When Steve and I were new Christians and in our first decade of marriage, Redbook Magazine surveyed 100,000 women and came out with an article with what they termed: “Surprising Results!” Who was the most satisfied sexually in marriage?
Though the Redbook editors didn’t understand how to define true Christians, they described them as strongly religious, dedicated to reading their Bibles, and to following Judeo-Christian teachings.
Yet they were astonished. You could see their conundrum: Weren’t “born-again” Christians supposed to be prudes? (To be fair, many are – but fortunately enough had been set free as to give this survey its “surprising results.”) As a young wife and new believer, I wrote them, and they published my letter, (the beginning of my writing career!) in which I tried to explain a few of the reasons that true believers in Jesus might actually enjoy the sexual relationship. I mentioned:
• Being freed of shame
• Being freed of emptiness
• Being freed of the misconception that God is against sex. Instead, the marriage bed to be a place of delight and its Creator commands us to enjoy it! I quoted this passage from Proverbs:
May your fountain be blessed,
And may you rejoice in the wife of your youth,
A loving doe, a graceful deer—
May her breasts satisfy you always,
May you ever be captivated by her love.
Many unbelievers and believers alike think God is the great kill-joy of sexual pleasure. Yet that is not the Christian view at all. The Greeks, like Plato, believed the body was evil but the soul was good, therefore sex was only for the propagation of children.
But that is not the Christian view. Everything God made is good, even the material world, even sex. In fact, no other philosophy or religion holds the lofty view of the sexual relationship that Christianity holds. Christianity has boundaries for sex, but that is to protect it, not to stifle it. It is intended for one man and one woman within a covenant marriage.
I’d love to hear your thoughts. How has the Lord impacted your thinking on this subject?