, not everyone is an alligator. A rose will occasionally hurt you, but an alligator will destroy you. King Saul was an alligator and David shows us how to deal with an alligator. He forgave him, but after Saul demonstrated a pattern of destruction toward him, David kept space between him and Saul.
I recently made the decision that a friend who has been much in my life is not safe. If I stay close, she will do great harm to me or my family. So my goal is to be at peace with her, but to stay a safe distance. As much as I would like to fix this friendship, I cannot. I can pray — but I need to stay at a distance unless I see the fruit of repentance.
I also realize that any time I see the characteristics of a fool in my life I must come before the Lord in true repentance, for the way of a fool is hard and I do not want to become one.
In this post I’d like to introduce some proverbs on the fool and ask you to comment on what they mean and how you might apply them. Or share other things on what the Lord has shown you about unsafe friends — or how not to be one!
Proverbs 20:3 It is to a man’s honor to avoid strife, but every fool is quick to quarrel.
What characteristic of a fool do you see?
Are you quick to quarrel?
What makes a person quick to quarrel?